Serious I seriously have no life -.-

[Gabe]

I think I already know that what I'm fretting about is probably not a big deal, but I feel terrible. Here's my situation: It's almost the end of the Christmas Holidays (for me), and it's really boring. I only have like two friends I can every hang out with, and they're almost always busy or they just don't feel like seeing me. About 75% of my holidays have been sitting at my computer like a basement dweller with no life. It's not like I have anything else to do. It's freezing out and I have bad asthma reactions to the winter weather... And since it's so dry out my legs get dry and then they're itchy for about an hour afterwards, so screw going outside... But here's my real issue, please take your time to read:

When I'm trying to cope with this extreme loneliness during these days, the girl I like just HAS to organize a hangout "session" with the two of my best friends. The great thing is, I'm being left out. I don't really know why she would leave my out, but I'm apparently not 'good enough' to go. The one best friend who she's taking who's male, still likes her. I like her too. (Somehow we got over our conflicts in liking the same girl) and he might even be all by himself with her because the other friend who she wishes to invite (who's a girl) might be busy. So he can just have another 1 on 1 session with her and I can get all jealous, and they'll probably have a moment or something, maybe even start a relationship and I won't know about it for a week when someone leaks it. I've always been jealous of this male friend, and it's obvious she prefers him over me, because she invites him, and just leaves me out in this little bundle of fun they plan on having. Their 'fun day out' is probably about to start in a few minutes, and I'll just sit home and probably go back to bed. I even sent her a message over Facebook asking if I could go if the female friend was busy... It also doesn't help that I'm usually always over-emotional and overreact to every little thing... But seriously, I didn't know this girl that I like enjoyed being such a bitch to me. She already found out that I like her, and she knows my male friend likes her too. She might feel the same towards him... This day is just not going well. I just feel like turfing them all together, just eff them.

 

[DarkShadow]

You said you like the girl and she knows it..........Buy ya know ya gotta impress her obviously this could trigger conflicts with your male friend who likes her and he likes her back.........But you gotta try,jealousy really isn't a bad things everyone gets jealous some point in their life.But at the end of the day thats's life you gotta deal and cope with,start looking at what you got, not what you have'nt got. Don't worry there's plenty of girls in the world, If I was you I'd just get away for a while this should help if you hang out with different people you'll start liking them...........Your friends sound like dickheads anyway,dont befriend people who treat you differently. If you fail to get her,well just forget her,you can do better!she sounds like a slut if she still rejects you knowing you like her.

 

[Harlequin]

Dude here's your problem, you're not man enough.

Sounds harsh but it's true. She don't like you and your friends think you're a mug, but they're not the problem the problem's you. You can act like it's them, move on to another group and get the same cards dealt to you.

Women like men, not boys. Start going to the gym, do as many sports as you can (fighting ones help) and practice socialising with chicks who don't really matter to you. I dunno how you're gonna deal with asthma and sports but you gotta overcome that.

As for the chick, it's better to forget her and move on. The second she sees you talking to other chicks and being more of a man than your friend she'll want you.

Don't take her back though, pfft bitch got no class.

 

[Rapture]

Dude here's your problem, you're not man enough.

Sounds harsh but it's true. She don't like you and your friends think you're a mug, but they're not the problem the problem's you. You can act like it's them, move on to another group and get the same cards dealt to you.

Women like men, not boys. Start going to the gym, do as many sports as you can (fighting ones help) and practice socialising with chicks who don't really matter to you. I dunno how you're gonna deal with asthma and sports but you gotta overcome that.

As for the chick, it's better to forget her and move on. The second she sees you talking to other chicks and being more of a man than your friend she'll want you.

Don't take her back though, pfft bitch got no class.

Ohhh Tom you hit the nail on the head


First To how you are dealing with this. I'm going to go out on a limb and say you are younger than I am...probably still in high school or etc...

High school is drama. If someone doesn't like you then you have to suck it up and move on. Don't pout about it, complain, or whine. No one wants to date a cry baby pee pants. You can't change what a girl thinks. I'm sorry but I'm a chick and I know what I want and I know what I don't want. If someone I don't want anything to do with approaches me about dating or etc...I try and avoid their "advances" and If they don't get the message then I tell them in as nice a way as possible that I am simply not interested. It sounds like she is doing the first thing that I mentioned, so that does not make her a bitch. Just because someone doesn't want to go out with you does not mean they need to burn in the firey wraths of hell

Focus on other things besides girls, because in high school all most girls are about is drama. The more mature ones come after high school like in college or etc... or make new friends. Get out and socialize. If you rely on just two people to be able to have a life of your own...thats not good. Also, be more confident. If you are people will notice you more...and you might attract someone new or not

 

[DarkShadow]

Ohhh Tom you hit the nail on the head


First To how you are dealing with this. I'm going to go out on a limb and say you are younger than I am...probably still in high school or etc...

High school is drama. If someone doesn't like you then you have to suck it up and move on. Don't pout about it, complain, or whine. No one wants to date a cry baby pee pants. You can't change what a girl thinks. I'm sorry but I'm a chick and I know what I want and I know what I don't want. If someone I don't want anything to do with approaches me about dating or etc...I try and avoid their "advances" and If they don't get the message then I tell them in as nice a way as possible that I am simply not interested. It sounds like she is doing the first thing that I mentioned, so that does not make her a bitch. Just because someone doesn't want to go out with you does not mean they need to burn in the firey wraths of hell

Focus on other things besides girls, because in high school all most girls are about is drama. The more mature ones come after high school like in college or etc... or make new friends. Get out and socialize. If you rely on just two people to be able to have a life of your own...thats not good. Also, be more confident. If you are people will notice you more...and you might attract someone new or not

If someone was really liked you, would you really just ignore them like that? :wtf:

I thought girls had heart (drawing love signs and shit in the back of their books! )

I agree with Tom she is a bitch, in fact she's a slut, no wait a hoe! This girl knows that he likes her and goes out with his friend and rejects him to party's and shit..........She even said he's not "good enough" if that doesn't make her a hoe/slag/bitch/tart etc what does?

 

[Harlequin]

If someone was really liked you, would you really just ignore them like that? :wtf:

I thought girls had heart (drawing love signs and shit in the back of their books! )

What else can chicks do? If a guy keeps bothering them why are they gonna do fight him off? She isn't necessarily a bitch, she's just a bitch to OP. I only said she ain't got class cause if I knew a chick liked me I wouldn't game her friend.

The point is these guys aren't his friends. If one of my mates didn't get invited I'd be like "the fuck? invite my boy or I ain't comin".

 

[Rapture]

If someone was really liked you, would you really just ignore them like that? :wtf:

I thought girls had heart (drawing love signs and shit in the back of their books! )

I have in the past yes. I personally would rather ignore the advances of someone who I wasn't interested in than be direct and blunt and tell them "no thank-you." Back in the day when I was in high school I could have talked about people I didn't like behind their backs, spread rumors or call people names (like a lot of other really "mean" heartless people), but I never did. We all approach relationships differently in this life and because thats my way of silently telling someone no, I don't think that makes me cruel-hearted...at all.

...and I do have a heart...more so than most

Back on topic for the mawds:

I think the consensus is that he really needs to move on.

 

[DarkShadow]

If someone was really liked you, would you really just ignore them like that? :wtf:

I didn't really mean it that way..........I meant it as it the girl knows he likes her but does nothing and worser than that, thinks of gabe as a inferior person not allowing him to hangout saying he's not good enough.........I didnt mean it as in you HAVE to say yes when someone asks you out? Obviously you gotta say no to someone, but that girl is a bitch not for not liking him but for not showing sympathy towards him!

@Stella I wasnt saying girls don't have heart most do like you im sure........but the one where talking bout here has gotta be one fo sho

 

[Rapture]

...thinks of gabe as a inferior person not allowing him to hangout saying he's not good enough.........but that girl is a bitch not for not liking him but for not showing sympathy towards him!

If his friends are letting her call the shots as to who can hang out in this little soiree than they are the ones who are playing him, not her. IF they wanted to, they could stick up to her and say they aren't going unless "Gabe" can go. ...and she never said he wasn't good enough to hang out with her, he said "apparently he's not good enough to go" which is more opinion than something from the horse's mouth.

His "friends" are really the ones who are screwing him here.

 

[Harlequin]

It's not about the physical side Cali it's the mental. Going through physical strain hardens the mind, it makes you more of a man. Not necessarily a better one though.

 

[Valvalis]

Sorry to hear that you're having these problems, Gabe. I can understand about only having a few friends growing up, I was there, and quite often I got left out of things for reasons I still don't understand.

Even though right now it might seem like these people are important, they honestly don't sound like they're worth the time and effort, whether they're friends or a girl you like. Anyone who ignores people/refuses to invite them somewhere when it would be polite to do so, is narrow-minded, and not considerate of others. Maybe they've just never been left out of things themselves, so they don't understand, but that certainly doesn't excuse them from feeling empathy for others; it's kind of a common sense thing, and for them to not realize that you would feel left out by it means they're missing a few brain cells. And if they do realize it and don't care, then they're just imbeciles unworthy of your presence :dave:

If you are in a position where you would feel comfortable getting out and socializing with people, to try to find more people to hang out with, then by all means I would suggest doing so, and dumping these losers. However, if for some reason you can't or don't want to, there's certainly nothing wrong with spending time by yourself either. Whenever I had issues with isolation years back, I always tried to divert my energy into hobbies or projects that I had always wanted to do, and that helped alleviate a lot of the problem, because I was able to accomplish things that I was proud of. And eventually, I found new people to talk to who were interested in those things, and were impressed that I had done them, and it gradually made social interaction easier.

Even though there is a lot of pressure sometimes to be a social butterfly in school (I'm guessing you are if you're mentioning winter holidays, right?), school is actually the nexus for the most immature and shallow people you will ever meet in your life, and once you're out of there, working, in college, and/or generally just hanging out at other places, you will meet far more real people who ARE worth your time. What you can't ever forget is that school is not the end-all-be-all of existence; all it is is a group of people mashed together who just happen to live in the same town, and if you do want to make friends with people there, you're sometimes just having to choose from the lesser of evils; your best lifelong friends may end up being people you meet long after you are out of there :dave: And that includes romantic relationships as well.

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

When I'm trying to cope with this extreme loneliness during these days, the girl I like just HAS to organize a hangout "session" with the two of my best friends. The great thing is, I'm being left out.

If the girl you like is taking your friends out to a "hang out 'session'", then perhaps you shouldn't like that girl. Be that as it may, I typically try to avoid people like this. She may be cute, she may be drop dead sexy, but that, my friend, sounds like the well known habits of a bitch and and whore.

Beaches and shores, my friend, beaches and shores.

I don't really know why she would leave my out, but I'm apparently not 'good enough' to go. The one best friend who she's taking who's male, still likes her. I like her too. (Somehow we got over our conflicts in liking the same girl) and he might even be all by himself with her because the other friend who she wishes to invite (who's a girl) might be busy.

Bros before hoes. If he's not living up to this, he isn't a bro. I would never, ever, ever fucking ever ditch a bro in need just to get some. Hell no, fuck that. He isn't a friend, or else he would be the one attempting to invite you, and if she said no, he would do the bro thing and kick that bitch to the curb.

Once a man ditches his friends because the woman wills it, it's over. Find a new fucking friend.

So he can just have another 1 on 1 session with her and I can get all jealous, and they'll probably have a moment or something, maybe even start a relationship and I won't know about it for a week when someone leaks it.

This goes back to the "bros before hoes" thing... But even more so, if he was to start dating her, this isn't something that you have to know. If he wishes it to be secret, than it's his choice. Getting jelly also doesn't help your case.

If anything, you should show them how little you give a shit (even if you actually do give a shit) and show them that you're not going to be bother with their petty high school relationship that has no chance in lasting.

Play the apathy card, let that bitch you that you're above her evil temptress ways. She'll soon start to want you, but like Harle said, fuck that. There are many fish in the fucking ocean, don't wait for one to come to you, just fucking grab one.

And remember, life is a bitch; fuck it like one.

I've always been jealous of this male friend, and it's obvious she prefers him over me, because she invites him, and just leaves me out in this little bundle of fun they plan on having. Their 'fun day out' is probably about to start in a few minutes, and I'll just sit home and probably go back to bed.

Don't be jelly, start changing you ways to make him jelly. Ditch fear to the fucking curb and start speaking to woman that are actually worth a damn. Work on some dialogue, get in shape, but most importantly, show you friends that you're not one to be fucked with.

Hang in there, the road to manliness is fucking steep. But in time, you'll be showing these no good sacks of shit who the man really is.

I even sent her a message over Facebook asking if I could go if the female friend was busy...

Like I said, fuck this bitch.

It also doesn't help that I'm usually always over-emotional and overreact to every little thing...

Apathy card.

But seriously, I didn't know this girl that I like enjoyed being such a bitch to me. She already found out that I like her, and she knows my male friend likes her too. She might feel the same towards him... This day is just not going well. I just feel like turfing them all together, just eff them.

Fuck 'em. Throw your misconceived notions of logic aside and stop playing into the world of drama. It sucks, and it'll lead to more pain imaginable. Stop caring about your "friends" that are obviously ignoring your feelings.

If I were in your situation, I would stop talking to those fuckers and go make some real fucking friends. Don't care what others think of you. Trust me, that little step alone helps. I've gotten dates off of shear confidence alone. If I can do it, I sure as shit know you can. Do the impossible, see the invisible. See something you want? GO OUT AND TAKE IT.

But whatever you do, don't let some bitch get you in a slump, and ditch those sorry fuck heads you call friends. Because those guys ain't bros.

 

[Gaige]

Really I'm gonna have to go with Tom here and say toughen up your attitude. Not necessarily man up, but become a little stronger mentally. I was a bit of a shy kid for the first 12 years or so of my life because I was the first kid, and as a direct result, mollycoddled. They got strict later on, but I just wasn't ready for that first taste of the real world by the time I was five and started education.

It took me years to figure out that confidence is a good thing. So when we moved to another part of the country, I decided to become a little more confident. To reach for things when I want them. To make the effort. And to only blame myself when stuff goes wrong when it's my fault.

Women don't want men who are emotionally immature. Emotion is fine, sure. But when you cry because you can't have things your way, and basically get emotional over things that are insignificant in the grand scale of things, you'll get nowhere. Believe in your own misfortune, and you'll attract it to yourself. The mind is a powerful thing. Use it in the wrong way, and things only get worse.

 

[blakstang98]

Good evening folks. Lets keep in mind that our friend Gabe has a personal life issue he's addressing here and would like to get some advice for. Lets be mindful of the OP's feelings and not bash him. Read these rules about Temple of the Ancients, and start utiliziing them. Further "not nice" comments towards the OP will be deleted without warning. Thank you.

 

[Smiley]

If the girl you like is taking your friends out to a "hang out 'session'", then perhaps you shouldn't like that girl. Be that as it may, I typically try to avoid people like this. She may be cute, she may be drop dead sexy, but that, my friend, sounds like the well known habits of a bitch and and whore.

Beaches and shores, my friend, beaches and shores.

Bros before hoes. If he's not living up to this, he isn't a bro. I would never, ever, ever fucking ever ditch a bro in need just to get some. Hell no, fuck that. He isn't a friend, or else he would be the one attempting to invite you, and if she said no, he would do the bro thing and kick that bitch to the curb.

Once a man ditches his friends because the woman wills it, it's over. Find a new fucking friend.

This goes back to the "bros before hoes" thing... But even more so, if he was to start dating her, this isn't something that you have to know. If he wishes it to be secret, than it's his choice. Getting jelly also doesn't help your case.

If anything, you should show them how little you give a shit (even if you actually do give a shit) and show them that you're not going to be bother with their petty high school relationship that has no chance in lasting.

Play the apathy card, let that bitch you that you're above her evil temptress ways. She'll soon start to want you, but like Harle said, fuck that. There are many fish in the fucking ocean, don't wait for one to come to you, just fucking grab one.

And remember, life is a bitch; fuck it like one.



Don't be jelly, start changing you ways to make him jelly. Ditch fear to the fucking curb and start speaking to woman that are actually worth a damn. Work on some dialogue, get in shape, but most importantly, show you friends that you're not one to be fucked with.


Like I said, fuck this bitch.

Apathy card.

Fuck 'em. Throw your misconceived notions of logic aside and stop playing into the world of drama. It sucks, and it'll lead to more pain imaginable. Stop caring about your "friends" that are obviously ignoring your feelings.

If I were in your situation, I would stop talking to those fuckers and go make some real fucking friends. Don't care what others think of you. Trust me, that little step alone helps. I've gotten dates off of shear confidence alone. If I can do it, I sure as shit know you can. Do the impossible, see the invisible. See something you want? GO OUT AND TAKE IT.

But whatever you do, don't let some bitch get you in a slump, and ditch those sorry fuck heads you call friends. Because those guys ain't bros.

^ This, this guy got it spot on

As a chick I must say that she's just a straight-up bitch. If you like her, she knows it and she's purposely leaving you out of things, I think you should really find someone else. Feelings, yeah, they're hard to get rid of. But also, as Nikki said above me, get a little bit tougher emotionally. Girls find it quite annoying when guys cry and obsess over every little thing.

Now, you sent her a message on Facebook, yes? Lemme tell u something. Facebook is the absolute center of all cybershit. If she didn't reply to u on facebook then she never will. She will constantly try to ignore u and that's the truth.

As for ur friends, fuck them. They're not worth your time. 3 years ago (in 8th grade) I learned that Its better to be alone than to have friends who really don't appreciate you. Get some more confidence. Strengthen your mentality and your emotions, you need to show these people that you're not gonna take their shit. Move on. Trust me, its better than being in the state you're in.

 

[Gabe]

Wow, Darquewillow's advice really struck me. About the beaches and shores, and bros before hoes. That is really a boost of my confidence. But the thing is, this girl TRULY isn't a bitch. She's probably the shyest, timid, innocent girl ever. I've known her for quite a few years and she never intends to be a bitch. It turned out I was just taking it all the wrong way. I got a message from her over Facebook after she heard about my problem though a friend:

First thing's frist. I wanna make sure that you don't think your 3rd weel, cause your not. I invited (male friend) to go with me cause we had promised each other we would hang out this holiday, I invited (female friend) because she and I where gonna hang out the day after but I wanted to see if I could hit two birds with one stone (figure of speach). Anyway don't feel left out, all we did was go to my cousins house and played ping-pong.

>.>

Don't worry, I'm not gonna get pissed at her, but my male friend >.> After that whole 'bros before hoes' thing, oohh boy. He did exactly what Darquewillow said he SHOULDN'T do. I asked my male friend to ask the girl if I could go, if the female friend was busy. As I think I said in the main post, and he never did that. He didn't WANT me to go. I know he doesn't appreciate my presence, and whenever I'm having a big problem he just ignores me. I'm going to GIVE HIM A SPEECH next time I get the chance to communicate with him. Thanks a lot for your help, guys. This advice really impacted me.

 

[Tmoo]

ah, that's a big piece of info. she's a timid type eh? going by your posts, i'd say it's just a big communication problem between you and her. my solution for you: talk to her more and be assertive around her, and...ask her out, straight up. if neither of you make a move then chances of a relationship are slim to none. it sounds like your 'friend' is attempting to one-up you and get to her first. don't let him.

 

[Gabe]

Irony: I was just invited to go to her house in a few hours. No male friend is going to be there Also, my female friend will be there. I heard if you bring another girl with you, girls feel more comfortable. I feel so confident, it's pretty sweet. Also, if anyone remembers my "I think I'm evil" thread from back in the day when I showed you all a really mean E-mail I sent to my best friend, it was involving these same people. I got a -rep from Darquewillow back at that post. xD

 

[Jamesy_]

I hope you didnt fuck it up by being a wimp.

Not trying to be an arsehole when I say that, but when I seen you were "asking" her on fb to go, I cringed for you.

 

[Jquestionmark]

Alright, I'm likely not the most qualified to give advice in this situation, since the only race to win a girl's heart I've ever had with a friend ended in him knocking her up, them getting married and then divorced all in the course of about a year... So, yeah, but I'll try.

It looks like it's all a huge misunderstanding, so going with that, I'm going to say just make a move. Bringing a female friend along isn't a terrible move, but if you've known this girl you like for a long time you need to just make a move or at least announce your interest. If you never take a step forward you'll never go anywhere. Regardless of gender, people are always nervous to make a first move or put their feelings out in the open, but somebody has to.