Serious What do you look for in a boyfriend/ girlfriend

Theres what i look for and what i prefer in a woman.

What do i look for?

Good looks and a level head.
I couldnt see someone im not attracted to physically regardless of how well i get on with them. So yeah i need to find them attractive.
Level head. Just basically someone who isnt an idiot or completely unpredictable...just kinda normal...i suppose.
Things i prefer.
Brunettes hahaha. Yeah dark hair and dark eyes i really like and i like a girl with nice hair aswell. These things arent 'musts' in any way, theyre just a personal prefarance. Its not like i wouldnt go for a blonde or red head.
Thats about it really :hmmm:
 
It's a bit silly to point out external likes and dislikes, I'm not the kind of person who would care whether my boyfriend is black, asian, disabled or of a different religion. What I care about is the person inside. Don't get me wrong, I also have certain things that I like about the guy's looks. Since I consider (and know) myself to be too young for any intimate relationship, I tend to stay away from boyfriends period. I think that playing around with guys like my classmates is extremely immature. But going to an all-girls Catholic school makes things easier for me.

Outer Appeal: 'Dream Guy' to be more correct. Although I couldn't love a boyfriend any less without these qualities. I instantly have a liking to asians, Koreans in particular. I tend to like those older than my age. Say I'm fifteen now, but I could like a guy who's 26. I can't look at teenagers the same because they're just like big kids and know little about life, maybe the scientific facts, but not the real thing. I like black hair, mostly wavy, and blue eyes. I could fall very easily for a guy like that. He doesn't neccessarily have to have a well-toned body and a six-pack, although I wouldn't mind it :D I'm not a fan of beards and moustaches (thus why I hate Mario :rage:) but one like Johnny Depps (don't know the official name) would be fine with me. Also, hairy guys kinda creep me out... No offence to anyone... And I would not agree with alchohol. Maybe a bit of beer, but a drunk guy seriously pisses me off.

Inner Appeal: Something I treasure far more in a guy than his looks or backround. I look for a human of high spiritual level. Someone considered eccentric and totally different from other guys. He should be wholly passionate in everything he does, that includes sexual intercourse. I want him to be my stronghold, to keep me going in life and be the kind of person who would say "It's alright. You can do this." I guess I'm describing a soul-mate here, but I'd at least want the time spend with my boyfriend worthwhile and not a waste. After a break up, I don't want to look back and say "I hate him, I wish I had never met him." I want to learn something valuable from a relationship. But any failure to resolve a misunderstanding would immedeately lead me towards breaking up. I want someone smarter than me.
 
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I couldnt see someone im not attracted to physically regardless of how well i get on with them. So yeah i need to find them attractive.
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Good to know not everyone takes the moral high ground on that, just to sound like they aren't shallow.
I'm the same in that respect, and I challenge anyone to honestly say they aren't at least a little shallow.

One of my highest preferences is someone who's laid back and has a sense of humour to match. Uptight people who take offence at slightly offensive jokes annoy me. I like to be able to say 'controversial' things for a laugh with my mates, and your girlfriend should really be one of your mates.
Somebody who isn't controlling/possessive/wants me to massively change my lifestyle is also preferable. If you have to change to please someone, or have someone change to please you then there isn't really much point in being together.
Finally, being comfortable around one another. If you can't just relax when you're with your partner then again, there isn't much point in being together.
 
Well firstly, I would not want a guy who tends to be aggressive and short-tempered. That's something I'm really keen to avoid. There's nothing worse than having an intolerant, volatile guy constantly straining things to the boiling point. I want someone who is rather kind and caring. Someone who will listen and talk to me in times of need. Someone who is attentative and isn't afraid to speak his mind either.

Also, this person has to be strong and independent. Let me clarify that I don't necessarily mean "strong" as in physically strong of course. I want this person to be able to make decisions decisively and not someone who constantly hesitates and requires assistance in all sorts of things.

Generally I lean towards guys who are rather similar to me - for example they should at least have a decent amount of brain cells. xD I would like him to be a friendly, social person. I mean it wouldn't be much enjoyment for me if a guy is always quiet and antisocial.
 
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Good to know not everyone takes the moral high ground on that, just to sound like they aren't shallow.
I'm the same in that respect, and I challenge anyone to honestly say they aren't at least a little shallow.
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I think most don't mention it because it's a given really. Being shallow would be totally ignorant, but its not necessarily ignorance in this case. Pretty much everyone is only willing to date someone that they are physically attracted to. I'm not saying that everyone is only looking for the hottest people, but they won't date someone that they would classify as ugly. All my girlfriends were attractive, sure, but most won't classify that as a top notch "hotty". But I was attracted to them, and that's all that matters.
 
I like to look for individualness (is that even a word? xD), someone who doesn't follow the crowd, someone unique. I think I may have already found that person... complicated. But I look for someone who is honest, someone who can share anything with me and not keep secrets. I believe someone's personality can make them beautiful, but of course naturally I'm attracted to the "hotter" people, I wouldn't really date an ugly person. As long as they take care of themselves in terms of health and hygiene I'm fine. I also like confidence in a girl, I don't mind shyness at the start of a relationship, I'd be damned if I said I wasn't, but as it progresses, they should be able to speak their mind about anything. And a couple should also give each other space, time for family and friends.

They must also have aspirations, hopes and dreams and a general idea of what they want to do in life, preferably, higher education, but I'm not being prejudice to those who don't go to college and uni after school. And also, a biggie, have a sense of humour and fun, the attitude that says, you've only got one life, live it.
 
What I look for in a girl (girls appeal to me more at the moment) is that she can create a smile on my face whenever she walks in and just that I can laugh with her.
Also trust is very important and she has to be a good listener, not that she suddenly starts talking about herself when she hears a particular word. (Met people like that >.<)

Would be nice if she is into gaming as well.
 
The 2 main things I look for are a sense of humour and attractiveness. I don't think it's shallow, but as other people have said, I have to be physically attracted to a partner. Also, I can't stand people who can't take a joke or you can't have a laugh with. It's really uncomfortable when you try to be laid back, joke around and have a good time when you have to keep explaining that you're only joking or they're just sitting there looking miserable.

Other than that, then I don't know. There aren't any other things I look for. I don't have some checklist ready. It might sound lovey dovey but I don't think I can really explain why, you just feel like you want to be with them and that's the thing that tells me a certain girl is the one for me.
 
That he is well groomed and looks attractive to me. Now I have quite a varied taste when it comes to what I think is attractive.
Now personality wise I like that he is loyal, kind and respectful. And I would like that he likes the same stuff as me.
 
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before i begin. CURSE YOU BACK BUTTON. DAMN YOUUU

i had a whole essay about my ideal woman typed up, but since CURSE YOU BACK BUTTON you'll just have to do with this shorter list of points.

Yamato Nadeshiko - the japanese ideal of a woman with long black hair, hime-cut, slender face, and fair skin. she would be submissive and loyal and caring. I omit the submissive part from my roster of points, I don't like girls who are afraid to challenge me. I like the thrill(?) of having a debate or joking around with an equal. Your love is supposed to be your best friend.

Anime/Games/Varied Music - being a fan of these ups my attraction three-fold: it means we can do things together! hurr

i think that's it. oh, she has to have an active sex drive too, but that's a given.







CURSE YOU BACK BUTTON. DAMN YOUUU
 
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As for me...

My tastes(in looks) are kinda flexible so don't think I have a hard time finding what I like.He might look ugly but for some reason I might find him attractive(weird me).
Guys with long hair generally catch my eye.Although I don't limit my likes to just one race,every race and ethnicity is nice to know,dunno why I just find it super interesting.

As for personality...I've gotten tired of having an "ideal boyfriend".It's dumb in my opinion and I like variety in fact,sure I can like someone but it's another thing if I'd date them or not.They have to be able to stimulate me intellectually,not because I'm asking to,but I've noticed that all the guys I've had a crush on had been somewhat smart.Anyway,I guess a good and understanding person.That's the most important,not just treat me nice but other's as well,can't stand people who don't give a sh*t about the rest of the world.Other than that not being boring.Guess if he could have those traits it'd be ok,although you never know who you'll fall for and that's what's more exciting.

Oh another thing,if I can feel comfortable around him then it means he has that "something" I'm looking for.

That's about it,I generally hate to have a list for those things,don't want to be a difficult person.
 
Oh these are so fun, so I'll take a stab at this . . .

I generally look for well anything look-wise. Weight isn't a terrible issue for me, it's really the grooming that counts. If the guy looks like he's just rolled out of bed and thrown on anything then to me that spells out "sloppy" and that attitude says a lot about someone's approach to a potential relationship. He doesn't have to look like a Jude Law or a Will Smith but he should spend a decent amount of time on his hair and wardrobe. If I can press my clothes in the morning, pull my hair into a cute style, and still dash out the door by 6.25 am then what's stopping him? The only way I can tolerate this, is if said guy has a physical handicap that prevents him from getting ready in the morning . . .

So yeah he's got to look decent at least to mum and dad. ^_^

What else? Humor and interest. The guy's got to hook me. What does that mean? Well he's got to be at least a tad bit animated, especially around other people. I've got to get the impression that he can hold his own in a conversation. I don't want to feel like I'm talking to a wall here, 'sides I can be quiet as it is, especially on first-meetings, so one of us has to be the initiator of conversations.

Personality-wise is a hard one since I try my very best to get along with everyone. I may not be the most outgoing party-hopping girl on the block but I get by, since I try to be the friendliest and the most polite. The dude in question should be respectful to his parents and his friends (as well as himself). If he could give two shits about his parents, friends, and his schoolwork, then who's to say he'll give two shits about me? He doesn't have to but for me, I'd like it if he were taught to be at least considerate of another human being's feelings.

Preference wise, I do go for darker haired boys more often than not so . . . brunettes and black-haired guys. I like 'em to be a bit nerdy: Doctor Who fans, music lovers who are into some of the bands I like (i.e.: Muse, Sneaker Pimps, IAMX, The Strokes, The Beatles, Black Sabbath, Incubus, etc.), artsy fartsy guys who like drawing or can appreciate some medium of art, and just generally polite (speak when spoken to, still can crack jokes, etc.)

The biggest thing is maturity. I've found a good deal of guys around my age who are loads more mature than they first appear to be, but that's usually when they're away from their friends, girls included. Still, there's still the stragglers that act like they're still in 7th grade, hollering and carrying on like we're in recess when were clearly in a classroom. Example, if I want to hang out with my friends for a day then he should respect that (obviously not all guys are like this, hell no one's perfect) and chill with his buds too. He won't be like that 100% of the time but it's good if he can at least grasp the need for a balanced relationship.

Honestly, to sum it up, the guy's got to be someone that at my worst can pick me up like any best friend and at my best can comfort me and influence me to be an even better person, not to change me, but to improve me. He should also want to change for himself if he needs to or wants to and he should be his own person: a boyfriend yes, but most importantly before all of that a good friend.

Lol yeah I've given this some thought. o_O
 
I don't really know what i look for i na person but i don't think it matters since i wouldn't mind being single all my life. I can entertaine myself by myself, and i don;t need a special someone to feel awesome, i got awesome friends for that. Plus i don't think i'll find a person who works at a funtcional level with me anyway.
 
Don't really look to much into this seeing as how I pretty much have a non-existent love life, but I guess I have certain qualities that I look for. Usually, I just shoot for Asians, but even that's pretty high up for me. So here's a few things.

-Music: She's gotta be into the same stuff as I am or it probably won't work. You wouldn't believe how many times I've come across women who are into screamo or some other type of over the top rock stuff, and I can't cope with any of that. If she's into some mainstream stuff that's fine. Hip-hop and indie stuff is what I pretty much aim for. If she's into cats like Bronze Nazareth and MF Doom, that's a plus.

-Hygiene: Never met a girl who didn't have it, but I know for a fact that someone doesn't keep themselves together. Even women who don't wear makeup at certain times turn me off. You gotta look pretty and you gotta be clean. NO HIV PLZ, I DO NOT WANT UR DISEASESSS~ :cry:

-Understanding: I have issues of which I will not explain here, but if there were ever a woman to look past my faults and still work with me and work to build the relationship to a stronger level, she's totally a keeper. :]

-Conceited: I'm tired of hearing how women take themselves apart by saying they look fat, especially those who look like models. Please, PLEASE, for the love of God, LOVE YOURSELF. I don't care how many time you have to look in the mirror to remind yourself that you look beautiful, I'm willing to sacrifice hearing women complain about how ugly and fat they are when in reality, they're eligible to be on another season of "America's Next Top Model".

Yeah.
Oh and I like it when chicks make the first move when meeting for the first time, for it shows confidence.
 
I need a girl with a great sense of humor because I have one and crack jokes all day long. So that's the number one most important, without that there's no way we would work. I really want a girl that plays video games but have yet to actually date one, but the few I know are awesome. I will never date a girl that smokes or drinks I'm strongly against them and can see the fun in life without the use. I love a girl with a positive attitude and doesn't let much bring her down, cause that's how I am. Finally you need to be in good shape and no taller than 5'9.
 
A pulse

MOD EDIT: Come on Kels, you know better.
 
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If there was a best answer that would be it. Vampire fans might be offended though:monster:

I forgot to mention it when I posted before, but I'm usually attracted to the nerdy/quirky/geeky girls. That probably has something to do with my lack of knowledge of the local pop culture, inability to say things like 'hey baby, yo wassup how u doin', not dressing in trendy fashion, and my passion for video games and anime/manga.

...hmm, my prospects don't look too promising.
 
I never met a gamer girl and i want to try to see what its like to have one (seriously). but aside from that i want i girl that won't hinder me from doing something or disrespect me cause im not like her. I would like a girl thats funny and stuff,you know.
 
I don't think anyone should have an exact list of characteristics someone needs for them to be dateable. Setting expectations high will just lead to disappointment. I've dated polar opposites and had greats times with all different sorta of people. I do believe honesty and trust are extremely important but I could care less if they are loud, quiet, funny, nerdy, whatever. As long as they love me as much as I love them and we enjoy being together I'm happy. It's important to be attracted to someone physically, but I think it's dumb to say that they need to be a certain height, hair color, etc.

You'll know when you fall in love with someone, that's all that matters. As long as they aren't abusive alcoholics, of course :monster:
 
If I ever fall in love with someone, this is probably why:

First off, What would attract my attention: She'd be cute. I don't care about her boob size or any of that stuff, cute girls always seem to be my type. Then if I got to know her, I'd like her to be sophisticated, funny, and I'd want her to care about me and not be one of those girls that seem to 'go along for the ride' in relationships. I'd want her to accept me for the person I am and not just because she likes my eyelashes or something. And I'd prefer if she WASN'T one of the big popular girls. I'd rather date the quiet and maybe left out type and try to help her out. That would be a perfect relationship right there, because I feel the same way. I'd also want to share interests. If she was into videogames, Japanese culture or electronics, that would be great, and we could have a fun time together.
 
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