Roomates, like them or not?

[Shu]

Well I'm being lazy, and if I find another thread with this.. well I'll merge it, or someone else can..

So the question was inspired by a convo with Kandy, and I was thinking do you prefer having roomates or not?

If so please list, if not please list why... It would be a very interesting thing to see.

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Me... NO! I'm sorry I love my friends, but friends who become roomates usually turn out to be a bad idea because of living habits and seeing them every freakin day. I mean random people.. I just don't trust them enough to know if they would lock doors.. keep to themselves.. meh.

There are other things in which I bring to the table. People who are loud in bed.. as roomates. Christ in heaven, have I been through the ringer with this. I know people need their privacy.. but dang tell me to leave or something. I would say for the past 5 years I've been roomate free and I've enjoyed my privacy (well excluding the lady, but that's a different scenario). Also the trust factor with splitting costs... I know I can uphold my end up at all times, but having to wait to see if the other person has the utilities paid for, I never could stand it.

Overall... Roomates have been bad for me.. I could tell more, but if this thread inspires more folks, then I'll bring more to the table.

 

[blakstang98]

I've never actually had a roomate, but I know for a fact that it wouldn't work out at all. I'm very anal about cleaning habits, to the point where it would drive me nuts if someone else lived with me, unless they had similar cleaning habits. It probably doesn't help that when I'm not at work, that I don't get out so much either, so they'd probably think I was suffocating them, when I'm just a homebody. I can cook, somewhat, but I'm pretty picky about my food, so it's possible that eating habit would clash as well.

Before moving to Connecticut, I was going to possibly have my buddy be a part of that as well. We've been friends for a long time, but I know for a fact it would get irritating very quickly. As far as cleaning goes, we're polar opposites. Even if he visits me, I'm all over him for leaving an empty can of soda lying around or putting a full can of soda on the floor like an inch away from his clumsy feet. I probably would have killed him, if he didn't kill me first for nagging him so much. I'm glad we didn't move in together, it probably would have hindered our friendship. I can afford to live on my own anyhow, I didn't need his help, but I figured it would have helped a lot. But no worries, everything turned out fine for me.

 

[Oliver Queen]

I've never really had a roommate for a long extended period of time. I've had some roommates for a couple days, and they weren't that bad.

I think that if I were to have a roommate for a long time, it wouldn't work out because I like to go through a certain routine for myself. Even though I am very nice to people and leave them to their business when I am unsure about what they are doing, It would get old and annoying after a while when I have to answer questions when I do anything they don't understand.

 

[DeadFantasy]

Tbh, I can't STAND my roomate, Keke at times but nonetheless, i'm glad she's here with me <3 she's my bestie after all. I think it all depends on the person(s) your with. If your a party type and so are your friends then it shouldn't be a big deal. Keke and I butt heads but I seriously couldn't be here without her D=

I trust keke and no where in my mind have I thought she wouldn't hold up the end the bargin. I mean as far as privacy and whatnot... I don't have a big deal with that. She's single as I am though I know she's not that type that brings random guys... so thank the lord for that xD.
Keke is practically my second sister I trust her. Me and her have a lot of things in common and when I ask her to help pick up she can be very helpful

I can't really say that it would/wouldn't work out because it depends on the people but, keke is deff someone that I don't mind living with at all. ive learned to put up with her

 

[Amizon]

I'm very divided over the issue.

While I enjoy the majority of my flatmates here, there was one that made me feel like I was pathetic and worthless last October over something ridiculously stupid. I'm glad to say she's not here anymore as is another one.

So while I do like it, there's some downside to having them.

 

[Not of Rust]

My roomates from college are still my best friends.

I think you have to choose carefully - if you go with someone you really don't know or a friend that you like but not unconditionally - it'll probably go south on you. They guys I lived with I could have fun with watching paint dry.

Never had a roomate after college and probably wouldn't be my preference. That being said it can be an incredibly shrewd move financially which I would have considered suffering through. Buy a cheap condo/flat/house and take advantage of first time buyer financing and have them pick up an equal share of the mortgage. By the time you settle down and want to buy a family home - you've got a nice wad of equity and extra cash to roll over.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I've not actually had roommates myself, but Steve did when we were first going out.

For the first six months of us being together I would stay at his house with his housemates every weekend and it was horrible.

They were all single and were so inconsiderate.

Steve and I would be laying in late in the morning and they'd come banging on his door asking what we were doing. <_< Like seriously, fuck off. I don't come banging on your door asking what you're doing when the door is closed and it's obvious you want some privacy.

The privacy thing was the worst thing about it really. They would always find a way to invade it just because they were losers who couldn't get a girl. They decided it would be fun to ruin their mates relationship. <_<

So NO! I do not like having roommates.

 

[SapphireStar]

Ive never had one really. Ive been in uni halls of residence, not the same lol. Had to share a kitchen which was hard as they were all men with bitchy girlfriends!!! Hated that. As for roomie, no and Im happy to never have had one. I need my privacy and space. Flatmate I wouldnt mind as you both have your own room.

 

[Dee]

Hell no.

I did the roommate thing in my first year of college and it ended up being a disaster. The girl I got paired with was nice and all, but she was from Colorado, told me she had a boyfriend out there and then the very first night she brought a boy back into our room and was making out with him. Within the next few days, I begged my parents to get me a private room and I spent my 4 years alone. Ever since then and 2 years after graduating, I've been living on my own and I much prefer it that way. I need quiet, I need space, I want to come home and not have to deal with anyone other than myself...and maybe my cats. :3

 

[Sir Kenneth]

When I first moved to Australia, I lived with my girlfriend and a couple of house mates of hers, and I honestly thought it was absolute hell. One of my girlfriend's house mates would throw hissy fits and write passive aggressive notes on the whiteboard if they as much as had to do the dishes or found one of your dirty socks in the laundry room. Yet they'd look at you as if you were from another planet if you asked them if they thought it was reasonable that atleast 4 of their drunk friends habitually slept in the living room every weekend.

So yeah, no house/room/flat mates for me thanks. I also prefer not having to take other people into consideration when moving around my own place. Being able to listen to music as loud as I want, walking around the house in my underwear all day if I want, drinking juice directly out of the bottle if I want, etc, etc.

 

[Mitsuki]

Ugh...no no no no no. Absolutely not. I can't stand roommates, especially ones who doesn't clean up or have no common sense about being in a household. My sister-in-law has been living with us for the past year and I have so many problems with her - I actually ended up complaining to my in-laws earlier this week because I just couldn't stand it anymore. I know my husband is caught in the middle here but I just wish he could be firm with her. I don't wanna get into it because I don't want any arguments between us and I'm trying to keep it that way.

Long version short, I'll list some of the things that annoys me:

- She owes us about $1,000 for rent money. She's always late and never on time because she doesn't spend wisely and will always spend on her co-workers and friends.

- She doesn't clean up unless you ask her to (and typically it'll take her several days later to follow through). She's never washed her own dishes - I have to do it. Her bathroom is like a pig's pen and it's an on-going thing with her.

- Apparently mold does not disgust her because she doesn't clean it up. I saw that her trash in her room were filled with dirty pads last year, not rolled up, and it sickened me. You can bet I had quite a temper that day because my daughter sleeps in her room too.

- She'll put her name in all the food that she buys, which is ironic in the first place. We don't eat her food, period (unless she invites us). But she takes ours, which is actually fine with me and I've told her that she's always welcome to eat whenever I cook anything, but her attitude about the whole thing ticks me off. Not to mention that when we do buy something, she ends up using up the majority of it because she can't seem to get it in her head that she should only use adequate serving, not half of the contents.

- We keep telling her so many times not to turn the damn heater up higher than 72, but for awhile there she would crank it up past 80 and sometimes even 90. Seriously, common sense. It's not that cold in California. Put a goddamn sweater on and cover yourself up with blankets, not have everyone suffer and wake up sweating like crazy around 2-4 A.M in the morning.

There's many more, but I'll stop now before I get myself worked up over it again. But I really really want to move out to another apartment and not bring her along with us...

 

[Monster]

I'm not looking forward to sharing a house with someone, so a room mate would be difficult for me and I probably would eat their food. They would probably annoy me if they listened to rubbish music and I may kick them out, but it's an experience, eh?

 

[Aiyuuji]

I'm at university and I share a flat with 6 other people. Out of them all, I only dislike one. My reasoning for this is she is very vindictive, likes to be the center of attention ect. I just have no time for people like her. Therefore, I cannot wait to move away from her.

 

[Black Butler]

pretty recent i was at camp with friends,not all of them were friends though,but i had a random roomate.let me explain the camps rules,roomates are boys and boys and girls and girls,that means,no boys with girls and no girls with guys,my friends wanted to have a room alone but theres was too many rooms with 1 person only so i had to be with someone,and it went all bad,we didnt talk at all i didnt bother to do so,if i remember,he was farting during his sleep!! thats all i have to say,curious? then ask me

 

[Rydia]

One of the reasons that I did not go live in dorm at college was that I knew that I would not be able to handle a room mate. I like to have my own personal space and my own room. I need to live with a person with a certain personality or I will be completely stress out all the time. (and luckily my fiance has that specific personality XD)

Of all my friends, there is only one who I could share a space with long term. Though we've never considered moving in together because we're perfectly content living where we are currently.

 

[Shadra]

It's a Yes and a No for me. It really just depends on the person.

My freshman year of college I hated my roommate. She was so inconsiderate and messy. Her shit would end up being all over my side of the room! OMG! I wanted to shank her! I would have to go to sleep early because I had classes at 8am the next morning and she would come in about midnight, slam the door, rummage around in her stuff for about 10min, and then slam the door again when she was going to our suit mates room. . .

Last year I randomly signed up with someone for a roommate. I didn't know her but that was probably one of the best things I did last year. She was messy but it was contained to her side of the room, which was a vast improvement over Freshman roommate. lol. She was really nice and very considerate.

This year it's just crazy. I'm rooming with one of my best friends and I don't think it could be better. She's not messy and we are both extremely sarcastic towards each other... (and apparently we are very convincing... our suit mate actually thought we were fighting. Every time we try to fight it just ends up in laughter.) Another plus is that we are both Graphic Design majors so we really help each other out with our design classes. I will most likely be rooming with her next year as well.

It really just depends on the person as for having a roommate.

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

I've not had to bother with roomates, but I'm fine with housemates. There's a couple of the girls I live with I wouldn't mind seeing mown down by a combine harvester but they ignore me and I ignore them.
I prefer living here with mates than back at home with my parents, because we all just co-habit the house and don't get at each other about loud music and a messy kitchen.

 

[Lirael]

It really depends on the roomates. :/

In my first year at Uni, I was with three girls who I didn't have anything in common with, who HAD to be in cliques, who loved clubbing and thought that music which made the flat shake wasn't loud.

They were inconsiderate. One had a party and didn't let me know, so naturally I was a little annoyed when I found my flat filled with screaming girls at 11pm, who returned at 2am and rang the doorbell continuously 'til I opened the door because they were sick and didn't live there and had the wrong key...who were then followed at 4am by the rest of the rabble, who decided to club in my living room until dawn.

If they had told me they were having the party, I would have gone to stay with my boyfriend, instead of inviting him over. It really doesn't cost that much time!

Second year was okay... The flatmates were fairly considerate and quiet. One was a bit messy, but she did control her mess (she left chicken and lasagne in dishes on the worksurface; what worried me is that she ate it gradually without putting it in the fridge...) So no complaints there, but no real benefits either...

Third year was a mix! I had two wonderful flatmates, and one who was obsessive and argumentative, selfish, deceitful, anxious - who caused a two-month-long argument over the placement of a pint of milk. She used emotional blackmail all the time and harrassed me about the time I spent on my work; it was third year and I had to work hard and she accused me of not being interested in her friendship, even though I sat with her for hours some nights talking through her various problems. :/ She never cared about mine... If I mentioned one, she'd go quiet then change the subject to something like bras or sex (to her, it's a bit foreign and weird, so she speaks about it shyly, and treats it like it's as bizarre and frightful as a loose crocodile).

The good flatmates I had made my final year at Uni wonderful. They were so supportive and they became good friends. But I don't think I'd like to have room-mates again. You can never guarentee that the people you live with will want the same living conditions as you. It's difficult to strike a balance when people want very different things, too... and I would ALWAYS want the flat to be clean and quiet at night (I don't function on little sleep. ).

 

[Tyler Breeze]

Hell No!

I've not had an actual roomate, but I've shared rooms with my Broski. It was fucking horrible! He can't keep a room clean to save his life. I know I'm not perfect, far from it, but at least I try to keep shit in order! Holy cow. You should have seen how dirty it was under his bed when he finally got kicked the fuck out.

Just being with my family in general now pisses me off. Lil Broski runs amuck through the house. Seriously, they have taught him no manners at all and it makes me sooo mad. My other Lil Broski is in his own room now, which looks like it got invaded by hell's henchmen. My Mom is very loud and annoying. Worst of all is my Dad. He could probably set the damn house on fire and not even realize it until he himself is on fire. That's how oblivious he is to the shit he does. Totally unsanitary and just.... I hate the fact that he cooks! He is going to end up poisoning us eventually!

Anyway, I don't want roomates...... like, ever. I like things to be and stay a certain way. If there's somebody else there that can even as little as think about touching something, I'll fucking flip on them. My space is mine. I don't like sharing with people at all. In fact, I have one friend that would probably be a great roomate, but I still don't want him to touch my stuff, or take up half of the room with his clutter.

So to close it off.... No. Fuck that. I do not ever want to have to deal with an immature roomate.