Serious Girlfriend or Girlfriends?

[Rey]

Well there is this girl in some of my classes and We always say hi to eachother and whatnot. But heres the thing. I think she likes me because she is always smileing at me in class and in the halls. Even at the bus station she sits with me. Even on the bus she sits with me. Yes she is really beautiful but I can not go out with her. So what should I do if shes asks me out? I have not seen my girlfriend for like 2 years because I had to leave Italy and all because of something with her parents. But we do chat on msn and all. Call eachother on the phone. Send pictures to eachother. But I miss her so much. So If I have 2 girlfriends this will be a big problem. I needs help!!

 

[Bambi]

You can't have 2 girlfriends, that's just not nice, how would you like it xD

You either want to be with her or you don't, if you DO end the relationship with the other girl, if you love her, then don't strike up a relationship with this new girl....


Shoulda posted this in ToTA dude

 

[Rey]

Im sorry I made a typo. Also I am going to stay with the one I love which is the one I have been with for 2 years now. The new girl I guess I will just forget about her. Oh and yes I have heard about being loyal. B SHSH.

 

[Mitsuki]

::Moved to Temple of the Ancient::

Serious post, guys.

 

[Megalo]

You're 15, I say enjoy life right now and do whatever you like. If your relationship is serious, don't cheat. If it's just a way to have fun, get em both.

You have to ask yourself, "why would I want 2 girlfriends" and "why is or isn't 1 enough?".

 

[Rey]

Awww fuck *kicks profile* Im not 15. Also Im not going to cheat on the one I truly loved for 2 years!! Also the other girl can do what she wants but If anything suspicious starts to happen Idk what the fucking hell I will do. I just want to go back to Italy to see her beautiful face. But her parents were just omg can not explain..... Ill fucking swim to hewr but I think Sharks will eat me before I get to her.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

So what should I do if shes asks me out?

What most loyal trusting people would do in a relationship. Say, "No sorry, I have a girlfriend."

Tough luck if this other girl 'likes you'. If she doesn't get the picture, don't hang around her or she will start to think you like her. Especially if she doesn't know that you have another 'girlfriend'?

And yes if you have two girlfriends it will be a big problem. It's called cheating. Not the most attractive quality. =/ In the end they both find out and you're out on your arse with neither the one back home or the one who apparently likes you now. =/

 

[SapphireStar]

As its been mentioned, 2 girlfriends is a strict no-no. Indeed, how would you like it if your gal had you and another guy on the go? I admire that you stay in touch after 2 years. Its sweet. But this girl is just someone whom is close to you. If you truly have feelings for your girlfriend, make sure it stays a friendship with thos other girl.

 

[Rey]

Ohhhh I need to tell her that I have a girlfriend already or else things can get really suspicious. Yes we have been together for 2 years and I love her with all my heart but this other girl likes me a whole lot. But she is sweet. She sits with me on the bus sometimes but If something wrong happens then I will have to speak up to her. During my History Exam she said Good luck to me. Her face was all red and she had a nice smile. Dahhhhhh But the one I truly love stays with me. Im not going to cheat on her.

 

[Estella Vanilla]

Your profile says you're 15. And by the way you write I kinda think that you ARE 15. So my post is going to reflect that.

You're too young to have a girlfriend. Let alone two.

And quite frankly, the girlfriend you do have, you might never see ever again. So it sounds like a waste of time.

Sorry, tough love. =/

 

[Dionysos]

No, no, no, no, no, no.


Don't even think about it. You already have a "girlriend" awesome , so if you feel you really love her, then stay with her.
This other girl might be showing you attention etc, but is that really enough to make you leave an already existing girlfriend? How would Yuna react to being dumped!


But no honestly, do not cheat and kep two girlfriends. It's immoral, and just unfair. There should be prison sentences for infidelity I feel.

 

[Sabriel]

absolute no on this 2 timing thing.

stick to the one that you got for years and just keep contact with the other one. but you can try it out if you really like to though.

 

[Rey]

Argor you want me to come and kill you? It was a god damn typo so just shut it. Also Estella just shsh it was an accident with the god damn profile. If you really think I post like an idiot of a 15 year old I really do not give of shit. Also Thanks to some people for strategies. Yes I know having 2 girlfriends is a no-no so Im just going to stick with the one I have been with for 2 years. This other girl can just probably use me for money considering that I am a rich guy. Believe me this has happened frequently and I am aware of it.

 

[Daenerys]

Argor you want me to come and kill you? It was a god damn typo so just shut it. Also Estella just shsh it was an accident with the god damn profile. If you really think I post like an idiot of a 15 year old I really do not give of shit. Also Thanks to some people for strategies. Yes I know having 2 girlfriends is a no-no so Im just going to stick with the one I have been with for 2 years. This other girl can just probably use me for money considering that I am a rich guy. Believe me this has happened frequently and I am aware of it.

That's not a very positive attitude to take, she might like you for you and not because your parents are rich. Although if she does just like you for your money, then just avoid her.

Although -

And quite frankly, the girlfriend you do have, you might never see ever again. So it sounds like a waste of time.

I agree with her here, you might never see her again. Maybe it would be better for you to end things with her, so the two of you are free to live your lives without worrying about each other. Long distance relationships are all good, but if you're missing out on stuff in real life and questioning things, it's just not worth it.

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

So you're absolutely sure she really likes you because she sits next to you on the bus and talks to you sometimes? To me that sounds more like you've got yourself a friend who happens to be a girl, not an admirer, so I think you may be jumping to conclusions really.

 

[Estella Vanilla]

Also Estella just shsh it was an accident with the god damn profile. If you really think I post like an idiot of a 15 year old I really do not give of shit.

You could be 15 you could be not. I never said all 15 year olds were idiots, I've seen many mature 15 year olds that are probably more mature than some 20 year olds I know. Can't you correct the profile problem?

The reason why I believe you are young is that you don't really know how to handle this situation which seems sort of simple in nature. Obviously two girlfriends is bad. All you need to do if you want to stay faithful to the Italian one is just say to the girl on the bus...I really appreciate you as my friend but I would not like to have a relationship with you.

But as Mark said, it might not be a good idea to stay with your Italiano girlfriend bella bambina lady.

 

[CassinoChips]

If she was just going after your money, she'd have slept with you already.

You haven't seen your girlfriend for two years? Loyalty, shmoyalty, that's not a relationship. Even if you did go back to Italy and started dating her again, I can almost guarantee you two would break up within 3 months. You're different people than you were 2 years ago.

My advice: break up with Old Girl and ask out New Girl.

 

[Ness]

Your profile says you're 15. And by the way you write I kinda think that you ARE 15. So my post is going to reflect that.

You're too young to have a girlfriend. Let alone two.

And quite frankly, the girlfriend you do have, you might never see ever again. So it sounds like a waste of time.

Sorry, tough love. =/

So you're absolutely sure she really likes you because she sits next to you on the bus and talks to you sometimes? To me that sounds more like you've got yourself a friend who happens to be a girl, not an admirer, so I think you may be jumping to conclusions really.

When I read your original post, these two opinions popped into my head...so I'll quote them for the sake of emphasis.

Truthfully, I'm a little confused at the near-schizophrenic nature of your posts in this topic. In one post, you'll talk about how you're willing to swim across the Atlantic to see your Italian girlfriend again...and in the next post, you're swayed by this other girl because she talks to you at the bus stop and wishes you luck on a test. As Jack stated, that's not really indicative of anything...just that she's friendly.

However, like Estella pointed out in Quote One...maybe you should reconsider your long-distance relationship. I mean, you're young (not sure how young, and I won't get into it here), and you should be living the life you have in Canada. Long-distance relationships are difficult (not impossible, mind you), but it takes particularly mature people to make them work.

Long story short...if you're really this conflicted, maybe it's time to leave behind what's in Italy. However, be careful when approaching this new girl, because I'm not fully convinced that she's as into you as you might think.

 

[Lord Raptor]

Point one:
If having to girlfriends is bad then Mormons are pretty bad they use to have more then one wife there is some other religion like that I don't remeber.
Point two:
Whats wrong with being 15? Age reflects nothing.
Point three:
Having two girlfriends is very wrong.(In most cases <has had two at one time for very depressing reasons> )
Point four:
Don't do anything drastic, because the girl who is close to you could like you or she couldn't.
Point five:
......Most long relationships with parental problems are hard. Trust me i've gone through it before, and i miss her still but i hate her parents. She only cared what her family and people thought of her instead of what really mattered. AND no i don't mean what i thought , i mean what she liked
Random point:
Tacos rule

 

[Ness]

Point one:
If having to girlfriends is bad then Mormons are pretty bad they use to have more then one wife there is some other religion like that I don't remeber.

Point three:
Having two girlfriends is very wrong.(In most cases <has had two at one time for very depressing reasons> )

So...are you saying having t-w-o girlfriends is good or bad?

Point four:
Don't do anything drastic, because the girl who is close to you could like you or she couldn't.

Agreed.

Point five:
......Most long relationships with parental problems are hard. Trust me i've gone through it before, and i miss her still but i hate her parents. She only cared what her family and people thought of her instead of what really mattered. AND no i don't mean what i thought , i mean what she liked

When you're young, I think it's important to care about your family, especially if you're choosing between your family (who will always be around) compared to some girl who you can't guarantee will be with you forever. I actually made a choice like this once, and I chose not to gamble with my relationship with my family for a high school girlfriend. I still don't regret it.

Point two:
Whats wrong with being 15? Age reflects nothing.

I never said there was anything wrong with being fifteen...and age alone perhaps reflects nothing, but it's certainly indicative of maturity.