When you're a no show, what do you do?

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Honestly couldn't think of a better title. It's late lol.

Now I was just talking to my workmates about this tonight while we were out at the RSL for drinks and we all thought it was pretty rude how half of the staff members said that they were coming to catch up for drinks with everyone, but just never showed up tonight.

This event had been organised for more than a week and a lot of people had continually said that they would be there.

However, when the event came around, only one of them had the courtesy to call and let us know that they weren't coming.

Are you one of those people who just doesn't call to let people know when you decide at the last minute you aren't going to show?

- Is it because you're lazy?
- Because you think no one will miss you anyway?
- Or is it because you think you shouldn't have to let anyone know what you're doing and why?

Or are you polite and give people notice?

I always give notice. I think it's rude to assume no one will miss you, because they will if they invited you. When you don't rock up, you can bet they'll have a bit of a bitch about you.

So whether they miss you in a good way or bad way, you will be missed. XD

It's just common courtesy to let people know what's happening on your end in my opinion, especially if you've said you're attending whatever event it is.
 
I sometimes feel bad about it but I really can't be arsed sometimes, but I always text them or sometimes call them to let them know and that I'm sorry for not coming.

I think it mostly happens because people actually don't want to go, but say they will just to be nice or to avoid getting pestered about it. I know that sometimes I do that just to get them to leave me alone. :andry:
 
Haha yeah saying you'll go the first time around does get you out of a lot of pestering from people trying to get you to attend.

Though, I think that if you're straight up with them initially you'd save yourself a bit of drama.

Also, I've noticed that when people do that, they often don't get invited out again because everyone knows that they're a piker.

That may be a good thing for them though. XD
 
I dont usually follow up on Invites to begin with.
Work related or other wise my friends understand get together's are not my thang.
But If I'm in the mood I can "rock up".......they dont mind because Im not gonna drink all there beer.

Any body mind if there Slab gets taken over by there guests?
 
I think if it was something planned ahead of time and if I hadn't already said "No, I cannot make it," then I will give someone a call or a text or at least some kind of heads up to let people know I can't make it. If it wasn't planned and people just expect others to show up, well, then that is a different story.
 
I'm of the opinion where if you knew about it and said you'd be there, but didn't show up and didn't let me know some how that you weren't coming, then you aren't getting invited to anything else in the future, no matter how bad you want to go.

I let someone know when I won't be somewhere I said I'd be. It's not hard to do, and only takes a minute or so. If they are going to pester you about why you can't go, just tell them it's none of their business.
 
I usually never call ahead of time unless it's a friend. When a friend organizes an event and I realize I can't make it, I'm more than happy to call with a brief explanation. However, if someone invites me to something and I don't like them, or I hardly know them, they're not really worth the time or the effort.

So, basically, I usually never call. And if anyone confronts me about it, I typically make sure I show them that I really don't care. There world doesn't revolve around their little get together. :mokken:

Besides, they should be happy that I even gave their get together the time of day to even stop and think about it. :griin:
 
Most of the time I dont bother to call or anything like that, im too lazy to do that, most of the time I dont think it even matters, but I would have probably said I MIGHT come.
It also depends on where and who is involving... seems to me those colleagues dont give a shit...bummer but hey maybe they had something more important to attend to..

In my case yes I think most of the time I wont be missed anyways...but if there is BOOZ you can bet yo ass I'll BE THERE!!
 
Depends on what I say. If I say I may go, then it's up to how I feel. But if I say I will go, I will be there. When I say I will do something, I usually do it. If something comes up, I will tell someone. I know I would be angry if I planned for something and people said they would definitely 100% go somewhere only for them to not show up or get into contact with someone so that is why I don't do it.
 
If people keep in contact with me, they usually know beforehand if I feel like going or not. But usually if left alone, I am a very last minute guy. I am also susceptible to just not caring enough to tell someone because I'm too depressed to care :monster:

communication is something that's pretty important to me, but sometimes it's difficult for me not to be self-absorbed. :wacky:
 
if i cant make summat, il always let someone know, no sense in just not showing up

also, people that say they will and have no intention of going piss me off no end
 
I'd usually call them and say I just don't feel like it anymore. :lew: Usually I'd just go to be nice but nobody's perfect, and I cba going to things sometimes. It's just perfect when it strikes at the last minute. >_>

But usually when I just don't want to go I find about as interesting as pig shit, I'll just say straight out that it's not my kinda thing. Usually. Sometimes I'm too nice. :hmph:
 
It depends how important the event is. If it's just a run-of-the-mill night out and I've already said I'm not sure if I'm going, there are always plenty of people who don't turn up and it's just accepted when they don't.
If it's something more (ie people have paid money to organise it) then I'll always let them know if I will/won't be there.

I know how frustrating it is trying to organise people to get to a place on time. I'm in a football team with people from work (supposedly), but every week I'm left pulling in favours from mates because no one from work can be bothered to turn up, or even let me know beforehand that they won't be. This week we had someone phone literally a minute before kick off to let me know he wasn't coming. :rage:
 
Pfft, I'm never late. As a matter of fact I'm always early. Even if I don't like you, I'm gonna show up early to have the first drink/cake piece/goodie bag. It's the way I am, I can't help it. The only thing I've ever no showed was school, and that's because I was dehydrated in the middle of winter, with the inability to walk more than 5 feet without collapsing.

Point is, I'll show up to your stupid party/Get together, and I'll be the first one there. Then I'll party like there's no tomorrow. :D
 
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