Why is sex so important?

[Catnip]

I've never had sex before, but even then, you'd think I'd have some sort of understanding on why it's so damn important to people. I mean, I couldn't imagine meeting the most amazing person I've ever encountered, only to shove that person out of my life after finding out they're bad in bad.

Sex and the orgasm that ends it is probably awesome, but isn't the euphoric feeling the only thing people really get out of it? If someone sucks in bed because they're just no good, then why can't someone work around that, help them out, or just masturbate if they're merely horny? I'd rather stay with someone who respects me and is loyal to me, but is shitty in bed, over someone who's a shitty person, but is great in bed. I refuse to believe that I'm in the minority with that opinion.

 

[Valkyrur]

Hm, not quite. I'd rather have a partner's who's shitty in bed, but a loyal person, than to have a partner who doesn't believe sufficiently in monogamy, but is really proficient in bed.

Oh, and well, perhaps it's due to the culture here, but I never had sex before either. Cheers, buddy.

If you ask me, I don't think all that they get out of sex is merely the sensation. To some, perhaps, they might actually see the rewards in the children they conceive... Though that sounds like hell to me. >.>

 

[Catnip]

Hm, not quite. I'd rather have a partner's who's shitty in bed, but a loyal person, than to have a partner who doesn't believe sufficiently in monogamy, but is really proficient in bed.

Oh, and well, perhaps it's due to the culture here, but I never had sex before either. Cheers, buddy.

If you ask me, I don't think all that they get out of sex is merely the sensation. To some, perhaps, they might actually see the rewards in the children they conceive... Though that sounds like hell to me. >.>

Fuck kids, man. But that's an entirely different thread lol

I know someone who hates and never plans on having any children of her own, but sex is still more important to her than a high-quality human being. I've seen this a lot of the time too. And people would actually judge someone based on their performance during coitus before they even really get to know that person. It's pretty pathetic if you ask me.

 

[Exoskeleton]

I dunno. I've met an amazing person who's not too amazing in bed, but I'm not gonna just toss them away if they don't really know much about sex. I mean helping by reading things or watching videos could improve you partner whoever that may be. But a few orgasms aren't that important. They feel great but that doesn't last forever :/

 

[Catnip]

But a few orgasms aren't that important. They feel great but that doesn't last forever :/

Yet, people treat it as though it's the #1 most important thing to maintain a healthy relationship. They figure if you don't have great sex, you won't have a great overall relationship experience. It's ridiculous and basically strong evidence of how people are greatly influenced by the media.

This is exactly what I'm trying to point out.

 

[Davey Gaga]

No matter what anyone says you'll never understand until you roll around in the hay

For starts...it's good. It makes you feel good (to make it scientific, there's various chemicals released e.g. oxytocin that evoke pleasure). You can get close to people - it's intimate. It's biologically necessary for the diversity and survival of our species, so we're driven to take part in it. The fact that it's good and we can now defeat its primary purpose with contraception is just and added bonus

Also a bit stereotypical/out of a gossip magazine to assume people break up because of poor sex. It's not really like that.

Also masturbation = nowhere nearly as good, just a bit more convenient

 

[Marquis of Granby]

its also great exercise and a bloody good stress reliever. though you cant necessarily say the same for masturbation

sex is what it is. i think its only because we derive pleasure from it that we think its something special. all animals fuck and a lot of the time (in documentaries etc) it doesnt look like they enjoy it at all. its just instinct.

 

[Davey Gaga]

As an aside I think the only other organism on the planet to have sex for pleasure is the dolphin, which is also supposed to have the nearest-human intelligence. Clearly means it's smart to shag loads

 

[Marquis of Granby]

As an aside I think the only other organism on the planet to have sex for pleasure is the dolphin, which is also supposed to have the nearest-human intelligence. Clearly means it's smart to shag loads

we must be fucking thick as two planks then

/off topicness

are you coming out with me and the two nutters in december davey? promise i wont be a dick.

 

[Channizard]

Sex is an important part to a relationship but I don't think it's about the orgasms. Dave commented on intimacy, and given that you're not a total slag, sex with someone you care about is the sort of intimacy you want to experience with only them and no anyone else. If you/they are bad in bed, most people who are in commited relationships will work passed that and teach each other what feels good for them, which can also be an intimate experience.

 

[L]

because i pride myself on being a man; being able to please a woman in bed makes you a man

fucking is important to solidate that manly feeling. too bad my peers dont know a man when they see one o:

 

[Dr. Percival Cox]

I've never personally had sex, however I can understand how being with someone who's generally bad in bed and is showing no sign of improving can put a hamper on the relationship. Sex is part of a mature relationship (I do believe that there's a difference between sex and "fucking") and if you're with someone who can't do the same for as you do for them then it could be a sign that they don't really care about your needs. They're just in it for themselves.

 

[Bambi]

/off topicness

are you coming out with me and the two nutters in december davey? promise i wont be a dick.

Also a bit stereotypical/out of a gossip magazine to assume people break up because of poor sex. It's not really like that.

I've done it

Personally, I think it's a very important part of a relationship, emotionally as well as just the physical pleasure. It's just top banana all round really

 

[Sullivan0930]

well see heres the thing, sex makes both people happy for the day or maybe even a week. That keeps the relationship strong and keeps you together. If youre not making your girl cum them shes gonna be sexually frustrated and be an even more super bitch then she already might be. Put that with her time of the month then you got a sexually frustrated girl on her period, you might as well kill yourself before she does.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Yes I failed many times in bed , especially when I was drunk, I could not get it fully erect , but those chicks always find some smoother dude than me..Ive been played many times...and come to think of it I think because Im bad at it
But there is always room for improvement..

So Yeah Sex is important as hell.. if we suck at it...then we'll find someone to substitute..unless its a real relationship and intimitate.. but I tell ya MEN cheat in general. it is what it is...

Even though the chick is damn good at it we'll get tired of her and move one etc..and vice versa.

Only those with true love stay with eachother and those are hard to come by....
Im still looking for my good girl....but all I find are Ho's..

 

[Bambi]

Put that with her time of the month then you got a sexually frustrated girl on her period, you might as well kill yourself before she does.

hahahahaha that amused me

I get cranky when I'm frustrated, so it's bad times when I'm single. I think I just need regular sex to be mellow. Other wise I'm in a constant state of being highly strung.

I'm aware we are all different, but I just like to have a lot of sex when I'm in a relationship, doesn't make me shallow or only interested in sex, it just means I enjoy it and it's perfectly normal, and healthy

Apparently, and don't quote me on this, but it releases some hormone, that your body supposedly relases when you are breast feeding that encourages bonding or some shit, which is why women seem to always want to cuddle after sex

I might of just pulled that out of my arse, but it makes sense, because I like post sex cuddles

Yes I failed many times in bed , especially when I was drunk,.

ah ahaha, i cant perform when im drunk, i tend to fall asleep, or get bored

 

[Davey Gaga]

Apparently, and don't quote me on this, but it releases some hormone, that your body supposedly relases when you are breast feeding that encourages bonding or some shit, which is why women seem to always want to cuddle after sex

Oxytocin, that's what I was on about The "feel-good" hormone. It also puts you to sleep, no idea why one effect is worse on men than women but it's true

 

[Bambi]

Get me knowing summat for once :dave:

Is that what gets rid of the headaches and shit as well, it's a natural pain reliever sex innit?

See it's just good for all sorts of things really, and it's a more fun form of exercise than running or some shit

 

[Marquis of Granby]

because we have to do all the work. thats why it makes us sleep.

they just wriggle about and freeze in the desired position. we do all the bloody work so that they can have 50 million orgasms and what do we get? 1 if we're bloody lucky

 

[Bambi]

Now, it's not OUR fault you boys need recovery time