Serious Dating

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K, no matter how old you are, hopefully we have all had a date :D

But what classes to you as a date and where do you take your date?
Do you wine and dine them? Or do your dates end up at the cinema?


Now for me, I usually just go into a relationship and we go where we want to go. Ive never classed anything we did as dates because we would be an offical couple. Cinema or shopping was just cinema and shopping, nothing wow like. Even at resturants, it was just us eating, not a date lol.

But Ive recently been asked out for a picnic by a guy Ive become friends with ... now Im not use to doing cute stuff like that, so I feel MEGA akward about it. Plus Im having second thoughts as I still love my ex. But that aside lol!


So yeah, lets dish the dirt on dates!!!
 
Well to start off with, SS, the picnic does sound like a date to me.

but i have only ever been out on 2 dates, as i tend to be in official relationships, so nothing classes as a date.

one of them was with a girl i had known for abouta year (at the time). It started off with a sit down meal at a really fancy All you can eat chinese buffet, and then we went to the cinema after the meal. . . well buffet. It didn't go all that well, because i made a complete pig of myself and ate like 4 full plates of chinese food. . . it was good food.

the second one, was actually with a GF. it was for her birthday. I took her out for a meal, then we went to the cinema (definately a pattern here) and then we went back to her place as i had arranged a Surprise party with her parents, (the reason for the meal and the Cinema. . . had to get her out the house somehow)
 
Admittedly, I have only ever went on something I considered a "date" once. The boy I was with wasn't necessarily a boyfriend. We were just close friends at school. We would laugh together, compliment each other and work together. We were genuinely nice to each other for a few years. One day he told me he had to go down south for a few weeks. Therefore i agreed to keep him company on that Saturday. Ultimately I let him decide what to do, which surprised him.

So naturally, he led me to the Trafford Centre in Manchester to go shop-gazing. He constantly waved his wallet around in case I wanted to purchase anything, but I assured him that it was alright. Nothing went wrong in the Trafford Centre. There was a lot of people, and we did lose each other twice or so, but luckily we found each other in time for a little lunch (Pizza Hut!). As I expected, he suggested that we use the mall's Odeon- but sadly we ran out of time before we could go in. It didn't bother me. I didn't like the idea of waltzing into an overcrowded 20 screen cinema on a Saturday anyway.
 
Dating at my age is sort of obsolete in my opinion but yea, back in the day I dated a bit.. and boy did I hate it. I hate things to be planned right off because it defeats the element of surprise. If it was someone I really liked and wanted to be with for more than just a couple of weeks, well I would take it slow and easy. How often times did this happen? Never.. really. I still tried though.. I mean if two people are attracted to one another.. I mean you can do the rest.. So early on I would start by small casual meals, emphasis on the small part, because who really wants to be "full" or bloated when around an "interest." Next I would say just a local hang out, whether it be a mall or theater. I mean honestly I hated dating in the open.. but that couldn't really be controlled.

Wine and dine only means one thing to me early in the relationship... sex. Later on its however just a nice evening out..

The rest I'll leave a mystery, a man has his secrets.. what can I say. Why spoil the surprise.
 
I thought I'd already posted in this thread. =0

Anyway, I think I've had maybe one official date and it was with one of my loser ex's.

But with all my other boyfriends including Steve, we've just met and then started to hang out and then we're just together one day. XD

I don't really like the whole idea of dating. Being out in public wining and dining is a bit awkward if you don't know the person and then you try to be all formal and try not to say the wrong thing etc.

I prefer to go about it casually in the comfort of the privacy of our homes or something like that.

I think it's awkward to be invited out somewhere where other people are going to be as well. You won't know anyone and you wouldn't get to spend much time getting to know each other if other people want to talk his ear off. :gonk:
 
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never had a date :D and i never plan to. if i like a girl i will spend time with her whether it is eating ramen or picking up garbage. a 'date' is no different - we are just spending time together. i'd rather classify it as 'going places'.
 
Tmoo said:
if i like a girl i will spend time with her whether it is eating ramen or picking up garbage. a 'date' is no different - we are just spending time together.
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^^ For the most part, I agree. I generally think dates are more on the lines of romantic then casual. But, like you said Tmoo, either way you spend time with the person. I looked it up on google and heres what I got:
"a person with whom one has such a social appointment or engagement..." so that's why I agree with ya Tmoo. I've been on some 'dates' But as KS has said, I prefer to have more privacy and get to know the person then maybe go from there.

source:http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/date
 
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Same with me for the most part. I wouldnt say anything was ever something I would call a date. We just spent time together and enjoyed each others company. Ive always met the person, than we would eventually end up together officially.
 
he asked you to go for a picnic?
OMG WTF, seriously what guy would ever ask for a freeking picnic or something like tht :P

He must really like you, it would be a date/romantic, it depends on how he and you communicate, dont force just chill , drink some wine to get loose etc

Go for it :)
 
It's hard to say that I'd consider time with a girl that isn't related to love and all it's connotations a date due to how for some reason getting on like a house on fire with someone who you're clearly compatible with will only ever seem like a friendship- often their real boyfriends seem to share no such bond other than looking rather good in a jacket. They're agreeable, they're good to have on a girls arm, but it leaves me scratchicng my head as to how on earth it could ever be called a date or even a relationship when there's no actual conversing or support between both parties.
If a girl has decided to spend the day with me I mostly make sure they have fun or do something they enjoy. I've kind of decided I'm obviously too young to know anyone who will actually like the fact that we'd be compatible so I'm more focused on making them happy as opposed to a love. It's not a date, but perhaps it's better than that. It's my nature to entertain others before myself and I'm heavily into the art of showmanship-maybe I like that distance too much to ever find myself in something I could truly call a date.
Gwargh ramble.
 
Ohri-Jin said:
he asked you to go for a picnic?
OMG WTF, seriously what guy would ever ask for a freeking picnic or something like tht :P

He must really like you, it would be a date/romantic, it depends on how he and you communicate, dont force just chill , drink some wine to get loose etc

Go for it :)
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Uh, this happened about 3 months ago and we havent met since ... Picnics are seen as something romantic and traditional. Its not odd for people to go on picnics. Ive been on loads with friends, just never with a guy ...
 
Well, I went on a date a couple of weeks ago for the first time in damn near 10 years. It was great to be on a date again. Sure, going on dates can be a drag at times, but with a special someone, it can be a lot of fun, and that's just what it was. I wish I could do it again, but circumstances prevent that from happening again for a while. :(

I classify a date as many different things I guess. Wine and dine, yes. Cinemas, yes. Taking a trip, yes. I guess pretty much anything you do publically with that special someone. Spending time with them is the important part.

I honestly handle dates different everytime. I don't have a set of rules or hooks I use everytime I'm on a date or a specific type of date. How the date goes is really dependent on the mood of you and your girlfriend/boyfriend. Sometimes the mood calls for something more romantic, sometimes things are loose and call for a fun day full of laughter and such. So I suppose I can't give any real dirt because it's different all the time. You'd be surprised how some dates turn out to be. Some you expect a lot to happen and it just doesn't work, others you feel there is no room to get your groove on, yet you manage to find it. So to sum it up, I don't go with a plan on how to approach the date or the post-date, I just take it as it comes to me.
 
It's always been difficult for me to determine whether something is a date or not. I'd say it's an appointed event or plan between two people with the intent to socialize or engage in one another's company. The last bit is specific, but it kind of has to be to separate it from, say, a business appointment.

I was--see, I even almost said date there--no, but I was out with a (girl) friend not too long ago. I got off work and she called me to go to the movies with her. Our movie (Zombieland, of all things) was out around midnight, but we found ourselves sitting on a bench, talking, laughing, and admitted flirting until about 2 AM. Some time after, she referred to it as a date, and asked me if I thought of it as one. I told her no (which probably shot my chances after that), but only did so because I was thinking that if it were a date, I'd have been a lot more careful, courteous, and planned things better. Basically, a lot more romantic. That's not to say I didn't behave as a gentleman, but at the same time, I didn't have the intent to impress her.

So the interpretation really seems to vary. I think it's about intent more than anything. What you do doesn't matter so much as how you both go about it, in my thinking.
 
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i don't usuallt date lol, i always seem to just fall into things lol, like if i meet a guy at a party, we usually end up just ... meeting up and hanging out, never really a date. i'd like to think a guy would want to take me out and stuff but it ain't happened =/
 
I've never been on a date ever, but I don't think I would classify 'going to the cinema' as a date. I really don't get it when two people who are dating for the first time go to the movies, since you can't get to know eachother when you both are staring at a big screen. I think the cinema is more a fun evening out if you have been with your partner for a longer time. For the rest, I agree with HighwindPilot, dating is probably about intentions. For some people going to the movies can be a date, for others it is just an evening out with a (very good) friend.
 
I've never been on a date, but I'd be pretty flexible about what I'd consider an official "date." Except movies. After working in theaters for a total of two crappy years of my life, I hate going to the movies. But buying/renting something and sitting on the couch would be on the line.

Apparently I was once dating a girl, but we were just hanging out at each others houses. I was beyond confused when one day she popped out of the blue, "I'm dumping you." "Uh... We're dating?" "Exactly." I still never understood that one.

My point of view is that females consider most stuff to be dates, especially any time the female and male are alone. Whereas males tend to have more specific criteria for what classifies as a date.

But anyways, I gave up on trying to get a date anymore. Both sexes are just too fricking complicated to be around.
 
I've kind of been on dates, but only with a girl I was allready kind of seeing...
It's difficult to describe I guess. I never seem to date a girl before we start going out, we just kind of decide that we like each other and then we end up hanging out a lot more than usual.

As for what a date is? I would say it was anything you do with the person you care about when it's just you two and it's not something that you would usually do alone. Something like go to the cinema or watch a movie at home(although you do that when your alone sometimes) I mean movies don't always have to be involved, it can just be you going to somewhere with someone you care about, but I guess that could be considered an extended date
 
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I always classified a date as hanging out with someone that you are romantically interested in, but no intimacy occurs. The purpose of the date is to get to know the person better and deciding if you want something more. The night or date may end with a light kiss.

Later in the relationship, a date might be considered a night where you and your SO go out to somewhere special with the intention of of the night being romantic such as a special dinner, a movie, maybe even getting dressed up.
 
I'd say I've been on quite a few dates, the first one with my boyfriend was a night out in a couple of pubs, and we often go out to the cinema alot too. We do lots of things people classify as dates but it all depends on what people classify them as, I mean I wouldn't say the things me and my other half do are dates per se, just us spending time together :)
 
Never dated, though I had some Internet relationships ("had" being the key word here, as I don't intend to have another one of those, despite how pleasurable they've been).

Since I really don't have any money on me (given the scarcity of jobs), I'd probably take my first date to a walk in the park. If I had the money, though, I'd go for the classic dinner and a movie.
 
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