Advice Needed (how to get your significant other into FF)

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Hey all,

Got a general question out there for everyone: if you are with someone who isn't a big video game player how do you get them into the FF universe?



A sub-question more specific to my situation aimed at you ladies out there, how do I get my non-video game playing girlfriend to get into FF?
 
I've tried and failed to get past boyfriends into FF.

If they aren't interested and you've already tried with just having her watching and see if she takes an interest, then I really don't think it'll work, whether they are already a gamer or not

I've had a couple of them like, ok, I'l start a file on [insert game title here] but they never got much beyond the first save

Folk will either pick it up and get into it straight away, like I did, or they just won't
 
It really depends on the person and you can't force them into something they're simply not interested in.

I tried to get boyfriends into Kingdom Hearts and Final Fantasy and they played for a while but weren't to anxious to get back to their save files. >.<

Steve has sat and watched a few games with me but he's more into shooters and such, like most boys are.

The only people I got into Final Fantasy were my siblings and that was unintentional, so don't ask me how I did it. XD

Best bet is to just ask her to sit and watch it with you and if she gets bored and wants to do something else don't force her to sit and watch it with you any longer.

Chances are she isn't into the whole gaming thing and she'll probably think you're a little weird for trying to force it on her.
 
Well I got me GF into FF buy swearing to be her knight if she wanted to take over the world..........Im still waiting:hmph:

If there are parallels in your life you want to share with your partner you need to work them into the relationship subtle like, like Sqaull and Rinoa I like there promise from FFVIII and I feel the same way for my GF.........as in Id take on an army for her.

One of the worst thing you can do is share weaker parts of the game, if you want to sell the games do it on a positive note, share romantic aspect if if its what you want to bring the your partner in to the series.

Also try a Mini game, triple Triad works well.
 
I somehow managed to get my girlfriend into FF through FF4. I didn't really ask her to though. I did say that I thought she should try it because she might like it. But I think it mostly stemmed from how much I play them around her. She'll be reading a book or something and I'll have one of the games going. She's not big into video games either.

She's:

beat 1
didn't like 2
hasn't played 3
gotten pretty far in 4
hasn't played 5 or 6
started 7
hasn't played 8-10
hasn't played 12
started 13 (just became L'cie)

she plays Dissidia as well...it's fun watching her get semi-frustrated with the boss battles in story mode. :gasp:
 
I don't play in front of her or have her watch me because I can see why someone would get bored with that.

The paralleling our relationship with characters in the game would be a good move... but does anyone really have the weird (I like you but I wont tell you & I think you like me but you wont tell me) semi-romantic relationships that are shown in these games?
 
I would suggest starting out with another jRPG then, preferably one with multiplayer like the Tales of series so you can play together. Make sure you let her player 1 though so she won't just get bored while waiting for the next battle. Then if she enjoys it then that tells you she may like other RPGs then try a Final Fantasy game.
 
Well, the only thing I can think of (which is probably mentioned already) rather than just let her passively watch you play is just give her a bit of interaction with the game, as in pass the controller to her occasionally and tell her to briefly try it out for herself. If she is clearly uninterested, then there's not really much you can do. People just like different things.

I've been rather unsuccessful as well when it comes to getting my friends into the games. Usually they're just not gamers in general, or would rather play things like Guitar Hero. I'm fine with that anyway as it's not like gaming fills up a huge part of my life. :andry:
 
watch you dont force the geeky world of ff on her too much or she might do a runner.:wacky:
Same with anything else really, you can force someone into something theyl not like. All you can do is intrduce it and see what happens from there.
 
If they're female you can get em into it easier, because females are far more impressionable, otherwise they wouldn't be attracted to you, such are the laws of attraction (power balance etc...). Just tell her to sit herself down and game.

If that doesn't do the trick, call upon all your charm and replicate what you see in the following video:

 
Start with FFIX. The battle system is simple compared to other FF games and the graphics aren't bad. I think the story could also draw anyone in pretty quickly. The characters are also pretty likable.
 
I've always thought that striking a quid pro quo deal works well in situations like this. You offer to do something she wants you to do in exchange for her playing Final Fantasy for an hour. She may still not like it of course, but I bet she'd be willing to give it a fair shot :neomon:
 
Great point Rydia- I think we need to start a post on which game someone should play if they have never played FF before.

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If nothing else works, you can try what I did.
Just lock her in a very small room with nothing but a TV, a PS3 (with BC), electricity, and all compatible FF games. To take it a step farther throw in a DS and PSP just make sure you don't let her know about Crystal Chronicles. By the time you let her out, she'll be addicted.

Hope this helps!
 
well, I tried to get my boyfriend into FF. rather, back into FF, because when we had met he liked VII allot, but by the time were were together he didnt like it anymore
I tried my hardest to re-spark the interest he had lost. but it just couldn't be done
I was so sad :(


Rydrum2112 said:
A sub-question more specific to my situation aimed at you ladies out there, how do I get my non-video game playing girlfriend to get into FF?
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shouldn'tbe that hard. show her some AMV's, especially if you incorporate her music interests with the ones you show her

read her the synopsis of the FF you think she would like the best

dont forget to consider kingdom hearts too. its less RPG more action
kingdom hearts is a gateway drug
 
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Well, seeing as how this is strictly about getting a significant other into FF, specifically, I'll move it to the appropriate section. :ryan:

*Thread Moved to FF General Discussion*

Honestly, it doesn't matter really. If my girlfriend doesn't like a particular game series that I really enjoy, then it is what it is. I wouldn't expect her to like every game series I like, and vice versa. I'd say float the idea by her and show her. If she still won't accept it, then she'll never like it, and it's then best to move on.
 
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I don't play in front of her or have her watch me because I can see why someone would get bored with that.
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watching people play video games isn't always boring.

But if they don't really want to play, I wouldn't try to force anything onto them.

like i love muse

but im not going to force someone im going out with to like it, they just have to listen to it when things start to get hot. or when I'm driving, if im driving we listen to what i want :elmo:

but yeah. :wacky:

edit: most girls do like ffx though :gasp:
 
It really (really, really, really, I can't stress this enough) depends on what sort of person your girlfriend is. What kind of things does she like? Why might she like FF? Would she even like FF?

If she's into other nerdy type things: fantasy novels, anime, etc. it might be pretty easy to sell her on the story.

Also, what are her ideas about video games? I.e. Why isn't she a gamer? How against it is she? Does she think video games are shallow? A waste of time? A waste of money? Kids' stuff? A bunch of Halo clones? Does she think she's bad at all of them? Why is she bad at them, if that's the problem? Correct her (gently) on her misconceptions, if she has any. Actually, if she does have misconceptions about video games, it might be a good approach to just show her the variety of stuff out there and let her decide what she might like herself.

I've been successfully forced to enjoy video games a couple of times, but I'm a huge nerd and very open to new experiences. If she's not either of these things, you'd best accept now that nothing on this earth is likely to help you.

I'll give you examples that worked with me, though, just because they may be edifying.

Before I got into FF, I had basically left gaming behind. I had played some platformers and puzzle games in elementary school, but by high school I had decided that games were fun, but really not worth my time and definitely not worth the money it would take to buy a console. I really wasn't aware that there were ANY video games that told a story, and was only vaguely aware of video games that required any strategy to play. I played VII because a friend insisted and told me it had a great story, and I was hooked almost instantly. I branched out on my own after that and played other games and other types of games, in addition to playing the rest of the series. But, it can be easier to do this sort of thing with a friend than an SO.

For another example, my boyfriend basically forced me to play the Metal Gear Solid series. Sat there while I played the first one and then bought me 2 and 3. I was okay with this because I was already a gamer and I already owned the first one and meant to play it someday eventually anyway. He later did basically the same thing with Earthbound. So... perhaps if you get her into gaming in general, she might be more receptive to "OMG YOU MUST PLAY THIS GAME."

You might just try, sometime when you're both not doing anything, loading whichever game is your favorite, or whichever one you think she might like, and say "Hey, you should try this." Or let her borrow a console and suggest she play it at her leisure.

So I guess I'm suggesting either reasoned argument or the "TRY THIS, I WILL ACCEPT NO ARGUMENTS" route but either way... you have to accept that it just might not be her bag. She may just not like it, and if she doesn't, you're going to have to drop it or put some strain on the relationship for a reason that is ultimately pretty silly. You can't make somebody like something.
 
its funny how i got my gf into games...when we were together the 1st time i would play KH1 like crazy, like she would get frustrated bcuz she hated games.
and when we broke up she started playin KH2. and now we are together and we both play all sorts of games together! (its all bcuz papou fruit)
 
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