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Will Graham

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So I was sitting there messing around on facebook to kill time and I realised that a lot of people on my friends list weren't really what I would consider a friend. So I decided to have a mass purge of my friend list and deleted thirty or more people. There are a few others I would delete but they see me too often in real life and they'd keep bugging me if I did delete them.

Anyways I was just wondering what are other people's approach to facebook friends. Do you accept anyone if you have mutual friends? Or are you more selective etc.
 
if I don't know someone, I don't accept friend requests. I could really care less about the number of friends some block on my profile page says I have. :wacky:
 
For most parts my facebook friends are either old school friends, family members, actual friends, and colleagues. I used to also have a few people I had met online on my friends list, but had a change of heart and removed most of them except for a select few people I have known for ages and ages and still keep in regular contact with. Same with all those acquintances that you never really speak to anyway. Used to have a lot of them on my friends' list, but ended up deleting them.
 
I don't like the idea behind a friend purge for myself as I don't take Facebook that seriously, so I've never deleted anyone if I didn't feel as if they were true friends. People have different reasons for friend purges, so I'm not talking about other people with this, but I'm just saying that for me it wouldn't be a good idea.

Being honest, most of my Facebook friends are people who I don't speak to regularly. If I was to only keep people I speak to often on my friendslist then it'd probably be reduced to under ten friends. I can be very quiet so I don't really have that many friends, so I always accept someone just in case a friendship was to blossom from that.

I don't see the harm in it for myself (I know other people like to keep things clean for themselves). As long as I don't get hassle (which I haven't ever had) then I don't mind who associates themselves with me. I'm rather interested in seeing that some people that I used to know but don't know that well still exist, and are still alive.

If I was to delete people then I'd feel guilty, and I'd then be worried that the people I deleted would be sad if I was to see them again, or even if I was never to see them again. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone’s feelings if people added me and wanted to know me but because of my failings to initiate a friendship (and my general social incompetence), I just went insane and deleted everyone, or a selection of people.
 
Argor251 said:
I don't like the idea behind a friend purge for myself as I don't take Facebook that seriously, so I've never deleted anyone if I didn't feel as if they were true friends. People have different reasons for friend purges, so I'm not talking about other people with this, but I'm just saying that for me it wouldn't be a good idea.

Being honest, most of my Facebook friends are people who I don't speak to regularly. If I was to only keep people I speak to often on my friendslist then it'd probably be reduced to under ten friends. I can be very quiet so I don't really have that many friends, so I always accept someone just in case a friendship was to blossom from that.

I don't see the harm in it for myself (I know other people like to keep things clean for themselves). As long as I don't get hassle (which I haven't ever had) then I don't mind who associates themselves with me. I'm rather interested in seeing that some people that I used to know but don't know that well still exist, and are still alive.

If I was to delete people then I'd feel guilty, and I'd then be worried that the people I deleted would be sad if I was to see them again, or even if I was never to see them again. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone’s feelings if people added me and wanted to know me but because of my failings to initiate a friendship (and my general social incompetence), I just went insane and deleted everyone, or a selection of people.
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To me it's more a matter of internet security. The fewer people who have access to the information on my facebook page, the less likely is the chance of that information falling into the wrong hands. Not that I have anything insanely private on there or anything, but still :P
 
L said:
if I don't know someone, I don't accept friend requests. I could really care less about the number of friends some block on my profile page says I have. :wacky:
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This is what I do also. I never make friend requests to people who I only met through a friend and only talked to for a few seconds.

For the ones that are already a 'friend' on Facebook that I don't really talk to, I just hide their updates on my profile. If I deleted all of these people I'd probably end up with around 10.
 
Now I feel such a bastard Argor =[

But really you raise a few good points I guess, though for the majority the people I deleted were people I went to school with, who never spoke a word to me in person and then added me for no discernible reason. Others were people I have no recollection of accepting one in particular I think added me because we have one mutual friend I have never even seen her in my life.
 
Sir Kenneth said:
To me it's more a matter of internet security. The fewer people who have access to the information on my facebook page, the less likely is the chance of that information falling into the wrong hands. Not that I have anything insanely private on there or anything, but still :P
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I guess that's true.

I don't tend to reveal much on my Facebook page so that's why I don't care so much. I rarely update my Facebook or do anything with it at all to be honest. Most of the time I just look at the home page and scroll down and see what other people have done.

Besides, about a year ago or two ago I went into insane mode and I kept saying to myself "if anyone did track me down, I'd be glad of the company!" :monster:



Zzyzx: I wasn't meaning to make anyone feel bad about it. Lots of people have had friend purges, and I can understand the reasons. I just personally don't feel the need for me to do a friend purge.
 
The only people I won't accept on Facebook are those that I don't know. I post to Facebook maybe once or twice a month, and the only people who I have added on there are the people I went to school/college/university with. Some of them I'd consider friends, some just acquaintances. I don't have much contact with them anyway, and I don't even like Facebook; I only got it because I was nagged to. So, I'm not particularly selective. Its just the internet, after all. Its not serious business.
 
I am quite selective when it comes to the friend list. It consists of close friends, family members, ex-classmates and current classmates - basically anyone that I've met in person and have actually spoken to before. So if some randomer gives me a friend request, he or she will not get it in return. If it is someone from school or college who I know the name of but have never really spoken to (like a lot of my mutual friends), then I'll consider it for a short while and then add that person if I know that he/she isn't a complete arsehole.

Regarding the quantity of people on my friends list? I don't care how many there are. I don't really care if I have 20 or 1200. In fact, I'd rather not have anywhere near 1200 on my friends list because I'd rather keep my details (however shallow a lot of it is :wacky:) to the much fewer people that I do know and well. I have purged a few people before in the past over arguments and fallouts, but they're back on my list after reconciliations.
 
I'm pretty strict in terms of who gets on my Facebook. I have to have known you for a while or could recall where I know you from. I have to have met you in person, too. :hmmm: Currently, my Facebook only has 155 friends, and I could definitely tell you where I know every single person on there from. I like being able to know who it is that's seeing what I say and post on there, and I like to know that it won't be seen by those I don't know.

So if any of you on FFF wants to add me as a friend on there, I have to meet you first. No exceptions. Sorry. :lew:
 
I don't have much of a policy on facebook friends. If I get a friend request from somebody I don't know, I won't accept them - simple as that. By 'don't know' I mean I don't recognise the name - if I've met the person, and I know who they are, and they've got X amount of mutual friends, I'll accept them.

I also have a few people on there I know online, like some people from here, but that doesn't bother me because I don't really reveal all aspects of my life on there.
To be honest, if I don't really know someone but they really want my status' etc on their live feed or whatever, that's up to them and I'll accept them as a friend.

I draw the line at strange people from India with whom I have no mutual friends, though :monster:
 
The majority of my facebook friends are people from school and ex-bf's. :wacky:

But really, people from school, and I think it's neat to see where a lot of them ended up and what they're doing these days. High school sweethearts that were the token couple have since broken up, which I find is sad but they all find new people and move on. I have a lot of people from work, all places I used to work at, and even some from a few websites that I've known for quite a while.

I think I have around 230 friends and it's not enough to clutter my feed with shit, but it's enough to just learn about everybody's lives these days.

I hate people, kids actually, these days who have liek, 500 plus of their 'closest' friends.. a lot of them try to add me and I look at it and go 'I don't know you.. we may have 34 friends in common, but only because you add anything with a face.' :monster:
 
I'm pretty strict on Facebook adds as well. I never accept a friend request from someone whose name I don't recognize or whose face I don't know. Honestly, I hate when people add me and their avatar is of a horse or something (which, tbh, is quite hilarious, but still...).

I have maybe about 400 friends, all of whom I know either personally or on the forum. It's handy for contacting people. :monster:
 
Most of my friends are people I know from school, family, friends, and some internet friends.

If I do not know who someone is, I will delete them.

Though I do plan on having a friend purge soon.
 
All of my friends on facebook are family, friends and people from my grade at highschool.

I didn't know everyone as a friend when I was in highschool, but I wanted to make sure that I found out about my grades 10 year reunion, and so I added everyone from my grade. XD

It's also good to see where they've all ended up even if I don't talk to them.

I never accept just anyone. I don't accept friends of friends etc.

I like to look at my friends list and know that I know all of them in some way.

I would like to go through and delete my family though. They give me the shits whenever I'm on facebook. Always making ridiculous comments. <_<
 
I don't add people I don't/have never known as a general rule, I don't see the point. I don't mind if it's someone Ive not seen for donkies but friends of friends just nah. I have occassionaly accepted someone I dont know by mistake, but my most recent purge saw me delete only a handful of unknowns

I'd love to know how the randoms find you though, some random dude from the other side of the world, no pals in common..eh no ta
 
I accept anyone whom I personally know.
So my friends list is usually composed of family members, friends from grade school, and of course, friends from high school. Online friends only make a small, small fraction of my friends list.
 
The people that I have on Facebook consist of family, friends, co-workers and anyone that I speak to often enough online. I don't like random adds from anyone, I generally ignore them.
 
I usually don't like to add people that I don't know to my facebook, but I will to give people a chance to want to get to know me and maybe become friends. Whenever I do it this way though I go through my friends list a lot to delete either those that don't talk to me, or those that are sick and nasty and don't care anything about friendship.

To me it's not about how many friends you have. I sometimes get a weird feeling when someone I don't know tries to add me, such as "Why are they adding me". It becomes apparent when they first start talking to me though. Either they're really nice and they want to get to know me, or they are looking to have a quickie because they get off on talking dirty or something? Seems pretty pathetic to go around online to random people to try to get your jollies off but apparently some people are into it.
 
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