How different would your life be, if you stayed with your ex?

[Channizard]

Think about the last serious ex bf/gf you had. Imagine you're currently not with the one who you love now, or even that they never existed, and try imagine how different your life could have been if you stayed with your last ex.

Think about whichever last hurdle you two had that made you break up, and what sort of impossible ordeal you could have endured to stay together. Where would you two be now?

Given it some thought (and some after thought stalking on fb) I'd probably be somewhere in America with my ex, loathing the fact that I miss my friends and family. I had a long distance relationship with my last ex, and I would either end up in Colorado, or he would end up in BC. After the two lame attempts to bring him here for visits, it'd probably be easier for me to go there.

I'd be all decked out in the lasted goth clothing, as he was always out to convert me. Probably jobless, illegal immigrant, sitting on the couch watching anime while my socially outcast of a boyfriend struggles to find any mainstream job and keep it to support us.

We'd probably be living with his folks and sister, a place that often had him in tears because 'nobody understands me, they're all out to get me'. I may even be pregnant at this tender age of 20, maybe married as I always remember him speaking about wanting to marry young, and have pups even younger.

Yes, pups. For you see, my boyfriend believe that in his previous life he was a six foot tall blue wolf from another planet. The realization of this fact and the way that he constantly relates to his former self would probably drive me insane with stress, and maybe even towards an early divorce. I may even end up an unwed (not so teenage) mother.

-record screech-

But thankfully I broke up with him over the long distance issues nearly three years ago, and have since then met my boyfriend Ist. Thank God for that English fucker.

 

[Mitsuki]

Interesting. Well you seem fond of your current boyfriend so best of luck to you guys. =]

As for me, I didn't have a serious boyfriend before my husband; the relationship I had with both of my ex were one of those less-than-a-few-weeks, so I normally don't count those. I was serious with one of my friends back then though and although there was no official relationship, we were sorta heading that way, so I guess I'll use him for this particular topic.

So let's see...how different would my life be had I ended up with him. Very different, I guess. I'm thinking lots of drama nonsense and very little companionship with one another. The reason I say this is because I'm looking at his current state in life right now and he's not the type that will settle down anytime soon. Party, drinking, and girls are his main agenda, although he's actually a very sensitive guy. He knows what he wants in life and at least he has a degree in nursing, so it's not like he'd turn out to be a non-family guy for the rest of his life. I know he does want a family someday but at this point, I really wouldn't see us leading a quality and fulfilling life together. I wouldn't be content for many different reasons and although I had strong feelings for him back then, I never imagined us getting married despite our serious regard for one another.

So all in all, it's a rather interesting thought but definitely not a road I would have chosen. I'm more of a serious person and I probably wouldn't have tolerated a lot of things. We're still friends though, he's a great guy overall, just definitely not someone for me.

 

[Bambi]

Had I stayed with Danny....fuck knows. We'd ran our course, I just wasn't interested anymore, though if I had stayed with him for the easy life, Id probably be sat here still miserable and still pissed off with his drug taking when he was off to a rave. He always asked me if I was up for going, but fuck that, raves are not my scene, nor is watching my boyfriend take pills. The music would have given me a headache as well. It was only once a month, but I hated it so much

I think I would have just been stuck in a rut of same old same old - my head wasn't really in the right place while we were together as well, so I think I needed to just...restart I guess, have my own time and get my head back together, so I imagine a lot of underlying issues would still be there as well

can't say babies or marriage would have been on the horizon. At all. I'd of just plodded along with the whole thing, festering away with resentment

I was alot happier when we broke up, and over the coming year and a half, though it's been fucking stressful at times.... Ive been up and down more than a prositutes knickers, but that's preferable to what it would have been like if we had never broke up, and the good times were worth it

 

[blakstang98]

Interesting topic.

I've only had 4 girlfriends in my day. Of the 4, I didn't really see any prospect with 3 of them, so I suppose they would be irrelevent in this topic matter. The other one though, she was a different story.

If she wasn't married, I honestly think we would still be together. She was a total sweetheart, we got along so well and enjoyed spending time together. We were very compatible, and for obvious reasons, it could never go further than that. If we were still together, it would be 6 years that we were together, so at the very least we would be living together. Even though she has 3 kids, she'd probably want more, so that would probably be chaotic. So my life would be a complete tale spin compared to my life now.

For many reasons though, I'm glad that's all part of the past. I didn't have a problem with her having kids already, but I want to have kids myself and it would have been very overwhelming. I'm happy with how life has turned out so far, so I don't regret the fact that this relationship didn't work out. I'll find someone that I'm very compatible with and she'll be in a less complicated situation. Well, I suppose there are no simple solutions, but I'm going to keep my head high.

 

[Not of Rust]

Had a very, very serious GF in college before I met my wife. If I'd stayed with her I'd probably have 3-4 kids by now and any prospects of a career completely crippled. She wanted to live it up in college so there'd be no regrets afterwards and decided to call it off. Devestated at the time but it's all good now.

Last I heard she was married right out of school to some joe bob, banged out a mess of kids right away, and could never put her degree to use leading to a mess of issues.

Good job you twat. That photo album full of collegiate memories doesn't seem to be worth so much now, does it?

 

[Mota_Moogle<3]

its funny, considering the situtation im in now,
I rather be with her going thru what im going thru at the moment.
But I suppose I wouldnt be in this mess imin, BUT who knowsw what other BS she would have caused m to get into, I might not even be living where i am if i woulda stayed with her. at the end im still happy we broke up kuz i had alot of growing up to do, i still do.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I have had a total of four boyfriends including Steve.

Out of the three before him I only count one as being serious and it only lasted four months. The other two were only a few weeks and were more like rebound boyfriends.

Anyway if I had of stayed with him I no doubt would have my own house right now because I just found out that he's gone and bought one. =/

I wouldn't have to worry about him smoking or anything either.

But you know what, he's a dickhead.

The only thing I would have gotten from him is the comfort of having money all the time and having my own house.

I'd rather be with Steve who treats me like a Queen over some dickhead who lets his friends tell him who he should and shouldn't be with.

He's a soft cock pretty much and the reason he broke up with me is because he 'Didn't feel the spark' anymore, but then I found out later he was pretty much pressured into breaking up with me by his friends who just wanted to party and such.

I couldn't be with someone who could just give up something like that because their friends wouldn't hang out with them anymore. <_<

Would he just give away his children too?

So yes I'm kind of glad he broke up with me before it got any more serious. It would have hurt more down the track.

I wouldn't have found my Steve either if he hadn't of broken up with me.

 

[RioDragon]

I'd likely have caved in and had a child with her with little to no means of child support, stuck without college or anything to rely on for the future. Though I miss her, I'd say I was right in the decision and that it was for the better on both our parts.

 

[Dee]

I probably wouldn't be friends with him now.

[Mod Edit: Can you please put more effort into your posts when it comes to posting in post count sections. One liners are seen as spam. Thank you.]

As per request, I suppose, although we've had our troubles, staying with him would have made me hate myself and him a little more. It'd have been torturous. I'm glad I broke things off when I did (nothing of his fault, though). I was young and stupid and did not need to be in a relationship at the time, so, yeah...

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

To be honest, probably not a great deal different. I'd still be living where I am, with the same job and everything, and she'd be in the same boat. I imagine I'd have a lot less money because of having to travel to see her a lot, but that never was a bother to me.
I suppose I'd have found it really difficult to juggle the relationship and all the work I've had to put in for uni this year, plus my job so something would have had to give in the end.

 

[Lirael]

Oh gosh, I don't really have a clue. :S W--- and I were fairly different, really. There are certain qualities I admired in him - his energy, his love of new places, his love of photography, music and atrology. But when I think about it... there wasn't a lot else we had in common...

For one, he LOVED to go clubbing. He loved to drink and always ended up VERY drunk, to the point that he'd dry-hump men on the club's stage... He loved being loud. He pushed his body to its limit, sleeping little. This caused him to snore a lot and loudly. He moaned and groaned in his sleep continuously, which always kept me awake. He wasn't very clean... he didn't wash his clothes often, brushed his teeth MAYBE once a week, if I was lucky... He didn't eat very well and exercised little...

I, on the other hand, don't enjoy clubbing. I don't like alcohol, so I don't drink it... I'm shy and quiet and I take care of my body by sleeping properly; I need no less than 8 hours a night. I am a fairly light sleeper, so snoring kept me awake. And I like to be clean. I have a shower or bath every day, sometimes both, and a wash in the morning if I don't have a shower. I brush my teeth two to three times a day. I eat well and walk 3 - 5 times a week.

So yeah...lots of differences there. And these would have no doubt made me very unhappy. I'm not very good at being critical, so would have found it hard to shift Will towards being less over the top energetic... I tried to get him to brush his teeth but wasn't successful. I would have hated to advise him as much as I would have had to. It would have upset him and no doubt affected his confidence...

He's also going through some stuff at the moment. He won't tell anyone what, but it seems to be making him very depressed at times and he's always worrying about the fact that life is not eternal. He doesn't feel he'll fit in everything he wants to do. :/

Unlike me, he's VERY political. He's a Conservative to the core. He lives by Conservative values and wants to work as part of the local Conservative party, to preach and maintain those values.

Even though his family are struggling and on benefits, he believes that poverty and wealth are integral to society. I don't... I am very much a believer in systems that are more equal. I know they're not perfect, and the logistics would be tricky, but at the moment, people starve whilst others pay £1000s for one pair of shoes. That just isn't right. Society can be so much better.

He also believes that people who commit certain crimes should be sent to jail for life, with no chance of freedom, and he believes these jails should be nasty - no tv, no good food, perhaps no libraries, no time with their family, basic beds... I just can't be that black and white...

I wasn't really aware of how Conservative W---'s views are until recently. I think my breaking up with him made him become even more involved and even more open about his opinions. However, there is no doubt that his beliefs would have come out eventually, so we'd probably be arguing a lot... Or I'd be absolutely miserable because I tend not to argue and keep things bottled up inside. I'd probably feel very ashamed when with him... When you're in a relationship, your partner does represent you a bit. I would have hated to be associated with some of his views.

I would also not have a positive relationship with his parents... I tried hard to be nice to them, but his father didn't like me; he admitted this to W--- after I broke up with him. W--- is from Belfast, and his father hates everyone English. He thinks we are all rude and nasty and disrespectful. This is coming from a man who hits other cars, knocks off their mirrors and just drives off. His mum was nice, but quiet. She didn't work or go out, which made it difficult to relate to her...

 

[Shael-BurizaDo]

i've had maybe 5 girls to even consider calling "ex's"

the tales for them, are sadly the same. we would have been happy together, throughout, and even now. but they would have cheated on me...they would have done it really well, and I never would have known. i grew up with two sisters, an older and younger. i always talk to girls, talk about girls, and talk about them to other girls.


i most likely flirt too much without realizing it, but i'm sure my girls would have felt threatened and done something in some form that i would consider "cheating," whether it would be using another guy(contemporary) as an emotional rock, and hiding her true feelings from me, or simply having a physical connection from time to time, eek.

things for both of us, would probably be the sameish now, they might have even left the 'cheating' faze behind and we may have begun to grow loyal to each other, if we were not already, but that is not for me to say.

i can say that I would still be, very happy

 

[Squid]

If I was still with my ex my life would probably be stressful and angry and full of arguments and eye rolling and other nasty things. We clashed and I could tell from an early stage that we would not last and would eventually break up and I was right, it happened twice.

I am glad we're not together any more, everything is a lot nicer now.