Serious Questions for all you females

[Captain Squee]

So there's this girl, she really likes me. I mean, really fucking likes me. To the point that she will chase me down if she hasn't had a hug from me yet in the day. It's so annoying. Thing is, I can't be an ass to her just because I'm afraid I'd make her be too emotional about it, and yes she is that type. Now here's the thing, I don't know why she does like me, since we never have conversations, we never really hang out, we never even have any sort of real contact other than here and there. She actually told me she loves me at one point despite this. So here are my questions.

Why does she like me so much under said conditions?

Is there any way to get rid of her?

And if there isn't, how much longer until she gets off my case?

She's fucking annoying.

 

[Squid]

maybe you look good or she's been watching you from afar and thinks you're super nice and stuff... not sure otherwise why she'd like you if you never talk :S

You could get rid of her by saying you're not interested or.... just start acting really gross or gay?

If you don't tell her to eff off in some way.. you may be stuck with her forever...ever...ever.....ever!

 

[Captain Squee]

Well, She's asked me out 4 times now, the answer has been no every single time now, you'd think she'd take the hint.

 

[Squid]

stop showering for weeks then give her a hug... see if she acts differently then haha

 

[Dee]

1) Don't hug back
2) Be nice but not so nice that you're leading her on. Don't do or say anything that will give her any reason to believe the feeling is mutual (you have to be aware of yourself in this case)
3) Don't be a dick. You may not like her, you may not appreciate the physical contact, but that's no reason to treat her badly. She'll more likely respect you if you're honest and say it you'd rather not get so intimate.
4) If she reacts like a psycho, she's probably got some issues. Still, that doesn't mean you should be a dick.

 

[Shu]

- Moved to Temple of the Ancients - (Life related issue)

 

[Pandora]

As a female, I think most girls (including me) had that problem at some point of their life, especially in the younger years. I always thought it was love when I took a first glance at an attractive guy that I saw when I was 4-7 years old - but that's when I didn't know any better about relationships of course. If I were you, I'd be nice to her - but be honest as well. There are some things people can't figure out unless you tell them, and if you don't you'll have to deal with the problem for a long time. I've had plenty of experience to guarantee that. You have the right to speak out to her, even in the most gentle way possible. If you really don't want to upset her, just explain that you don't feel the same way for her that she does for you. And if she still doesn't leave you alone, I'd go to someone that can take care of the problem for you .
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[DeadFantasy]

Why does she like me so much under said conditions?

If what you say is true, then it's probably just lust for you. She's probably all hormonal and is really attracted to you. You can't like someone you barely talk to right? I use to be like that at one point in time where I liked a really hot guy named Adrian. Though I never talked to him. I kept my obsession to myself though. I tried to give him hints that i liked him but, he ignored me and I figured that I was trying to hard so, i stopped and got over him.

Is there any way to get rid of her?

If she's asked you out and hasn't got the hint sometimes you just gotta be straight with people. Even though you say you don't wanna be an ass it might be the only solution to get her off your back. I'd suggest to ignore her. Maybe make little white lies and tell her you're too busy to talk?

And if there isn't, how much longer until she gets off my case?

Like I've said, I know it might not be in your nature to be an ass but, just ignore her and overtime (without seeing you etc) she will eventually get over her lust for you.

 

[Valvalis]

I'm going to agree with everyone who's said to be straightforward, and tell her that you're not interested. Having been on the other side of the fence plenty of times when I was younger, I really much would have preferred guys to just tell me straight out that they weren't interested, so that I wouldn't have sat there wondering about every little thing they did and whether or not it meant they cared. It's a waste of time for both her and you if she doesn't understand your true feelings.

If you have someone else as a girlfriend, then that really should make it clear also, and most people would probably realize at that point that you're not interested. So, I don't know your situation but if you don't have a gf now, once you find someone else, she will ideally get the message. Just don't be too mean about it, because then she might get angry at you, and want to try to sabotage you somehow or do mean things to take it out on you.

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

So there's this girl, she really likes me. I mean, really fucking likes me. To the point that she will chase me down if she hasn't had a hug from me yet in the day.

She just wants you to hug her... FOREVER AND EVER AND EVER AND EVER.

It's so annoying. Thing is, I can't be an ass to her just because I'm afraid I'd make her be too emotional about it, and yes she is that type.

All the more reason to be an ass about it. But, then again, not everyone can be like me. Even though the world would be a much fucking better place if they were.

You're going to just have to point out that you're not looking for a relationship, and you find that your personality, and her personality, simply don't match. Then probably say something nice, to let her down light, even if you don't mean it. Yes, lying is fucking necessary, because most wimin like that don't want to hear the truth.

Now here's the thing, I don't know why she does like me, since we never have conversations, we never really hang out, we never even have any sort of real contact other than here and there. She actually told me she loves me at one point despite this. So here are my questions.

Been there, fucking done that.

Why does she like me so much under said conditions?

Answering this question will earn you a fucking Nobel Prize.

Is there any way to get rid of her?

Murder? Kidnapping? "Accident"? In all seriousness, you're just going to tell her how apathetic you are to her cause. Put it as nicely as possible. If she still persists, take a page out of my book and be a fucking ass about it.

After all, you can only put up with someone for so long before you snap.

And if there isn't, how much longer until she gets off my case?

Never. Change names, leave the country, and pick up blacksmithing.

She's fucking annoying.

Very much sounds like it.

maybe you look good or she's been watching you from afar and thinks you're super nice and stuff... not sure otherwise why she'd like you if you never talk :S

...Yeah, that's not creepy in the slightest.

You could get rid of her by saying you're not interested or.... just start acting really gross or gay?

A man has to have his integrity, now.

If you don't tell her to eff off in some way.. you may be stuck with her forever...ever...ever.....ever!

In this case, he's fucked. I like my idea on changing name, leaving the country, and taking up blacksmithing.

Well, She's asked me out 4 times now, the answer has been no every single time now, you'd think she'd take the hint.

Some people are just completely incapable of taking a hint. Hell, at times, I'm one of them. Especially when it comes to things like this. If someone likes me, and they drop hints all the fucking time... I won't see them. I shit you not. Fucking spell it out, motherfuckers.

Same goes for you Squee, spell it out.

stop showering for weeks then give her a hug... see if she acts differently then haha

I was going to say that he should probably start passing out abortion fliers around school. If that bitch is pro-life, she'll never speak to you again.

Of course, that's a 50/50 chance...

Do it anyway.

1) Don't hug back

This.

2) Be nice but not so nice that you're leading her on. Don't do or say anything that will give her any reason to believe the feeling is mutual (you have to be aware of yourself in this case)

This, but be warned, you can only fake emotion for so long before you just fucking snap. (Unless there is something very worth it at the end. Then you can fake emotions for ages. )

3) Don't be a dick. You may not like her, you may not appreciate the physical contact, but that's no reason to treat her badly. She'll more likely respect you if you're honest and say it you'd rather not get so intimate.

If that doesn't work, be a dick.

4) If she reacts like a psycho, she's probably got some issues. Still, that doesn't mean you should be a dick.

Negative, that gives Squee more reason to be a dick.

Being an ass is fun. Why must people deny themselves of that pleasure?

- Moved to Temple of the Ancients - (Life related issue)

Snooch to the nooch.

As a female, I think most girls (including me) had that problem at some point of their life, especially in the younger years. I always thought it was love when I took a first glance at an attractive guy that I saw when I was 4-7 years old - but that's when I didn't know any better about relationships of course. If I were you, I'd be nice to her - but be honest as well. There are some things people can't figure out unless you tell them, and if you don't you'll have to deal with the problem for a long time. I've had plenty of experience to guarantee that. You have the right to speak out to her, even in the most gentle way possible. If you really don't want to upset her, just explain that you don't feel the same way for her that she does for you. And if she still doesn't leave you alone, I'd go to someone that can take care of the problem for you .
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I was going to dissect this, but I don't feel like messing with the font and color settings.

However, I will say that you are about 95% correct. I'm too much of an ass to give you the other 5%. Just go without it, it's easier, trust me.

Why does she like me so much under said conditions?

If what you say is true, then it's probably just lust for you. She's probably all hormonal and is really attracted to you. You can't like someone you barely talk to right? I use to be like that at one point in time where I liked a really hot guy named Adrian. Though I never talked to him. I kept my obsession to myself though. I tried to give him hints that i liked him but, he ignored me and I figured that I was trying to hard so, i stopped and got over him.

To be honest, it just sounds like she's got the mind set of a child when it comes to love. There are women like that. I've known women that have literally sat down and told me that you can only love once in your life, if you've ever loved anyone more than that, than it isn't love, blah blah blah blah.

Real life isn't a fucking Disney movie.

Is there any way to get rid of her?

If she's asked you out and hasn't got the hint sometimes you just gotta be straight with people. Even though you say you don't wanna be an ass it might be the only solution to get her off your back. I'd suggest to ignore her. Maybe make little white lies and tell her you're too busy to talk?

FUCKING THIS. Lies are your best friend, and if all else, just be an ass. If you want no problems though, telling her how you feel, while telling her she is a nice person and other sentimental bullshit is the way to go.

But I seriously think you should just be an ass. That outcome can produce good times all around.

Until she's staring at you from your window at night. Then you're fucked, and I'mma deny giving you any advice.

And if there isn't, how much longer until she gets off my case?

Like I've said, I know it might not be in your nature to be an ass but, just ignore her and overtime (without seeing you etc) she will eventually get over her lust for you.

This works too. But it's very boring.

It's not hormonal or lust.

Probably both.

she probably knows of you, it's way immature for her to say she loves you, but don't just crush her by being an ass either.

But why can't he be an ass?

Just tell her you're not looking for a relationship with her, be straight with your words.

"No, I do not want to pursue a relationship with you. I find you annoying, and I do not think that will be beneficial to a long term relationship. Please stop following me. I'm starting to think that I may have to file a restraining order. God damn, I just want to walk down the hallway in fucking peace."

That works.

She's asked you out and you've said no four times... dude, no probably isn't going to cut it. Tell her you don't like her and that probably won't ever change. Tell her to find someone else.

But it should cut it. It isn't his fault that this woman is all illogical and shit.

Other then that, there's really nothing you can do. :/

Change name, leave country, take up blacksmithing.

 

[Dragon Mage]

So there's this girl, she really likes me. I mean, really fucking likes me. To the point that she will chase me down if she hasn't had a hug from me yet in the day. It's so annoying. Thing is, I can't be an ass to her just because I'm afraid I'd make her be too emotional about it, and yes she is that type. Now here's the thing, I don't know why she does like me, since we never have conversations, we never really hang out, we never even have any sort of real contact other than here and there. She actually told me she loves me at one point despite this. So here are my questions.

Why does she like me so much under said conditions?

Is there any way to get rid of her?

And if there isn't, how much longer until she gets off my case?

She's fucking annoying.

Girls like these is what gives the rest of us a bad name. >(

Now, there's no reason why she likes you. Maybe she's just crushing on you. Maybe she thinks knowing you will make her more popular. Maybe it's just because your a fine lookin' devil. Who knows! Worrying about that won't solve the problem. I've had this EXACT same problem myself (but obviously, it was a guy mooning after me) and I only avoided him as much as possible until one year he finally got a girlfriend.

I cannot help you diagnose her bizarre obsession with you.

But getting rid of her! Now that, I can help you with, good sir.



1) You can immediately end all her fantasies and tell her that you are gay. :dave: BOOM problem solved!

To drop this bomb, you can be subtle or obvious. The obvious route is fairly simple. Just cough, give her a self-deprecating look and say, "Sorry, but I'm gay."

The subtle route is much more interesting! You have several strategies. Say she sees you and glomps you in the store. Just nod, be polite and then pull out your cell phone and say, "Can you hold that thought for a second? I have to call my boyfriend and ask him what kind of milk he likes." That should shut her down fairly fast. BE SURE to inform a good friend of your intentions so that when you randomly call him one day and ask him what kind of milk he likes, he'll know what to do and totally roll with it.

Or, in the same vein, lets say she sees you, glomps, and you're not in the store. Let's say you're in school or something. Just excuse yourself saying, "Love to chat, but I gotta go, I borrowed my boyfriend's textbook and have to run it to him before his math class." Or anything in that general area, you get the idea.

2) Follow the example of this wise person (quote from bash.org):

random girl: hey!
me: ...hi?
me: who is this?
random girl: Jessica, I saw u on myspace
random girl: ur hot
me: thanks
random girl: np
me: this girl keeps bugging me, but I don't want to talk to her
me: what should I do?
random girl: make up sum excuse, like ur mom is kickin u off or sumthing
me: oh alright
me: I have to go
me: my mom is kicking me off
me: bye

The best part about this, is that she will provide the ammunition that shot her down! xD

Let's say this happens:

Her: *glomps* HI!
You: Hey.
Her: (something nonsensical and fangirl crazy)
You: There's this girl that keeps annoying me, I barely even know her, and I'm not interested in her. What should I do?
Her: (sincere answer)
You: Okay, thanks. (repeat her answer and walk away)

Okay, this is a more harsh and mean route to take, but it's an option.

3) Now, remember that guy that was bugging me in the same way this girl is bugging you, that I mentioned earlier? Like you, I asked some friends how to get rid of him. This was during our daily 20-minute jog in gym class. Me and my two friends jogged a fairly moderate pace while this guy (in the same class, god help me) would nearly sprint, so he passed us, and would slow down to chat at me for a minute before going on. So while he was on the other side of the room and closing in on our position, I informed my friends about my problem and one of the immediately responded with a solution. "Talk about your period."

I was scandalized. I couldn't do that! So she provided an example. As this guy was coming up behind us, she said (quite loudly), "SO YEAH, my period just started the other day..." and he booked past us like a bat outta hell. Funniest part is, he was shaking his head as if saying, "NOPE, not gonna touch that with a ten foot pole!" It was hilarious.

You can do the same, but obviously with something male-related. If you spot her coming and you're near a friend, just start talking loudly about which kind of condom you prefer. The blue or the yellow? Banana or orange? Yeah, I wouldn't want to get near you either if I heard that. Again, be sure your friends are in on it to insure maximum effectiveness. Or, talk about something that is equally awkward. What kind of porn you like, how you were thinking about getting a piercing "down there". You know. That stuff. I'm sure you can think of something.

4) Lead her on with this one. Ask her which she prefers more -- gold or silver? This may or may not get her hopes up. If she asks, just say it's for a gift. When she gives you the answer and asks again (or just look really happy and volunteer the information anyways), say thanks and tell her that it's for a ring for your girlfriend. DON'T say 'engagement ring' that can lead to nasty rumors if she's a sour loser. Just say it's for a ring and let her own imagination lead her to despair.

5) Does she have your number? If not, give her the appropriate one from this rejection hotline list! It says you live in the USA, so choose your state, pick the best number provided on that website, then give it to her. Problem solved.

6) Or, like everyone else has said on here, just be straightforward and tell her you're not interested. But that's boring. You could always do that, but why do it when you've got all these other lovely options?


Have fun!

 

[GalaxyFlare]

Whats the harm in going out with her at least once?

Is she the local..............you know thing everyone has had a go at.......Im sure there is a better way to say that? I knew chicks like this in HS there was this one girl who nice enuf she played Basketball like I did and stuff and we got on like friends.

Then one day she hugged me and planted one on me and I was like WTF?
and that was a good thing..........the bad thing is the time it happened to a friend mine
poor dude was so shocked by the fact she flashed her boobs at him in the middle of the yard.NO THANK YOU!

Its seems this girl is smitten with you and the affection is not returned, perhaps she has watched you from afar? Its hard to tell what she is thinking and what here intentions are? she could just be annoying or it could well be dangerous?

Mentally Unbalanced dangerous that is.

4 times is persistent, dont be mean let her now firmly without embarrassing her, try and achieve a WIN WIN scenario where you get left alone and she is not feeling so rejected you end up bound and gagged in the boot of some car?

And if you do end like that it could be fun