Serious Girlfriend or Girlfriends?

[Rockman X]

Dahhhhhh But the one I truly love stays with me. Im not going to cheat on her.

And yet...she's all the way in Italy.

Argor you want me to come and kill you? It was a god damn typo so just shut it. Also Estella just shsh it was an accident with the god damn profile. If you really think I post like an idiot of a 15 year old I really do not give of shit. Also Thanks to some people for strategies. Yes I know having 2 girlfriends is a no-no so Im just going to stick with the one I have been with for 2 years. This other girl can just probably use me for money considering that I am a rich guy. Believe me this has happened frequently and I am aware of it.

How are you not banned for this post?

As far as being rich goes...um, you're the one in control of your money, not her. Just keep a tight grip on your money and don't let her use you, if indeed that is what she's after. It might not be though.

However, like Estella pointed out in Quote One...maybe you should reconsider your long-distance relationship. I mean, you're young (not sure how young, and I won't get into it here), and you should be living the life you have in Canada. Long-distance relationships are difficult (not impossible, mind you), but it takes particularly mature people to make them work.

They are difficult, but quite possible...at least for being on the same continent, anyway. This guy is separated by an ocean, so it's going to make things incredibly difficult, if not downright impossible. Realistically, it may just be for the best to go with the local girl, because if he waits too long, she may give up on him, and there's a very good chance the girl in Italy will get tired of waiting (assuming she's not already going out with someone new).

Point one:
If having to girlfriends is bad then Mormons are pretty bad they use to have more then one wife there is some other religion like that I don't remeber.

Yeah, Mormons. I'm sure with other religions it's okay to have multiple wives too.

Point two:
Whats wrong with being 15? Age reflects nothing.

It can reflect a person's level of maturity in some cases.

Point three:
Having two girlfriends is very wrong.(In most cases <has had two at one time for very depressing reasons> )

Sooo...Mormons are bad?

Point four:
Don't do anything drastic, because the girl who is close to you could like you or she couldn't.

Seems like she's sending clear signs that she does like him.

Random point:
Tacos rule

Damn right they do.

 

[Serah]

Argor you want me to come and kill you? It was a god damn typo so just shut it. Also Estella just shsh it was an accident with the god damn profile. If you really think I post like an idiot of a 15 year old I really do not give of shit. Also Thanks to some people for strategies. Yes I know having 2 girlfriends is a no-no so Im just going to stick with the one I have been with for 2 years. This other girl can just probably use me for money considering that I am a rich guy. Believe me this has happened frequently and I am aware of it.

Shirona, please do not give out death threats to the members and cut the flaming or I'll remove you from the forums. You know better then to speak to people on the forum with that kind of attitude and deliverance. I see it again and you'll be suspended from the forums for two weeks. Also you're getting way riled up in here. Calm down or the thread will be closed. Please continue your discussion.

 

[CassinoChips]

Point one:
If having to girlfriends is bad then Mormons are pretty bad they use to have more then one wife there is some other religion like that I don't remeber.

Having multiple wives for religious reasons is a far cry from having multiple girlfriends for the sake of it.

And the LDS Church discontinued polygamy in 1890 after the US Government refused to allow Utah into the Unionif they didn't drop the practice. So they haven't had more than one wife for over 100 years now.

Long-distance relationships are difficult (not impossible, mind you), but it takes particularly mature people to make them work.

Long story short...if you're really this conflicted, maybe it's time to leave behind what's in Italy.

Agreed. Long distance relationships are brutal, and take a lot of effort and maintenance, and most importantly trust.

 

[MVP]

Haha he says he is 19, so lets stop calling him 15, it seems to really get to him.

But Shirona, logical thinking is, you give up on the girl in Italy. I know she's your girlfriend, but she lives all the way in Italy. If you realistically think you can make it work, then definitely stay with her. If you start to fall for this new girl and can't control it, then go for her, and end your relationship with the girl in Italy. Just my 2 cents.

 

[flames04]

Sounds to me that this other girl needs closure so just explain to her that you have a girlfriend and that you feel uncomfortable by her flirtatious behavior or something like that

 

[MVP]

I agree with flames. If you are falling for her though, you need to fully get away, or you will have no choice and possibly completely fall for her.

 

[Dionysos]

I don't know the extent of your love for the Italian girl.

You say you'd swim the atlantic for her... So either that is just a passing comment that any standard person would make lightly, or it is (though obviously not serious) a comment you said with full passion and that you really really would if you could to get back.

I also don't know the extent of the family troubles (it's personal, so I don't need to know anything you don't want to say), so I know nothing of the nature of how you ended up leaving her behind and how bad everything was etc.

But to me, it seems that this relationship had meant a lot to you. You need to decide for yourself if it does. Andif you're willing to accept that dumping your girlfriend in Italy might hurt her if she had been restraining herself from possible relationships in the hope that yours might work out. While I do agree that this long term relationship is difficult, and I know not of the chance you'll meet again in RL or how soon that might happen, think hard before throwing this away.

Don't throw it away just because a girl smiles at you on the bus. I don't know wha type of person you are in real life... Shy, confident? I'm feeling you as shy in RL though I could be wrong. Anyway those smiles might not mean "oh I love you", but rather "awww" *pats head*. Some girls feel sorry for shy people and stuff. I've fallen for girls that gave me similar treatment, but it was non-reciprocal (then again, I didn't do anythin about it, but that's because I'm a prat).

But enough of that... If she IS interested in you, and you are absolutely sure of that, still think this through. Do you really like her in that way? Or is it just because she is hot and might like you?
In otherwords, would this relationship be meaningful and full of love, or just a quick fling that will be over in a few weeks or months?

If it is going to be the latter, then seriously think about what you do before you end your (I'm assuming) full of love relationship with your current Italian girlfriend.


But whatever you do, don't play them both at the same time. Yeah, people slap me and say "it's none of your business Argor!!!", but I'm thinking for 3 people here, and to play the two girls would not be very nice. I hate witnessing crap things like that where everyone ends up sad etc.

 

[Donald Trump]

You've heard the expression two heads are better than one, well the same is true of girlfriends. Tell the one in Italy that you love her everyday, if do, that's great, however that doesn't stop you loving this other girl for a half hour at a time. If you do decide to swim back to Italy, you've got her too right, so it's a win win situation. And if your girlfriend in Italy is as hot as you say she is, whilst you're having a moral dilema she could be and probably is having a lot of horizontal fun with all the guys back in Italy.

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

She lives in Italy and you may not see her again? Man the fuck up and move on if that's the case. You may love her but your both not doing either of you any favours by clinging onto each other. Besides she's probably sucking some other Italian cock right now and just not telling you.

Sounds like a girl has chosen to be friends with you or being nice because she is, shocker, a nice girl. Maybe she does fancy you a little, maybe she just wants to be friends, either way don't be a dick to her just because of some lass you hardly see any more.

 

[Estella Vanilla]

If you're so "rich" and worried about being used by the other girl...Why don't you blow your fortune on visiting the Italian girl? Just curious. I really can't see where you're coming from; you don't seem to really know either. And if you REALLY ARE 19 you should be able to get on a plane and just go...

 

[Shu]

2 girlfriends is a no no. I didn't want to go through what everyone else is saying, and I will try to keep this serious despite your past discrepancies with members.

I've almost done it, and I thought about it to myself and said I was better than that. Unless they were open to me being in a 3 person relationship, which that's extremely open minded, I don't think it would work.

MLFY, if you are going about this in a serious manner, think of yourself in 5 years. Be with the one you love, and don't screw around with people's heads. It makes you a bad person in more than one way. You are 15, so you are less mature in the fact that you have plenty relationships to go until you figure out what you want in a woman. I mean have fun for now, but don't hurt anyone in the process.

 

[Rockman X]

She lives in Italy and you may not see her again? Man the fuck up and move on if that's the case. You may love her but your both not doing either of you any favours by clinging onto each other. Besides she's probably sucking some other Italian cock right now and just not telling you.

I fucking lol'd. I tried to explain that part about her sucking some new cock in my last post, only in a nicer way

Seriously though, the girl is all the way in Italy. What's to say she hasn't already gone out and got a new bf? I'm not trying to make her out to be some horrible cheater or anything, but this is Italy ffs, she's all the way across the ocean and realistically there is almost no way you will see each other again. Maybe she knows that and just hasn't told you yet because she doesn't know how to let you down easy. Being in the same country is one thing, it can be difficult but things are quite manageable. Across an ocean though....no.

Sounds like a girl has chosen to be friends with you or being nice because she is, shocker, a nice girl. Maybe she does fancy you a little, maybe she just wants to be friends, either way don't be a dick to her just because of some lass you hardly see any more.

Quite true. At least be friends and get to know the girl, then you can size her up and try to determine whether or not she wants you for your supposed money.

If you're so "rich" and worried about being used by the other girl...Why don't you blow your fortune on visiting the Italian girl? Just curious. I really can't see where you're coming from; you don't seem to really know either. And if you REALLY ARE 19 you should be able to get on a plane and just go...

Again, I lol'd. He's totally making it up I'm sure, if he was rich like he claims he wouldn't be riding the bus

 

[Sirsparrow]

Take whatever you can get, when you can.

Let's face it, you're currently in a long distance relationship in which you get all of the rubbish parts of a relationship (the drama/moaning/making her feel better when things are down etc.) and none of the benefits (i'm not just referring to sex, but actual companionship, holding hands and the sort).

If you can get something like that in real life, I'd go with it. If something actually DOES happen with the girl IRL then go for it. If you start going out, break up with the e-girlfriend.

And it's pretty arrogant of you to assume that all girls are after you for your money. But I suppose with the personality i've seen so far, I can't really blame them. So perhaps it's a kudos to you and your paranoia.

 

[Rey]

Hmmmmm I was thinking about something right now so I had to revive this thread. I start my last year of college in 8 days and the girl will be there like normally. What if she does something random? I mean sex wont happen the first day I see her again but like what f she just takes my hand or something. Maybe im an idiot to say this but what shall I do if this happens? This is rather stupid of me xD. Also as for my grl In Italy Im still with her and I am not going to fall for this other cutey. So I decide to keep my long distance relationship. Ill hope nothing happens during the process. Im rather fond of going back.

 

[Kei]

Well Adri, from the experience, don't think the long distance would work with you.

I mean let's face it, what if your girl in Italy is like in the same situation as you are? I doubt she would wait for like a long time. She want companion, so she'll take the other option, even if she can't tell you because she thinks that might make you sad.

If you're going back then it's fine to keep it, as long as the going back period isn't that long, if you want something you got to get hold of it fast. It's nice to hold hands and have someone beside you, than someone to long for and not find that someone available in the end, so IMO I support the close one.

 

[blakstang98]

Why is it that you're having to make a choice between 2 women, and I have none!

Ok, serious time now Adri. I remember this thread from a while back, though I never did comment on it because I really wasn't sure what I'd do if I were in your shoes. But I have a better idea about who you are and this situation now, so I think I may be of some assistance.

I personally am not a fan of long distance relationships. I'm not saying they would never work, but the idea of having my loved one be in a different continent is something that doesn't work for me. I've also been the kind of person to lack spontaneous response, and would always think to myself that I have someone else, even if in another country. I suppose if you got back to Italy right after school finishes, then your long wait may pay off in a big way! I don't know your girlfriend in Italy at all, it would be something that you would have to assess for yourself, but do you think or have a hunch that she may have moved on with someone else or are you confident that she has waited the whole time for you to come back? Being the age you are (and what I assume she is), you're young and will encounter situations like you are right now. There is a good chance that if she experienced or is experiencing the same thing, that she may very well have moved on. It's not a bad thing really, there are always many fish in the sea, so to speak.

So I actually support going after this girl from school, but NOT until you come clean with your girl from Italy. Even if this girl isn't necessarily into you that way, you can always make it happen. The reason you've put so much thought into making this thread in the first place is for the simple reason that you've thought about this girl. If you have a chance to make a crush turn into a relationship, then I'd say it's worth a shot and a girl in another continent shouldn't stand in your way.

I think another factor you should consider is where you are. If you do decide to persue this gal in Canada, you won't be able to run back to Italy that easily if you're in a relationship with her. I know you've stated your displeasure with Canada many times and I'm guessing the first chance you get to bail, you'll be on the first plane out. So where you plan on being once school is done is another factor you should consider. It wouldn't be a good idea to get into a relationship in Canada if you are going to bail the first chance you get. Then you could go back to Italy and possibly rekindle that relationship.

Yeah, there are many factors to consider, so it's not really an easy choice. But do know I'm not trying to be an asshole about this, it's just my thoughts on the matter. We can always talk further on this later if you like. Best of luck sir and do what you think is best!

 

[Rey]

Ok I went back to school as you all know. I did encounter that girl who likes me again. But this time she was really weird. She asked some really stupid things. She asked me what classes do I have. Im in like 2 of hers. She said oh nice. When I had one of the classes she sat right next to me as if nothing happened This girl is such a bitch. Jesus Christ she like follows me everywhere I fucking go. She took the same bus as me again! Not only that in class she touches my arms all the time! She then went really close to my face and said "Do you have a girlfriend" I said yes. She said hmmmmmm no you dont. She touched my lips. I was like 1 inch away from kissing her but I screamed loud and said stop following me! Oh also she always gives me these weird notes in class. She says write back or something will happen after school. Ok this girl is what you call someone who is desperate for sex. I still talk to my girl in Italy by msn but rarely cause it never fucking signs in. She calls me on the phone every once and a while and she says hows it going love? I say good. She says that she misses me! But I got angry and said are you with another guy! She said no. Why would I do that? I said well we have not seen eachother in so long. She said thats still not a reason for me to be with another guy. Alright today the girl came to me in the hallway. She said that she was sorry for being in love with me. Then she asked me can we just be friends? I said ya whatever. what shall I do now?

 

[Caedus]

If you have to conflict in your mind between two girls just cuz one comes into the picture, you're wasting your time with this one across seas, and you've already realized this because if you truly thought you weren't and were happy with your decision and your situation, you wouldn't have posted this thread to ease your conscience if you choose the new over the old. Just saying, psychoanalytic babble, etc. But hey, you know your intentions are good, right?

...right?​

 

[raiden95]

look,i say you decide.cuz,we are not the ones to decide your life.your in collage,awesome.you choose either to stay with the one you loved for two years and keep it going or move on to the next girl and kick the other one to the curve.if she is doing anything that is worst than what the one you are with is doing,then you choose stay with the one you want.ok? you choose.

 

[Albel]

I guess it's really your own decision what you do, because no one else can tell you how to live your life. But as for myself, I find it morally wrong to be with more than one girl/woman, because it's kind of like breaking a promise. Some people don't have a problem with it, but it's not something that I would do myself, because I know how much it hurts to be betrayed by the person you love, and I would never want to make anyone go through that kind of situation.

In times like these, you have to listen to your heart, and find out what you really want. Do you want to endure the guilt of being with two women? Is it something you can handle comfortably? Would you be happier with this other woman than your current girlfriend? If you see this girl now, and then move back, are you going to want to go back to your girlfriend? These are the kinds of questions you need to be asking yourself. Find out what would make you the happiest and then follow that path. Don't let anyone else here tell you otherwise, because it's your life and not theirs. This is something you have to figure out on your own.