Your Love Lives

[Lirael]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

 

[Shael-BurizaDo]

i have met a lot of cool girls, i'm single right now, but never really care either way

sadly all of my past relationships have ended like tidus/yuna... in ffx:wtf:

i feel like girls keep too much emotional baggage, in comparison with boys, and i have trouble understanding which ones are interested in me, and in what ways..


i always have a girl in the back of my mind, sometimes two, even when i'm not thinking about her at all, she is expressed somehow, and some people around me know exactly who i'm thinking about, to me it feels like a curse...

what i like about girls always seems superficial, and goes as deep as i take it any given moment. to waste youth without love is something i hate doing, and regret everyday, and everyday keeps going right by...

trust is really hard, in my experience, much harder than children, or growing old

 

[Squid]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

I currently do not have a significant other.

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

I am single, there is someone I like, who knows I like them I probably like everything about them. Except they're stubborn.

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

My last relationship was ok, it lasted 2.5 years and for the first year we were pretty happy, we moved in together which was probably a mistake and spent the last year seeing eachother every fucking day. It got pretty annoying not having my own space. Our personalities clashed. He was a lovely person but an idiot and I am a stubborn jackass

I recently broke it off about 3ish months ago now.

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

I don't really have any specific thoughts on relationships, if you are in one or want one, good for you and if you're not, that's still cool
I do not want to be in another relationship for at least a year. I am very much enjoying single life, I can do as I like without worrying about anyone else. It's very good.

 

[Dionysos]

I’ve only ever known the single life (not counting a few years of relationship I had when I was in first school because, well, I was in first school). I have to say that I’ve got used to it, though obviously I do not want to be single forever. I’m not getting any younger and I’d like to experience the pleasures (and oh terrible pains!) of love before I’m technically not a youth. You know, all that stuff that poets write about. Running out of time, sure, but I’m not desperate. Concerned, a little bit anxious (naturally), but I’d rather it happen naturally.

I never had any of that teenage love stuff that a lot (not all) people had which is always shown as magical and sweet even though a lot of the time it rarely ends well. I know it’s not all sharing swings, smiling at each other, and skipping home followed by squirrels. Still… It would have been nice to have experienced teenage love when everyone was much more carefree and everything seemed much nicer for people. Generally speaking… Or perhaps not since I don’t recall people being very happy back then (since people used to moan and stress and shout), just happier and less insane than now, and insanity does come with age I feel.

Now I think about it, and I just think that, realistically, when am I going to find time to do what needs to be done and also share time with another person? I’m sure I’m just wrong and I’ll figure it out with experience, but if the person is very demanding of my time then I don’t know how far I could cope. I’d want to wholly and fully commit to the person and such, for certain, but it seems like such a drain of time if you’re expected to do so much. It’s one of those crazy things… You spend your youth not saying much, being irritated at how things seem so natural for other people, and then you suddenly find that you are old and perhaps too old to start there, and are unsure how you’d devote the time without splitting yourself Dr. Manhattan style. At least that is how it seems from the eyes of an outsider who frankly doesn’t know what he is talking about.

I’m pretty sure though that you just need to find someone who accepts what you need to get done, and you can accept what they need, and then help each other through it and communicate and such without being in each other’s way all of the time. Perhaps that is it… Or perhaps not. I’ve always been a private dude who would rather do things away from people where he can think clearly, so I’d likely struggle there. This is like a bat trying to demonstrate an understanding of the life of a lion.

As for there being anyone I like at the moment or not. No. I mean there are lots of pretty women that walk about, and I know a few, but I don’t feel anything in a strong sense at this time. I have in the past.

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

I am currently single and have been for some time now. The past couple of years haven't exactly been smooth sailing and so I've needed time to settle, get my head around things and sort shit out. In a way I've kind of avoided getting into a relationship on any level incase it all goes tits up and brings more complications than are necessary, quite frankly. Things are going a lot better now though so maybe I might start letting people in a bit more, as it has been a long time now and I'll be lying if I didn't say im a tad lonely at times... but I also quite like being single and getting away with a lot of things I wouldn't if I was attached ... who knows? See how things go. I'm not one to rush into things like relationships. Going with the flow but at a sensible, rational pace.

As for past relationships, they've mostly been good. I'm friends with nearly all of my ex-girlfriends except for a couple whom even civilness is virtually impossible, and except for those two each relationship has ended with little drama. I don't think theres need to go any deeper into that here though.

Liking anyone at the moment? Keeping the above in mind, I'd say no generally. But recently I have noticed im beginning to like someone more and more. Been friends with them for years and I've always loved them as a friend... but recently my mind has been wandering and it's a little confusing... and I can't help but feel as if it'll end bad if I rush into acting on it... I dunno, see what happens I guess...


That sounded really fucking gay. It is a girl btw, not a man. Just incase you were wondering otherwise.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

I've been with Steve for four years and a bit now. I met him when I was 18 and he was 23 on a train. XD

He's a lovely person. Very outgoing and such a people person. I can't stand boyfriends who are timid and hide in the shadows and let their girlfriends be the man. It's really off putting.

The thing I love most about him is that he's so sweet. He cooks me breakfast, lunch and dinner all the time and always lets me know how much he appreciates me and such. >.< Most guys just expect dinner on the table for them when they're ready and slob around and act like arrogant pricks, so I'm very lucky to have Steve. <3

He doesn't really have any quirky habits that I've noticed. He's pretty normal. XD I don't really have much to complain about other than that he smokes. He's trying to quit again though, so we'll see. =P

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Ugh I wouldn't even really class them as relationships. More like mistakes. They were all boys and got bored and ended things in the worst way possible each time, even though there was absolutely no need for it.

They were never really the caring sort of people and I didn't really feel like I was ever in a proper relationship with any of them. =/

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

I just go with the flow.

After the last relationship I was in just before Steve I was ready to just be single for a good while and stay out of trouble.

Then about a month later I met Steve and we just sort of ended up together. There were no questions like, "Will you go out with me." etc etc. It just happened and we've been together ever since. <3

So yeah, I don't intentionally go out to find a boyfriend or to avoid relationships all together. I just go with the flow and most of the time I don't stay single for very long. >.<

 

[Will Graham]

I've never met a girl, that I simultaneously want to have sex with,who had a personality I really liked. I think both things are really important if you want to date someone, personality is given unfair precedence all the time. If you get on with someone exceptionally well but aren't sexually attracted, be their friend instead.

I have fancied maybe two or three women as I recall, though there are plenty of people in lectures who are quite fit. They always ruin it by talking though, the women I think are hot tend to be terribly dull

 

[Sexy Beast]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

I am the same with Toni, I do not have a significant other/wife. Probably wouldn't be for another few years as far as being married goes.

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

Currently, I am single. I do liek someone, but if you must know, we currently are on a "break". So yeah, there it is. >.>

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

I have had quite a few past relationships. To be honest, there were 3 that were really serious in some way, shape, or form.

the first one that had a large impact on my life in general was - of course - my first girlfriend. Mind you this was when I was around early-teenhood, but still it was pretty serious to me. I grew up with this girl, and event though some called it "puppy love" it was what I had. And even though I regret some of the choices I made even back then, it was still nice to spend that time with her for as long as I did. We were together till she had to move away, which was when I was 13. Yup, yup, Ken is getting sappy.

The second one was a bit more mature, and fucking confusing as hell. This was the time during my Junior year of high school and at the time I was making good grades, so having time for a personal relationship was good for me and whatnot. The reason this whole relationship was so confusing is because the girl I was with at the time was having conflicted thoughts and she wasn't really in the right place mentally. I was pretty much her rebound and I was cool with that because I have a low self-esteem and it meant free sexwacky. Though, it was much more deep than that. There was a connection between the two of us. And that's why it hurt me so much when she "broke up" with me. It wasn't my highest moment of my life, but then again, life does have its ups and downs and believe me this was a major downer.

A year later after all of this happened, I finally got the courage to demand the truth. I might've went in with a mindset of making her feel the same way I did, but in the end, I came to understand where her head was right around the time, and believe you me, she wasn't right in her mind at all. So, after I found out about it all, I came to the conclusion that I didn't need her to feel how I felt, but instead we tied up the knots and now we're content on being friends.

Okay, so I told you about my puppy love relationship and the one that kinda fucked me up a bit, but this third one probably is the one that really changed me.

Okay, so it was the second half of my senior year, and I wasn't really doing all that well emotionally, but yet I found myself chatting it up with a Freshmen. Even though she was more-or-less 4 years younger than me, and I was 18, so it was technically illegal for any sexual activities, but fucking hell we connected. I don't know I could explain it, but we connected, and even though she was fucked up in the mind, we hit it off and for the first month of which we met, I couldn't get her off my mind. And then a month after that(March 8th), she broke up with her bf and damn I jumped at the chance, and before I knew it, we were together.

We spent the whole afternoon chatting and all that great shit. I fell in love and it was great. And everything was going great for the next few months and then the summer hit, she had no way of getting to me cause we kind of lived in separate cities and she didn't really live in the right neighborhood, so I couldn't exactly get to her house safely. It was horrible, but that's life I guess. Then the unthinkable happened...I broke up with her. I don't know why, but just something in me felt like it was time to get it overwith. I don't know, maybe it was because I was afraid that even if we did "get it on", I would get caught, or that her parents would find out and a whole bunch of unnecessary shit would happen. Damn it I don't know, but now every day I regret it and you know what, it sucks. I don't even know if she holds the feelings anymore, but yeah, there it is.

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

I think relationships are complicated as fuck. They can be good and they can be bad, it just depends on how one feels about said relationship and their fully committed and whatnot. I don't prefer to be single, but it's not like I can do anything about it...well there is, but Idk, I just lack the social skills to actually do something.

 

[Toshiya]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

I do not. And I'm quite happy like that for now.

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

Yes, there is, but I resigned myself to the fact that it probably won't happen so I'm sort of seeing someone else at the moment. But I know it will never get to the relationship stage and that's fine by me.
I've liked him for months actually. I don't know what it is - that he's funny etc and all that cliché stuff.

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Never been very good for me really my last 'relationship' lasted a week but that was a week too long, completely my own fault for getting into it whilst I was drunk. I felt bad because I know the guy really likes me too but I just didn't feel the same way.
The two I had before that didn't go great either. Didn't so much end badly as just never went well in the first place, and whatever there was there fizzled out.

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

Eh, they're good if you actually really like the person. Right now, yeah, I'm happy single but I don't want to be like this forever I'd like to marry when I'm older.

 

[Lirael]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

I've been with Chris for a sixteen and a half months now. I met him outside the local supermarket when he was working with the trolleys - romantic yes? I was with my friend Maxine at the time, who had been in the same school as Chris for years; she had moved to my school for sixth form. So we met through her. Maxine joked about how he looked like Harry Potter.

On first impressions, Chris was incredibly polite. There's something about him that's just so welcoming... it's hard to describe, but he's friendly when you meet him and very approachable. Furthermore, he cares about my friends when he meets them. He treats them like they're important. He's even helped one or two, which is wonderful.

He's incredibly sweet and understanding. He likes to make sure I'm happy. He beats himself up far too much when he does something that upsets me. =/

He's very affectionate!

I admire his beliefs, too. For example, he believes that no job is menial. Each and every person should be valued for what they contribute to society. 'Why should we respect the doctor more than the cleaner?'

He's very intelligent. He's not confident in his ability, but he always works hard and he always achieves. His dedication inspired me to work hard in my third year of Uni, actually. But more than that, I felt permitted to. Previous boyfriends hadn't been as fussed about work, but Chris was, so even though we spent most of our weekends together, we spent them writing, reading and preparing for essays. Sounds boring perhaps, but it felt like we were working as a team. We went through it all at the same time. We were both equally dedicated. We supported one another when we were blue. And we both did well!

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

My first relationship was with a guy called Shaun who I met on another Final Fantasy forum. We had two relationships, actually. The first lasted three months and we never got to meet. The second lasted around nine months and we met a few times. Back then, he was a bit manipulative and selfish. He was possessive - if a guy liked me, I couldn't talk to him, so when my friend in America confessed to liking me, I had to cut him out of my life. He also had depression, so I was worried that if I did something to upset him, he'd do something tragic. I ended up sacrificing more than I should have to keep him happy and got very low towards the end. The breakup was messy...but we managed to get back in touch a few months later and are now pretty good friends.

My second relationship was with a different Chris. This guy and I actually had about four relationships, here and there... I met him online too, but he really picked me up when I was feeling low about Shaun and helped me value myself again. He was so sweet and encouraging online! We met in person several times in our fourth relationship, which lasted about six months, but who we were online just didn't transfer into real life. Online, we were happy, enthusiastic and the ideal romantic couple. In person...well, he was kind of distanced and had no motivation, and I was shy... It ended naturally, really.

In between the third and fourth relationship with Chris, I met Nick at school. We were just completing our final year and ended up talking a lot online during the exam period in between periods of studying. After our exams, we went on one date then went to the leaver's ball together, and there we had our first kiss, so I suppose that's when it became official. He was very sweet, but sadly I found I was taking care of him too much... I felt a bit like a mum more than a girlfriend. This isn't because he was lazy... He was just more shy than I was, which meant I wasn't getting the support I needed. :/ So yeah...

Then after the fourth relationship with Chris was Steve, who was just an idiot. A chauvinist, sexist idiot. He joked about rape. :/ He didn't really listen to what I had to say, and treated me like I was stupid. I should have realised sooner that he was just desperate for sex. I asked him who the ideal girl was a few days before I broke up with him...he described a girl opposite to me, then named his friend Alana. The relationship lasted about a month.

My fifth boyfriend was Will... I think this post is already becoming a bit long, though... In short, he was friendly, but just not right for me. We didn't share some basic values.

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

Kandy's answer is actually pretty close to mine.

I just go with the flow.

I don't intentionally go out to find a boyfriend or to avoid relationships all together. I just go with the flow and most of the time I don't stay single for very long. >.<

 

[Bambi]

Been with the boy 7 months, and we're moving in together next month, Id of never considered doing that with anyone else Ive been with, the very idea would have me running for the hills, especially when we've not even been with each other a year yet. I suppose when you know, you know. And it feels right, so I might as well run with it

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Dunno really, after beign with Ellie dad for 3 years and completely wasting a good chunk of my life, I got stuck in a bit of a rut, there were relationships, but I was never really into them, so they never lasted all that long, i didnt see the point in dragging a relationship out if my heart was in it. If I hadnt of ended it with the last guy, and decided just to stick at it becasuse he was a nice guy, then Id never of met Tom, so i dont believe in wasting my time on something I dont see a future in, id rather be single than have the mr *right now*

i have a friend liek that and i tell her constantly while shes staying with someone or diving straight into a relationship when one breaks up she could be missing something really special instead of jut settling, she says all the time, hes not mister right, but hes mister right now, and im like. Youre insane.

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

Ive pretty much just covered that in my last point I think haha...... Im happy in mine, I dont understand why some people stay in relationships though, or why they'd go out and cheat, or why they'd complain all the time about their bf/gf. If youre unhappy, why flog a dead horse? Stop fucking complaining and end the realtionship.

 

[Shu]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

My wife and I have been married for little over a year and a half now. We've been together since 2006 of April.

What do I love about her? She's very independent. She's very pronounced, and some see that as bitchy, but in my mind I love the up and front personality about her. If she's having a shit day, she'll muscle up and handle it, till she gets home. Most people would characterize a lot of her attributes to be masculine, but her looks tell another story. She's tattoo'd up with 22+ tattoos. Her love is music and favorite band is Tool.

She is quite the drinker as well, but that's a running joke for her. She likes vodka, Swedka her favorite. She's a gamer and has quite a few favorites. Her first being Gear of War 3 horde. She loves the Tomb Raider Series, Elder Scrolls Series, Borderlands, Dead Island.. and other coop games.

She's a very outspoken Atheist. If you try to convince her otherwise, good luck to you. She's got quite the colorful language too, but never a dull moment.

My last relationships? Not soooo great. I'm not the greatest person ever, I know ya'll might think me as a good fella, but I've done some shitty things to folks.

My last relationship I was with her for two years, I cheated on my ex when she went to Mexico for study abroad. If it makes you feel better, I only did it when I heard she did the same. I just don't take cheaters worth a dime. I'm straight up about it. I admit I miss things about her, but damn I was like a prize trophy around her friends in Springfield, IL. Every time I came there they would always have questions about the south and such. I cut off all her friends, due to I didn't want to be that awkward guy that people called up and said.. "heeeey you wanna hang out." As in her friends actually tried to get me to come out and hook up with one or two of them. So I ditched em, due to I hate to be affiliated as the "liar" or "cheater" when she did the same damn thing. At that point I was done with the hook up phase, (which I didn't quite participate in, thanks to always being in relationships), so I was ready to be alone.

Before that I dated for 4 months in an interim after I came back to Nashville with Diana from Georgia. She and I met up because of music for the first time. Though in the later parts of the relationship, I was freakin miserable to the point I drank like a pathetic welp. I was just bitched at like a condescending twat due to I am good natured and try to treat a lady with the respect she deserves. But guess what.. she never deserved shit. She cheated, cried.. and my feelings went.. numb on that one. This I can't blame though, due to we were only together every 2 weeks. I'm shallow sometimes as well, and was much better at hanging out in the Murfreesboro at a gaming lounge and taking it to the bars at night.

Before that I was in high school, and I dated a girl... sigh don't judge, 3 years lower than me. She and I had a lot of complicated shit in our heads, and spiritually and therapeutically we worked on each other. She I indeed miss, but I had to go to college, and it's been forever since I last heard from her. Good musical taste, damn good heart, though honestly.. she deserved better and hopefully got better. Shine on you crazy diamond.

I dated a few others.. but nothing too serious. Some teen , pre-teen stuff.. no real physical stuff aside from kissing.

I've changed my roll in relationships a lot over the years.. I used to be shy as hell. Though.. I'm a better person today, at least I hope.

 

[ANGRYWOLF]

I don't have one...

too old and not interested.

Probably should get my testosterone level checked but I'm not interested enough to bother anymore.

I did find this online and thought some of you might be interested.

http://wonderwall.msn.com/tv/jenny-...ve-on-the-internet-1654306.story?ocid=answw11

If you are interested.I think she would be high maintence though.
rotfl.

 

[Jasmine You]

Who here has a significant other? How long have you been together? What are they like? What do you love most about them? Do they have any quirky habits?

If you're single, is there anyone you like at the moment? How long have you liked them for? What do you like about them?

For those who are open to discussing their past, what were past relationships like?

Oh, and what do you think of relationships in general? I know there are some people who prefer to remain single, either for personal reasons, religious reasons, or simply because they prefer it at the moment.

Yes, yes; I have a lovely boyfriend. His name is Artemis. :3 ♥
We have been together since...March 16th; I have no idea how long that is because I only count years and not months. The amount of time we spend together also doesn't matter much to me...not at all. It's the quality of the relationship that really matters to me and it's been wonderful. I'm happy and I am confident that he is also happy. We have exchanged gifts and it's just great. I even have a special gifts planned for him for Christmas. I'm sure he'll love it but I am keeping it a secret for now.

Artemis is...a very gentle and almost sheepish person; he's very caring and kind. I like that about him but sometimes that pisses me off because there are some people that he allows to walk over him. That's not cool; it's a bit hard to get him to show come back bone, but he's got it somewhere in there. I know he does. I like that we can talk for hours about nothing and never get bored; we pretty much entertain one another by doing nothing most of the time. He's a lazy kid sometimes and sorta irresponsible but that's okay because he's good for the parts that do matter the most. He's studying to become a vet assistant and sometimes he gets a little bumpy in school; it's fine he can handle it.

I've only have two past relationships and the first on was a joke and the second was....abusive in some way. Not from the other's part, but in my part. I do admit that I abused that kid but...you know what? He knew I was abusing him and yet...he decided to stay. I always wondered why and when I asked him about it, he'd always say: "Because I love you." When I finally decided to end it for good, I still wanted to be friends with him because he's a cool guy, he was sorta fun to be around and he was my only company at the moment. But guess what? He didn't want that and just abandoned me. Hasn't spoken to me ever since. It's like: "we're either a couple or we're nothing."

Cool, huh?

Relationships are supposed to be simple, but people just make them complicated and a general pain. Sometimes they bring good stress and sometimes they don't. Depends how you handle them. *shrug* Chill out people and be happy, yeah?

 

[Tyler Breeze]

Right now, I'm the idiot that goes out on group dates just so I can stop by Gamestop. All my friends have girlfriends and then there's me. I'm always the dude that tags along just to do something I want to do.

Currently I'm focusing more on playing hard and working harder. I'm chasing my dreams. After I get some form of stability, then maybe I'll want to go back into the dating world. But for now, I'm working on my future.

(Bonus)

Past relationships have gone great for me. I've never had a bad one. I was always the one that ended it. Ehh, it's all good though.

 

[The Master]

I'm currently with a great man... Theres an 18 year age gap, me being 20, him being 38, but I don't see it as a big deal... I really care about the guy...
We have been dating since around June and it's been going great. Sure we have our ups and downs, but what's the fun in a 'perfect' relationship?

I REALLY don't want to talk about my past relationships...

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

Some of the older, longer-active, posters may already know this but may as well as it's a new(ish) thread.

I prefer to be single right now. My job requires me to work really unsociable hours at times and I'm also trying to make a decent go at my career as an artist, which many will know can be very unsociable as it is. When not bogged down with either I like to spend a lot of time with friends being VERY irresponsible or simply be alone to enjoy time away from responsibility. This apparently puts a lot of strain on some girls who need lots of attention. Unfortunately most girls I attract and end up in a relationship with seem to be that type. Theres been some messy situations in the past and I can't be dealing with such things right now. Instead I enjoy the occasional fun one-night stand whenever I can get it. Afterall I am a man who does indeed have needs*. There is however one girl whom I have been friends with for almost a year now that I would, without a absolute fucking doubt, drop everything for to be with. I did have a chance with her several months ago but blew it. Things just were not right at the time and now it is currently out of the question but thats just how things go sometimes I guess.

*This does not mean im actually a selfish man-whore. Must always treat the ladies with respect, lads.

 

[Shinra Executive]

I was once engaged, and since then, my love life has gone flat. I'll date someone for a while- there's an initial spark, and then I just feel like I'm being harassed. Can't really tell if I'm setting unreasonable standards, or if they are simply just shit girls to be with.
Either way, I do have this odd habit of sizing them up to my ex-fiance after we break up. I'll think to myself "yeah, she wasn't worth it anyway" *ex-fiance pops into my head*.

It's said that a person never really forgets 'the one that got away'. You can get married to the person of your dreams, have kids, and so on, but you always have that one person kept somewhere positive in your mind.

 

[Yaoi Master Gavin]

So most of you know I'm gay but I've had... three female relationships, two wanted and one unwanted, and two male relationships, past and current; obviously the female ones were before I discovered I was totally gay and not bisexual. The first girl was a year older than me but we met in my AP/IB Psychology class and then I discovered she was also in my IB French I/II/French III/VI class. It took me half the year to ask her out and it actually went rather well. I was still dealing with the whole 'hmm....I like guys' deal at the time but at the time I was also pretty sure I liked women as well. Perhaps if we had actually gone anywhere I would've figured out I was gay two years sooner. We drifted apart though once she went to college, even though she went to the local one; time just never seemed to work so we mutally agreed to break it off. The second girl and the third happened at the same time. One was a creepy stalker who went to my school and lived on the street next to me so I couldn't get away from her. My mum and stepfather thought it was cute - I thought it was Hell slowly plodding it's way towards me; I wanted NOTHING to do with her. Regardless, I got set up on several dates with her until I finally got pissed at mum and when into a nice yelling session but got rid of her interference. Stalker-girl still came though so I simply avoided her - walking around buildings, going through the woods, getting off at a later but still close bus spot. Eventually she realized I didn't want her but that wasn't until may of my senior year. At the same time I was attracted to a young woman in my French class - yes, I know - who was a junior and had just joined that year. Again, nothing serious happened and we went on out separate ways after I graduated.

I didn't realize I was gay until that October and, living in the American South in a relatively rural area, coming out was like playing quickfire Russian Roulette with real guns. I didn't have a relation ship until my second year when I met a guy who seemed nice. There was a lot of things I liked and some I didn't but that's usually how it is with all relationships - you work around the problems because you love who they are. When we tried living together for a short while though, that's when things went to hell. I found out that everything about him had been a lie aside from the physical. He was whiny, self-absorbed, violent when he didn't get his way, not a seme or even a switch (majorly important there), and perhaps most importantly, wanted me to neglect school to pay attention to him, although there were many other massive flaws. Needless to say, I got rid of him as soon as I could and dumped his lying arse. Unfortunately the little bastard had gotten to some of my friends and I lost some but in the end, the ones I really needed stayed with me.

After that I started being more...picky about guys. Not in the super high standards way but I looked specifically for things that would/could ruin relationships like, in one case, a series of fetishes each more disturbing than the last, none of which I wanted part of (that ruined it completely - not that he was attractive in the least to begin with [a friend tried to hook me up with this guy{I gagged}]).

Recently though, I met a guy this past semester who's incredibly cute. I met him while I was messing around on the computer and we started talking and things have just gone from there. He's shy even though he's seme but that just makes him even more cute and it's a little amusing because I have a seme personality despite being uke. It wasn't until recently that I got up the nerve to really talk seriously with him and to be honest, I was a little surprised when I found out he had his own feelings for me. Unfortunately, it's not exactly something we can go flaunting about - his family isn't receptive at all and being int he South is just...ick. Right now, we're just playing it by ear and spending as much as we can together.

There's a lot of things I love about him but I think the best is how well he complements me. We seem to be on the same page about a lot of things despite having different personalities and really it just all works. I don't think we've had a single fight - or at least what I would consider a fight - and we've shared a number of special moments together. One of the things that's a little quirky about him is that he's camera shy so when there's a camera i find his trepidation rather endearing.

For relationships in general, I know some are better off being single. Similarly, I know some are better when they're with someone. To be honest, I fall into both. I have momnets where I want everyone to leave me the fuck alone and others when I wish I had a boyfriend there to comfort me; the latter seems to be happening a lot - especially when all of my friends seem to be hooking up (though some of their S.O.s are better left in the closet or under the bed). It's really based on your personality.

 

[The Witch]

nothing.
unless my love affair with nachos and chocolate covered pretzels counts

no seriously, i'm not one for relationships. i'm emotionally closed off, i think. thats not to say i dont want one in the future but im usually too afraid to take the chance of going forward. i hate thinking that ill possibly lose them as a friend if things romantically didnt work out so i usually just push a crush down until it dies out, that way i dont ruin our friendship. ive only felt really close to someone once but that's not to say i haven't had feelings for someone because i have. i think i avoid dating because atm i can't handle all the drama and crap dating sometimes (usually) has on top of what I'm already going through.

atm, i do have a crush on someone tho (they're older), but what did i just say people? id rather ignore said feelings than ruin a friendship

*im so messed up *