What do you wish your parents had forced you to do?

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The other day I was thinking... what do I wish my parents forced me to do as a child...we all know as kids we want to do the opposite to what our parents tell us to but i really wish my parents had forced me to play a sport and learn an instrument... I ofen feel very bored and uninspired and I always want to learn something but feel I am too old (I know you're never too old) but it would have been so much easier if I had learnt as a child.

I have sworn that if I have children I will make sure they play a sport and learn an instrument at least...I think they'd thank me for it in the future :D

now you?:neomon:
 
You posted a pic of yourself with a guitar though did you not o_O

Hmmm probadly nothing tbh, whenever others try forcing us into something we usually do all we can to resist, especially when its your mum or dad then you go all out to do the exact opposite. It can be hard to enjoy a sport or hobby when somone is making you do them. Though you never know, you might get really into it and start enjoying yourself.
I wish id stuck with competative swimming and not given it up. Im not short of hobbies but that was something i really enjoyed and its the best way of keeping fit i can think of.
 
You were good enough for the national team Lewis?

TBH my parents had very little say in what I did, either by a lack of interest or providing it for my self they never intervened, I was always active in school with sports, cricket Basket ball and such.

Vicarious behavior of parentsa is just as destructive as having parents who have no interest in your life, pushing too hard or not enough, it can still be damaging, When I have kids I will let them decide what they want to do with there free time.

As long as its not self destructive or reckless, but you cant always be there to stop/control them.

Its a hard balance to get right.
 
I would have liked if my parents had of made me learn an instrument or two.

It'd be fun to do something in my spare time and to entertain people with.

The hard part is actually learning the instrument. If I had of learned years ago now all I'd have to learn is new music. =/

And I honestly don't have the time or money for music lessons.

But I think that if I did have kids I'd try to get them interested in extra curricular activities unlike my parents. Help them get more socialised and such.
 
I kinda wish my parents had made me play sports in the early years of school. Atleast, maybe that way I wouldn't be in the horrible shape I'm in now. I would've actually been physically fit at one point in my life. I mean, I was tempted as a kid to go out for athletics, but I was a little shy. I think a little push would've sent me in the right direction. I'm trying to get in shape now and it fucking sucks because after nineteen years of totally neglecting my body, I find myself in a situation of trying to reach a goal that I'm not prepared for. It is totally my fault. I picked the life of an introvert and because of it I can't run even ONE mile without stopping like six times.
 
My parents never really forced me to do anything when I was younger :hmmm: well, they shoved me towards cadets, but I can't complain at that because I like it :lew:

Sports-wise, I would probably have refused if they'd tried :wacky: Some sports I love, others I hate. I got into hockey and badminton of my own free will, although I've actually had to stop playing both for now because of injuries I've picked up. I guess I kind of wish they'd made me do some kind of music lessons :hmmm: I love music but I can't play any kind of instrument or read music to save my life :lew:

As Lew said though, if I'd been forced to do something it probably wouldn't have been half as fun :wacky: I'd rather do things I want to do, rather than what others want me to do.

Nowadays I definitely won't listen if they try and get me to do something :8F:
 
I don't even know if my parents even tried to force me to do anything. I used to play a lot of hockey and netball when I was younger and learn to play the piano, but they were things I chose to do and stick with. I guess they were tired of (unsuccessfully a lot of the time) lecturing my older sister and brother to do things that they couldn't be bothered when it came to me or something. :lew:

I suppose I do wish that my parents gave me more of a chance to go swimming more often. At the moment I am hydrophobic and would normally refuse to go into a swimming pool or the sea and my swimming skills are probably as proficient as an average five year old. Strangely I seem to be the only hydrophobic person in my family and in a way it makes me feel like a cast-out when they all enjoy being in water and I'm reluctant to join in. I probably would have looked at my parents with disdain if they had tried to force me to do more swimming, but it could have been really beneficial in the long run.
 
Little Big Boss said:
I kinda wish my parents had made me play sports in the early years of school. Atleast, maybe that way I wouldn't be in the horrible shape I'm in now. I would've actually been physically fit at one point in my life. I mean, I was tempted as a kid to go out for athletics, but I was a little shy. I think a little push would've sent me in the right direction. I'm trying to get in shape now and it fucking sucks because after nineteen years of totally neglecting my body, I find myself in a situation of trying to reach a goal that I'm not prepared for. It is totally my fault. I picked the life of an introvert and because of it I can't run even ONE mile without stopping like six times.
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At least your making the effort now to change all that though and thats respectable. So many people would happily sit on their arse and eat their lives away. Saying that their diet is gunna start 2moro. Actually making the effort to lose weight and get in shape though is awesome. If you stick at it youl be proud of yourself later on down the line.
 
A thought that immediately came to mind was that I wish my parents got me into guitar when I was younger because I really enjoy it now and I wouldn't have minded a head start. But I can't help but wonder if I would have the same enthusiasm for guitar that I have now if I had been forced into it. My parents forced me into Piano and I got kinda bored with it so go figure..

I guess I wouldn't have minded if I was encouraged to play soccer or something. I remember my parents used to ask me if I wanted to play a team sport but I always said no.

On the flip side of things, I think the things I was forced into ended up benefiting me in the long run. I reckon learning the piano helped with guitar a fair bit. I was also forced to do Taekwondo for several years and while I hated it, it developed my sense of balance and athleticism which has helped me pursue other sports/activities of that nature.
 
I don't really like to use the word "force" but I wish my dad had pushed me a bit more into hockey when I was young. I played until the age of 11 years old and was really good at it but stopped because of an injury. I never stated again and lost interest in it afterwards. On of the kid I was playing with actually plays in the NHL with the Vancouver Canucks. Maybe with the support of my family to continue, a bit of luck and a lot of talent I would have gone far in hockey.

The second thing that comes to my mind is English. i think my parents should have force me to take private lessons when I was young. I come from a French family and I had english classes in high school but nothing to become perfectly fluent in English. I would like after my studies to work elsewhere in Canada or even elsewhere in the world. For that, I need to be perfectly bilingual. I started taking evening English classes in Montreal last october but they mainly focuses on conversation. The best for me would be an immersion in a English environment I think.

The last thing my parents should have forced me to do that I can think about is taking piano lessons. You lean so much faster when you're young. Music plays a big role in my life but i feel a bit incomplete not being able to play an instrument or read music.
 
I wish my parents had forced me to eat properly. My diet went to absolute hell after I had my appendix removed, and it stayed that way for about a decade, until I was old enough and ill enough to realize that if I kept it up I was going to die in no short order. Even though I've long since recovered, I'll always be a picky eater with an extremely weak stomach, and its doubtful I'll ever be fully healthy. Mother says that she couldn't get me to do anything, but...well, that isn't any excuse to give up, and I wish she'd tried harder to get me back on track after that.

I also wish they'd tried to get me to play a musical instrument as well, ideally the piano. But, that said, I was quite an independant child - I didn't really need any coaxing to do well at school, since I was extremely competetive. They provided me with enough opportunities and left the rest to me so, really, I should have taken advantage of more of the opportunities open to me. No doubt if they had forced me to do anything extracurricular I'd only be complaining about it now ♥
 
To learn to cook and sew. I wish that I could have made my own meals instead of eating out at resturaunts these past few years. And I wish I knew how to hem pants or sew on a button. It would have made things so much easier in college.

Also, I wish my parents had made me stick with soccer. I liked playing the game and I was really good at it, but I always hated stopping what I was doing to go to practice. Once I was at practice I had a lot of fun.
 
Well my parents really did force me to do anything more like, encouraged me to do something. Which, i'm happy about because well, I most likely wouldn't have done it. I'd HATE it if they did and, probably would've gone crazy.


Well, I was encouraged to play soccer. I liked it when I was little but, I lost interest as I got older. I missed a season or two and I lost it :/ I remember trying to play in middle school but, I didn't make it. I wasn't really bothered though.


Hmmm if I could though, I wish my parents didn't treat me like a kid sometimes ya know? I also wished the taught me and guided me how to cook like Rydia said. I try but, I fail xD. I wish they forced me to get out more too :hmmm: I wouldn't be as much as a lazy fuck xD
 
I'm actually glad I was never 'forced' to do anything, I was encouraged to do things but at the end of the day, with me it wasn't a case of wanting to do the opposite but I just never saw the point if I didn't enjoy it because I'd never give it my all or I'd end up giving up anyway. I'm kinda happy that my parents are far from strict, I rarely got told off for anything unless it was quite serious, and while that could have drastically backfired I've sort of learned to grow up independently and do my own thing even though I'm really close to my family and then the fam would be there if I needed any help or support.
 
Haha well the reason I used the word 'forced' was because as a child i was VERY lazy I would not do anything unless I was forced. My parents could encourage me all they liked but I wouldn't get up and do anything.

So I guess if you didn't need forcing like I did you can use the word encouraged :)
 
I was never forced to do anything. My parents tried but im a independent person and usually don't take it well when someone tells me to do something that I don't like. I do wish though that my mom would of helped me more in math. My math skill is the same as a 5th graders -_- But besides that im pretty happy with my life right now.
 
I wish my parents had forced me to continue piano lessons and had sent me to a dance class. I can play piano to a certain level, but I never really tried to sightread, so it takes me forever to teach myself a new piece. I also have no idea how to dance so stand around like a lost lemon. :wacky:
 
I kinda wish my parents would've been a weebit more stricter with me. Given that it would've made my teenhood really hard, but I think in the longrun it would've been beneficial towards me and what I could conquer later in life. I would probably have a job by now and actually have my Drivers Licenses.

Ah well, not like I can't still get said things, but would be nice to have some expectations. :wacky:
 
I wish my mom would've pushed me harder to do better and stay in school. It would've helped greatly specially considering the situation we're in now. Meh.

I think I would've had a way better job and a drivers license by now, 'cause I'd be able to afford it, I also wouldn't feel like I was letting her down so much by not being able to help out more.

Shit happens, I guess. No use dwelling on something, can't change the past. =/
 
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