Does Father's/Mother's Day Suck?

[bitteroldman]

So, I just got done with Father's Day, and I gotta say, I'm pretty happy it's done.
I was awakened this morning by my kids coming into my bedroom to present me with a present. Now this is the highlight of my day: not the present itself (keep reading), but these munchkins so excited to give it to me. Then I open it, and it turns out to be the equivalent of a tie. I don't wear ties, so my tie was a t-shirt. A t-shirt with Chuck Norris on it, with a bunch of those jokes about him. Basically, my wife picked it out, thinking I would think it was funny. Not complaining (yet), but the Chuckie jokes have gotten pretty stale by now, right? Seriously, not trying to be a butt-plug, but why do guys always get white elephant-type gifts instead of things they actually like/ask for? This is a derail; let the complaining begin now:

So I'm at church, picking up my son from Sunday school after the service, and he's being pretty nawrty, and mouthy to boot. So I tell him nicely to knock the crap off or else... and he doesn't listen. I give the kid about five chances, then I punish him. I put him on a couch in timeout, and went to talk to a friend. My wife FLIPS out and takes my son to the car. She rants and raves about how I'm blaming everybody else for something and that I "WALKED aWAY" from my son, which evidently is a sin when he's in timeout (I should park right next to him and punish myself too, right?).
Then I had to work...ugh.
If I hadn't worked, I would've been running ragged all over town to the four Father's Day celebrations in my family.
I've been a daddy for almost five years now, and this story has become a tradition. Wake up early, get crappy present, do all the parenting while wifey socializes, get in trouble for my evidently crappy parenting, work/run all over town, get back after sunset, relax when everyone else is sleeping.
Does Father's Day suck this much for all dads? Does Mother's Day suck like this for moms? Ugh. I could do without.
Don't even get me started on my birthday...

 

[Marquis of Granby]

Your username is false advertisement - you rant like a little girl.

Your first mistake was to get married...and then (apparently) have unprotected sex, you go to church like a big happy family and because you're such a loving parent, you put your kids in "timeout". Not to mention the fact that you're ranting about this crap on the lolinternet...what kind of man are you?

As for Mother's day and Father's day: I don't like them either but not 'cause I made any of the mistakes you did (cue virgin joke ), just because I don't like spending money on anyone 'cept myself.

PS: real men beat their kids (cue "you're too young to be a real man" joke).

 

[bitteroldman]

Your username is false advertisement - you rant like a little girl.

Your first mistake was to get married...and then (apparently) have unprotected sex, you go to church like a big happy family and because you're such a loving parent, you put your kids in "timeout". Not to mention the fact that you're ranting about this crap on the lolinternet...what kind of man are you?

As for Mother's day and Father's day: I don't like them either but not 'cause I made any of the mistakes you did (cue virgin joke ), just because I don't like spending money on anyone 'cept myself.

PS: real men beat their kids (cue "you're too young to be a real man" joke).

Ahhh... I have found the reclusive Internet Warrior!
Hehheh. hmhmm. Hee. Ha.

Woah. Did the ground just tremble? Settle down big feller.

Anyway, I don't beat my kids every time they do something wrong. Neither do I send them to timeout every time they do something wrong. Sometimes I do both, sometimes I do neither. It depends on what they've done and how angry I am. I keep my man card in this case, because I'm not some pansy who won't get in his kid's face just cuz he's in public (which is another thing the wifey was upset about). I punish him the same way in the grocery store, church, his school as I do at home.

Annnnd ranting about this crap on the internet? Yep. I am. Get over it, beavis. Go flex yer e-muscles for someone who might send you porn. (I won't).

 

[Mitsuki]

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bitteroldman - Sucks that you had to go through that on this day, but honestly, it could have happened on any other day, so with that, I don't think Father or Mother's Day sucks. But that's just me. Being a parent is not easy - and I'm sure we've all had our crappy days, but it's nothing to be extremely bitter about. As for the 'crappy' gift...eh, I'd like to point out that it's the thought that counts, not the item. What I'm trying to say is that instead of thinking about how crappy the gift was, be a little more thankful and appreciative, ya' know?

I don't really give gifts to all the fathers and mothers...a little card or greeting will suffice. But if I do receive a little something, I have never ever thought, "Wow, how crappy is this?" and all the while having a fake smile and saying, "Why thank you, this is so wonderful!" Again, it's not the item that counts - it's the fact that the person actually took time and effort to get me a little something. I'm not a picky person.

But anyway, maybe next year you'll have a better day, who knows?

 

[bitteroldman]

I'll shift this over from Spam to Costa del Sol.

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bitteroldman - Sucks that you had to go through that on this day, but honestly, it could have happened on any other day, so with that, I don't think Father or Mother's Day sucks. But that's just me. Being a parent is not easy - and I'm sure we've all had our crappy days, but it's nothing to be extremely bitter about. As for the 'crappy' gift...eh, I'd like to point out that it's the thought that counts, not the item. What I'm trying to say is that instead of thinking about how crappy the gift was, be a little more thankful and appreciative, ya' know?

I don't really give gifts to all the fathers and mothers...a little card or greeting will suffice. But if I do receive a little something, I have never ever thought, "Wow, how crappy is this?" and all the while having a fake smile and saying, "Why thank you, this is so wonderful!" Again, it's not the item that counts - it's the fact that the person actually took time and effort to get me a little something. I'm not a picky person.

But anyway, maybe next year you'll have a better day, who knows?

Yeah, I understand being thankful and whatnot. However, I bought my wife concert tickets for mum's day. I bought her a keyboard for her birthday. I get a t-shirt and screamed at.

Also, I don't really appreciate the gift because I'm trying to get rid of my overly-full closet of crappy t-shirts (most of which I chose and bought); she knows this.

And, did you really just tell bitteroldman to not be bitter? Then I'd just be an old man, and what's the fun in that?

 

[Mitsuki]

This isn't a spam section anymore, guys. I really don't want to have to delete anymore posts here. Let's get back on track and stay on topic, thank you.

 

[Shu]

I don't mind it, but first off I gotta say I'm not married nor do I have kids. Although I have been in a relationship for over 3 years with my lady, but even with marriage we will wait on kids.

So back on topic, Fathers Day and Mothers Day for me is just a respect thing. I really don't understand those that are sucked down in tradition and have to do a certain amount of things during the day in order to make it feel like "mothers/fathers day" I feel sorry for you people.

Honestly about the only thing I do for my dad is either take him out to play golf (in which I haven't done in over 6 years thanks to him being 4 hours away) or I just hang out with him for an entire day. What prevents me from doing that daily? Well my mom and paps both live 4 hours away, so it is very rare that I can just pick up and spend the money to go see them. Plus of course my mom is a bit of a looney toon.

For mothers day I always buy a card and always write a small message to let her know I appreciate her.

Honestly folks I can be a down right prick to my parents every now and again, because they are so set in their ways, but when it comes to mothers/fathers day I love to show them the respect they deserve.

I think the actual days are not a reason to buy a gift per say, or get sucked into tradition, but a day to show your respect for the people who raised you.

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

It's all a pointless "holiday", if it can be called such devised to take more money out of our pockets. And for what? To show our parents we appreciate them? Why does that have to be done on a specific day of the year?

 

[bitteroldman]

I don't mind it, but first off I gotta say I'm not married nor do I have kids. Although I have been in a relationship for over 3 years with my lady, but even with marriage we will wait on kids.

So back on topic, Fathers Day and Mothers Day for me is just a respect thing. I really don't understand those that are sucked down in tradition and have to do a certain amount of things during the day in order to make it feel like "mothers/fathers day" I feel sorry for you people.

Honestly about the only thing I do for my dad is either take him out to play golf (in which I haven't done in over 6 years thanks to him being 4 hours away) or I just hang out with him for an entire day. What prevents me from doing that daily? Well my mom and paps both live 4 hours away, so it is very rare that I can just pick up and spend the money to go see them. Plus of course my mom is a bit of a looney toon.

For mothers day I always buy a card and always write a small message to let her know I appreciate her.

Honestly folks I can be a down right prick to my parents every now and again, because they are so set in their ways, but when it comes to mothers/fathers day I love to show them the respect they deserve.

I think the actual days are not a reason to buy a gift per say, or get sucked into tradition, but a day to show your respect for the people who raised you.

My family has a picnic for my surviving grandpa, and I went to my dad's church's car show with him. My wife got together with her dad while I was at work, and her family annually gathers for breakfast in honor of her two-year dead granpa. My wife and I roll our eyes at that last one.

You might think about doing a little more for yer mom on mom's day. They notice these things: how you go golfing with pops, but don't even show up for moms. My ma's even more senile and quirky than I am, and always up in my biznass, but she's still my mom. What your parents generally have do for you cannot be repaid.

It's all a pointless "holiday", if it can be called such devised to take more money out of our pockets. And for what? To show our parents we appreciate them? Why does that have to be done on a specific day of the year?

Yeah. But I only see my grandpa about four times a year, and this gives a staple in my schedule to visit him. That's a good thing. My dad, whom I see most weekends, threw a fit a couple years back when neither me nor my sibs showed up at his car show, so I decided it wasn't a big enough deal to get him all worked up, and attend now.

 

[Bun]

It kinda sucks for me because my dad lives 1700 miles away, so I can't be with him to celebrate. Wish I could, but that's the joys of divorce (thanks for gaining sole custody of us, mom). Not that there's anything we could've done about it, and I love my mom dearly, but I'm sure father's day sucks for my dad, too. I mean, all he usually gets from his kids are cards and a call. It's been a while since we've actually got to see him.

 

[Shu]

You might think about doing a little more for yer mom on mom's day. They notice these things: how you go golfing with pops, but don't even show up for moms. My ma's even more senile and quirky than I am, and always up in my biznass, but she's still my mom. What your parents generally have do for you cannot be repaid.

Like? lol. I am not a mother's boy as you can tell, my mom and I get along and I still tell her I love her and such but beyond that... well.. I don't know.

Honestly I only see my parents when I can. I work over here in Oxford,MS and they live in Nashville,TN and I can't exactly get away unless of course I want to use a sick day to recuperate. Also the amount of money on gas is getting back up there. I might have my excuses but what I mean by giving her a card, I generally write here a brief 3 paragraphs on stuff to respect her.

She might be my Ma but aside from visiting her, that's all I can do. We get a long.. but that's about it.

 

[bitteroldman]

Like? lol. I am not a mother's boy as you can tell, my mom and I get along and I still tell her I love her and such but beyond that... well.. I don't know.

Honestly I only see my parents when I can. I work over here in Oxford,MS and they live in Nashville,TN and I can't exactly get away unless of course I want to use a sick day to recuperate. Also the amount of money on gas is getting back up there. I might have my excuses but what I mean by giving her a card, I generally write here a brief 3 paragraphs on stuff to respect her.

She might be my Ma but aside from visiting her, that's all I can do. We get a long.. but that's about it.

Learn Spanish. Then you can curse away when she frustrates you. She'll obviously ask what you just said, but then you can rattle off some poem you memorized beforehand. Or get her into World of Warcraft or something. Then you can anonymously beat her avatar up after visiting her to let off some steam.
Always come to me for advice about such things. I'll get you through life, buddy.

 

[Big Casino]

Fathers days not an issue for me. I dont speak or see my Dad at all so obviously im not gunna get him anything.. Mothers day, we never make a big deal out of it. Il always get my mum a gift, something close to the heart usually. This year i made a collage of photos which included me, my sister and my grandparents who are now deceased.
Its not a huge celebration, infact i dont know anyone who takes it seriously to be honest. Its just a day to give your parent a gift and be nice to them for a change

 

[Daenerys]

Mother's day and Father's day is pretty routine for me, really. Get the mother a nice card and a box of chocolates / flowers, and get my dad a joke card and a CD / bottle of vodka. We just don't make a big deal out of it really. I don't see why people should feel obligated to make a big deal out of it, what makes those days more important than the other days of the year?

Unless, of course, you don't see your parents all the time, then I think you should at least make sure you see them on those days - if you get along with them and everything. Like, if you don't speak to them, then don't bother.

 

[Misty]

Don't see my real dad, and as for my stepdad...got him a card (the last probs), and just gave it to him, wishing him Happy Fathers Day.

Mothers Day means a lot lot more to me. I adore my mother 100%, and just having this one day, means you can get something special organised in advance, just in case you can't do it during the week.

This year, I got my mum a Chocolate fountain, tho we havent used it yet

 

[Busta]

I actually for the very first time in my life appreciated Mother's/Father's Day big time. For both days this year I was away at Basic Training and Tech School for the Air Force and was not able to see my parents on their respective days. I was able to call both of them and talk to them momentarily, but afterward, it hit me of how much I wish I was back home for the day, celebrating with them.

I took it with a whole new perspective this year and appreciate my parents more now that I'm out of the house than when I was there living under the same roof as them.

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

I get them stuff, but the whole thing's just a way for companies to gain money, much like Valentine's Day, I don't need to buy stuff to show that I love them because they already know that, and although I do, I don't see how buying them anything is going to show you love them anymore.

I do it but I don't see the point in it all.

 

[Lebreau]

Well, I don't live with either of my parents, and I don't even talk to my mother. I did call my dad at least, but as I don't have a reliable car and he doesn't have a car at all right now, it's hard to make the long trip to visit. My mother is only a few towns away, but I don't talk to her so I didn't call or visit her either. I did, however, get both of my grandparents things. They've basically raised me my whole life, so I feel that they're more of my parents than my REAL parents. I made all of the meals and did the household chores for my gran, and I went fishing with Gramps I found these things to be much more special than any store bought gift too. My gran relaxed in bed all day, and Gramps just looooooooooves fishing

I prefer gifts that may not cost money but have a real meaning. I also ended up helping my siblings make cards

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I can't believe how many people don't speak to their mums/dads/both. =0

Rather sad really.

I don't make a big deal out of Mothers or Fathers Day, mainly because I want to be able to buy them something extra special on their birthdays, which are more important to me.

This year I wrote my mum the first meaningful card I had in ever. It isn't until you're out on your own, trying to build your own family that you realise just how good your parents were and still are to you.

The things they would sacrifice and how they went out of their way for you. You don't see it until you 'HAVE' to do those things yourself.

I don't think it's a big deal what you get from your kids. Seeing them excited to hand over their pressies would be joy enough.

Though if my partner thought he could get away with giving me something that clearly had no thought put into it whatsoever, I think I would say something for sure.

Though if they don't want to give you anything special or anything in general to start with, I wouldn't want it anyway. =/ Don't really like the whole forced love thing. <_<

 

[Bambi]

Mothers day means more to me than fathers day, I quite enjoy it actually, i used to just be ughhh it's just another excuse to make us buy cards, but it IS nice to feel appreciated for once, me and my mum just exchange gfts, I get something from me to her, she gets ME something from Ellie for me, and it's never anything much, it's just afew thoughtful tidbits, I think I got her a bag with some oil of ulay shit, but I remember she said she wanted a nice blag bag, so it was perfect, it didnt cost the earth, far from it, it's tyhe thought that counts.

As for fathers day, well, that's summat Ive never really bothered with, we left my dad when I was 7, and he never really pulled his weight anyway, my mum did all the hard work, he just saw me on a weekend, and then it was my GRAN who did everything, I dont think ive ever bought him a card or gift ever, he doesn't deserve it. I either made them in school or my mum would buy me one to give to him, not that HE ever did the same, so I think FATHERS day sucks, becuase half the time, the men don't deserve the recognition ¬.¬

I certainly won't get Barry an ything off Ellie til he proves he can act liek a proper parent and pull his weight and Ive seen my dad like, 3/4 times in 8 years

Im not saying that all men are liek this btw and dont deserve recognition etc, that's just why it sucks from MY experience