Anger issues

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I can't remember how many times i got mad at certain things, people, etc in the past. Looking back now i know i couldn't have resolved them like i resolve issues now.

It's taken quite some time but i have better control of getting angry, though sometimes you get to those points where you don't know if you can keep calm.

I've only ever had that happen once, i won't mention any more of it but after it happened it scared me a bit.

After some time passed, i thought...i can't believe that i was capable of such a thing. I mean we all have our flaws but i honestly didn't think i would honestly lose it like that and lose my sense of being rational and calm.

Now i try my best to keep calm and not get mad over things, getting mad about anything really isn't good for anyone.

Anyway how good are you at keeping yourself from getting angry? Have any of you got to the point where you just lost it and did something you really regretted later on after it happened?

 
It depends. I have a very short fuse in some cases and a pretty bad temper. Yesterday, I was about ready to lose my shit and I was probably driving unnecessarily fast/crazy. I had to tell myself to stop because it was getting dangerous. I slowed down and was just focusing on my breathing. Eventually, I calmed down, but now that I look back on it, something really bad could have happened.

Other than that, I usually just punch things. No, I don't really regret doing anything because I haven't gotten to that point. I probably do need to watch my temper, though.
 
I have a very very very short temper, haha. It's not something I'm proud of. I can be quite patient with people, I just get very impatient with stuff like games and objects. I don't have the patience to re-do stuff over and over and I usually get really annoyed. This mostly applies for games. My cousin will just sit and re-do the same thing over and over til he eventually finishes it. Me? About the 3rd try I'm actually about to explode with rage and send my controller flying.

I try to keep myself from getting annoyed but I just get annoyed at the fact that I cannot stop myself being annoyed. I'm at constant war with myself. :wacky:
Thankfully, I've never done anything in rage that I've regretted. I've slammed a few doors in my time and a few have eventually came off their hinges. :tehe: But nothing that cannot be fixed... :P
 
I'm not saying I'm bettering myself than anyone here, but my cool is what I'm known for in anger instances, otherwise I wouldn't be able to give my friends advice when they are at their breaking point of anger.

How do I handle myself... let's see.. there's always the take a deep breath approach. Screw that, it never works... I mean it does if it is a small trivial thing that gets under my skin, but seriously.. you have to know how to maintain your chi.

If you know yourself.. you know what should be able to keep you at bay. Sometimes I encourage someone to give into the madness, otherwise it will literally make them insane. I'm not saying for them to pick a fight or anything else to someone, but I'm saying.. take it in.. and deal with it.

My thing is music. If I didn't have it, I would be a very different person today. I close my eyes.. throw on a tune.. and let it flow through me. I either choose to use it for constructive anger and work out (push weights or go running outside).. or just let it dissolve the anger.

Mostly though I shrug stuff off as trivial, but there are things that make me question certain people being allowed to breath one single more breath. Sorry.. just being honest.

Song lyric for you:

"Let's let the panic bloom
Could help us all end up in the
Clear
Then let the havoc choose
To shape us all, push us to invent
We can feed off shame all day
We could feed of shame all day

Soon the stares catch
We begin to kill the calm as we
Feed on the facts let's give in
Let's give in to give in more

Like to be feeling the sand
Bring color
Back to both my arms the sun
Let it do damage like they said it
Would if given chance" - Chevelle - Mexican Sun
 
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Ask me about those issues years ago and I would've said that my temper was very short.

However, I'm fine now. I can usually control myself, but it depends on the situation. If something really bad were to happen and it were to affect the people I care about? Then yes, I'd get angry, lose control and probably beat up the crap out of whoever caused it all. Otherwise, I'd be raging and not be able to calm down.

In most cases, I can keep my cool. But it's just hard sometimes.
 
I normally have a long drawn out temper, that explodes like a firework show when i finally do lose it, but lately there are something things that do seem to tick me off rather quickly.

Bad drivers: Nothing gets me to lose my temper quicker than a bad driver thats all over the road, unneccessarly slow and usually cut you up as well so you usually have to break or take evasive action for there lack of judgement, I just stick to cursing a lot however, and maybe the odd moan about them to my friends.


Inconsiderate rude people: theres nothing worse than someone thats out an out rude, either just being plain ignorant to barging past you, these people really need to learn to respect personal space and stop being so the "im centre of the world and all that matters" types.

Bad mannered children: Kids of today are rude, ignorant and outright annoying, with no morals or respect for there elders, the UK's biggest mistake was banning discipline as all its spawned is a horde of demon children, and these children make me worry about how crappy the world will be in the future.

People that dont take a hint: This usually applies to people you dont like, people that try to hit on your girlfriend/boyfriend when your stood right there and people you just dont generally feel like talking to at that point of time. Luckly im pretty blunt and after the first hint ill tell them straight, unfortunatley it tends to cause offense when I do, but it wouldnt come to that had they just taken the hint.
 
I wouldn't say that I have anger 'issues' but get me mad and it won't be pretty. I've gotten a lot better handling my issues in a healthier way.

I use to be a stressful person and my fusing was very short but I actually learned from myself and my dad (especially him) and i really didn't want to end up like my dad (hes cool now-- but not then) so i just kinda settled down a bit and now, i'm just a happy person =)


Have I ever been over the top? Ehh yeah.
 
they put me into anger management a few years ago, because i was bullied and so i got into fights. Well, i got kicked out of it. Now, im a little better, but im still a hot head. Ya wonder why im a pyromaniac
 
I am not very good at controlling my temper. I have pretty big anger issues. I guess I do not get mad easily, but I am easily annoyed and well I can't stay annoyed for long before I get mad. The worst thing I that happened from my anger was getting fired from my last job, which wasn't really a big deal I hated the job, but because of it I was out of work for 5 months before I finally got hired somewhere again, it took so long because of how I got fired. I regretted it then cause I had no damn money, but now I am kinda glad I did it cause my boss was a douche.

Basically, my boss was getting on to me because of somethin a new guy did, a guy I trained, on my day off. He pretty much had a situation where he did not know what to do on my day off because my boss told me not to worry about training him on this certain piece of equipment until the following week when I would be using it. Well my boss had him operate the baler, he barely knew how to put cardboard in the thing, and he didn't tell my boss I didn't show him how to use it. Well it broke and well it isn't a cheap machine.

So I got yelled at and got a write up on it because my boss didn't have me train him and new boy didn't have the balls to tell him he didn't know how it worked. Well after I got yelled at I took the write up ripped into tons of pieces threw the chair i was sitting on through the glass window looking out into the manufacturing part of the plant, smacked my boss a couple of good ones to the nose, and ran down their electrical fence with my old truck,f350 diesel with a 12 inch lift, and never came back and when companies called my last job about why I was let go most people told me they would "call me", but the bad kinda we'll call you. I regretted it when I was outta work, but now I find it plain funny since my boss then is now my brother's father in law.
 
I don't get angry so much as I get frustrated, and it's always the little minor things that'll do it. Like when I'm reaching for my headphones from my purse and they're entangled in something.. and it doesn't matter how much I yank it just doesn't drop out of entanglement... but it only takes a second for something to hook onto something else.

If I have to repeat myself more than once or explain something, it annoys me... but it's not just me, it's everybody. If I have to hear a story more than twice (be it from the same person or different people) I just get disinterested and aggravated. But I won't be rude and say I heard it before, because whenever I do whoever it is (typically my mother or sisters) will just get pissy and continue on anyway.

My anger/frustration usually stays boiled in within me. I go silent for long periods of time until I either cool down, or this later blows up in a flurry of tears and butt hurt. Usually the latter. But I've never shouted, screamed or thrown/punched things or done something I regret. I just get all womany and cry-ey.
 
I used to have an extremely short fuse, although I've mellowed out a bit as I've gotten older. However, one thing still sends me into a rage almost instantaneously, and that is faulty technology. If my laptop starts playing up in the evening, as it is often wont to do, I really lose it, really quickly. Its just something I'm unable to tolerate. I rarely lose my temper over anything else, though.
 
I manage to be pretty mild mannered, even in tense situations. I have a pretty long fuse, but admittedly, when the fuse does end, it's not a pretty sight. There are some things that I don't see a sense in getting angry at. I was in a relationship in the past where my ex would wonder why I wouldn't argue about certain things or get worked up. My simple answer "is there really a reason to get angry at this?", "some arguing and fighting is good for a relationship, but this isn't worth fighting about, other things are more valid to fight for."

When I was younger, my temper was a little worse, but it would still take a while to get me to that point. In my senior year of high school, my temper was awful, mainly because I had so many things piling up emotionally. I look back at that now and I'm fortunate I didn't do anything stupid. I guess I'm also fortunate that even though I was stressed out, I could manage my emotions well.
 
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