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Is leaving the forums. Just had enough just feel like is treated like shit here just tried everything to try and fit in and belong here and just feel it's never good enough..

Whenever come online here just feel really down and really drained. This place doesn't feel welcoming at all. It almost feels like a popularity contest everytime..

Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing..

Just has had enough..

& Pretty sure nobody here gives a stuff..



 
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I'm sorry to hear that. I wouldn't take the people walking away thing / people not wanting to talk to you in the SB too personally though. Only a handful of people can create and carry on a conversation in that SB and I am not one of them myself most of the time.

A lot of people have complained about the same problem you have complained though, so it is probably something this forum needs work on perhaps. That, or ALL forums are like this to a degree that are this large and full of members who join and leave on the same day.

I don't think its intentionally unfriendly, I think people just want to chat and talk to their friends really. Overtime perhaps if you were to stay then people would get to know you, but I accept that for many people it takes a heck of a long time to wiggle through the crowd. It is sometimes a popularity thing I guess. It isn't right that some people are ignored, but there is no law telling people they have to speak to everyone. I can understand that when they come back from a busy day they want to talk to their friends and not have to make new ones and such.

As for posts. It is rare that a post is quoted and commented on. It tends to mainly happen in debates and stuff when people want to counter your post. It'll occassionally happen in other threads with a sort of "I agree / don't agree with this" thing but not usually much more than that. I don't get quoted and commented an awful lot either. You just have to think, even if people aren't making an active effort to tell you, that you are affecting and contributing the forums.

I'd say that you are contributing anyway because I've noticed you about and read your posts and they're not bad at all. You also seem to have a considerable amount of rep.

I'm sorry to hear that you want to leave though, and all the best for the future. If you ever return, we'll be here for you. :sad2:
 
You've only been here for a few months darl.

You shouldn't take things so personally, as I'm sure no one would intentionally ignore you.

You have to think if you were them too sometimes. They may feel just as awkward as you, if not shyer than you to make small talk. Most of the time people may seem out there and talkative, but that's because they're comfortable talking with their friends at the time.

You need to give people a chance to get to know you.

I've been here nearly a year and still feel as though I'm 'wiggling my way through the crowd.' to quote Argor.

But if you're dead set on leaving, then good luck with whatever you do. =)
 
People are always in and out of the SB. I wouldn't take it personally, but im not about to sit here and try to convince you to stay it's up to you. IMO, you're being to over sensitive about it. It took me several months to fit in, it does most people. We have a lot of members and some of us have built up friendships over afew years not just weeks or months or whatever. It's a quiet time of day. Its pretty much morning everywhere which is why you wont be coming across many people willing to talk right now. You can't just expect to come into the SB and say hello then expect everyone to start talking to you. You will get a hello back, but you have to make the effort yourself. Someone will say hello to me, then Il get distracted and not answer for ages. People arent being ignorant, we're either already mid convo, dissapearing for whatever reason or just looking at threads. I always forget Im mid convo in there

You're new to us aswel as US being new to you. We woudlnt know what to say to strike up a conversation, because well, we dont KNOW you. And lets face it, no one likes small talk. It's crap. You have to let us get to know you.

From what Ive seen of you, you seem really nice. Try just having some fun around spam games, FF Fun, I know that's where i started pottering about after raiding the FF section
 
Kai Gazette said:
Is leaving the forums. Just had enough just feel like is treated like shit here just tried everything to try and fit in and belong here and just feel it's never good enough..

Whenever come online here just feel really down and really drained. This place doesn't feel welcoming at all. It almost feels like a popularity contest everytime..

Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing..

Just has had enough..

& Pretty sure nobody here gives a stuff..
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In fairness, it's very rare for a fairly new person just to be able to fit in. Also, I don't think you've given people that much of a chance, you have to realise that most people in the SB have been here long enough to be on a first name basis at least which obviously makes them more comfortable when talking to others, and I don't think you've been intentionally ignored, the majority of people in the SB will just talk about whatever is the main subject in the SB at the time =/
 
Kai Gazette said:
Is leaving the forums. Just had enough just feel like is treated like shit here just tried everything to try and fit in and belong here and just feel it's never good enough..

Whenever come online here just feel really down and really drained. This place doesn't feel welcoming at all. It almost feels like a popularity contest everytime..

Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing..

Just has had enough..

& Pretty sure nobody here gives a stuff..
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You sound paranoied tbh. No one is gunna intentionally stop talking just cuz uz appearred in the SB and i know that for a fact. Im here quite often and i dont recognise your username or your previous one for that matter. Youv not been here that long..its a bit silly tbh to just expect to know everybody straight away. You make us all sound like snobs which is rude of you imo. This thread sounds like a cry for attention aswell, if you had really had enough why not just leave...?
Goodbye then i guess



 
Is leaving the forums. Just had enough just feel like is treated like shit here just tried everything to try and fit in and belong here and just feel it's never good enough..

Whenever come online here just feel really down and really drained. This place doesn't feel welcoming at all. It almost feels like a popularity contest everytime..

Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing..

Just has had enough..

& Pretty sure nobody here gives a stuff..
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I know how u feel, but you really have to try harder if you wanna fit in. This website got 14,000 members you can't just come in say hello and everyone will become your friend.

You only have 80 posts and you've been here for about 4 months. It took me 2 years to fit in here so try harder, man. ;)
 
Kai Gazette said:
Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing..
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Well, I have to disagree with this. You did make a thread recently that a bunch of people, including myself, commented on. I think the people that commented on that specific thread made a great effort to help you out and share similar experiences to help you understand things. I suppose you think that wasn't enough feedback? Well, when it comes to the Sleeping Forest and Temple of the Ancients, there's basically a select few people that tend to do a lot of post there, whereas most others don't. I'm not sure how good you are at making sigs and such, but I know the GFX side of the forum gets a lot of attention on this website. If you're looking to make some friends, you can always try posting some of your work there, then maybe a GFX Clan will want to recruit you. I don't know much about how the Clans work, but I'm pretty sure you'll make friends with everyone who's in that particular Clan, as well as many from the other Clans as well.

As for the Shoutbox, I've never seen you there before, and I'm generally one of the top 10 shouters. If this was based on a 1-time thing, then I'd say you should give it more chances. As some have already mentioned, you won't just walk in and be the superstar. I myself, sort of forced my way in, basically just talking to others as they said things, and eventually I became someone that at least 1 person in the active chat knows. If I saw you, I would certainly acknowledge you. Most don't really respond much to people they've never seen, myself included because there tends to be a lot of knuckleheads that randomly show up and either say or do stupid things. If you're there enough and prove that you're not one of these knuckleheads, then others will start accepting you and talking to you with more frequency.

Anyways, those are my thoughts on the matter. No reason to feel rejected. I know you're going through a tough time and you're probably seeking casual conversation in the Shoutbox, but you just have to be patient, thats all, and you'll start to see how nice and friendly us FFF members really are.
 
Whilst I know how exactly you feel, I wouldn't give up so easily. Everyone's different. Some can hit it off straight away with other members, whilst others can take a little more time. I'd give it another month if I were you. The shoutbox might be good for making conversation, but there are times when no one uses it. I'd recommend posting in threads to get to know people more and such. It's sad to think you'd leave without getting to know anyone, really. But that's just me.
 
Most of the points that have been made mirror my own views.
You need to get more involved I think. I hardly know anyone but I started my own GFX thread (and I'm going to enter the SOTW contest regularly), got involved in the FF Fun section and pop into the SB now and then and my presence on the site is much greater (although still small). Get more involved and find something you have in common with people, I mean take this: I met a mechanical engineer here (I'm taking that as a course in uni) a girl who lives on my street and another person who lives 5 mins away. I wouldn't have found this out unless I persisted in trying to contribute to this forum in general.
And not EVERYONE is how you described them... I always greet people in the SB and chat (try to) with random people :monster: Take care... with whatever decision you take :)
 
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No one makes friends instantly. I'm not going to sugar-coat it - if you want to fit in then try harder. No one's going out of their way to make you feel less welcome, so the problem's on your part, and everyone else's who feels similarly.

Monotonous threads are monontonous.
 
Kai Gazette said:
Is leaving the forums. Just had enough just feel like is treated like shit here just tried everything to try and fit in and belong here and just feel it's never good enough..
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Kai Gazette said:
Whenever come online here just feel really down and really drained. This place doesn't feel welcoming at all. It almost feels like a popularity contest everytime...
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Not really sure what to say, to be honest.

Most of the friends here that I made really did come through general chat, but I also really didn't make friends with anyone until I actually started conversing in threads about opinions and debating things.

Not sure what you've brought to a conversation on the message board, but if you're just one of the new guys that posts in a favorite FF character thread and says 'I like (character) because that is what is sexy about (character)!', people won't have much to make conversation off of.
Kai Gazette said:
Just isn't really enjoying the Forums or the site. It just feels like whenever make a post or a topic or appear on the chatbox everybody walks away/ changes subject or says nothing...
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Happens all the time.

I'm sorry that you feel this way and that you are not enjoying your time on this message board, but we're all people y'know... We do what we want lol.

But if you're feeling like you have to try to fit in, this may not be right for you. It's just a message board after all, nothing to get stressed out over.

I also apologize if I've contributed to this feeling, but real people will say real things, precisely because they aren't tools.

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I thought Dave was a nob head when I first joined :wacky:
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he is :wacky:
 
I'm pretty much in agreement with what everybody else has said here. A lot of us have been here for 2-3 years and we know each other really well. There's no popularity contest going on, we just know each other really well. If you want to fit in you have to try harder. I hadn't even seen you before until you requested a username change. If you've been in the shoutbox I've honestly missed out on seeing you in there. I'm in there off and on throughout the day and I've yet to see you in there. Sometimes I disappear and go off posting or get sidetracked when people are talking to me but I mean no harm, nor am I intentionally ignoring them. That goes for a lot of other people as well. It just happens. Nobody is intentionally ignoring you or walking away from you as you say. It just takes time to fit in. Try harder. Nobody is trying to be mean to you here or making you feel unwelcome. Stop being so sensitive, get a thicker skin and join in the convos and have fun. Everybody does it and you shouldn't be any exception. Just have fun, be more talkative and get to know people! It takes time but if you really want to fit in you have to try harder. ^_~
 
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