Serious Scarred for life.

[Aerith]

More like I was sexually harassed?It wasn't totally extreme that I could go to court, but still, if you're a girl and this happens to you. It's a different kind of fear, you feel so paranoid and jumpy and just unsafe. And it just haunts you..
I have a religion class at night every Tuesdays. And I was walking to the Church, I see these three guys. They're laughing obnoxiously. They're older than me, they're buffed, and they look like they could kill someone. So I tried crossing the street, but there were so much cars zooming by, so I figured if I just blazed passed these guys, they won't notice me.
But the shortest of the three came up to me. "Hey miss how ya doin." I mumbled a little "Fine," and I tried to keep walking. They second one whispered to the short guy, "Yo man, I'd so fuck her." or something like that!! I know he used the last two words but I know he said more. That really creeped me out so I kept pushing forward. Then finally the tallest one said, "Hey, you know you got pretty eyes, I like that, if you ever wanna get with ME, I'm...." and then he went on about stuff that's really not worth repeating!!! EEK. I still have the chills just typing this. I just kind of swerved around him and kept walking. I have never been so scared. I didn't turn around to see if they were following me, but I still heard his voice talking to me, so I guess they were following me? But when I walked around the corner, I RAN, I used to do track, so glad to say I'm fast.
Oh my gosh, I live in a small town. I'm a young teen. It's peaceful, everyone's loving. We don't have people like that here. Aww jeez, I just don't feel secure on my own block.

I'm just so jumpy and paranoid now. I'm scared to go out at night, even just to bring down the garbage. I feel stupid but I just want to get all this fear out of me... what do I do? Is there anything I can even do or do I have to wait years before I feel secure again? Ugghh. I just really don't feel good right now D:

 

[Exoskeleton]

Well I go to counseling. Counseling at your school may help a ton and give you a small bit of relief. I've had far worse things happen to me and I'm a guy myself. All I can say is, stay away from people who look suspicious and never feel too safe out at night. It's when you're comfortable that people will come for you.

Don't let words hurt you. No matter how terribly disgusting they are, they were just words and since you've been through this you know better so you'll probably never see them again. Cheer up! There's no need to take this too harsh. Just take it as a lesson learned and next time try crossing the street.

 

[Espurr]

Wow that sucks, I am sorry to hear that. But unfortunately that is a normal day in life. Some men can be perverted scum but at least nothing happened right? My recommendation is that you walk with someone to and from class. However if you must walk by yourself, stay where there is light and an open street. And worst case scenerio, don't be afraid to kick someone in the crotch.

As for the mental scarring thing, it varies with person to person. I would talk to someone about it, that alone should help you relieve yourself a bit. But I would take things one step at a time.

 

[CassinoChips]

Guys like that give the rest of us a bad name. I hope they get kicked in the balls in the very near future. Just know that those three are douchenozzles, and the majority of us aren't like that, honestly.

That being said, I agree with Josh, if you think talking to someone might help. Also, if you want to feel some practical security, maybe look into taking a self-defense class? Just a thought.

 

[Fusionist]

I'm sorry about your experience. They few times I've been hit on, the guys were creeps and my skin just crawls for a while after I dash away.

It's a crap feeling, but it does eventually go away. One thing I do when I'm out is that I take my music player with me, so I have my headphones on, and even if I can hear someone try to talk to me, I can pretend to ignore them and usually that dissuades them from trying any more.

And there's strength in number, so if you can walk with people you know, go for it.

The important thing is to feel safe, so I think you should try to do what you need to do to make you feel that way.

When I walk home real late at night, I always have my hands on my keys. I have an oh so sharp keychain that gives me a lil' sense of security

 

[Aerith]

Thanks for the replies, just reading all those gave me a bit of relief.

I know I'll probably never see them again, hopefully, but there's a handful of perverts running around my town and they just won't leave. I'm not the first one to be harassed. And yes, they do deserve a hard kick in the crotch. I took karate until I quit, that's small advantage for me lol.
My dad said he's now going to drive me to and from class. It ends pretty late, but I wait outside with my friend Julian, I can't tell him what happened because that'll be awkward, but he's still someone, you know? At least he's there.

I am going to take some counseling sessions at school.. my guidance counselor doesn't help at all, I tried talking to her when I couldn't turn to my family. She didn't say anything useful. I have a good idea about who I can talk to, so I'll try that and hopefully this ugly chill I'm having will die away soon.

Once again thanks you guys, I feel better already, seriously

 

[Dee]

It's good you feel better. I'm really sorry about what happened though and I feel you. I've had some pretty effed up things happened to me that I don't really want to get into, but it is safe to say that that shit can mess with your head and scar you for life. I would go off on a rant, but I think I might work myself up over it so I'm not. I'm just going to say that it's a good thing you're alright and nothing further than that happened.

Talking to someone may definitely help you so long as you trust them. It's good to let these things out. Unfortunately, I and many other women who do have to face these issues have not, so I'm proud that you are.

 

[glow]

oh man, yeah its scary. I know how you feel. The town I live in used to be pretty safe when I was younger. but not anymore

last year me and my friends almost got mugged when we were walking back to my house. it was on my street and everything. these guys were across the street from us and they waited while we crossed the street and then they started following us, and asking where we were going, what we were doing. the only reason we were safe was because one of them after awhile that was standing off to the side recognized one of my friends and ran up to him and was like 'hey! how are you'
later the guy that had run up to my friend told him that they were going to rob us


and another time me and a friend were walking into one of our towns shopping centers and this guy walkes up to us. my friend said he was obviously on acid or something and luckily the friend I was with is like this huge black guy and he was like twice the size of the guy that walked up to us. my friend just kept saying
'go home. we dont know you.' and eventually he walked away but then as he was crossing the street he turns around and is like
"hey bitch!" to me, oh my god it was so scary! I really dont know what I would have done if I had been alone. I was just like
"Me?" and then my friend grabbed me and said
"no, you dont know her, just go away, you dont know her" and then he crossed the street and left


so yeah the fear will start to ebb a little bit, but its important to be cautious
try not to walk alone, especially at night
carry a knife with you.
when you see people pull out your cell phone and pretend to be talking to somebody. or actually call somebody so you feel more safe
also you can take a self defense class- or the less lame sounding alternative a karate class or some martial art or fighting style. learn some way to defend yourself and you will feel allot better

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

I can definitely see how that can bother you. However, I wouldn't pay it much mind if I were you. Morons like that give men a bad name. They're typically the type of morons that walk around, thinking they're the shit, and think speaking badly towards a woman is sexy.

They're fucking mistaken.

If anything you should be flattered that they were "hitting" on you. Even if they have the social skills of a pre-adolescent teenager in heat.

Just put it in the back of your mind and pay it no attention.

 

[Shu]

Well, the other kind folks have said all that can be said, though I will say thanks for sharing this with us. I'm sure to total strangers it is easier, but it assumes trust.

Keep your head up, this might not be the first time to be honest. But you do have us, so take care of yourself.

 

[DepecheMode]

I'm very sorry to hear about that. I know it must have been a frightening experience for ya. Thankfully you were able to get away before it got worse.

I actually remember when I was about 15, I was going out with this girl at the time and during summer break of 2005 she had an incident along with her best friend she always liked to hang out with. Well, I get a call from my girlfriend on my cell phone and she's telling me she was calling from the emergency room, which shocked me. What had happened was she and her best friend were hanging out together for the day and a couple of older guys about late teens early twenties came up to them and began to harass them a little bit. As they were trying to get away, the two guys were getting a little bit irritated and began to be more physically abusive to them. My girlfriend did try fighting to get away but her and her best friend did get bruised and beaten pretty good. She told me that they're weren't sexually abused but probably would have been had it not created such a scene. Thankfully there was enough of a scene that other people took notice and tried to break it up before they were sexually abused. I felt terrible because usually I always liked to hang out with them along with maybe a friend of mine, but that was one of the few times I wasn't with them and I felt terrible. I never did get a chance to find out the guys who did that. We broke up a while back but still it's a terrible thing for any person to go through.

Even my own mother who was jogging out at a park had a bad experience with some fuck nut who was drugged out of his head and was making all kinds of verbal threats to my own mother. She came home crying and my dad got really worried for her. We did tell the police but never found that shit fucker either. I admit I live in a busy shitty area and I hate it but overall we've never had too much trouble.

I am very sorry for what happened to ya but like some of the others have said, try walking with someone to avoid that from happening again. Walking at night alone where ever can be scary. Next time if you do come across people that look suspicious try walking as far away as you can to avoid them from noticing you, I do that a lot to avoid trouble. It's hard but just try and work at your fear little by little. I've had to work on some horrible fears of my own and I still continue to work past them as best as I can. It's a damn hard fight that's not easy and it sucks, but in life we're not given much of an option when it comes to fear. We either let it get us and we become debilitated from fear or we can either work through it and maybe get past fear. Unfortunately there is no third option.

Please though, do be careful.

 

[Sultan]

I can see how this could frighten you being it's a new and unexpected experience. Since they didn't touch you, it shouldn't bother you much. If you look on the bright side, You have the experience of being hit on by jerks, so if an acquaintance of yours suffers similarly, God forbid, you can help them through it. Learn from your experiences and turn them into strengths.

 

[Bambi]

I had a similiar experience on my way home from work one night, threre was 3 or 4 one night, and as I walked past one, they said something similiar along the lines of 'fucking her' I was like, fantastic.... I almost turned around and told them to fuck the fuck off, but even I know when to keep my trap shut. It was when I turned around and they were following me, my legs went to jelly and I absolutely shat myself. I had to walk under this little under pass thing and i just pooed my self. Head down, carried on walking as fast as I could, turned round and they were still there, turned round again and they must have got bored and gone back to whatever they were doing

I think they just do it to be intimidating, and I'l admit, I was absolutely bricking it. I still walk the same route, won't let pricks like that stop me from going about my daily business. You just need to try to put it behind you and move on.

Infact, I always get grief in that tunnelly thing, the last few people have been called wankers/dick heads. Nothing like what happened, but just general cuntish behaviour like, trying to make you jump by shouting/swinging things in your face

They are just arseholes and they work in packs, all talk, and I imagine wouldn't say boo too a goose on their own, but because they are with their pals, it's like, lookit me, I can scare a girl. On her own. Aren't I fucking clever

 

[TheMixedHerb]

Sorry to hear about that, that must've been quite distressing.

They are just arseholes and they work in packs, all talk, and I imagine wouldn't say boo too a goose on their own, but because they are with their pals, it's like, lookit me, I can scare a girl. On her own. Aren't I fucking clever

That's the main truth behind it really, on their own they won't do anything. They'll probably just walk past you and not say a word, when they're with their friends they're the hardest/strongest/best people on the planet since they can intimidate one person in a group, it's rather sickening.

They feel the need to go around in groups and do stuff like that to get their kicks, which I don't agree with in any way at all.
How would they feel if the boot was on the other foot, seriously?

 

[GalaxyFlare]

Those fucking Pricks!!!

Damn that fucks me off.......I wait for the day I come along something like that and go to town on the fuckers, Im serious id go nuts and they would not stand a chance, If that happened to any one I knew I would not be so forgiving!

That may sound reckless and heated buts its how I would react, I dread my GF being confronted by that kind of thing and not being there.............my chest is getting tight just thinking about.

AS for what you can do I not sure what kind of person your are but as mentioned before take a self defense class,giving the obvious advantage they have in terms of strength though your skill would need to be high.

The tactic is block to your strong side,disable 1 with a jab to the throat, groin knee,if you can manage it isolate 1 guy and take him down and use his vulnerable state to buy yourself space and time by threatening to hurt him of they come closer.

Is possibly what I could do...........or carry a 22' knife like i do, but you probably shouldnt do that either.

Relying on other people decency, yeah sure what ever.............stories like this really piss me off.

 

[Tmoo]

instead of getting passionate...i'm going to suggest something practical. buy pepper spray, or get a gun license and a pistol. or carry a switchblade. take self-defense courses and martial arts if you really want to maximize your feeling of control in those circumstances.

if you ever find yourself followed, walk to a lit area with people and call family/friends or police if you feel you have to. if they try to make contact with you, take out whatever weapon you have and warn them, if they try again, use it, that way they have no chance of getting charges on you in court. don't feel bad if you poke one of their eyes out or kill them. they were the ones who assaulted you.

lastly, do not let yourself be intimidated. this is hard, and you might think i'm asking you to do the impossible, but you have to try and keep calm in these situations.

 

[Shu]

Those fucking Pricks!!!

Damn that fucks me off.......I wait for the day I come along something like that and go to town on the fuckers, Im serious id go nuts and they would not stand a chance, If that happened to any one I knew I would not be so forgiving!

That may sound reckless and heated buts its how I would react, I dread my GF being confronted by that kind of thing and not being there.............my chest is getting tight just thinking about.

AS for what you can do I not sure what kind of person your are but as mentioned before take a self defense class,giving the obvious advantage they have in terms of strength though your skill would need to be high.

The tactic is block to your strong side,disable 1 with a jab to the throat, groin knee,if you can manage it isolate 1 guy and take him down and use his vulnerable state to buy yourself space and time by threatening to hurt him of they come closer.

Is possibly what I could do...........or carry a 22' knife like i do, but you probably shouldnt do that either.

Relying on other people decency, yeah sure what ever.............stories like this really piss me off.

I don't recommend fighting/usage of a weapon. I think she did the right thing here. I'm a muscular/fit fella, and the 3 guys I'd try to bullrush, but since I don't know proper fighting tech, even I'd get overwhelmed by sheer numbers.

Shady folks like these you never know what they have on them. Just keep your head down till they approach and grab at you. If you are backed into a corner, do what you must/can then.

World aint Karate kidish, you pull stupid fighting tactics against more than 3 people without the knowledge of true martial arts, then you'll get dropped. All they have to do is use a steel pipe if they get really mad.

While I'm not saying.. do "nothing" at all. I'm just saying don't act until you know you have to. A lot of crazy folks out there who are willing to throw it away.

 

[GalaxyFlare]

but since I don't know proper fighting tech, even I'd get overwhelmed by sheer numbers.

Maybe not Shu.........but I do, for along time now as well I practice self defence on a daily basis just a as part of my way of life, and I would not recommend physical violence either especially if your not experienced.

Self defence classes are a great way to builds up confidence and learn how to defend your self.........like Bam said these guys are usually just Tough Nuts in numbers, and dont seem to learn fighting in a professional sense, in keeping with the type of people they are..........confidence through group mentality lack of respect for societal views.

In other words Scumbags.

 

[Harlequin]

"Hey, you know you got pretty eyes, I like that, if you ever wanna get with ME, I'm...."

Man those guys' game is weak.

Chances are it's nothing to worry too much about. Obviously I don't know the situation but you should see the way it goes down where I live. You just need to develop a strong defense against it. Stick to communal areas if you think it's gonna happen again and if they try just be firm.

Chances are they're not too hostile, they just don't know how to approach.

EDIT------

I'm seeing a lot of self defense suggestions in this thread. Don't bother.

Males are significantly stronger than females. A fully grown man is incredibly stoic when compared to the constitution of a female or adolescent male. I'm a boxer and I lift weights. If a male kicks me in the nuts it'll hurt but I can shrug it off, let alone a female. Sometimes technique just won't save you. You need power.

Don't take it there because they'll have an excuse to get physical. Unless you're going to learn fighting techniques extensively there's little to no benefit in doing so.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Man those guys' game is weak.

Chances are it's nothing to worry too much about. Obviously I don't know the situation but you should see the way it goes down where I live. You just need to develop a strong defense against it. Stick to communal areas if you think it's gonna happen again and if they try just be firm.

Chances are they're not too hostile, they just don't know how to approach.

EDIT------

I'm seeing a lot of self defense suggestions in this thread. Don't bother.

Males are significantly stronger than females. A fully grown man is incredibly stoic when compared to the constitution of a female or adolescent male. I'm a boxer and I lift weights. If a male kicks me in the nuts it'll hurt but I can shrug it off, let alone a female. Sometimes technique just won't save you. You need power.

Don't take it there because they'll have an excuse to get physical. Unless you're going to learn fighting techniques extensively there's little to no benefit in doing so.

That might be so, however I have selfdefense classes as well sometimes as part of my job..its not always about the power a person holds its also about confidence.

Self Defense classes will definitely give you confidence.

Those dirty tricks you wont learn at those classes though and Dirty Tricks is what you as a woman would actually benefit from.
Its simply the truth that women are physically weaker than men..so my bet is on dirty tricks that would allow you to escape real danger and major threats..it will give you time to run away etc..