Serious What would you do?

[Will Graham]

Last Friday night my friend Mait was out on the town, and had a few beers with friends. As he left the pub around 2:00am he noticed a group arguing across the street, and decided to wander over to see what was happening.


As it turned out, it was what appeared to be a couple arguing, and the boyfriend was clearly smacking the girl around (actually hitting her in the middle of the street). My friend decided to intervene and ended up flattening the boyfriend, when predictably the girlfriend leapt at him screaming the usual 'that's my BF, what the fuck are you doing' etc.

Anyways I was wondering, what would you do if you were faced with a similar situation?

 

[mattbgamer]

I would do the same exact thing your friend did. Under no circumstances, short of your about to die if you dont defend yourself do you hit a woman. I would knocked his ass out too, and if the lady came after me I would tell to take her lousy ass boyfriend off the street before I really hurt him.

 

[Gabe]

Umm... I would be afraid to interfere because that boyfriend of hers would beat my ass. So I'd probably just watch from a distance, film it (since I'm an idiot like that and films everything out of the ordinary) and as I was recording I'd call the police and say "Git yo ass down here, there's some abuse going on."

 

[Gaige]

I'd call the proper authorities, if I'm being honest. A victim of domestic abuse who stays with the abuser is often blinded with infatuation and doesn't appreciate some randomer flattening the abuser. And if they started the argument on the streets, they'll continue long enough for the police and a social worker to arrive. It's a delicate issue, one that no good can come from getting personally involved in.

 

[Ayen]

I'd call the proper authorities, if I'm being honest. A victim of domestic abuse who stays with the abuser is often blinded with infatuation and doesn't appreciate some randomer flattening the abuser. And if they started the argument on the streets, they'll continue long enough for the police and a social worker to arrive. It's a delicate issue, one that no good can come from getting personally involved in.

I would most likely do the same thing since I always carry my cell phone with me when I leave the house. Though I certainly couldn't stand watching such a disgusting display. I'm sorry but hitting on a woman like that is just something you don't do.

 

[Mitsuki]

This seems more suitable in Temple of the Ancients.

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[Exoskeleton]

I'd fight the boyfriend like your firend did. And if that woman leapt at me I'd beat her down for not having the common sense to figure out that I was just trying to help. Sure it's all a little violent but you don't hit a lady so that guy was asking for an assbeating, and knowing how she screamed she probably wanted it to happen. That couple should have got what was comin to em...

 

[Tipsynaruto]

Very hard to say. I am the type to step in. My mind will tell me to. But then my logic side will tell me my 56kg frame would not hold well against someone in a fight. Id get flattened in probably 2-3 shots. I would call the cops, but then again, the cops in Australia arent known for being pretty useless for nothing.

So in the end, call the cops and try to stall the beating as long as possible.

 

[VinnieJones]

I think most of the time I tend to ignore these kind of things without getting curious about what's actually going; I'll just continue to walk home.

But if I did find out what was going on I'd either shout at the guy and hence alerting any other people nearby, or failing that I'd hold the guy back and try to talk some sense into him, telling him that police will be called if he continues (though I will call the cops, whether he continues or not). If he retaliates by hitting me, I guess I'll have no choice but to hit him back as self-defence whether his girlfriend likes it or not. But no matter how much of a scum the guy may be, I wouldn't like to just start off with my fists.

I wouldn't do this if I'm on my own though, I don't consider myself to be strong enough to defend myself against a drunken woman-beater. I'll definitely need a couple of alcohol-fuelled mates as back-up.

But really, you'll never know if the guy's carrying a knife or something so no matter how much I feel sorry about the woman, I wouldn't like to risk my life.

 

[Martel]

I'd let them get on with it. After all, its none of my business. If the guy was threatening the girl with a knife or something I'd consider calling the police, but I doubt I would because I'd rather not attract the attention of a knife-wielding maniac.

In all honesty, if I decided to intervene I'd probably accomplish very little, other than getting myself beaten up, as I'm hardly what you'd call physically strong or fit. I'm not going to try and talk some sense into someone who is clearly unreasonable, so I'd probably just end up walking on and putting the matter out of my mind.

 

[Bambi]

Crikey. If my mate Gina saw that there'd be hang bags at dawn. I'd imagine there would be that much yelliong, enough attention would be drawn for him to stop. If I was on my own though, fuck get involved. It's none of my business and at 2am there's no way I'd be able to do out anyway... I say that like I could if I was sober. I'm not one for confrontation, so I'd probably just leave them to it and feel bad about it later. It's pretty much a classic scenarion innit, man and woman havinga row, someone steps in decks the man, woman turns into a banshee. It's just not worth it. Actually, if I saw a police man knocking about, which I frequently do on a night out, I'd direct them to the scene. I've done that before when some young lad was stumbling about absolutely hammered all on his own and he instisted he was ok

Most people don't care tbh, I've been in 2 seperate incidents where I've had to fend for myself when people have been walking by. A pal rescused me the 2nd time, but like when faced with this kind of situation, as much as most people say 'id get involved' when it comes to it, most people put their heads down and pretend like they say nothing

 

[Clerkin]

Depend's on the situation if it was a man hitting a girl I would try and fight the man or at least distract him while the girl get's away but if there was a couple of people I would call the police one on one is fine cause you have a better chance if the man pull's a knife. It also depend's on the area if it a very bad area am not going anywhere near the scene cause they could have knife's or gun's but the best thing would probably call the police.

 

[Bei Bei]

I would have jumped in to intervene regardless if the girlfriend wanted me to or not. If she's ok with him beating her up thats her thing, but I'm not ok with it if I see it out in public. That is a very bad influence to others that may see it and think it's alright or acceptable. I don't think it's acceptable period but if I see it going on I'm going to do something to stop it, if not for her sake for mine or others.

I've never been beaten up by my boyfriend, but I did have a guy get jealous over me and decided to beat me up in the middle of a party. Tossed me into some furniture, hit me a couple of times. I had a black eye and a concussion and was in the hospital over night. Whats really sad it was a pretty packed party, and no one did anything to help me. They all just stood there and watched. After I was laying on the ground when he was finished they helped me, and they kicked the guy out, but that was it.

So I'm right up in there when I see this going on. It makes me want to put that guys face on all of theirs and go right up in there and kick some ass

 

[Big Casino]

You would have to say something if the girl was actually getting batterd, anyone whod turn a blind eye is a coward. Go over pull him off her, then try and calm the dude down. Gotta watch what you do nowadays. You could run over and do the guy then end up getting done for assault. The fact that you were helping someone does little to change a thing. Years back my pal austin got taken to court over practically the same thing. He stepped in, the coppers pulled up and arrested him.
Id rather try and resolve things without any agro tbph.
That said, im not a person who likes to keep the peace and peoples buisness is their own. not mine. A guy knockin about a girl though is always a little different. If its 2 guys fighting then i dont care a toss. Though chances are someone will always step in before you. At least round here. Though i think alot of guys step in because they want to fight not because they actually care about the girl.
People fighting in the town at nights is nothing new at all nowadays sadly.
Place is full of wankers.

 

[FreyaTheWanderer]

I'd try calmly intervening and asking what the problem was, trying to sort it out as civilized as possible. Should either side attack me I would defend myself with equal force, and if they continued, I would probably contact the authorities.

 

[Dr. Percival Cox]

I'm sure that someone's gonna accuse me of being a misogynist, but I've never bought into the whole "if you hit a woman, you're a coward" thing. I've never personally hit a woman, nor have I ever hit anyone aside from the occasional, aggressive, friendly, little play fight, but I don't care when I hear about a woman getting hit. When someone tells me that a woman gets hit, I ask the same question that I ask when a guy gets beat up: "Did they deserve it?" It's a fair question. If a guy gets the shit knocked out of him because he wouldn't stop being an asshole, it goes without saying that he deserved it. If a woman gets hit for the same reason, then it's suddenly wrong? Seriously? And doesn't that demeen women anyway? Doesn't that get the message across that they're "too weak to defend themselves" so it's up to every insecure man on the planet who wants to earn his worth to help them?

But, I feel I've gotten a little off topic. To answer the question, no. I wouldn't do anything. Why? Cause it's none of my fucking business. Now, if she were to be knocked unconscious and I was physically the closest person with a phone, then I'd call an ambulance. But short of that, I have no right to intervene. I don't need to justify my worth to the world by helping out every person who's having "issues". Besides, you never know the full story. Maybe she threatened him. Maybe she was stealing money. Maybe she kicked him in the balls and after fifteen minutes of trying to catch his breath he finally got up and responded with a cunt punch. You don't know the circumstances. And plus, if you get involved and get all macho (or stupid as I refer to it) you have a high probability of getting a fine or a ticket or going to jail yourself. I know I'm gonna come off sounding selfish, but I don't much give a shit.

 

[L]

Last Friday night my friend Mait was out on the town, and had a few beers with friends. As he left the pub around 2:00am he noticed a group arguing across the street, and decided to wander over to see what was happening.


As it turned out, it was what appeared to be a couple arguing, and the boyfriend was clearly smacking the girl around (actually hitting her in the middle of the street). My friend decided to intervene and ended up flattening the boyfriend, when predictably the girlfriend leapt at him screaming the usual 'that's my BF, what the fuck are you doing' etc.

Anyways I was wondering, what would you do if you were faced with a similar situation?

I'd probably smack 'im around a bit, too. Call him a giant pussy, I'd probably entertain the idea of breaking his balls, since he's got no right having them.

If it's just two people bitching, whatever.

But you never raise your hand to a woman, I don't care what she's done. A man is supposed to be strong, but it's unfortunate that our younger (not always in age, mind you) counterparts only think violence is what makes a man strong.

"Did they deserve it?" It's a fair question. If a guy gets the shit knocked out of him because he wouldn't stop being an asshole, it goes without saying that he deserved it. If a woman gets hit for the same reason, then it's suddenly wrong? Seriously?

Well I ain't got no white knight syndrome, but I like to look at chicks when they aren't battered up like a car in the junkyard.

so it's up to every insecure man on the planet who wants to earn his worth to help them?

I'd rather do something than nothing.

a small outburst can easily turn into something more than what someone wanted.

There was this girl I used to go to church with when I was a kid, knew her since I was about 6 or 7. Few years ago, she and her boyfriend got into an argument.

He stabbed her to death.

If you have to raise your hand to a woman, you should turn your balls in.

Call the cops.

yeah, lets call the cops

and wait half and hour for them to get here while they take our tax dollars and buy a few donuts and coffee.

son, cops are about as dependable as getting a good deal when you're bargain hunting for tattoos.

I remember a couple years back, we called the cops because my stepfather was causing a domestic dispute. by the time they got there, he'd already hit my mom and we were dragging each others asses through the grass

It's not always about the woman being weak, but I don't mind showing someone how to have a little bit of self-respect.

the other month some bitch-ass bitchmade motherfucker started choking my sister because she'd said someone else's six-pack was more prominent than his.

she stabbed that motherfucker in his gut. I bet you that cocksucker 'ill think twice before he does anything that stupid again.

 

[Dr. Percival Cox]

the other month some bitch-ass bitchmade motherfucker started choking my sister because she'd said someone else's six-pack was more prominent than his.

she stabbed that motherfucker in his gut. I bet you that cocksucker 'ill think twice before he does anything that stupid again.

That's what I'm talking about. Strong women. I'm not entirely sure about the sincerity of that because it sounds a little exaggerated but if it is true then I have alot of respect for your sister. She defended herself. It wasn't some stupid, tough guy wannabe showing up and helping her which is more than likely just an attempt at wooing her (considering that being the instinct driven reason for men to help women most of the time). And that's what I like. If I ever got so pissed off that I tried to hit a woman, I'd expect her to do something back. Pretty much the same thing I'd expect from trying to attack a man. I try to refrain from thinking in double standards as much as possible.

And, for clarity sake, I should rephrase what I said earlier. If I saw someone being threatened or even attacked by someone else, I probably wouldn't do anything. But if I saw someone being attacked my multiple people, then even I wouldn't be able to just stand aside. I'd have to help.

 

[L]

Yeah it's teensy bit exaggerated, it only went in about 3 inches, hit no vitals, but she stuck him good.