That One Thing...

[Abstract Debauchery]

What is that one thing that you see in another individual that can either repulse you from the start, or make you want to love a person? Now, I'm not used to making threads like this, but I sat down and thought about it for a bit. I hear many people that often talk about that one thing about their significant others that made them instantly like them. (Eyes, nose, smile, etc.)

So I got to thinking about mine, and realized that for me, it's a voice. If someone has a voice that I can't really stand, I'll never give them a thought. However, if a woman has a nice voice, it grabs my attention immediately. There have been times when I haven't even seen the woman, but I heard them speak, and it made me do frontflips in my head.

At times it can be something strong, yet feminine, or small and frail. But a nice voice is something that I find I can write a novel about. Then to match it with a cute face, the mental gymnastics I could do would be amazing.

So, for you, what is that one tiny, or maybe huge thing, that could make you fall in love with someone?

Everyone only gets one. I don't want to see someone get in here and list the entire fucking anatomy of a human being as their answer. FUCK. THAT.

 

[GalaxyFlare]

Complete lack of a compatible sense of humor

People who just dont get stuff..............those 94 people on Youtube who just dont get anything. Luckily most of the screw balls I know are parallel to my sense of humor and we get along very well.

Is what happens when you work with your best friends

 

[Sum1sgruj]

People who just dont get stuff

Definitely that^^^, and people who generally have their head up there own ass. Many females carry these traits, so if you're a female buddy of mine, you should feel really good about yourself, because you're awesome.

Pretty much sums it up. Oh yeah, and people with tats on their face. Unless of course they happen to be a droog.

 

[Squid]

LOL way to generalise females... :S

anyway mine is definitely humor.
If you're boring and don't have a sense of humor and are very stiff and offended easily then I wont go for you.
If you're funny and can take a joke then ILU

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

Slutiness.

No offence, but if someone comes across as a slut to me then I wouldn't touch them with a barge poll. I don't mean flirting as most people do that to a certain degree and I don't think it's a bad thing as long as it's restrained if you're in a relationship but if a girl opens her legs at the drop of a hat I find it disgusting and the most unappealing thought ever. Even if protection has been used the thought that some lass has just gone from person to person constantly indicates to me that they have absolutely no self respect, it's dirty and gross. I'm not saying everyone should be a virgin or just sleep with the 1 or 2 people, but at least show some sort of restraint.

I could seriously write a novel about this.

 

[StrungOut]

The first and almost only thing that repulse me from others is impulsiveness. That is what bothers me the most in someone. No matter how good looking, funny or intelligent you are, if you lose patience easily you're on my blacklist and I will most likely avoid you and reject you.

I'm a very patient person and I don't see why some people get mad so fast when things doesn't go their way. Sometimes they get mad about silly and insignificant things as well. I just can't stand them.

 

[Warbsywoo]

In terms of repulsion, and in terms of the opposite sex, it's definitely what Ryan said. I can't stand it when a girl seems too flirty or too slutty or whatever in terms of clothing and in terms of action from the get-go. And just to add something, it's definitely attractive to me if a girl is modest but still elegant and knows how to show herself off in the right kinds of ways.

Also, if a person starts off their first conversation with me with something intelligent, I'll definitely find myself a lot more conducive to talking more than someone who starts off with "hey dude...". Though I...do tend to be get very nervous when talking to people.

 

[Bambi]

A clash of personalities is a definite put off. Arrogance and the likes, folk that liek to put other folk down, make them feel stupid for no reason. Oh I dont like that therefore youre a fucking weirdo because of it. I cant stand folk like that. I had the misfortune to date someone like that recently, and he made me feel really uncomfortable about myself, like if I said something he'd think it/I was stupid. Someones grandad that I knew was abit of a cunt like that as well, its silly little things like, if we were there having tea, he'd ask, do you like pork? No. Tough it's what we are having. Just fuck off trying to make folk look stupid

Horrible hands on the physical side can be off putting, I really like nice hands, but well, I dont vet all my friends on appearance, so ...(Id just tell them off for not taking care of their hands/nails)

Really really winds me up

As for what would instantly attract me to someone, this is where it's physical I guess. First appearances someone has nice hair or eyes and and Im an absolute sucker. I can't decide if it's more hair or eyes.. but ooooh, Il just be like. Hello

 

[Coco]

Great conversation (including sense of humor). It's such an important thing for me. I admire guys who are easy going, easy to talk to. Also, hygiene and smell is a huge factor. I'm not saying shower with expensive cologne, I just...I can't stand body odor, bad breath or any of that.

First appearances someone has nice hair or eyes and and Im an absolute sucker. I can't decide if it's more hair or eyes.. but ooooh, Il just be like. Hello

As far as physical appearance goes, this exactly.

Complete lack of a compatible sense of humor

People who just dont get stuff..............

I went out a few times with someone who fits this category. We had a few good talks here and there, but the jokes were so awkward, it just wasn't worth it. It was a shame since he was pretty handsome and decent. You can't put a price to it, I guess.

 

[Toshiya]

Voice

For instance, I absolutely love the Irish accent. If a guy has an Irish accent I could listen to that all day. But then, it works both ways. I can't stand the Welsh accent so if a Welsh guy talks to me I'm not interested, the accent just irritates me.

Close second is hair They have to have good hair.

That's for instant attraction. Once I've found someone with a nice voice and good hair, they have to have a sense of humour too about 50% of what comes out of my mouth is mildly sarcastic so if they don't have a sense of humour, it's not going to work.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Guys who wear bags on their back and hats on their heads like little boys. =/ Oh and ride bikes around because they're too lazy to go and get their licence.

I really really can not stand this! What are you 12?

Funnily enough I dated one of these guys and I think he made me realise how much I hated it.

It was like going out with a kid in primary school the way he dressed and he was older than me too! I always had to drive him around everywhere like he was my little brother or something. So weird.

So I guess acting your age is a big thing for me. And it's such a turn off when a guy doesn't have a licence. It's such a manly thing to have a car and your own licence. To me it's like, you're not fully a man if you're lacking in this area. XD

 

[Dr. Percival Cox]

Kinda what Stang said, I don't like when a girl's too flirty. It's kinda like "Yeah, I know you're close to these guys that you hang out with but it makes me a little uncomfortable and then she says "Oh, you're just being uptight." I'm sorry, I guess seeing my girlfriend hug a guy and just kinda rub up on him makes me a little... Sick. I'm not the jealous type. But we've all seen it. A guy has a thing for a girl that already has a boyfriend. He does things that he BELIEVES are suttle like putting his arm around her and holding her hand. And she just kind of rolls with it. While that's not exactly flirting, that does give a very unsettling feel. I had a friend who knew a guy like that. He would act this way with her and I'd tell her that it seemed a little in the gray area. But she told me that they were just friends. Yeah, that's why he was trying to grab a feel. I'm just saying.

 

[Noize]

Shallowness.

Women that for example, see a homeless person on the street and give them filthy looks because they're less fortunate is a turn off. I've had a few like that and to be honest it was embarrassing to be around them. I'd often find myself going back and apologisingm and treating them to a meal.

Also, like many before me, a sense of humour.

I like me a woman that laughs with me, not at me. A woman that can tell a good joke or is on the same level as me is a bonus for me

Guys who wear bags on their back and hats on their heads like little boys. =/ Oh and ride bikes around because they're too lazy to go and get their licence.

I really really can not stand this! What are you 12?

Funnily enough I dated one of these guys and I think he made me realise how much I hated it.

It was like going out with a kid in primary school the way he dressed and he was older than me too! I always had to drive him around everywhere like he was my little brother or something. So weird.

So I guess acting your age is a big thing for me. And it's such a turn off when a guy doesn't have a licence. It's such a manly thing to have a car and your own licence. To me it's like, you're not fully a man if you're lacking in this area. XD

Oi! I don't have my license or a car! I'm a fraid of getting behind the wheel, i'm too nice which means i'll end up driving my mates around everywhere and i don't think i could handle that much responsibility. last thing i need is to end up in a car crash and have my mates deaths on my conscience.

Other than that, most of my friends have died due to vehicle related accidents.

...I know that's just yer opinion i'm just sayin...

 

[moogling]

Mine's not really a trait of appearance but of behavior. I've found it extremely rare to come across anyone who has even the slightest sense of courtesy. If someone went as far as to hold open a door and let me in front of them, I'm sold. By contrast, something that repulses me is a complete lack of common courtesy.

I don't really care about anything that's related to appearance except body odor. It's not that hard to keep up with your hygiene so I expect someone I'm interested in to at least smell tolerable.

 

[Valvalis]

This depends on if it's a physical or mental thing for me This is more in the past tense for me since I'm permanently attached, but I'm thinking in terms of how it was when I was still looking.

Physically--someone who has a unique look to them. It's kind of hard to explain, but there are a lot of people I've seen in public who look very similar to lots of other people, and don't really stand out that much. But every once in a while, I would see someone who had a bit different look to them--maybe the way they carried themself, or an uncommon haircut, or just a face in general that looked different from most other people's. It's like if you think of celebrities, I suppose--many of them just look like ordinary people and don't stand out, but then if you look at someone like Sean Connery, there aren't very many people out there (that I've seen, anyway) who resemble him at all. And so that sort of thing--a unique overall appearance--appeals to me.

Mentally/personalitywise--paying attention. I can usually tell if someone is paying attention to me because they're genuinely interested in me, or if they're only bullshitting with me to pass the time, because I'm the only person there or the lesser of evils. And if I can tell it's the latter, then it's a huge turnoff. I don't want to feel like I should have to fight to get a person's attention, and if someone is genuinely smitten, they're not going to sit there and ignore me, or act "cool" and "detached". If they truly care, then they're likely going to tell me all their stories, jokes, and news for the day, because they want to see my reaction because they care what I think; and they're not going to try to "play it cool" and act like tough guys, and take the chance that I might walk away from them if they're being too cold. A reasonable amount of distance is fine, but when guys act overly tough and detached, it's totally disgusting to me, because it's often just a front to hide their real feelings, and it's reminiscent of dinosaur-era gender roles where the woman is portrayed as "needier" and not as independent, or the guy doesn't act dependent enough, once the relationship starts to get serious.

And if a guy switches between caring and cold, that's also a big turnoff. I had an issue with this five or so years ago with someone I worked with--he acted all interested for close to a year, and then when my birthday came along, he promised to visit me at work and bring me a bottle of alcohol for my 21st. Well, when the day came, he didn't show up at all, and then the next time I saw him, he was all "Oh sorry, I forgot until late last night." And even though I said it was okay and didn't make a big deal, then not long after that, he started acting completely detached and manslutty, talking on the phone to his friends all the time about how he was going out on dates with all these slutty drunken chicks, and barely paying any attention to me at all To this day I still have no idea whether it was something I did, or if he was just genuinely psychotic. But I would definitely not want to be with someone like that.

EDIT: Also, @Masamune--I totally agree with you there about the car thing. I didn't get my license until I was 22, and it was for the same reasons. Actually, I often felt like people didn't want to hang out with me because I didn't have a license, and it pissed me off because I've never felt like you should judge a person for that. IMO, unless you're riding on the backs of enslaved babies and whipping them half to death, your mode of transportation says absolutely nothing about you as a person. Unless you get into minor details, such as, people without cars probably pollute less because they have to carpool, walk, ride bikes or the bus, like I did for a long time

 

[Tyler Breeze]

For repulsion...

There was this girl I knew that started out as the girl next door type. But then about 6 months later, she got all.... Sluttified. Ever since, I've had problems trusting girls. Don't be fake. Just be you. Don't pretend to be something you're not. Relationships will never last if you play that game. That sucks too. She was a good friend in her alter ego. Ehh. Don't be a slut. Don't be fake. My two biggest Things.

As for what I like...
Eyes. She had beautiful eyes. When we first met, and we saw each others eyes... We stopped everything we were doing for like a whole minute. It was love at first sight. Before she turned all slut, I considered her to be very beautiful. Ehh. Whatevs. She can eff right off.

 

[~Griever~]

Hmm. A lot of people seem to be going for the voice?! I better change my accent quick

For me I think intelligence or at least the ability to think is extremely important. There's nothing more off putting than talking to a pretty girl and finding out her all time hero is Kim Kardashian or someone similar. On the other hand if a girl said "Oh yeah, Lawrence Krauss is a bit of a legend" I'd probably instantly fall in love...

Obviously I'm stereotyping to a degree. Still, I definitely love meeting girls or people in general who "think outside of the box."