I Love You
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A couple of times a day (2-5) its not that I don't wish to say it a lot just not the right time for me to say it (One might say: it is never a bad time to say "I love you", well lets just say in the past I have said it to a few people with occurred results.)
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I hardly ever get told it, and say it even less, if i hear it once a month I'd consider myself lucky
Mind you, I jokingly tell my mates at work I love them sometimes, Il just walk past and say i love you guys ....
But on meaning it, unless it's too my best mate I never say it ever
Mind you, I jokingly tell my mates at work I love them sometimes, Il just walk past and say i love you guys ....
But on meaning it, unless it's too my best mate I never say it ever
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Actually, my husband also has the same mind-set when he hugs me and my daughter before leaving for work. He never actually told me that, but I heard him telling his grandma that and it just kinda...broke my heart for a reason. =/ I suppose I just don't wanna think about the worst in life...
Same with my family on my dad's side. (Don't really know my mom's side of the family) We all love each other but we never really say the words. I guess it comes off sorta awkward for us.
I never say it, since for some reason, I have trouble showing affection...
If anyone ever gets to hear those words from me, it's probably a once in a lifetime chance. xD
If anyone ever gets to hear those words from me, it's probably a once in a lifetime chance. xD
Kermit the Frog
The lot of you aren't green.
I never hear it, because at school (grade school) a lot of people look at me, and considering the fact that a lot of the guys in my class call me ugly and a freak (since I wear hearing aids, and I have hearing loss), it tells me that no one likes me or loves me.
I never hear it from my parents though. I know I love my dad and he loves me, but I never hear it from my mom. I bet she doesn't love me. But she wants me to be the best in ballet, since I'm like, 2ND DAMN BEST, AND SHE STILL WANTS ME TO BE NUMBUH 1!!!!!! Stoopid whore.
And no one really likes me because they think I'm emo, of all the black clothes I wear and bleached hair. EVERYONE in school don't like me. They say I lie alot. In fact, that's true. I just can't help myself into that, and I thought it would make me feel better. But now I'm stuck, being called a freak, having hearing loss, and waiting for my parents to say they love me so I can respond back.
And now I'm stuck.
Need'a say more?
I never hear it from my parents though. I know I love my dad and he loves me, but I never hear it from my mom. I bet she doesn't love me. But she wants me to be the best in ballet, since I'm like, 2ND DAMN BEST, AND SHE STILL WANTS ME TO BE NUMBUH 1!!!!!! Stoopid whore.
And no one really likes me because they think I'm emo, of all the black clothes I wear and bleached hair. EVERYONE in school don't like me. They say I lie alot. In fact, that's true. I just can't help myself into that, and I thought it would make me feel better. But now I'm stuck, being called a freak, having hearing loss, and waiting for my parents to say they love me so I can respond back.
And now I'm stuck.
Need'a say more?
I've had the same problem with the students in my school, but I've learned to ignore it. Kids are stupid and you shouldn't let what they say get to you, because they probably don't really mean it; it's human nature for people to bring down other people in order to make themselves feel better.
And I have an abusive father, so you're lucky that your mom isn't abusive.
Kermit the Frog
The lot of you aren't green.
That I know. But it's the guys who are doing it, not everyone.
You have an abusive father, I have an abusive GRANDFATHER. Oh, dear was he VERY abusive. Drove me insane.
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I don't hear it daily, nor do I care. With my friends it's pretty much a given that we care about each other, we don't need to say it. It can work the same with parents.
You let stuff get to you too much. So what people call you a freak? Ignore it or embrace it (I chose the latter in high school and it worked out quite well). So what you have hearing loss? I have a heart condition, my great arteries are BACKWARDS, I guarantee you that's worse but I don't complain. If people call you a freak for that, the hell with them. They're not worth the time of day to pay attention to. Your parents don't say "I love you"? So what? You can move out when you're 18 or whenever, then be done with them and never speak to them (i.e. make them feel like crap for the lulz).
I'll bet that's not true. I'll bet you she actually does love you, otherwise she probably wouldn't have you around. Some people just feel uncomfortable being open and saying I LOVE YOU all the time. As for people at school, they're just stupid and shouldn't even be worth your time.
Well, some parents can be pushy with their kids. Just point it out to her that you're doing the best you can and she should appreciate that you're even doing this in the first place. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. If you don't start now, then you'll just be a pussy for the rest of your life and I'm sure you don't want that, now do you?
Well, here's a clue Sherlock, STOP LYING! Seriously, if you're a chronic liar, then people are going to not want to hang out with you or be around you because of the fact that they probably wouldn't be able to trust you. If you told them something, how would they know if you were telling the truth? Another thing, you're sitting here blatantly telling us you're lying, so how do we know that you aren't lying right now about your parents not telling you they love you or the whole ballet thing? Lying online is a lot easier than doing it in real life. I'm sorry that you have hearing loss and all that, but if you actually tried to change yourself, stopped your lying, stood up for yourself instead of making yourself look like a pansy in front of people, then most likely things would be different for you. If you want to hear I love you that badly from your parents, then why don't you know, Oh I don't know...go tell them that's what you want to hear? Stop beating around the bush and just do it.
I stopped saying "I love you" at a somewhat young age - though I can't remember exactly, I must've been around 8 or so.
At such an age it seems absurd that one would believe its meaning was lost to them, so I can't understand why I chose to stop saying it indefinitely; I only later came to understand the word was used too loosely for me to say and mean it.
It's said to me by the likes of family, and even jokingly from friends... but I just can't bring myself to say it. There's not a single person I could I consider I "love" enough to come out with it.
At such an age it seems absurd that one would believe its meaning was lost to them, so I can't understand why I chose to stop saying it indefinitely; I only later came to understand the word was used too loosely for me to say and mean it.
It's said to me by the likes of family, and even jokingly from friends... but I just can't bring myself to say it. There's not a single person I could I consider I "love" enough to come out with it.
See what LA meant, Amelia? Some people just aren't comfortable with saying "I love you", or just plain don't want to. I should probably add to some things LA touched on that I didn't, too.
Your parents want you to be "NUMBUH 1" because they want you to succeed. Also, another reason why parents push their kids hard to succeed in areas is because it gives them pride. But if you try your absolute best and still can't be the best in class, and if they can't accept that, you know what? Deal with it. My dad was like that to me about math in high school. I tried my hardest but still failed most everything. He's since lightened up now that I'm in college. Best thing to do is take pride in doing the best you can.
As for lying...well GEE, I wonder why people don't like you? Maybe because you LIE and they can't trust you. Why don't you try fixing that instead of complaining about how they dislike you for it. Here's a hint: nobody likes people they can't trust, it's only natural they dislike you. Like LA said, for all we know you're making every bit of your sob story up.
And here's another idea for ya: instead of waiting around for your parents to say "I love you" and feeling depressed about it, why don't you take the initiative and tell THEM you love them and let them respond?
Kermit the Frog
The lot of you aren't green.
Well, in fact I kiss them on the cheek, Serbian style.
The only person that tells me that they love me is my boyfriend. We talk about every other day so I don't get to hear it that much. Besides my boyfriend, I say I love you to my animals every day!
Since my boyfriend and I don't get to see a lot of each other, I love you is actually kind of important between us because it's nice to know that even though we can't see each other for long periods of time we still know how we feel about each other.
Since my boyfriend and I don't get to see a lot of each other, I love you is actually kind of important between us because it's nice to know that even though we can't see each other for long periods of time we still know how we feel about each other.
Easy. I hear them multiple times a day, both from my boyfriend and my autistic nephew. My nephew really just started saying it, so everytime he says it, it means a lot to me. And of course, from my boyfriend, every single time he says it makes me feel soooo good, knowing that he's my first love, and that I'm his first true love. We always mean it when we say it. 
Miss Valentine
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My brother's Autistic, and he tells my mum he loves her all the time, but every now and again he'll say it to me too, yeah it is really sweet
I tell my son I love him, not every day because I'm not that kind of person, but when it feels right to say it, I do. He's been trying to tell me back, it comes out as "I o ewe!!", but it means just as much as if his speech was perfect.
Romance however, y'all can keep it. It's too easy to get caught up in those words and make them sound meaningful, when actually they are not, or they're not quite what you thought. My ex used to tell me that he loved me when he was abusing me, not the kind of love someone would want, but scarily I knew he meant it. I never use those words trivially or casually, they are too powerful.
I tell my son I love him, not every day because I'm not that kind of person, but when it feels right to say it, I do. He's been trying to tell me back, it comes out as "I o ewe!!", but it means just as much as if his speech was perfect.
Romance however, y'all can keep it. It's too easy to get caught up in those words and make them sound meaningful, when actually they are not, or they're not quite what you thought. My ex used to tell me that he loved me when he was abusing me, not the kind of love someone would want, but scarily I knew he meant it. I never use those words trivially or casually, they are too powerful.
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^ I wuv woo!! lol.
I tell my better half I love her all the time. I also tell my mom before I hang up the phone EVERY time. Reason being you never know when someone will not be around and I would like my last words to her to be I love her. I also tell my kids before they go to sleep.
It goes something like.............
"Love ya good night. Now turn off the damn t.v. and get to bed!!"
I tell my better half I love her all the time. I also tell my mom before I hang up the phone EVERY time. Reason being you never know when someone will not be around and I would like my last words to her to be I love her. I also tell my kids before they go to sleep.
It goes something like.............
"Love ya good night. Now turn off the damn t.v. and get to bed!!"
These are words are don't often say. I feel they have little meaning nowadays 'cause people say them so often. "I love you". Eh, it can be said to anyone. You can say it to someone you've just met if they make you laugh, in a jokey way, meaning you love their sense og humour. Granted, not many would say it to someone they've just met, but some would.
I don't say it to my family, I say it to my friends without meaning, and I said it to my boyfriends 'cause anything else would've been strange. In truth, I never feel what the words express. Love for a friend is something different to what the words were once used for so I feel wrong using it then. The words aren't special enough for a wonderful boyfriend/partner. They don't sound right because they put the feeling down.
But, tbh, I've never experienced this thing call love. My recent ex said it to me. He even said he was in love, something I see to have more meaning. But he dumped me a week after asking me out, despite apparently loving me for 6 months(ish). Another week later and he had a new girlfriend. Love. Pah! Even liars use it.
So few even know what "love" is. After everything with my ex (he's messed me around three times now), I find that my feelings have almost faded entirely. I think about him from time to time still, as you can see from this post, but I don't long to be with him anymore. How can I say I ever loved him? I can't have done, can I? Maybe as a friend. Maybe I just loved to laugh. But I used the words 'cause he made me happy then. Now he doesn't. Now I wouldn't think about using them. I just long to know the answers to my questions. Why did he even ask me out a third time? Why did he spend money coming to see me? Did he dump me FOR this closer gf? If so, he lied to me. I believe he did. No one asks out a customer at work if they work in a game shop!
I don't say it to my family, I say it to my friends without meaning, and I said it to my boyfriends 'cause anything else would've been strange. In truth, I never feel what the words express. Love for a friend is something different to what the words were once used for so I feel wrong using it then. The words aren't special enough for a wonderful boyfriend/partner. They don't sound right because they put the feeling down.
But, tbh, I've never experienced this thing call love. My recent ex said it to me. He even said he was in love, something I see to have more meaning. But he dumped me a week after asking me out, despite apparently loving me for 6 months(ish). Another week later and he had a new girlfriend. Love. Pah! Even liars use it.
So few even know what "love" is. After everything with my ex (he's messed me around three times now), I find that my feelings have almost faded entirely. I think about him from time to time still, as you can see from this post, but I don't long to be with him anymore. How can I say I ever loved him? I can't have done, can I? Maybe as a friend. Maybe I just loved to laugh. But I used the words 'cause he made me happy then. Now he doesn't. Now I wouldn't think about using them. I just long to know the answers to my questions. Why did he even ask me out a third time? Why did he spend money coming to see me? Did he dump me FOR this closer gf? If so, he lied to me. I believe he did. No one asks out a customer at work if they work in a game shop!
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Alas, my parents are like that. It doesn't help that I'm already A-driven (want to get straight As), but they can push me abit far. XD
And I love you, I say it to everyone in my family about four times a day. In the morning (along with 'Bye!', 'Take care.', and 'Have a good day!'. I also say it when I get home, and about twice before I go to sleep. I say it alot, but that's because one day a few months ago, I realize that we had almost completely stopped saying 'I love you'. And, I just didn't want to ever forget, or not want to stop saying that ever again. I also love to hug to show my love, and I don't stop saying I love you until they say it back, or at least acknowledge it (at least with people in my immediate family). And I heard someone saying stuff about kissing on the cheek, or the like, I only do that for people I reeeally love.