Serious Ex's?

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So what do you do if you happen to run into an ex, either from the past or recently?

- Do you just pretend like you don't know each other?

- Or do you acknowledge each other and say 'hey' awkwardly and then move along?

- Or perhaps you two broke up mutually and although you decided not to stay friends, bumping into each other wouldn't be awkward in the slightest and you still felt it was okay to have a chat?

The reason I ask is because just today I ran into two of my ex's that I had not seen for the last four and a half years since we broke up.

One was three and a half years ago, the other four and a half years ago.

I was serving the most recent ex on the register and we both pretended like we didn't know each other. >.<

Then the other ex was standing at the register a little while later and we saw each other and again we just pretended like we didn't know each other. XD
 
Hmm, I'd probably say hi and make small talk.
I never had a bad breakup but I don't go out of my way to be friends withsomeone I no longer date.

So small talk until its over I guess
 
I f i had a good break up, where no one got hurt, i say hi and ask them how they've been ect

If it's one of the women i had a mutual break-up with i just walk past and maybe wave at them but that's about it.

It i pass a woman i had a shit fight with, well...i'd LIKE to say that i bad-mouth them, but in actuality, i just hide my face till they're plain out of sight. I don't nessessarily like to get into brawls or arguments when i can help it...
 
You should have made this a Poll Kandy:lew:

I recently broke up with my GF, Im not to shattered over it, she was a bit of a handful:hmmm: but she divulged on me her most vulnerable parts, now Ima mature enough guy to not just Fuck her off completely, she is still very important to me.

In fact we still email each other most days, I think we are for better friends then we were when we were together..........odd, but true.

So In thats example its far more of a beneficial break up then a detrimental one.
There is no animosity at all..........none more than when we were together :lew:

As for more distant GF, I live on the other side of the state and would have to travel 100 Ks just to "bump into them" and even then it would not be awkward.

None of my break ups have been bitter, 1 I left the country to go work in the UK,
and the others well.......Im not gonna ruin my mood.

After all its christmas.
 
Considering that me and my last girlfriend broke up (by which I mean she dumped me) over pretty foul terms, I tend to just leave her be and she does the same for me. Actually, I was driving from a buddy's house recently and I saw her. First time, I'd seen her in roughly two years. I recognized her and I think she barely recognized me. Until our eyes met for those couple of seconds and I could see that slightly sickened look in her eyes and that was when I decided best to just totally pass her by. I guess if you were a complete bastard like I was, it's best to leave the person alone and just let them decide if they want to have anything to do with you. And if not, then it's probably for the best.
 
I think it depends on the reason for breaking up, when I broke up from my gf in July the first chance I got to see her was mid-September then we argued for a couple of weeks or so and whilst I wouldn't technically class any point of it as "bad" it just got to the point where I ended up pretending that she didn't exist and that I've never known her until the last couple of weeks where we talked and... stuff :ahmed:. That being said, now she's spending this month deciding whether she wants to give it a go again. /dontask

I think it really does just pretend on the breakup, if one side was a dick then the other side isn't going to want anything to do with them.
 
See I didn't want anything to do with any of my ex's ever again.

I really did not want to ever see them again, as they'd bring up bad memories and such.

For them to both come in on the same day, the day before Christmas Eve was a bit of a downer for me and I couldn't really focus for the rest of the day because all I could think about was the shit they put me through.

Though, the one that I had been apart from for four years and a half, I wouldn't really class as a boyfriend as we never actually went out, we just, did stuff. And he didn't really ever do anything to hurt me at all.

My main problem with seeing him, was that he was friends with another two of my ex's who I had bad break ups with and it just reminded me of that. =/
 
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Hmm i reckon you should just take a deep breath, and think to yerself "I'm enganed to a man 10x more wonderful than them. I won't let those asshole bother me".

I use music to drown out the memories, but i'm way different than everyone else, im apparently queer whetever the fuck that means, eitherway, try out the above :)

If that fails, tell your fiance and talk it over with him if your ex's bother you that much :)
 
I broke up with my ex quite a quite a while ago now actually. :hmmm: I wouldn't say it was a good break up but it's been a while now and we've both matured a lot since then so if I actually saw her, I would go up and say hi. It was just all a bit silly so I don't think we would be on bad terms and I myself would at least want to be friends if I saw her but that's just me. I'm sure we'd have a load of things to talk about. :ryan:
 
I cross eyes with my ex pretty often considering we're at the same year at the same college. We broke up on pretty bad terms at the start of the year after a lot of rows that even dragged some of my friends into it as well. I'm pretty much completely done with him. We haven't spoken since and we both attempt to avoid eye contact with each other as much as we can. And I'm pretty fine with that. It's a bit of a long story and I certainly don't miss him much. He's a perfect example of how people can drastically change in personality. I already have a bad-tempered brother that gives me enough grief. Having him as well with a really short fuse was just intolerable.
 
I never see two of my ex's very often actually, which is probably a good thing, since neither of the break-ups were on very good terms.
The only problem is, I met them both through cadets and it's not ideal when I see them around if we go on a training course or something. They both tend to try and ignore me, and I do the same to them, as much as possible, but it's not always feasible. Like if we're in a group together, we can't just ignore each other, especially as I'm quite a high rank, and so is one of them.
That's the only problem it creates though, tension between other us in front of other cadets. Neither of them go to my school or even live in the same town as me so it's easy to keep apart when we're not at camps.

My other ex though, we're on ok terms, friends but not really close friends, and if we see each other we'll just say hi and maybe make small talk. That one isn't so bad, and it just proves that when you split, it is possible to go both ways.
 
I always ended up being in good terms with my most of my exs, although I haven't kept contact with them. I ran into one of my Ex a couple years ago downtown Montreal and she was with her new boyfriend. We talked a bit about how things were going in our respective lives. I think you can't simply ignore someone you loved and shared special moments with, even if the break up was difficult.

My first girlfriend when I was a teenager found me on facebook and wrote me a long message. I was quite suprise knowing I had hurt her and I guess time heals everything.

I try to remember the good aspects and memories of my past relation that way I have a positive image of my exs. If I would run into on of them again, I would definetly talk to her.
 
Well, considering that I was never actually in a serious relationship with my two ex, I've never given much thought about my reaction should I see them again. But I would probably just give them a nodded smile and move on. It's not really a matter of it being awkward for me; it's just unnecessary to say hello and strike up a small conversation, that's all. I mean, what is there to say? I suppose that's just how my mindset works. There's no hard feelings between us at all. Hooking up with them and even breaking up with them was just...well, a complete joke. :) I was young and naive, let's just put it that way. That's how much I stress the whole 'non-serious relationship' when it comes to my ex-boyfriends.
 
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I've only had one other besides John. And he was a real jerk. So if I were to run into him I would probably just ignore him. Maybe do the awkward "hi, how are you" and move along.
 
It depends mainly on the circumstances surrounding how we broke up. I don't have a lot of ex's, so I don't have this problem. Although I do still hang out with one of them, we are friends. In any case, I would probably act civil if the break up was mutual. No reason to stir up a fuss, right? Now, if he had cheated on me or done something horrible, that'd be a different story.
 
Pretty much, I just go on about my business. If she approaches me, I wouldn't be rude, but I wouldn't pretend to show a world of interest either. Exes are exactly that, exes. It's unrealistic to be 'friends' afterward bc there's usually a hidden agenda involved. Not saying that it's impossible, it's just a very slippery road to go down.
Of course, there's that ex who you may grudgingly miss, and then there's that ex you would actually duck and hide from. The irony is, the one you'd duck and hide from is probably the best one to pursue a friendship with lol.
But I don't worry myself about such things. If they come up to me, I'm friendly. Then I go on with my business.
 
It'd depend which ex it is. If it was one of the majority that used me to get what they want and dumped me like a rock when they got it (revenge against their own ex's, fooling their parents so they can leave and go be with someone else), I just ignore them. If it was an ex that we mutually broke it off because of differences, well, they are still my friends and I treat them as such. If I were to see one ex in particular, who's minister father dragged her away kicking and screaming because he didn't want daddy's little 25 year old adult girl to grow up and leave home to be with the guy she loves because said guy is pagan, Well, I'd be talking it up with her and seeing if she wanted to give it another try and this time get the law on my side if her father tried that BS again.
 
In aberdeen you pretty much run into everyone every night you have out at the weekend. Its only a small city of like 250,000 people so when your out on a sat night your alwyas running into people you really dont want to.
Theres really only one girl i would consider a proper ex and we have similar mates. She was my best mates girlfriends cousin so we still to this day run into eachtother alot.
Honestly its not that big of deal for either of us i dont think, at least not on my end. WE dont see eachother and be like omg hello hello. Its more of a casual

alrite how ye deein..kinda thing. Its been well over a year now and im aware its over as is she. Shes actually seeing someone now who i know which doesnt bother me as im well over her.

Simply put, its no big deal.
 
Depends on how things are with them. Most of my ex's I get along with fine, because it's usually been a mutual parting or we've manged to work things out in the end and remained friends. Others however I'd rather not look at or even be near unless they are burning in hell.
 


I don't see my ex's often, thankfully. If I did I would completely ignore them and not give them the time of day. I know that sounds really bad and probably really bitchy, but I don't really care. I don't see why I should be civil to someone who has done nothing but lie to me and cheat on me.
 
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