How open are you?

Back in the day I was a hard nut to crack, no pun intended. I kept my defenses up, even to girls, it was only physical early on nothing as far emotional. I couldn't bring myself to face all of the pent up crap inside of me, I felt like I was an old man living in a teenagers body. Of course I would always laugh, I would always joke around.. but emotionally speaking I thought people were overemotional about trivial things .. and because of it, there was no point in speaking to anyone about my issues.

Now today I'm pretty open, I talk about whatever comes to mind. From sex to us fellas stuff, to what I do in my spare time.. to heck... you can ask me whatever. I stay the straight and narrow with the truth. It can be overbearing for some, but I would rather live my life free of doubt, than living my life doubtfully lying all the time.

The closed off part of a person will be released one day. I don't care if it is by a special girl/guy in your life.. one day it will surface. I would hope you find it early, so you can get on with your life.. rather than wait till you are 18 like I was.
 
I'm fairly open with family and friends. Mostly my family though. I can tell them personal things and just do whatever I feel most comfortable with when I'm around them, but when it comes to people I'm not too familiar with, I kind of back off and try to act as decent and perfect as I can. XD

It's hard for people not to judge a book by it's cover, so if I give them the impression that I am a gross, loser bogan of a person, than that is who they'll think I am, and that be the end of it.

I mean I would do the same thing if someone presented themselves like that to me too.

I believe there is a time and place for everything. So the only time I would show the more open side to myself would be when I'm around people I know and who know me well enough to know that I'm just showing my true colours. XD
 
I suppose I'm pretty open, but I really is only told when it is a need to know basis or if for some reason or another I need to get it off my chest and just confide in someone. I don't feel the need to tell every Tom, Dick and Harry what's going on in my life and in my mind.

With emotions, I'm awful at hiding them; sometimes I'm walking down the street, remember something funny and start getting the giggles, then people start looking at me like I'm a fucking lune. :wacky: But I am always one to laugh, whatever emotion that is, I'm always doing it, I love laughing I honestly believe it's the best medicine.

Anger on the other hand, >.> Can't hide that very well, but I hate violence so I stick to expressing it verbally.

I use sarcasm to express my opinions sometimes, but depends on the situation, if it is quite a silly situation I use sarcasm, but if it is serious to a certain degree I just give my opinion in the manner needed.
 
It depends who I'm around.

When it's just my Husband and I, I'll say and do as a please. Nothing is too much.
When around certain friends, I'll say and do as a please as well but I do try to keep it fairly calm. The sexual references tend to come out a bit there though.

Otherwise, I'm rather closed. I mind my manners and keep to myself. I'm a bit shy around strangers and won't speak unless spoken to. I keep my witty comments to myself and keep my sarcasm shut.
 
I think a lot of how open a person is comes from how other perceive their personality. I say this because I've had this problem my whole life. I'm really a simple guy who's willing to answer questions that people ask me about myself. But for some reason, people never want to ask because they assume I'm not willing to answer them. I had an ex tell me when we first started dating that she wanted to "open the book" about me. Even though I explicitly went into detail about things she asked me, she couldn't figure out who I was.

I'm actually very open to those willing to figure me out. I guess I have trust issues, in that I trust people to easily. It hasn't gotten me in trouble at all, so I don't really regret it from that standpoint. In general, I'll open up more to people the more I feel comfortable with them (makes sense right?). My best friend and all my ex's know me inside and out. But I guess in my lifetime, there has always been this mystery about me, even when I have opened up to people. My best friend knows me very well, naturally (we've been friends for like 15 years or so), but besides him, only the aforementioned ex really had a good understanding of who I am. Everyone else in my lifetime (excluding my parents) have never fully understand the person I am, but even if I opened up to them, they never made the effort to know what makes my clock tick, so to speak.

So in conclusion, I feel more that people have an issue of wanting to get to know someone than actually opening up to someone. That's the tl;dr version. :wacky:
 
I'm not sure of how open I am or not.

With anyone, if I'm around people I don't know, and there's continuesly bashing something I stand for, I'll ask them to tone it down, flat out. I'm usually just honest about how I feel, however, I don't randomly start blurting out my reasons to everyone, including the people I don't know, that are hearing me talk, or seeing me type.

I'm... considerate... =X If that's the right word for it. Unlike being "straight to the point", if someone feels like crap, and it's not really a big deal to others, but it is to them? I treat it like it's a big deal. =/

Guess I'm not really sure how open I am about things though. I don't really have trouble trusting people, it's the vibe I get at first glance, meeting, or whatever, that decides if it'll take long for me to trust you, or not.
 
This is a pretty good topic.

It's hard to say really. In all honesty, as boring as an answer as it may be, it would depend on the subject and the audience. Sometimes I will be completely sheltered, and say as minimal as possible. Other times, I'll go right out and say whatever I think. Obviously, this is especially the case with "lesser" issues. However, one thing is that I'm never afraid to say what I feel. If I hold back, it's usually just because I've concluded that keeping quiet would be a better alternative. I'm very back and forth about it, and part of the reason for that is because I have a tendency to be very analytical about things, I guess.

In general though, I find that I'm one of those people who usually won't speak my mind on a matter. But when asked, I can express plenty of thoughts.
 
I'm pretty open I can be immature but then again I know when ta be serious. I grew up pretty shy and therefore I had a wall but as I grew I let down my wall and became more open. I'm totally different around people I dont really know and not so sure of I dont go spiling my heart out ta them an crap but the ones that know me best will know that im pretty much down for anything and im really loud and sometimes say the wrong things at the wrong times XD but thats just who i am. If you open up a bit, so will I. :) it really also depends on the subject an watnot but for the most part I consider myself open.
 
I'm open around friends. When I'm around people I don't know well yet I'm pretty shy. Its really as simple as that =D

Its strange how open I can be... as long as... well.. both parties are comfortable ^^
 
I'm somewhat in the middle. In real life I am actually very quiet, even around my family. I have went through a lot of personal struggles that most of them never even knew about, even today. I don't seek that kind of attention from them. In fact, it embarrasses me if I feel like I want someone to notice what I'm going through. With friends, I can be a bit more open to them, but then again, I only really have a few friends and there's only one or two that I can really talk to about personal issues. But when it comes to financial situations, I don't tell them anything. Sure I may mention in general that financially it's one heck of a struggle but aren't that the case for most people these days? But to actually go into full details with my family and friends is something I do not take lightly and will never ever do because I do not want to make them feel obligated at all cost.

As for online, I supposed I am a little more open about things in general than in real life, but I do try to withhold a few private information from certain people. It depends on the topic at hand. Sometimes I can spill what's going through my head easily, sometimes I can't. There's always that complicated situation attached to some things. It also depends who I'm talking to. I think that in general we're all pretty open about our emotions but it always depends on who's listening and if you've managed to find that right connection with someone. If it clicks, some things just come out naturally if you let it. Really nothing wrong with that. Just gotta be careful with who you talk to sometimes, I guess.
 
I'm confused about what we're talking about here. Is this about bodily functions like Kelly's post? Or is this emotions? Or general?

I'll answer generally I guess.


No, I'm not that open in most situations.

In real life I'm quite embarassed and self-conscious about everything I do... I used to be really bad with this. I'd sometimes feel ashamed if I was smiling even if it was for a reason (which it would have been, I don't think I smile all the time at all for no reason) and then walking past people that didn't look too happy themselves.

I'm improving now, as it really doesn't matter and shouldn't matter and I've learned this quite late.

As for talking about myself, my problems and all that stuff I tend not to bring it up much in real life, but on here I've been a bit more open because this is a relaxed forum, and there are threads about things like this where it will be brought up. I know my mind isn't the most rational mind, but I understand this and laugh at myself.

There are some things I'd never tell other people, and others I might hint at a bit, and others I'd say "no more, that's behind me - but I've had this problem" sort of thing. Occassionally I'll go mad and just mention something, but in a way in that I'm mocking myself and the situation I'm in in a joking manner, even though it is real and might be causing me actual pain.

I'm like a shell or blank dummy.. Or perhaps a mixture between Father Dougal Maguire and Rajesh Koothrappali around strangers and females and especially female strangers. Around people I know, some of those I'm blank with too. Only about 4-5 friends have got to know me a bit more for what I am, and I'm fine with them, but even with them I wouldn't really bring my emotions into conversations as to be fair I'd just get teased, and feel embarassed even if I wasn't. To the rest I'd probably be a mystery if they wanted to even think what I'm like and what I'm thinking.

If I had a girlfriend things might be more different, but that is something beyond my control. I'd probably want to explain right away some of the things in my head and things in my past, as I wouldn't want her to be dissapointed later on and grow impatient with me and leave me as I'm really only interested in long term. On the other hand I wouldn't want to scare anyone off by saying a long list of issues I've tried to put behind me long ago either. :D I think what I mean is to tell her "I've not led a normal life so far, but I'm willing to learn! But please be understanding and not expect too much? :gonk:"

I'm more open about myself and such here, and I can say that people here probably know the real me more than most people in real life would know at the moment. But its really just a mindset that needs to be modified and I can combine the real me with the real life me and then become the real real me.

I'd still not be 100% open (I'm quite confused what we're actually talking about here to be honest), but enough to get by I guess.

I don't need to tell people everything about me for them to know me, but I think I need to learn how to perhaps give a bit more out about me so that I can have a conversation with them. "Hey" and "how do you do?" only lasts for 5 minutes afterall.
 
Is both. Open and closed.

Think if is feeling upset and is having a bad day or something is troubling me and just need to have the support of friends will open up to them. But sometimes want to hide the emotions and just pretend that everything is alright and then think it just becomes the shaken up bottle of coke affect and then everything just opens up at once and then everything just falls apart.

Need to work on that.

About the past and main interests can be really closed and think is a mystery or is judged by people because of that. But would rather not open up on the past and believe that there is no need to brag about interests unless somebody wants to know or asks...
 
I used to be quite open but i could go on and list a number of reasons why that wasn't a good idea to begin with but i think that some if not most of them are obvious. I prefer not saying much instead, i can't say i'm close to anyone here because i don't know them well enough for that.


Honestly though, i should've just stuck with being closed to begin with. I would've avoided a lot of things that have happened due to being so open with people.
 
I'm not very open with strangers, unless it's on forums (like this one). I tend to be open with friends and family, let stuff out when it needs to. Chances are everyone's brighter than me so I ask close people for advice whenever something comes up.

When I talk to a girl, I usually worry about what she thinks of me so I tend to blurt anything that comes to mind. Once i grow close, however, I take my time and even engage in long conversations. And if I happen to like the girl, I admit it eventually. Happened a lot.
 
Well I always thought I had the mind of a mad scientist who knew he was destined for something big, and I still do. I typically behave like the quiet one of the group, usually only speaking what's necessary and I am always on the defensive for it takes me a lot to trust others. I also have this bad habit of analizing all the odds when it comes to speaking to others, hence you usually see me thinking about their possible reactions to the words I say, hence I carefully select my words in every expression. I usually preffer to talk about things that do matter not just about trivial topics...however I am quite open to any kind of conversation while always keeping my cool. I always knew I was the 40 years old man trapped inside a teenager, and I was and forever will be proud of it.
 
This is something I have to work on, actually. xD I'm not very open in real life or online...nor am I very open minded most of the time. >.>

For example, often when the other family members are suggesting movies/shows to watch, I find myself disagreeing in my head, and it usually shows even without speaking it out loud. :P

There is frequently something mentioned I have not seen before, and unless it is something I know much of or have just been anticipating, I won't feel like watching something I've never seen before because I think I might not enjoy it much, in which case I'd think it was a waste of time. <.<

But I need to be more open to watching things I've never seen, doing some things I've never done, and, well...just do nicer things more often, I'm really quite lazy in real life, but like chatting online, just need to make some friends, and get hurt with words from the higher-ups in the community less often. :gonk:
 
I've been open for years now, came out back in high school when.........wait -

*reads previous posts*

OH, emotionally open, right :/

I've found being open is so much easier to live with than being emotionally closed off. Never have to wonder if people really like you - if someone doesn't like my personality I can tell right away without having to wonder "will I really get along with this person?"
 
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