Are you a good person?

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I've been thinking about this myself and have come to the conclusion that if I keep going at this rate the highest I'll be able to shoot for is purgatory (cause I was raise Catholic and stuff). But hey we all have some view of what a "good person" is supposed to be like. So the question I'm asking is this:

Do you consider yourself a good person? And what qualities does a "good person" posses in your views?

It would be intersting to get alot of diffwerent point of views don't you think?
 
I'm not sure what you mean when you say a 'good person', but I think for the most part I am. I never actually thought about this myself until my doctor and counselor told me themselves that they thought I was a really good person, and so much more. My counselor told me first, and because I was curious I asked her what made her say that. Then she repeated what I told her; I was in a terrible mood and took it out on my science teacher. After class, I apologized to him because he didn't deserve that.

I think in general I can be a good person to other people. If I don't like the way someone is I don't hate on them, I accept who they are and move on. It's simply a waste of energy to continue disliking or even hating. I don't treat people the way I want to be treated because everyone is different. What I consider to be funny may be offensive to others, so I treat a person how they would want to be treated. Really, I'm not sure what a good person is or what makes someone a good person, I just know I'm not a bad person. :/
 
No, I'm a very bad person. I'm sadistic, selfish, mean spirited, and manage to hide it all with a smile and a pleasant demeanor. I can't stand deluded happy romantic types who think the world is all flowers and sunshine and I get amusement out of watching them fail. I'm the type of guy who would laugh at seeing a cat thrown in a swimming pool for no reason. But you would have no idea if you met me in person.

And I'm planning on having a hell of a lot more fun when I get out of college and don't have to worry about causing problems with family members at home.
 
I could be heaven material one day, but at the moment I can see myself heading towards purgatory as well. I will never imagine hell though :wacky:

I would say I am a good person. I am not an aggressive person, I never intentionally get confrontational with people unless absolutely necessary. I have never bullied anyone before because I prefer befriending others. I've always opposed bullying because I suffered from it when I was younger.

I have always embraced that saying about treating others like how I want to be treated. I too have treated some people badly out of blind fury, though I have stopped to think about it and quickly apologise. I remember that happening to my late grandfather years ago.

Helping others is also a sign of a good person. I have done my share to help others before, from small things such as pass the tissue to things such as volunteering to be part of the eco council to clean the college up. I believe that it is good people who get up and do things.

Of course I am nice and polite to others. I hope I have made that impression on this forum. I would always say "hello" and thank others. If I ever seem demeaning to others, it should hopefully be in a joking and sarcastic way.
 
OliverSKX said:
Do you consider yourself a good person?
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Interesting question, and I'm not entirely sure. I try to be nice and kind with people and be as great as I can, and naturally I do feel for people's pain most of the time, and I just like learning about people even though I might not exactly be all that great with conversations and getting them flowing.

There's a fair bit of darkness in me though, but there is in most / nearly everyone in some form. I have some bad habits I want to get out of, but they're mostly habits that affect me as opposed to affecting other people.

It's hard to judge if I think I'm a good person or not though, as I have little self respect for myself, always looking up at what other people have done with themselves and just being amazed. Sure, I worked for 5 years as a volunteer at Oxfam charity store, and only stopped when it closed down, but that's essentially the only thing I've done that might have semi-impacted something. But I'd be lying to say I'll have made a huge impact being there.




And what qualities does a "good person" posses in your views?
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That's a tough one. I believe most / if not all people have good in them, and that it is either the stress of life, or the loss of rational thinking that turns people bad.

I've learned how easy it is to lose rational thinking, and that the effects can be pretty negative on a persons life, and make it much harder to function, and to get back to rational thought. It's something that if you ever get a grip you'll look back at yourself and either laugh or think "I was such an idiot", but at the time it genuinely is driving you insane, and you go mad and can't think of a logical escape plan. I think it's this that can send some people over the edge and do bad things.

So I think there is usually some sort of reason for people being bad, once you get to know them a bit, even the ones that claim they're only bad because they're one badass mudda fragger.

I can't say that understanding people and their reasons for being how they are and trying to get through to them or befriend them makes a person good, though, as there are people I respect still who I know would rather kick people in the face and laugh at them when they land in a puddle.

We're all different and have different reasons for being how we are / how we think. We can't all think the same, we can't all view life the same, we haven't all had the same experiences in our life, and we can't have the same levels of tolerance for others.

So for me it's hard to answer what it is to be a good person, and to say if I am one or not.
 
I try my best to be the best person I can be. I'm only human and sometimes I just don't have time for people. If you mean good person as in wanting to help people then yes I'm a pretty good person.

If you mean good person as in a sinner... well, that depends on your religion. =D
 
Cricket said:
If you mean good person as in a sinner... well, that depends on your religion. =D
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Sinner, winner, it only gets thinner. I'm tryin to find your views and what YOU mean by good person! But judging by that line I don't know what to think! x3
 
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I think that I'm a good person.

I always think of others before myself, which sometimes isn't always good on my part, but it still makes me feel good. >.<

I always try to help out my friends with what I can and am always there if they need comfort in times of need.

E.g: My best friends partner went down to NSW for three weeks leaving her all alone.

I came over and kept her company, even if that meant I had to leave Steve on his own for a few days here and there. He understood that she was having a hard time and I know that if I was going through the same thing that I would want someone there for me too.

I did go through something like this once and I had an old friend ages ago who would not help me out in anyway because she thought that if she stayed away from her boyfriend of three years more than one day that he would dump her. <_< It obviously wasn't working that well if she thought that. =/ But yeah she ditched her best friend at the time (me) because of that.

Anyway, I always make sure that I give people the time of day if they need help as well, whether it be at work or somewhere else and I never lash out at anyone if they don't understand something. I always try to encourage more than point out their flaws.

I think that's all I have for now. >.<
 
Well, I'm just starting to feel a little better about myself as a person, but I still wouldn't say I am a good person...mainly because I don't always get along with people very well...

This is the worst in real life, it isn't as bad online, but I still think it shows, like my seriousness, and definitely competitiveness (though not always a bad thing, to be sure, it can put me in a position to help others out too, like in the RPG Inferno here), obsessively much so, probably to an unhealthy level.

I have my good points though: I am clean (don't drink, smoke, or do drugs), and I don't use very foul language, like many people seem to these days...and I want to be a better person, I have the will to be, I just need to socialize more or something, I don't get out much, at all.

I'd say a "good person" should be honest, not quick to go judging others for their actions, especially when they may not have seen the full picture to whatever event or discussion, and not have a short fuse (get mad very easily, kinda like I do sometimes in rl...), and put others before themselves, at least a good amount of the time, depends on the situation, I suppose.
 
I believe myself to be a good person, though I have my moments of fault and I have a dark side, though everyone does.

I think there truly arent many good people any more. In my eyes, good people are not people who go out and get drunk constantly and are the types of people who treat women or men like sex objects. The whole club mentality of our society in my eyes is ruining the morality of people today. You have divorce rates through the roof because people dont want to dedicate themselves to one person, but act like they should get all the benefits and loyalty of that one person. It upsets me so much.

That's why I think Im a good person. I see all of that and it not only enrages me, but saddens me at the same time to see all these things going on. It makes me strive to better myself and to associate with people who respect themselves and feelings of those they are friends with. Trust is a very fragile thing in my eyes and it's hard to gain from people today.

Im genuinely nice to people when I meet them, but if they are people I dont think respect themselves or the people around them, then I may still be nice to them if I have to be around them, but I choose not to associate with them. Since so many people are like that today, it can be lonely, but at the same time, there are many people I have met that I am very grateful for.
 
I mean I cosider myself a good person. I tend to get a bit mouthy here and there but, I never really done anything at that sort to make me an 'bad' person.( crimes, etc) I'm usually a goody-two-shoes and I like helping people :). In my eyes, a good person is someone who goes out of their way to help others & their community you know an overall nice person in general. Someone who doesn't get mad easily, forgives etc etc. I mean not everyone's perfect, we all make mistakes. But, I think a good person is someone who's smart and takes consquences for their actions and are(for the most part) honest. I don't really think theres a thing call 'good' and 'bad' people but what I think is that theres a thing called 'good choices' and 'bad choices' There is people out there who are what I consider 'bad' people that are rude, dont learn from their actions abuse/hurt people animals steal, etc etc. And that's why I don't really consider myself a bad person because I haven't done anything on the lines of that.
 
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Vryheid said:
No, I'm a very bad person. I'm sadistic, selfish, mean spirited, and manage to hide it all with a smile and a pleasant demeanor. I can't stand deluded happy romantic types who think the world is all flowers and sunshine and I get amusement out of watching them fail. I'm the type of guy who would laugh at seeing a cat thrown in a swimming pool for no reason. But you would have no idea if you met me in person.

And I'm planning on having a hell of a lot more fun when I get out of college and don't have to worry about causing problems with family members at home.
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Noted. I can see what type of guy you are, but I won't condemn or approve your actions. You are what you are.

On with the topic. I consider myself somewhere in the middle. I'm the religious type, and I've done bad things again and again. Even lately. But just stuff Christians would considers "sinning".

My views of being of good person can differ from some of you here. Even if someone is the biggest @$$[beep] in the whole world there's a chance that person has some standards. I've met a guy in my senior year in high school. He admitted right off that he was an @$$[beep], but he didn't just rip on anybody. Only those that pissed him off. And nerds. :)

So people can believe to be good while part of them is bad. Or there are those who admit they're bad while deep down there's some good in them. You could be a homicidal maniac, but if they have kids (and if they love them), even they can do some good by providing for them. That's an example of what I have said.

I could add more, but I'll end it like this. I'm nice to people and help them IF I happen to be in the mood. The highest i could shoot for is Purgatory (for I'm Catholic as well), but I wouldn't be surprised (or happy) if I end up in Hell.
 
OliverSKX said:
Sinner, winner, it only gets thinner. I'm tryin to find your views and what YOU mean by good person! But judging by that line I don't know what to think! x3
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My view on what a good person is someone who has good actions. Like for example. You find a lost wallet on the street.

My idea of a bad person: Takes the money for him/herself

My idea of a good person: Finds the owner of the wallet and returns it with all the goods still inside.

And the sinner comment was more related to those who are hardcore religion. Some believe that if you have a different sexual preference or worship another god you're going to hell.
 
I try to be a good person, but sometimes it just doesn't work out.

I always think about other people before myself.

Here's an example: two years ago in April, one of my best friends passed away. Most of the people that liked him were my friends too. When they were down or sad, I would help them. I would take time during school to help them and make sure they were alright. Isn't that what a good person/friend is supposed to do in that situation?
 
Cardiac Kid said:
I try to be a good person, but sometimes it just doesn't work out.

I always think about other people before myself.

Here's an example: two years ago in April, one of my best friends passed away. Most of the people that liked him were my friends too. When they were down or sad, I would help them. I would take time during school to help them and make sure they were alright. Isn't that what a good person/friend is supposed to do in that situation?
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Huh. My situation's almost the same as yours. A friend of mine passed away in April...of 2008. Those that were close to her were depressed, including her own father. But since I live in the Midwest and that friend lived in Oregon, I could only comfort them with words. Since I couldn't help them much, one of them committed suicide just last November.

To answer your question, yes. A good person would find time for their friends, especially if they have problems. If your friends are down, cheer them up, give them things, anything to make them feel better. Don't do nothing. At least do SOMEthing. Just don't get stuck in my situation if you can keep them away from depression.
 
I think i am somewhat a good person, i try to be there for others should they need someone to talk to. I help out however i can without asking for anything in return, though some see that as being too nice. Even though i agree with that i rather be a nice guy than a prick to everyone. Though i have toned it down a bit, doesn't mean that i am any less nicer than i was before.


Qualities for being a good person? I say willing to help when and wherever help is needed, treat others well, and be there for the people they care about always. That's all that i can think of, i'll add more to this post later when i think of more.
 
Vryheid said:
No, I'm a very bad person. I'm sadistic, selfish, mean spirited, and manage to hide it all with a smile and a pleasant demeanor. I can't stand deluded happy romantic types who think the world is all flowers and sunshine and I get amusement out of watching them fail.
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Oh my :awesome: i love how honest this is.

I'm a romantic, believe in the pursuit of love and happiness, and believe that we make our own purpose in life, and all that jazz. but if i were to tally up everything good or bad that i've done, i'd be a horrible person - according to mainstream society. On the surface, most people are nice. Deep inside, i think many people can be misanthropes like mr. Vryheid here, or apathetic, selfish, etc. Look at what the majority of people do when they see a man in pain on the sidewalk, they walk right past him. But often-times we don't admit to ourselves the darker desires we have, and omit them to put on a pleasant face and friendly smile.
 
Neither good nor bad, actually. I may act nice towards others (whom I do not dislike) sincerely, but I enjoy seeing those whom I hate suffer terribly.
If you ask my friends, they'll tell you I'm a very nice person : selfless, caring, always helping, not judgmental. But only I know that I wish my enemies to suffer and even wish death to them.

They're okay right? I AM sincere doing nice things to my friends.

As for the other question, I believe "good" is a relative term with no parameter or whatsoever, whether by norm and tradition or linguistic definition. It's hard to say what exactly makes a person "good". But I do know some people are "better" than others.
 
I am a good person when I want to be :wacky:

No, really, I am too good of a person. People tend to take advantage of me, since I can't hurt someone on purpose physically or emotionally. I tend to want to be nice to anyone, friend or foe, until they for some reason become a threat to my life.

I guess that I have my bad days, but I am still a good person even when angered. I think that maybe I should toughen up more, as sometimes my niceness comes across wrong in many different ways :gonk:
 
There are no absolute definitions of concepts such as "good", so really it depends on your perspective. What constitutes a "good" person would depend entirely on how you decide to view it. For example, if someone is always abrupt with what they say, you could say that person was being honest, or you could say they were being tactless. We all have our own views of what is desirable in someone and what isn't - the idea of "good" is just a view that is held by a large majority of people, that doesn't make it absolute.

From the conventional standpoint, I would say that I am not a good person, mostly because I possess no moral compass and I can be extremely insensitive if people come to me with problems (amongst other things...I'm not going to make a list of my "negative" traits. It'd be a very long post. XD). However, a lot of people have told me that I have a clear and unbiased mind, and that I give them helpful advice, rather than a shoulder to cry on, which aids them a lot more in the long run. Saying that I know myself better than others know me is rather arrogant and may not be correct, because people are constantly re-inventing themselves in their own minds, and we rarely see in us that which we truly do not like.

I have a very cynical view of humanity - I don't believe anyone ever sincerely does something for someone else unless there is something in it for them. I do try to help my friends, but is it for my own personal satisfaction or their well-being? It depends on how you look at it. Ultimately, I guess it doesn't matter, because everyone will form their own preconceptions of others and, once they've been formed, they're practically set in stone. If you have a negative first impression of someone, from that point onwards you're going to view all of their traits in a negative light. Same goes for a positive first impression. One could argue that a "good" person is one who has made a good first impression on you, and that a "bad" person is one who hasn't. There will be exceptions, of course, but a great deal of people (at least, those who I have come across, which I suppose isn't very many, but this is just my rather limited opinion) are biased one way or the other after that initial first contact, and have their own standards they hold people to when deciding whether they are good or bad.
 
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