Have you matured over time?

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I thought this would make quite an interesting topic.

To answer, I think I have. Certain situations over the past few years have forced me to grow up and mature to survive. I know that I've still got a lot of growing up and learning to do, but it's nice to mature even just a little. I guess you could say that the growing up REALLY started when I was 16 and saw something very upsetting happen. I won't say what it was here since it'll stir up some bad memories I'd rather forget.

But on the other hand, I'm still able to be my cheerful self all the while and entertain people.

How about you?
 
Yes I have, I used to be very selfish............I got no joy out of giving to others,
but work and age have shown me that there is a certain feeling in being generous
When I was in school other kids who were not as..........Educated........as me would always ask me for help and I would get annoyed.

But now that I have been working for a few years and have established friendships with people of all ages, I still find myself being asked to help withe spelling of words and maths problems buy people in there 30's 40's and younger than my self.

What good is knowledge if it cant be put o use or help people?

Morally I am very focused, grey area in situations has to be allowed, but there are lines that cannot be crossed, and my tolerance for people it seems is limitless.

I have not matured in the things that I enjoy, Video games, Anime and good old Using my imagination, why should you change the core of your person as your age, these are the things I did when I was teenager and I still enjoy.

So yes overall I have Matured............
 
Yes absolutely.
In the last 2 years ive changed hugely, in a lot of good ways but likewise some that maybe arent so good. Many experiences ive had with people in the last year have defiantely made me take a long look at myself. Whether its been with girlfriends or with very close friends and even strangers who iv only met the once i would definitely say ive learnt quite a bit about myself.

Sometimes it takes a person to treat you like youv treated someone else for you to properly realise just what you were like. Its experiences like that which have really made me grow, i just wish id learnt them earlier in my life but its a lesson well learnt, and certainly ones i wont forget.
I dont like to go into detail but this has really really been a rough year for me, probadly the worst ive had but its approachin the end of 2010 now and i can defiantely say that its made me wise up a lot. Im far from a role model but i guess il just learn as i go along.
 
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Katherine Pierce said:
Certain situations over the past few years have forced me to grow up and mature to survive. I know that I've still got a lot of growing up and learning to do, but it's nice to mature even just a little.
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The same applies to me.

All throughout my schooling years up until the last year of living with my family I was very immature.

It wasn't until I moved out that I saw the bigger picture and was forced to mature in some areas rather quickly in order to survive living out of home.

Come to think about it, it was actually rather easy without my parents hovering over me telling me what I could and couldn't do. I learnt a lot on my own and it didn't even come as a shock surprisingly, seeing as I spent all my childhood wrapped up in cotton woll. XD

Though I still feel like I've not fully grown up yet.

I'm still a young teenager at heart and couldn't see myself starting a family or anything like that anytime soon. I'm still a kid myself and it would feel weird having that kind of responsibility.

I think in some ways I like feeling like a young teenager still. Acting all mature and grown up feels very fake when having conversations with people who expect me to act that way. >.<

Yes I live out of home, pay my own bills, have a fiance etc. It doesn't mean I'm going to act old before my time! XD

But I can definitely say that I have matured over a very short amount of time which would have been the last three years away from home. I still have a long way to go yet though.
 
I'm not sure...I've definetely changed over time - I was an emotional wreck when I was fifteen/sixteen. Now I'm an emotionless and bitter cynic. I don't know if you'd say that was maturing over time or not.

My outlook on life has changed a lot - probably for the worse, but I'm satisfied with it - but my personality hasn't changed all that much. I don't make any sort of effort to be or act mature, I just act like myself - I suppose you could say that was mature, since I used to be very worried about what other people thought of me.

I've never thought of myself as mature, and I doubt I ever will. I tend to let other people assign the label to me as it pleases them, because I just don't think in such terms. I suppose getting old implies maturity, but then I've never been entirely sure as to what maturity is. xD
 
I certainly have matured over the years. I think it really started when I moved away from my parent's house for the first time at the age of 18, but then I had issues with drugs. That affected the way I was taking my responsibilities. i learned a lot from my mistakes and experiences and I think this how you can mature, in a way.

I still feel like a teenager inside and I get along really well at school with people that are almost ten years younger than me. Some of them are really immature and it does bother me however. My humour style has changed over the years and I'm interested in different things than before. I think I have reached a good degree of maturity but I don't consider myself as an adult even though I'm suppose to be one.
 
I don't honestly think I'll ever be what many people consider "mature" :lew: I'll still be giggling like a little kid about farts when I'm 100 years old, and will probably run naked through the streets every once in a while just to cause a ruckus :griin: However, I have developed a better...congeniality, I suppose, with people I don't know very well IRL; it comes as a result of having had to work in customer service for the past 9 years, but I find myself being a bit more polite and talkative to complete strangers than I used to be. Which, I don't think shyness or reticence are signs of immaturity, but for me personally, it's a positive development because I used to be inhibitively shy, to the point where I doubt I would have been able to hold my current job if I was still that shy.

I've also found myself a lot less interested in material things than I was when I was a kid, which I do think is a good thing as well. Sometimes I used to envy the kids I knew who had popular toys that I didn't have, even though I still had lots of great ones that I appreciated, and the fact that I think that's silly now is I think a sign of maturity.
 
I definitely believed I've changed overtime. Back in the years of middle school (when I was 13/14 years old), kids absolutely hated me, and I deserved whatever came at me for my behavior. I was a lot more care free and definitely a bit more violent than I am now, and I enjoyed drama and making other kids get a good idea of what a delinquent was. I may have those those years were fun back then, but when I think of them currently I now say I was a fucking mess. I'm still as fun and adventurous as I was then, but now I actually limits and dignity.
I was totally naive as well until about a year ago. I never really suspected people that knew me as who I was would try and conduct any harm to me - physically or mentally - but I sure got a hell of a rude awakening. Now I can't really trust anyone, not even my family, not even myself. I haven't put much thought into school as I do now. With all that's happened this year, I want to graduate so I can leave Florida already, go to any of the out of state colleges I'm applying to, and actually be in an environment where people can relate and have interesting stories to tell. Although I don't like people in general, I don't judge anyone by appearance anymore; I judge by how they can peak my curiosity .

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I think I had a bit of a rollar coaster of maturity.

In high school, towards the end, I think I matured a lot. I became more accepting of people who were different from me and began to realize that my friends and I weren't the only ones who have had difficulties in our lives. (Yes I was one of those) I was seriously thinking about what I wanted to do with my life and making plans for it.

In college, well I kind of dematured. When I lived on campus, I had this new found freedom, thought I was all adult, and only cared about hanging with friends and doing whatever I pleased. I'd be up very late, sometimes all night, did my home work last minute, showed up for class late or not at all, and had a who cares attitude about everything. It's a wonder I passed my classes the first three years. I also chose not to work my first two years, which I think really hurt me. I wanted no responsiblity. Meals were paid for, so I didn't have to worry about that. If I needed something, I had somewhere on campus to go to. Everything was convienent.

My seinor year of high school, suddenly, the work became very difficult. We had to maintain a certian average or risk being dismissed from our program. Suddenly I was studying, sometimes spending my weekends studying. I was suddenly stressed about school. So I guess I began to mature. During grad school, the university no longer supports housing for students, and since my school was close to home, I moved back in with my parents. Grad school I had no life. Almost every minute of my time was spent doing school work. I can't really say if I matured or not during this time.

Now, doing clinicals and planning a wedding, I think I have matured some. I am taking a huge step with my life and all the work to plan a wedding on top of doing clinicals, work without pay, is really draining. But I am getting serious about it and my fiance and I have been working out financials. I am also learning how to cook, something I told myself I would never do. I also dont' spend as much time as I did in college and high school gaming because I am so busy. In college, I would have said, "to hell with it" and put in a game.
 
I'm not sure if I'd call it "maturing", but I'm always changing. I used to be like an android, then I became callous and bitter. After that, I was the moral high ground guy. For a while, I think I was actually happy. Then I got depressed again.

Like I said, I don't think I'd necessarily call it maturity, but I am always changing. It's like a dead drop rollercoaster.

But if the real question is, are you content with your progression? No, I'm not.
 
GalaxyFlare said:
Yes I have, I used to be very selfish............I got no joy out of giving to others,
but work and age have shown me that there is a certain feeling in being generous
When I was in school other kids who were not as..........Educated........as me would always ask me for help and I would get annoyed.

But now that I have been working for a few years and have established friendships with people of all ages, I still find myself being asked to help withe spelling of words and maths problems buy people in there 30's 40's and younger than my self.

What good is knowledge if it cant be put o use or help people?

Morally I am very focused, grey area in situations has to be allowed, but there are lines that cannot be crossed, and my tolerance for people it seems is limitless.

I have not matured in the things that I enjoy, Video games, Anime and good old Using my imagination, why should you change the core of your person as your age, these are the things I did when I was teenager and I still enjoy.

So yes overall I have Matured............
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Lol you would've hated me in my youth then.

I've matured somewhat...compared to when i was in primary school, i'd always be carefree and do the first thing that came to mind, but ever since i started highschool, i've been second guessing alot of things, i've calmed down a fair bit and i actually enjoy talking to people outside my circle! (they might mostly be women but they still people :) )

I'm also alot nicer and open to people than when i was a kid, and i like to help out whenever possible, which is something that i never did as a child...
 
I kind of went backwards. I started off being immature, then around 14 - 18 I started to act mature because I guess being 'mature' at that age is 'cool'?
but since 18 i have realised why would i want to mature?? obviously you have to mature in certain ways but not in the way where it will get in the way of having harmless fun.

I've matured in the way of learning to live on my own, managing finances etc but I am still immature personality wise (most of the time) :)
I love immaturity if its fun!
 
Yes for sure over time i believe. It is the natural course One should take in life........

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I wish I could say that I have, but in real life I have actually said, and more than once "I never really grew up...", so to say otherwise on here would be contradictory, an outright lie, and I don't like being dishonest...

Video Games and the Internet is practically my life, with the hobby of Writing or Role Playing some while I am on the computer.

I am quite selfish, and competitive about events or in multiplayer of video games or the like, so when I can't quite get the win, I get upset by it.

Sometimes it doesn't really show at all, and others it will come off as strongly as how ever much I had been losing in a short period of time, or if a bunch of crap happening to me in the game.

And just in general I kinda act childish, I take stuff way too seriously as well, I need to lighten up, and loosen up a bit, I'm often so uptight, and it isn't good for my heart, it gets beating fast quite easily, sometimes without even really moving around to tire myself out.
 
Well, I think I have matured. I can be goofy and silly as well as pervy but, I know when the right time is to be mature and serious. When i'm with someone close to me such as, friends or family i'm going to be immature because, I feel comfortable around them and, I really don't care xD (unless we're having a serious discussion) But, in other situations, i'll shut the fuck up and be mature and serious. because, I have common sense when and when not to be. There's also different areas where im mature and immature in. (if that makes any sense)

As for over time, yeah. I'm pretty sure everyone's been in a situation where they learned their lesson. No? Therefore, you become more mature. That's the way I see becoming mature anyway. You learn right from wrong through life experience. I know when I was younger, I did a lot of immature and childish things until, someone pointed it out and disciplined me for my actions. Telling me that it was disrespectful and very childish/immature of me. If no one was there telling me that, i'd probably be as immature as I was when I was younger.
 
Yes and no. I think I matured too quickly. I can be serious, but can lark about when my mates are around, but most of the time Im the mature, boring one. It pisses me off cause some of my mates are younger then me and mess about with each other and I cant take their jokes or pranks. It upsets me cause I never did anything silly or mad when I was younger, I just grew up too fast.
 
I'd say... no. I'm just a little more articulate and clever about it.

That doesn't mean to say I've learned nothing over my years; if I wanted to I could impart wisdom, be approachable, civil, social and suchlike - but this would be borderline manipulative in purpose. For the most part, however, I do not want to be these things, and strive mostly to live in my own little bubble of ignorance and insecurities.

I'd like to say I have good reason, but the more I think on it, it's a weak one. Some people just don't want to grow up and take on everything that accompanies it. Some people don't want to/can't break away.
 
Personally, I think I have but 'maturity' is entirely a subjective opinion. I generally piss about because it's not in my nature to be serious when I don't have to be, some people would take that as immature but some people would think it's entirely normal. On the other hand, if something serious crops up then I'll be mature about it, I'm not one to crack jokes about a serious matter if I know someone will get upset by it because I'd hate it if the boot was on the other foot.

Eh, it's a subjective matter. Most people who would class themselves as immature I'd find completely normal, it's only when you start placing yourself in the eyes of self-righteous people that you start debating your maturity levels. If you enjoy life as you are, as long as it's not at someone else's expense then who gives a shit.
 
Oh definately. Especially over the last couple of years. 'm the most immature but responsible person you could ever meet. I contradict myself. I'm insane, do stupid thiongs, laugh at farts, but when my serious head is on, that is it. I'm not in debt with anything. I had my stupid pahse of credit cards and stuff, and I will never ever use it again

Despite all the spending Ive done recently, I manage my money disgustingly well.

The mental side of things has been the biggest for me though, I'm in a better place than I was a few years ago, I can deal with things better (though some might say that's debatable haha)

As a whole though, I don't think I'm immature where it really counts.
 
Yes. I realized when I met John Cena again in March, I wasn't the same kid I was the first time I met him. We both grew up over the course of time. I still have my moments where I get an attitude or I act like a total kid and want to watch Winnie the pooh. But after this past year, I have a much more serious outlook on life.
 
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