The family name

But just because there may be only one male left in a family, or none, for that matter, doesn't mean the name can't be passed on by the females. That's just patriarchal bullshit. In most countries it's legal for a woman to leave her name untouched and pass it on to her kids, or have it combined with her husband's.

Anyway, I personally want my name changed to my mother's maiden name, since my biological father's family is fucked up and I don't want to be apart of it. XD My mother's maiden name reflects our Italian heritage, and I feel my name would have more meaning if I took her's.
 
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My whole family is christian, and the Bible advises
not getting married at all. Unless you can't control yourself.
So no, I don't feel any pressure from my parents, or anyone else to
have children. Good question/thread. +rep
 
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My family name is Taylor, and as it's really common, I feel no pressure at all in continuing it. I don't want children, and I know it won't "die with me" anyway, since I have a younger brother and 4 cousins who could all carry on the name - 6 if the two girls don't change their last name.

So, no pressure on me. It would feel awful if I had a really unique last name and no relatives though, I would feel pressure then :gasp:
 
Nah. I mean, it is what it is, but I'm not so desperate to have kids just so I can pass on a name. One of my brothers will do that for me, I'm sure, but I don't plan on have kids any time soon, if at all.

(sorry dad; my mom got remarried, so it's not like it matters anymore) lol
 
My family name is somewhat important to me. I mean, I'm not worried about passing it down, as I have a younger brother who can. And it's not very likely my family name will be forgotten, because there is a lake near us, with many streets/roads around it that contain my last name, because my great great grandfather used to own it. So, it makes me feel important, and that my family name will live on forever.
 
I gotta say that mine is to me. My last name is pretty rare and No one's I've met has ever met someone with the same one as me. The only one's I know are my immediate family back home so it's important for me to feel that when people hear, see, or know my last name, that people think highly of it and aren't plagued with negative thoughts.

So yeah, it's important. I mean with being in the military I usually only get called by my last name, so it's what I hear more anyway now, as opposed to my first name.
 
My family name is special to me because its unique. It used to be something Polish, but when my grandpa immigrated over, he and his brothers changed it, so were the only family of this name in the world.
 
My name isn't important to me at all really. On the off chance that I ever get married, I have no intention of even suggesting the the woman that she take my last name. I don't know if it's because my last name is just so bland and boring or if it's I that I have no pride in it. There's not really much to be proud of. I come from a long line of alcoholics, adulterers and quitters. So, yeah. The family name don't mean much.
 
Well, I like my family name but its not that important to me, I was actually thinking about taking on my Great Grandmothers last name when I got older, I really want to get into my Italian heritage, its not that I don't love my family name I would just prefer to keep my Italian name going -- since my mother loved her Grandmother a lot.

Not to mention Fontanezi is just a stronger name in my opinion :|
 
A name is just a name... :monster:

Really, being a female I know that if I run into a man I love and marry someday that my last name isn't going to stay the same and that really doesn't bother me. If I love someone I won't mind carrying their last name.

I don't think changing your last name means you love your family any less either...its not like it makes you a traitor or anything to go off and marry someone and take their name.

As far as my last name...I'm proud of it because it represents my family...but if it changes someday, oh well. My fam's going to love me just the same.
 
I love my last name, it is very original, I think my family is the only family in the world who has it. I love that people get so confused when trying to say it, even though it's actually quite easy to say.

I am sad that my dad only had girls and when/if we get married the name could be lost.
The BF told me that if we were ever to get married (LOL) he would want me to take his name... ughhh I don't wanna be one of those weird feminists who wanna keep their last name on principle... but I do really want to keep it just because I like it so much haha.
 
Hm. My last name was a dynasty in China... If I did trace my roots, I might be some descendant of some official. Whether or not that great-great-...-grandpa of mine is some corrupted fella is another matter altogether.

To be honest, well, I don't really care for my last name.
 
Where I am, I've always known growing up that getting married meant carrying my husband's last name. My mother even went as far as remind me time and again to make sure before I date someone to know they don't have a weird surname. :rage:

Honestly, I don't mind either way. I like my surname, but if I'm getting married I'm pretty sure I'm changing to my husband-to-be's name, whatever it is. I think I'm a traditionalist in that sense that I'd want to give him that.

Regarding the 'passing on the name', we're two girls in my family. But I do have a guy first cousin in Australia, so at least the name's definitely not dying with me and my younger sister. :wacky:
 
I think my family name will be lost when I get married, actually.
My dad has 2 sisters and a brother - he and his brother have only had girls and his sister had boys - so they've got different names, and his brother's daughters will also lose their surnames if they marry.

I don't care much for my surname though. All I get from it is people laughing at it :8F: so you can be sure that when I marry, I'll be taking the husband's surname, no matter what it is.
 
I don't see the point of carrying on the family name at all really, it's not a part of my identity. A name is just a name, both my sur- and forenames are pretty common, so relying on them to be part of my legacy or to help define who I am, to me would be pointless. As for having a son, well I don't really care if he carries on my name or not he'd still be my son regardless, though I'm totally taking my wife's surname if it's more awesome than mine.
 
After all the shit I've had to go through when my mom remarried, I'm starting to thank myself for not taking her new last name. No fucking way am I going to be related to that piece of shit anymore than I have to be. My real last name will carry on for a very long time. And I'll be damn fucking proud of it.
 
I've never really cared about my last name, which is somewhat odd, because everyone I grew up with - i.e. went to school with - calls me by my last name. People didn't start using my first name until I went to College, and if I come across someone I knew back when we were kids, they'll call me by my last name, and not my first. It was my nickname of sorts for years (and still is, to some people) and I just accepted it, because it never really bothered me...my first name is dull as hell, after all. Evidently other people thought my last name was more exciting than my first...
 
My family name is actually very important to me. I know it shouldnt really have to be but for some reason I strongly feel like my daughters and sons should continue the legacy of the family name. When I get married I will try to persuade my girlfriend to have her name changed but I am still not sure how we would do it. She has a chinese name and it seems not only a different aspect but also it would probably sound horrible on her.
 
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Women who get married is supposed to take there husbands names, but I will refuse ^^ I love my last name and I dont give a crap about these sorts of traditions ! :D
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Same here I dont wanna change my last name since I like it and personally I think its a cool last name and privelaged to have it, in my own mind i just think its special and I love meeting people that have the same last name as me xD even won of my teachers I called my last name which was weird.

Either way its not even my last name but in my family everybody in my main ppart of the family has an M as their first name, my sister,myself,my brother,my dad and my mom all start with a M. My brothers daughter is also an M,my dads ex gf which is the reason I have a sister thats from a different mom also starts with a M. Generally I will keep it alive to name my child with an M as well. I think M is just good letter, maybe its cause my name starts with it, I really dont know But I love it :D

 
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