Rude People

[Kandy-Sugar]

So I don't get why people feel the need to be rude.

I always seem to get this alot on ebay.

If I feel they haven't explained something in their listing well, I will ask away before buying.

But whenever I ask a normal question, they always seem to come back with a reply that makes me feel stupid even though I asked a perfectly reasonable question.

They really should be nice if they want me or anyone to buy their item. Or if they can't be nice, they should have all the answers to buyers questions in the listing so that no one bothers them with questions.

Even if I feel someone has asked me a stupid question about one of my items on ebay I still answer them politely. It's not that hard and I don't particularly like being mean.

That's just one of my experiences with rude people.

 

[Will Graham]

In the shop a lot of customers can be really rude, and it is very easy to assume it's just because they are a cunt and/or bitch. People always find it easy to accept "Oh I'm only in a bad mood today because my heroin dealer stole my rabbit" but are unable to accept others might have a valid reason. So when I get a rude customer I try and think up reasons they might be in a bad mood, like "maybe he got a blowjob with too much teeth"

 

[Martel]

I've often wondered why people have to be so rude without cause, as well. I think much of the time, at least when people are rude to me personally, it's due to misinterpretation, which would mean that they're being rude because they're either too stupid to understand what I'm saying, or are too proud to actually ask for clarification, and are just going to assume it was meant as an insult or something else.

When I was working at Tesco I didn't have many rude customers, although that is probably because my area is populated with elderly people who have the same sort of mentality to interaction that I do: if you're nice to them, they'll be nice to you. A lot of people seem to have this odd mentality that those who work in shops are either at their convenience or beneath them though, which is aggravating.

Being in a bad mood is no excuse for being rude to other people in my opinion, unless that person specifically is the cause of your anger, or you're talking to them about why you're angry. It's always annoyed me to be on the receiving end of someone's anger when I've done absolutely nothing to deserve it.

 

[Rapture]

From what I've seen...its just a general decline in society that is causing people to be rude. People just don't really care what other people think about them anymore, or so it seems. There is very little repercussion for the rudeness, and if you are mean enough to not notice that you are being rude in the first place...how are you even going recognize it or want to change?

I go to many stores nowadays and people don't even say thank you to you when you buy something from them anymore. I'm ALWAYS usually the one to say thank you. Its silly stupid things like that...that I find rude.

Its rude when people cut you in lines (this doesn't happen too often, but I do say something when it does). Its rude when people cut you off when you are driving. ...and I personally don't complain too much about rude people in shopping malls or etc because when I go to a store I'm not bothered by anyone for the most part.

 

[Genus]

Ive only ever experienced rude ppl through the internet. There are a few assholes i meet in real mife too, but i dont bother knowing them. People tend to be more rude online cause its like an outlet for their grief they put up with everyday. They take it out on perfectly nice ppl that is just curious about things such as the item on ebay.

I dont work in a department store or anything so i wouldnt know how it feels to deal with rude customers. My work community is friendly and everyone gets along fine cause everyone agrees that the job sucks so we spend our time just complaining all day, but only for laughs... The only time we will get in trouble is if we do a poor job, and so poor of a job that the manager's assistant has to come and tell u to fix it even though there r like 8 ppl under him that can easily boss u around... I think i rambled on too far, but u get it...:3

 

[Shu]

When working in the commercial industry you will always have customers that will over extend the clause: The customer is always right.

While they may be right to a certain degree, we as providers to the consumers must adequately support ourselves with user documentation. Often times sometimes all it is, is a misunderstand and they need some type of liason to understand some of the product functionality or whatever it is you sell/provide. They need the people interaction, especially if something doesn't work the way they think it should (which is the ultimate reason people are rude.. aka opinionated people).

In the .com industry I work in, I have to deal with not just client criticism but internal criticism from Sales and Product Management. I develop on the side, but my main part is testing the code other developers do. So when someone is rude, it definitely puts a damper in my day, because it's like a chain of negativity. It doesn't just stop at me either, it keeps going past me, without me having to say a word to someone else. It's like.. the move pay it forward, but instead of a positive outcome, it is a negative.. So when someone talks crap to you over a phone, or in your business place.. well it starts there.. and unless you are the better person, it keeps going. It's called dealing with criticism and opinionated people overall. Even if the documentation has it efficiently listed, it still doesn't matter to people, when they think something should work or provide them with another service. AKA giving code to someone with no contract and no strings attached.. lol, that's when I LAWL. I'm sure Microsoft would love to do the same thing.. MEGA LAWLLLLL, greedy bitches (directed at microsoft).

One job I will never sign up doing, is the call center aka customer support. Those peeps get reemed daily. I'm surprised the suicide rate isn't higher for them then dentists. I mean think about it, do you like constantly being blamed for code you didn't write or a service you didn't provide or for documentation you didn't write up? People don't understand that those folks (customer support) are ONLY there to help. Not to break code like developers or quality assurance or business analysts can do. Now if a customer support is being rude back to you... that is a twist.. I think they should be warned first, then let go if repetition happens. (paper trail).

But yea.. rude people suck, but then again I'm one of those rude people as well sometimes. It's hard to shut off the mind when calling microsoft support and saying.. Yo your software is buggy because of this. And an Indian (too cheap to hire from own country) gets on to say.. "Please unplug your xbox and replug it back in" I sit there and wish I had his manager on the line, due to the fact I explained the situation first, but of course.. he is too ignorant about the software, due to he is only customer support. I speak on a different language (not just software fluency in this case either lawl). I'm not racist, but damn.. get someone who can understand me speak, and secondly get someone who can understand how the software works.. not just a place holder that you pay 2 dollars an hour too.

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

Rude people are just part of everyday life really. I find people also tend to have different levels of what they expect. I've been accused of being 'rude' by certain people in RL for doing things that most people haven't got a problem with at all. I'm myself pretty laid back. I don't have a problem with someone not holding a door open for me (unless im right behind, I guess) but I highly dislike when people at work finish and have to hand their passes back to me. Some are really hasty and don't give two flying fucks that my hands are full, dealing with whatever im doing at the time (writing out a vehicle log, signing in/out keys, issuing a pass to someone else), they'll just shove their passes in my face expecting me to take them there and then like I have several arms. Had a couple of guys that if I didn't take them that second they'll tap on my arm in a 'hurry up can't you see this' fashion. It's a wait of only literally a few seconds, it's not like im wasting time and cruising at my own leisure. Then all they really do is go straight to the smoking area anyway so its not like they are in a mad rush or anything.

So when I get a rude customer I try and think up reasons they might be in a bad mood, like "maybe he got a blowjob with too much teeth"

I hate that. Surely opening the mouth just a little bit wider isn't that much more to ask? Goddamn

 

[Ethics]

Now I think there are two different worlds to being rude. The business world and the (for lack of better words) personal world.

Being rude on your own time I'll just assume you're a douche bag and won't attempt to socialize with you anymore. Maybe you're pissed for some reason or another, and that's where the excuse of "having a bad day" or whatever is valid.

Now, in the business world your bad day should not matter. I'm one of those people who try and drop everything whenever I enter my workplace. It's always game face for me there. If you had a bad day, there is no need to take it out on your customers or coworkers, that's just being over the top. Do you really think your coworkers want to be there any more than you do? Unlikely. Do you honestly think the customers came in to deal with your shitty day? No. They came in to buy something. When you're on the clock, you need to suck it up or take your ass home.

 

[Squid]

I hate rude people. There is no need to be rude to customers or rude to staff or anyone. No one has any manners any more, it's not hard to say hello, or please and thank you. It's not hard to just treat someone nice when they help you out or are trying to.

Even if you're in a bad mood it's still no excuse to be nasty to someone who has done nothing wrong. I pretty much agree mostly with what Jeff has said about the business world thing.

Though I am guilty of being a bit rude to staff at stores and stuff, but only if they start it

 

[moogling]

Nine times out of ten, any secretary at any type of office will be the biggest bitch to you for no reason. If you don't like dealing with people, why take the job that requires you to interact with them constantly? It especially irritates me when I've done nothing rude or wrong for them to be rude in return for. Asking as nicely and clearly as possible. And what do I get in return? A snotty reply anyway.

Generally I avoid asking for help in a store like the plague because I know the employees probably hate it. And I hate that I feel like that because sometimes because I don't want to bother anyone I don't get what I need.

Peers at my age are infinitely worse. Running in front of someone to get into the door before them, letting the door shut behind them when they know there's someone behind them, shoving their friend in the hallway into several other people because it's just completely necessary to do so, etc etc. Lucky my fuse isn't as short as I wish it were at times, it only begins to irritate me once I've lost my chance to say something

 

[L]

unfortunately, sometimes this mantra eventually rubs off on them and they feel invulnerable irl.

 

[Six]

Pretty much with Ariana on this one.

Also, people with the kind of sarcasm to respond to your question and trying to be oh so damn hilarious to make you feel stupid, really aren't that hilarious at all. It doesn't make me feel stupid, it just makes me regret being polite about it.

I work at McDonalds, when I have a shit day, I don't want to stand behind the cash register and try my best to laugh at people and help them with their order, but I try to, so then when they grab their phone while there's a huge line behind them, and when I continue asking if that was all, they get all pissy about not being done with ordering yet, then put your goddamn phone down, you damn idiot.

Dealt with a lot of rude people in my life, I work with a girl who's all up her own ass and thinks she's so right, it pisses me off when people aren't at least TRYING to see the other side of something. Don't come at me with your verbal attacks and then ignore what I'm saying just because you're finished with your part. Blegh, hate rude people.

 

[Mitsuki]

I have a very high threshold for what's considered rude. Some people may say, "Oh that was rude" when I probably didn't think so. It depends what it is. A lot of times, people like to be frank and stern, though the attitude may be considered 'rude' depending how they deliver the message or act out, but generally I won't give it too much thought. I probably just don't care to waste time pondering about people's behavior because it would only ruin my day.

But with really rude people...I try not to respond back, because the likelihood of bringing my points coherently is very slim. That and it's not worth it. When I worked as a cashier at a retail store (Ohio) a few years ago, I dealt with many assholes and the like. Sometimes they'll have me scheduled to come in as a "Greeter". Those were the worst; I actually preferred being behind the cash register. I worked graveyard shift, so we had all sort of weirdos come in. One night (or early morning, rather), I asked a customer to see his receipt, as it is required. He stopped, looked at me and smirked as if I had said something rude. "What, just because I'm black?" he said.

Yeah, let's not even go there. He said more things in which he tried to make it seem like I was being offensive. I tried to keep it cool, but I couldn't help but sigh loudly while chuckling at the same time. No really, it was a genuine chuckle of disbelief.

 

[Belazor et Britannia]

Mostly my experiences with rude people are on the internet. Like this one person I know, she'll come on MSN almost exclusively to say something is broken, and then when I call her out on only stopping by to "talk" when something is broken, she'll say "I was gonna say hi and stuff!"

... Mitsuki

Nah but seriously though, everybody else pretty much said it. I just couldn't resist

 

[Will Graham]

Rather than single people out, I am fairly certain everyone is definitely lying or at least mistaken. Yes you shouldn't let a bad mood affect your work, but inevitably you will. Not every time, but at least some of the time. Say you have ten customers who treat you like donkey dick, you're not going to be in the best mood for customer 11. Or if you're coming off a ten or twelve hour shift. For example I scan groceries through like a robot, at the end of my Friday shifts.

When it comes to shopping, I don't see why pleases and thank yous are important, granted I always use them, and notice when the other person doesn't. They are only ceremonials though. No one is really actually grateful that you sold/bought items from them when they say thank you, it's just a force of habit

There is a guy who frequents the shop I work, and has never once said thanks. Then after a month or so he said hello, introduced himself by name, got my name, and shook my hand. Said he always made sure to know the staff, that I think, was much more important than some indifferent 'thanks'.

I am surprised by how shocked people seem to be by rudeness or abruptness, as if they are incapable of understanding how anyone could ever be rude. Or that everyone is an angel who is never ever rude, because that is totally plausible. It's not particularly nice if someone is a bit rude, but it's no big deal.

The only point I agree with was banana's. Anyone who has a puss on their face, or ughs when you ask them where something is in a shop, should be beaten over the head with a sack of batteries and rat piss. That's your job, there's a difference between being a bit rude/having a bad day, and being a fuckhead. You're getting paid for this, and it's an easy thing to do

 

[Shu]

The only point I agree with was banana's. Anyone who has a puss on their face, or ughs when you ask them where something is in a shop, should be beaten over the head with a sack of batteries and rat piss. That's your job, there's a difference between being a bit rude/having a bad day, and being a fuckhead. You're getting paid for this, and it's an easy thing to do

Oh you love birds . Anyway I think this whole thread was about "fuck head" comments. Rude in general is being a dick. Being a condescending cunt about something and expect a rise out of a clerk or a customer support rep, I mean who are you to be an ass bag? No one likes it when people call being 1) ignorant 2) disrespectful.

People seem to take their bad days out on everyone else and it's a vicious circle. The way I blow off steam sometimes is screwing around with my buds. Making fun, banter etc.. but all of it's okay due to we know each other. Though calling up a customer support rep all because your microwave offered a guarantee in their setup document.. well if you come off as a dick, then why? Again if the customer rep is rude, that's another thing.

 

[The Witch]

I have a very high threshold for what's considered rude. Some people may say, "Oh that was rude" when I probably didn't think so. It depends what it is. A lot of times, people like to be frank and stern, though the attitude may be considered 'rude' depending how they deliver the message or act out, but generally I won't give it too much thought. I probably just don't care to waste time pondering about people's behavior because it would only ruin my day.

Agreed.

I don't understand why some people can just act so rude but it happens. It's always better to try and not dwell on their negativity, though. But it's little things like when you ask someone to pass you something and they retort with some show of annoyance. That's the sort of rudeness that gets me. :/ Or like when you're trying to talk and the other person just really pays no attention for whatever reason (whether it's cuz they're working or whatever)... I don't care what their excuse is, if someone's trying to talk to you do the polite thing and just say to them "I'm sorry, I'm sorta busy but we can chat later" or heck, if the person just doesn't want to talk to you they can just say to them that they don't want to talk. That's better than letting someone trying to converse with someone that just doesn't want to chat. It's incredibly rude to just... pay them no attention when they're trying to talk.

But I guess talking to someone when they're busy or whatever is rude to. But if the person's not working and they're still just ignoring you... it's just rude. :/

If I see someone rude in a store or whatever, it's best to just shrug it off because who knows what their day's consisted of. It's like the scene in fight Club when the guy just snaps at his boss--he had a bad day. Sure the girl who sold me my clothes had a nasty look on her face and gave me attitude but for all I know she had something really bad happen to her that day.

It's always better to put yourself in other people's shoes. When all else fails, who knows, maybe a positive happy reaction will teach them that they should be less rude.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Steve and I went to the Bottle-O the other day and went up the counter where there was only one staff member and assumed she must be serving.

When we got there she was biting her nails and was just standing there staring into space.

Then after a few seconds she looked at us, still chewing on her nails and said, 'I'm not serving guys, I've only just got in. I haven't counted my drawer yet.'

WTF? Why are you the only one here then and why are you standing there in a daze not counting your drawer if that's what you need to do to start serving?

Usually I'm very shy and don't say anything but I was really angry with this woman and said to her, 'How the hell were we supposed to know? You're the only one up at the register?'

She looked at me with the blankest expression and then finally someone came walking up to the register to serve us. She was just as rude. Talking to other people while serving us.

The first woman was so scabby looking too. She was about 40 and looked like she'd grown up in the most derro area. No manners and looked like she did not take care of herself at all. Can't believe she even had a job. Wasn't doing it very well though. <_<