What Makes a Whore?

[GalaxyFlare]

And here I thought this was a class?

A whore to me is what has been described above, Im not sure if using a womens wiles is considered being whore? flirting to get you way or to manipulate is done on many different levels by everyone.

Certainly a person who sleeps around is considered undesirable by there peers and people of good moral conscience, its a demeaning trait to have as a person, certainly the primary aspect of being whore is the sleeping around, thinks like cheating occur but only with one person, if a person cheats on a single partner with multiple people thats a whore.

Dressing? like a whore? not so much, if its for the wrong reasons then maybe, but if you are comfortable in what you wear and it just happens to be revealing then no, sliming all over an un-attached person and redirecting your attention when ignored thats a whore.

Here is a scenario, a common scenario: you dont know the amount of people you have slept with, but everyone else does...........thats a whore like trait. When people make jokes about like "S/he is like a doorknob, everyone has had a turn" or "They(random person) are like the town bike, everyone has had a ride" thats whore signal

I knew a chick in high school she was Whore, she exhibited all the classic signs, she was all over my mate all the time, even flashinmg him in dudes toilets she hung out with the fat kids and they listened to the beatles all the time

The worlds oldest profession? Prostitutes are technically whores, but they are like certified and you know it so its kind off all right........kinda, its people who hide/dont care that are the most whore like, Men and women wh show concern over there sexual activity and who they sleep with are not whores, the opposite of this is.

If you want a genetic marker the indicates a whore then can find one, its based on certain chromosomal allignment that establishes with in person at birth and through growing the importance of maintaining a singular exclusive relationship through out there life, it is also a learned behavior.

This was either really good or complete garbage?

 

[Bambi]

I dont think a woman sleeping around is a whore as long as it's her decision and its what she wants to do. It's her own body to do what she wants with as long as it doesn't hurt anyone in the process and as long as she's careful, who's business is it to judge?

However, if the woman in question is using her body to seduce a man for her own benefits, or just maliciously knowing he has a gf, then to me, thats a whore.

I'm not even sure I could say as long as the woman has self respect she can do as she pleases, because there's any number of reasons why a woman could go down the route of sleeping around, self esteeme is usually the biggest factor with this kind of situation I think - and thats a lack of self respect by default, but I dont think that makes the woman a whore, just abit misguided I guess

And on to how women dress, judging by what alot of folk think, then, Im a whore just because of some of the clothes I go out in. I wear what Im comfortable in, if that happens to be semi naked, well excuse me for having a body confident day. I'm certainly not doing it for the benefit of others, though I will admit, I do like the shock vfactor of some of the things I wear haha, but its never about OOH il get all the boys, I just want to feel good about myself and what I wear and have a laugh with my mates

 

[Ayumi Hamasaki]

Okay see this is a prime example. Why? If she's used protection, hasn't gained a single STD or pregnancy from any of these, what does the past matter towards a future commitment/sexual relation? I just don't get it.

Well to be honest, I wouldn't date someone who had alot of sexual activity in the past for one simple reason. To me it hints of a fear of commitment or an inability to commit. I mean sure, she may have been single, and she may have 31 partners with no intent of finding a permanent one in 2 years, but still to me that's too many.

That goes for guys too. I will not date a guy who's been all the over place. It makes me uncomfortable. And for the same reason above.

 

[Bambi]

what if you got to know someone you really liked them, and I'm not just talking, yeah few dates,m this person is ok. You click think woo this could really go somewhere, then they dropped that on you? Its not like you meet someone and they are like HEY ive slept with loads of people!

Each to their own and that, but would you really write some one off just because of their sexual history?

edit* who's to say at the time the person wanted a relationshio? I know Ive had a period of, needing to be on my own and not wanting a realtionship. That's not a fear of commitment, that's just me needing my own time not having to consider another person til Im good and ready.

 

[Ayumi Hamasaki]

what if you got to know someone you really liked them, and I'm not just talking, yeah few dates,m this person is ok. You click think woo this could really go somewhere, then they dropped that on you? Its not like you meet someone and they are like HEY ive slept with loads of people!

Each to their own and that, but would you really write some one off just because of their sexual history?

edit* who's to say at the time the person wanted a relationshio? I know Ive had a period of, needing to be on my own and not wanting a realtionship. That's not a fear of commitment, that's just me needing my own time not having to consider another person til Im good and ready.

I wouldn't say that I would TOTALLY write someone off because of it, but it would be a factor in my decision. I would have to think about it. It's just the way it is for me. Someone can't tell me they've slept with that many people and expect me to be like "Yay!". I just doesn't work that way.

There's a difference between taking me time and not wanting a relationship and sleeping with half the town. One is acceptable. One is meh. It would just make me really uncomfortable, can't say more than that.

 

[Tmoo]

whore: a person who uses sex for money or benefits other than a relationship.

promiscuous people don't necessarily fall into it, as there are many reasons for being promiscuous; most of which fall under my definition of whore, but at least one of which that don't, such as serial monogamy, where the person is unable to find a lasting relationship.

whores aren't necessarily bad people either. i've known a few and they're very much normal save for the fact that they sleep around, usually for personal pleasure or to feel accepted. it's unhealthy, but it doesn't make them bad. and there's the case of the woman who uses sex to make a living for her family.

also, whore =/= cheater under my view of whoredom. a whore sleeps around with a lot of people, a cheater is someone in a relationship who breaks the trust of their partner by sleeping with someone else. i'd take a whore over a cheater any day. granted, i'd be very cautious around her.

which brings me to my last point. it's fine to have sex with lots of people. just don't expect to be high-fived for it, and be aware that your sexual history is important to your SO (as is theirs to you), for all the reasons explained in other posts. if someone really doesn't believe promiscuity is important, they wouldn't care if it became public knowledge.

 

[Sum1sgruj]

I'm seeing a lot of dictionary definition of what the word whore means_

Why?

This thread is obviously not intended to argue exact definition, but rather the broad spectrum of how whore is generally referred.
Typically, someone who sells their body is referenced as a hooker. I don't see people say "hey can you go in the backyard and feed my bitch? she doesn't seem to gay today."

C'mon people.

A whore is someone who sleeps around with little respect for themselves or others.
That is my definition_

 

[CassinoChips]

I mean sure, she may have been single, and she may have 31 partners with no intent of finding a permanent one in 2 years, but still to me that's too many.

I think that's Channy's point. Why is it too many? What number is too many?

I think a large part of it is that there's this whole mindset wrapped around sex. That it has to be within a relationship to be healthy/good/whatever. I've heard of several cases where the sex within a relationship is not healthy. And, frankly, it's a biological imperative to have sex. So why begrudge a woman who simply does what nature is asking her to do, whether it's with one person 30 times, or 30 people one time?

Yes, there are dangers associated with sex. But if a woman takes the proper precautions, enjoys the encounter, and moves on, what's the harm? In the words of a T-shirt I saw once, "Relax. It's just sex."

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

37! My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks!

Hey, try not to suck any dick on the way to the parking lot!

In my humble opinion, I would rather not date a girl that's been the town bicycle for that last few years. Also, I would rather not date a girl who's vagina has been the "ground zero" of sex. I kind of make it a rule not to date someone who's seen more dick at the end of the week than I've seen good movies in my lifetime.

Sure, if you want to go around, sleeping with every man you see walking down the damned street, go right on ahead. However, don't expect me to not give you any odd glances. When more men can make free throws in your vagina more than Shaq can make a normal free throw, you've got a problem.

Yes, it's your body, do you what you want. But expecting people not to judge a woman for going down on the neighborhood (literally) is somewhat naive.

Say what you will, attempt to justify it as you will, but if it walks like a whore, talks like a whore, acts like a whore, and has sex with every friend I have on Facebook like a whore, then the odds are that it's a fucking whore.

EDIT: This goes the same for men, minus the vagina and add a penis, and replace the vagina puns with penis ones and chalk it up as the same fucking post.

 

[Tmoo]

I'm seeing a lot of dictionary definition of what the word whore means_

Why?

This thread is obviously not intended to argue exact definition, but rather the broad spectrum of how whore is generally referred.
Typically, someone who sells their body is referenced as a hooker. I don't see people say "hey can you go in the backyard and feed my bitch? she doesn't seem to gay today."

C'mon people.

What did you expect? if all of our definitions of 'whore' are different, what's the point of arguing? There's no basis.

The example sentence you typed works; i've heard people use gay and bitch in their politically correct terms (mostly older folk, and only a few, but it counts). For the record, the definition i posted before is my personal gauge and not the dictionary version.

After re-reading the OP and some replies i realize this thread's purpose isn't objective discussion- my mistake. I'll leave here and be on my merry way.


Team Rocket's blasting off again-
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[Ayumi Hamasaki]

I think a large part of it is that there's this whole mindset wrapped around sex. That it has to be within a relationship to be healthy/good/whatever. I've heard of several cases where the sex within a relationship is not healthy. And, frankly, it's a biological imperative to have sex. So why begrudge a woman who simply does what nature is asking her to do, whether it's with one person 30 times, or 30 people one time?

Surely you see there's a difference between doing it with one person 30 times and doing with 30 people right?

And I would say someone who's had sex with 30 people in 2 years is probably a bit of a slut. Not defintely. But probably. And I don't begrudge women. A man can be a filthy whore too. If a man had sex with 30 different men, then he's off my list more than likely. That's the way I am.

Maybe I'm stupid. But then I saw something where casual sex is becoming like dinner and a movie in the dating world. If that's true, then it's whorish for me. You can't get to know someone purely based on sex.

 

[CassinoChips]

Surely you see there's a difference between doing it with one person 30 times and doing with 30 people right?

On the same day? Sure. Over the period of 2 years? Not really. But here's the point with that. If it's meaningless casual sex with one person 30 times, how is that different from meaningless casual sex with 30 different people one time?

And I would say someone who's had sex with 30 people in 2 years is probably a bit of a slut. Not defintely. But probably.

Really? Because that's like.... one a month. For two years. Nooot that big of a deal, really.

If a man had sex with 30 different men, then he's off my list more than likely. That's the way I am.

Mine too.

Maybe I'm stupid. But then I saw something where casual sex is becoming like dinner and a movie in the dating world. If that's true, then it's whorish for me. You can't get to know someone purely based on sex.

Why do you have to get to know someone? Again, that goes back to the mindset thing. We have a tendency to romanticize sex and place a little too much importance in it. Is it an important aspect of a relationship? Sure. But is a relationship in any way necessary for two consenting adults to have sex? Not really.

 

[Rapture]

I don't personally use the word in real life as I consider it a swear. Although its gotten more popular with the younger crowd since that famous quote from Mean Girls "Boo, you whore." I'm sorry but I'd never call one of my friends a whore. My friends are all professionals and it would be severely out of place for me to call one of them that...no matter how lax we are or how well I know them. ...and if someone was trying to insult me by calling me one, I'd laugh because I know they don't know really anything about me and its just some cheap blind insult. I never called anyone that in High School and I certainly was never called one.

My definition of the word is simple...and very obvious. If you have sex with many, many people unprotected or not, have 10 babies with 10 baby daddies, are catching STDs like kids catch colds, and purposely go out to the bars every weekend in hopes of picking up a one night stand....you are a whore. The word isn't gender specific to me either because there are man-whores...and I've known plenty in my day. It isn't fair that only women get called whores..when men are out doing the same thing.

 

[Gaige]

I personally take the terms slut and whore as having immediately negative connotations if used in a serious context.

My idea of a "whore" or a "slut" is somebody who can happily and without any remorse go and have sex with another person while in a committed relationship, without their boyfriend/girlfriend's knowledge and consent. I have it so detailed due to the kinds of polygamous shit people get into these days with multiple lovers.

I don't take people who just tend to enjoy sex more than your average Joe or Jane as sluts. That's a lifestyle choice, and one that's not really hurting anybody. I'm not one of those people who believes that a one night stand automatically equals a chance at a committed relationship, so if somebody goes around having one night stands while using protection, fine by me. It's a lifestyle choice, and I see nothing morally wrong with it.

People take all kinds of attitudes to sex. To some it's just something for pleasure and recreation. To others it's the ultimate sign of commitment. But you're not a whore just because you have loads of sex. It's not really the lifestyle for me but if somebody uses protection and doesn't give the person they're sleeping with hope of a proper relationship, I fail to see the harm. I guess this opinion can be viewed as two dimensional, but there you go.

 

[Channizard]

Alright, so everybody seems to be in agreement that a 'whore' is someone who's having sex with someone else while they're (either party) is in a relationship. Trying to lure men (or women) from a relationship with sex, that's a whore. Sure, it's a shitty thing to do, they've got no morals.

But Jesse sees pretty much exactly where I'm coming from, word for word. A lot of couples don't even have the whole sexual history talk until much later on when they're more in a comfortable place in their relationship, so would you really dump someone you'd gone out with for.. 3.. 6.. 12 months, if you just found out that maybe they slept with twice as many people as you did? Isn't that kinda really shallow? If they were safe and weren't bringing any medical baggage into the next relationship.. what SHOULD it matter to you?

 

[GalaxyFlare]

The point is they are with you at the time.

You cant change the past, if you cant handle the truth dont ask, and if it causes a break up, then many other things could do the same thing given what fucks relationships up these days. This information should not mean the termination of long term relationship surely?

If your partner is with you at the time that all you need to worry about, trust with out reservation, and doubt when its warranted.

*faints*

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

so would you really dump someone you'd gone out with for.. 3.. 6.. 12 months, if you just found out that maybe they slept with twice as many people as you did?

If my girlfriend comes up to me and says that she's had sex with 1000 different men, and I'm 1001, I'm out of there. I couldn't care less if she's clean. A fucking jackhammer doesn't even get that kind of pounding.

Isn't that kinda really shallow?

In a way, but look who you're talking to. I'm not exactly known for morals around here.

If they were safe and weren't bringing any medical baggage into the next relationship.. what SHOULD it matter to you?

That more men have explored her cave more than Indiana Jones has explored caves in general. My rocket ship doesn't want to go exploring in places that have been charted by hundreds of men before me.

Also, with the whole, "she has to satisfy sexual wants and needs" bullshit, if she's having sex with a shit load of dudes, sounds like that woman needs therapy, not sex.

There is also a thing called a marital aid. Perhaps a woman should invest in one of those rather than letting strangers explore her cave of wonders.

Men, no fucking excuses, put a wig on your right hand and call it a night.

Best fucking learn how to play some motherfucking Nintendo WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

 

[Ayumi Hamasaki]

That more men have explored her cave more than Indiana Jones has explored caves in general. My rocket ship doesn't want to go exploring in places that have been charted by hundreds of men before me.

Also, with the whole, "she has to satisfy sexual wants and needs" bullshit, if she's having sex with a shit load of dudes, sounds like that woman needs therapy, not sex.

There is also a thing called a marital aid. Perhaps a woman should invest in one of those rather than letting strangers explore her cave of wonders.

Men, no fucking excuses, put a wig on your right hand and call it a night.

Best fucking learn how to play some motherfucking Nintendo WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

I agree. Maybe I'm shallow as well, but the fact that someone, either sex, has had that MUCH sex doesn't do it for me. But you know what? That's not odd at all. I mean if someone can say that brunettes don't turn them on or that they wouldn't date one, or if someone can say they wouldn't date chubby people, then why can't I say that I don't wanna date someone who's had more people in and out of her or him than the Subway down the street?

 

[Dionysos]

But Jesse sees pretty much exactly where I'm coming from, word for word. A lot of couples don't even have the whole sexual history talk until much later on when they're more in a comfortable place in their relationship, so would you really dump someone you'd gone out with for.. 3.. 6.. 12 months, if you just found out that maybe they slept with twice as many people as you did? Isn't that kinda really shallow? If they were safe and weren't bringing any medical baggage into the next relationship.. what SHOULD it matter to you?

If that was revealed that late then, depending on the man, it could be an issue that the man would have to deal with (be it carry on, knowing he loves the girl, or being more cautious, or even to turn her away at that point – or suggest a short break while he thinks more about it). If it was me I’d probably not end the relationship there and then, but I wouldn’t be able to help feeling insecure and I’d be very conflicted for a while, depending on the scale of the revelation that is. I can't deny that it would alter my perception of the relationship, or at least mess with it.

If it is possible for a person to make a “men I’ve slept with” calendar for each year (which I personally do think is a lot of people, as a month is not a very long time) then that, regardless of anything, does suggest someone who is sexually impulsive and not one for commitment. It's not always going to be the case, but I'm just saying that is how it looks. People are allowed to change, and people are allowed to settle down after years of sleeping around, but ultimately that may not stop a future partner from feeling insecure upon hearing that many months ago there were many, many, many others.

Even if there were no emotional attachments with the previous 30 or so men, that could still make him feel that there is an insane number to try and compete with, and with a woman who has slept around that often it would be assumed that she has a large sexual appetite which wants to be sated – and competing with men who have also made a habit of sleeping around and are likely to be sexually proud and proficient may concern the partner. It could also make him insecure about whether or not you’d be sticking around for many more months, or if you’d one day revert back to your previous habits. The fear would be that a woman who made a habit of sleeping around is prone to boredom, and having a long-term relationship is going to be even more of a hellish struggle than it is for most couples, for the man may find himself with a woman who is harder to please than most and may get bored of the relationship quickly.

The same obviously applies for men who sleep around and try and settle down with a girlfriend (or boyfriend) who hasn’t.

Like I and others have said though, people have different standards for this topic. We’ve all been brought up with different views, and we’ve all decided our own views based on our experiences on top of our early founding blocks. To some people, feeling insecure about a partner’s sexual endeavours is shallow, but to others the sheer scale of the sexual endeavours could be regarded as shallow in itself. We each treat this subject differently. At the end of the day we just have hope that we meet like-minded people on this subject when it comes to forming romantic relationships. The universe doesn’t quite work like that, but it’s good to hope.

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

if you just found out that maybe they slept with twice as many people as you did? Isn't that kinda really shallow?

It depends on the individual, it's just as easy to say it doesn't matter as it is to say it does. I don't reflect someone's life in bed onto them as a person, but at the same time I would personally find out how many people said person has slept with before I was going into a relationship. I wouldn't willingly go into a relationship with a girl knowing she had a hell of a lot notches on the bedpost.

If they were safe and weren't bringing any medical baggage into the next relationship.. what SHOULD it matter to you?

Trust. What's to say if someone has slept with a load of people that they wont jump ship the next time a decent bit of meat comes along.