Overhearing the parents :(

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You guys have parents who disagree alot? I can overhear my parents arguing again. My dad wants to go paint our neighbours windows but my mum aint havin it cause he hasn't painted our windows yet.

i turn my music up but i can still hear it :( you guys have to listen to fights?

i hate it.... xxx
 
My dad thankfully no longer lives with us and I go to drastic lengths to avoid ever seeing him. They used to argue, but over stupid things. My dad was really sexist though and it just made the situation worse than it had to be. They used to argue over stuff but never in front of my sister and I. So I never really had to listen to it. I sometimes wish I did though because for years after they split, I blamed myself because round about the time my mother said anything, I was skipping school and grades were slipping. :x
 
I dont live with my parents anymore but when I did they would rarely have serious arguments. The kind of arguments they would have was over little things... things I can not remember atm but it was never anything relationship shattering. Things like you said your parents argue over. I think its perfectly fine.
 
Oh, my parents do whatever any married couple would do now and then and loudly clash over trivial matters such as who's going to take the car to the petrol station to more important matters such as the water and energy bills. Usually when she is here, I rely on my sister to act as the mediator to try and calm things down, as she does whenever arguments break out in the house, but when she isn't around, I'm on my own and my mother's voice has an awful habit of becoming loud and screechy when she's mad.

If it's over trivial matters, I'll immediately put my earphones on and go full blast on the volumes. If however, it's something very heated and serious, I can't help but eavesdrop into what's happening. I remember on one occasion I was lying awake in bed for hours on end listening to one explosive feud between my parents - I've forgotten what it was related to, but it probably had something to do with the fact that my dad was once made redundant by his former boss. I was young then, and well, such heated arguments aren't what you would want a child to have to listen to.
 
Your mum has a very good point though.

My folks divorced like 7 years ago or something. Best thing they ever did too. Been maybe 5/6 years or something very close to that since ive spoken to my dad aswell.
Its just one of those things people do.
 
Olivia Wilde said:
Oh, my parents do whatever any married couple would do now and then and loudly clash over trivial matters such as who's going to take the car to the petrol station to more important matters such as the water and energy bills. Usually when she is here, I rely on my sister to act as the mediator to try and calm things down, as she does whenever arguments break out in the house, but when she isn't around, I'm on my own and my mother's voice has an awful habit of becoming loud and screechy when she's mad.

If it's over trivial matters, I'll immediately put my earphones on and go full blast on the volumes. If however, it's something very heated and serious, I can't help but eavesdrop into what's happening. I remember on one occasion I was lying awake in bed for hours on end listening to one explosive feud between my parents - I've forgotten what it was related to, but it probably had something to do with the fact that my dad was once made redundant by his former boss. I was young then, and well, such heated arguments aren't what you would want a child to have to listen to.
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Yeah the music is a great help and my sister does help out sometimes too :) I'm 19 and i still get it. Just gotta get used to it i guess. I've tried talking to them about it. I have had arguments with my boyfriends in the past so i think its just something we all have to deal with.

Its calmed down now :D so hopefully for a while at least it'll stay good. xx
 
My parents fight for the most stupid reasons ever. Who is taking which truck, phone calls, work, etc. I usually just stay in bed and proceed to shut off everything if it is a really fueled argument. I would usually listen to music at full blast so I can not hear a thing they are saying. Usually they blame things on each other. I really hate it when it is money though. When sleeping, it usually ends up in one completely leaving the house till night. I do not actually sleep though. I be asleep but hear what they say. It can get as violent as breaking things as well. I remember these occasions. Usually it is the father who is worse. Although my mum has her moments as well. It is scary... and I really hate it. It is not so bad now.. but they will fight over the most stupid matters.
 
I guess some of that is just normal. I mean, eventually someone will blow a fuse and that's that. Certainly isn't nice to listen to, but that's life. You don't live with anyone for 20 years and not get caught in a bad moment in disagreeance over something menial, or something like that.

My father is/was a violent drunk asshole, and I had the (dis)pleasure of physically restraining him living at home, many times. Not that I think it's anything to cry over or anything, but it left me with the attitude that I just don't deal with any of that shit anymore, and I fully recommend that approach to everyone else. Deal with what you can, and if you can't just bail and forget about it.
 
Heh, hearing my parents have a round of bickering nag at each other is nearly every day business here. Luckily both my parents are sane, decent people that are just extremely stubborn and proud and opinionated... Seriously, they can bitch for half an hour and suddenly decide to stop and make dinner like nothing happened. I got mixed messages as a kid by this XD

They very rarely argue over serious stuff. But they will team up and nag at me for various habits of mine (like my cola addiction or my gaming habits...). They'll even talk about it when I'm not around, assuming I can't hear them loudly talking from one floor up, hehehe...
 
asm said:
I guess some of that is just normal. I mean, eventually someone will blow a fuse and that's that. Certainly isn't nice to listen to, but that's life. You don't live with anyone for 20 years and not get caught in a bad moment in disagreeance over something menial, or something like that.

My father is/was a violent drunk asshole, and I had the (dis)pleasure of physically restraining him living at home, many times. Not that I think it's anything to cry over or anything, but it left me with the attitude that I just don't deal with any of that shit anymore, and I fully recommend that approach to everyone else. Deal with what you can, and if you can't just bail and forget about it.
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This. It's what I've done in the past few years, since my parents separated. But, in my case it was a little easier than it is for a lot of kids to deal with, becuse my old man wasn't very present in my childhood. So, when the shit hit the fan four years ago, I didn't cry over it. Don't get me wrong, I did cry, but my sorrow was in learning who my father really was - a lifelong criminal, a former dealer and user, a John.

But, again, it's just one of those things you've got to deal with it. Me, I just use my parents as the example of how not to raise a family. And I don't talk to my father much anymore.

I have to say that music is also a great therapy. I can sum up how I feel with one song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH46SmVv8SU
 
My parents argue more often than they talk, it's gotten rather boring by this point. When I was younger, it used to scare me quite a lot - especially since one is prone to tears and the other is prone to shouting very loudly - but these days it annoys me more than anything else. Half the time I don't hear it, though, since I almost always have my earphones in with something that will block out the sound, ours is a very noisy household even without the arguing. When I can hear it, I'm prone to jumping in to tell them both to shut up, I don't care what they argue over.

What I do not appreciate either is each of them complaining about the other to me when it's just the two of us in the house. As far as I'm concerned, they're both as bad as each other and can sort their own damn marriage out, I'm not a counselor, nor do I really care. Frankly, sometimes it amazes me that they're still together...
 
I live with my grandparents, and they do it once every other day. In fact, they were about to do it as I was writing something up for an RP - like always, it's started by my grandpa and in my head I'm just like 'wat r u whining aboot nao old man, lul, shut up. ^_^'. I think we can all guess the reason they do so these days is because they're getting old, and they're prone to arguing over the most irrelevant things in the house. Nothing they argue about is important lately. Like who opened whoever's soda, who keeps turning this light off, why are you corrupting my granddaughter's mind with your false religion, yada yada yada. It's all usual stuff now, although they've hated each other since giving birth to my mom and two aunts, I'm wondering why they haven't divorced yet . :hmph:
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Wow, when I first read the title I thought the topic is about overhearing the parents "doing it". Sheesh.

...And yes, when my mom and dad argued, it used to scare me. My dad can be a very cruel person.

Now when my stepmom and dad argued, I was in my preteen years so it was a pretty humorous thing to me, and that's because I didn't like my stepmom. (We're okay now). So whenever my dad yelled, "You take your kids and I'll take my kids!!" ...it made me laugh, especially considering that "her kids" are also his kids. :ryan: She'd get so pissed off and yell, "They're your kids too!!"
 
Being the first born, I witnessed a lot of my parents' fights. My parents are the sweetest and most faithful couple I've ever seen. But as passionate as the are when it comes to their romance, they're equally as passionate when it comes to fighting.

They usually fight when were not in the house, like in the mall or in the car. I remember when my mom got pissed enough, she'd yell at my dad to stop the car and walk away. For a long time, I thought it was normal that when parents yell at each other at home, they take one of the cars to drive off to wherever and either not return or return at dawn.

It was really terrible. It leaves you going, "Oh god, please don't let them give up and separate". I used to cry in my room when my mom would start throwing things across the room. I have to give it up to my dad though, he never fought back physically. Ever. He also never curses at her, he only shouts and if he does throw things, he throws them to the floor. Actually, it's mostly my mom who's more aggressive. :hmmm:

It's mellowed down a lot these past few years. Their fights end faster now. The fighting can't be helped, unfortunately. I learned that you have to love the person you marry so much that no matter how sick you get of them, you'll still stay.
 
Coco said:
They usually fight when were not in the house, like in the mall or in the car. I remember when my mom got pissed enough, she'd yell at my dad to stop the car and walk away. For a long time, I thought it was normal that when parents yell at each other at home, they take one of the cars to drive off to wherever and either not return or return at dawn.
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See mine always wait till there home to fight... but my mum will get in the car and drive off for a bit. But she will come back before the end of the night. She always said that during the fights and stuff she'll always love us and come back for me and my sister. Which helps things kinda :) xx

p.s awesum signature lol xx
 
when my mum and dad used to argue, i was to one to stop my dad getting at my mum ( im 22 and living with my mrs now). The whole family went through a hard time although thats not an excuse for some of the things my dad did, towards my mum and us kids, but since things have been getting better and i guess everyone can change, i just learnt that i would'nt take shit off anyone and that i do not want to be like my dad.
 
When they used to argue, its mostly downstairs. I hide away from their faces because they could blow a gasket any second if they make eye contact with you. But nowadays, thats no longer a possibility since they're divorced and living separate lives.
 
There was no arguing in my house when I was a kid, just Mum telling Dad what to do.

Stupid fucker didnt stick up for himself, they ended up divorced and I avent seen my Farther for near well of a decade :sad3: or maybe not :sad3: IDK but most arguments between my folks were hard to hear from the big tree in my Back yard lol.

Bad times to be sure for any youngun .
 
My parents argue at least once a day. I'm used to it already. It used to make me sad, but nowadays it's just like "cool story bro". It doesn't faze me. I've realized my dad is a goof and my mom gets mad very easily. So they don't work well at all together.

If they're arguing about me, they'll do it in Spanish so that I don't know what they're saying. Sucks really.

That's that. Their fighting is nothing new. This has been going for decades. I don't even think THEY take it seriously anymore.
 
Aeris　;935673 said:
My dad thankfully no longer lives with us and I go to drastic lengths to avoid ever seeing him. They used to argue, but over stupid things. My dad was really sexist though and it just made the situation worse than it had to be.
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You ever considered maybe your dad wasn't sexist, he just busted his ass and naturally wanted to be the man of the house?
I'll tell you this- don't ever take one parent's word. They split up because they are against each other, so by definition, they are going to sling mud at every direction except their own.
 
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