Serious I am pathetic.

King Sean

King Sean

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The thread title says it all. I am nothing. I am not funny, I don't have a good sense of humor, and I am very anti-social. I can't change these ways either, because I look like shit. I am quite ugly and poor to boot. Life has just been a real bitch to me. So many things going on in real life and I can't even escape them on the forums due to my anti-social tendencies seeping online as well. I just hope I don't ruin foruming for any of you. I have never been funny to anyone. I might talk a lot of stuff, but I don't even do any of it. Sometimes, the stress of my life actually hurts me, whether it be physical pain or metaphysical. Sometime I even want to die, but I am afraid of the pain.

Go ahead and say I should man up. I have tried that for years, and at a high school where I am totally out of place and a forum that I may be as well, I just think that maybe I am just done.
 
Dude, don't worry about it.

A) Everybody's got a different sense of humor. If it makes you LOL, they get a point. If it doesn't, they don't. I gave out 0 one night because nobody made me LOL. It's that simple.

B) They're LOLpoints that don't even matter in a game that doesn't even matter to begin with. The fact that people take them that seriously is LOLworthy in and of itself.

I think you're a contributing member to the forums, and would hate to see you leave.
 
Ike, you're a pretty cool guy. I've had lots of good times with you, and yes, a few bad. But at the end of the day, I conciser you a friend, a friend that does make me laugh, and a friend with badass photoshop skills. Hell, I'm pretty anti-social too. I don't really talk all that much, and I've only just recently been opening up to people.

So don't worry, Ike. You're a pretty cool guy, you play FFVII and doesn't afraid of anything. :yay:
 
Buck up, champ. I don't think we've ever interacted, but you seem like an intelligent lad, and at the very least that's worth something. You should be thankful for that.

If there's one piece of advice that I can give, it's this: even if you aren't confident, just fake it. Stop worrying about how in-confident you are, and just pretend that you've got something going for you, even if you actually don't. This especially works online where people can only read what you write--there isn't an expression or a tone of voice that goes with it. It's just text. May it say what you want it to say. Nobody can tell if you're worried, or sad, or nervous, or anything unless the things you say reflect that.

[Of course, I'm not recommending or saying it is wise to bottle these emotions. They need to be let out occasionally so they don't explode within you. When you're feeling sad, don't be afraid to talk about how you're sad. Just keep in mind that conversations are often healthier when all parties are feeling at least content and can then be engaged in discussing exciting and interesting things.]

It may not sound like much of a solution, just feigning confidence. But people love confident people; they're naturally attracted to them. The more confident you APPEAR to be, the more people will take interest in you. And the more people take interest in you, the more confident you will ACTUALLY be. You basically need to jump-start your own confidence by acting like you've got some, and it will naturally progress into you becoming more sociable.

Hang in there, buddy. =D
 
Oh, don't put yourself down so much man. We all have our times in life when it seems like nothing works out right. It really happens to the best of us. You're still young man, there is so much out there that you haven't seen and you haven't experienced yet. No reason to put that to an end. Things will start to look better, you just got to give it time.

From what I've seen, you're not anti-social at all on the forums. Naturally there are things you don't want to tell people on the forum, even if you are good friends with them. I, myself, have things in my life that I'm not proud of and am not willing to share with people. But I see you as pretty outgoing on the forum. I think most of us have the common element of being somewhat shy in real life and sort of let loose on the forums, mainly because it's easier to vent to people you know you won't encounter in real life. There isn't a problem with that as far as I'm concerned.

I remember a long time ago, you got SB banned for speaking your mind on your opinion on abortion. This ended up pissing off a lot of people, but you know something, you fought for what you believed. Others may have had a different point of view, but that night, you were confident and let everyone know how you felt. If you can somehow find it in yourself to act as passionately as you did that night, you'll see good results. Others will either agree with you or stand up to you, but even the ones that stand up to you will respect the fact that you're thinking and speaking up for yourself.

Release the inner you is what I say! RELEASE THE KRAKEN! :gasp:
 
The whole Trivia thing is what usually happens, Sean. Swearing and competing for non-important lolpoints.

You have a place in the forums Sean. I can't do anything about your looks or confidence but I can tell you that.
 
You know you seem like a nice enough guy on the forum but il be honest. I hate it when people make these threads, it just sounds like one big massive cry for attention.
Life aint great for lots of people, and im including myself here aswell. The last 2 years for me have been very difficult but you just gotta get on with it.
Go see your doctor and tell him/her whats goin on. Theres plenty of things that can help you from counselling to medication. Seeing your doctor is the first step. Its not easy telling them how you feel but if you wanna get better its the step you need to take.
 
Ike said:
The thread title says it all. I am nothing. I am not funny, I don't have a good sense of humor, and I am very anti-social. I can't change these ways either, because I look like shit. I am quite ugly and poor to boot. Life has just been a real bitch to me. So many things going on in real life and I can't even escape them on the forums due to my anti-social tendencies seeping online as well. I just hope I don't ruin foruming for any of you. I have never been funny to anyone. I might talk a lot of stuff, but I don't even do any of it. Sometimes, the stress of my life actually hurts me, whether it be physical pain or metaphysical. Sometime I even want to die, but I am afraid of the pain.

Go ahead and say I should man up. I have tried that for years, and at a high school where I am totally out of place and a forum that I may be as well, I just think that maybe I am just done.
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Sometimes I feel like this too, to be honest. Every once in a while I get frustrated with something in real life and then come on here hoping to forget about it, but end up just getting more stressed out because I don't really know how to talk to anyone about it. And you're definitely not alone in feeling like you don't fit in anywhere; I went through this most of my life, especially in school. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, but the fact that you're willing to talk about it is a good thing. A lot of people keep these kinds of emotions bottled up and it just makes everything worse.

Anyway, I know this probably sounds kind of cheesy, but just try to hang in there :) Things usually work out eventually, even if it seems like it takes forever. And if you ever need to talk to people about things like this I'm sure there are a lot of people on here who will listen; it is a community after all and that's what we're here for ^_^
 
Yes....yes you are ugly and pathetic.....jk! XD

We all love you clearly so why you gotta be depressin the forums yo? And you've made me laugh a couple times so thenot funny part isn't true. We all feel ugly so that's nothing new to me. If some fat, ugly, tired, ass of a guy in a trailer park can have a wife then you sure as hell aren't ugly. You're way better than him! Anyways I dunno whether this is a pity thread or a joke but what I do know is that the first post is a buncha lies! XD! Rawrs! I omnom yooou!:zombie:
 
I didn't put it together and others have, is this in relation to the SB Trivia? :hmmm: Honestly, I'm not a fan of the SB Trivia myself, and for many reasons. But the one thing I don't like seeing is people getting bent out of shape over it. I too admit that whenever I would participate in it when it was still in development, I would get a little annoyed as well. It really changes how people act, and I know I'm not a fan of it either.

Bottom line, just don't participate. I find it more fun to watch people answer the questions then to answer them myself. If you think people are annoyed with the way you run the game, then it's their problem really. Obviously everyone has their favorite game and are biased towards that game by default. If you like a game, don't feel like you should stray away from it because someone else doesn't, you are the gamemaster afterall. I know it sounds bad, but you may have to watch out for certain people, and know how they get. But to think you don't have any friends on this forum is absolutely wrong. I like you, I've never had an issue with you and you never pissed me off. You even gave me a nickname that is unique to you, I appreciate that sir. :ryan:

I'd say play a game for the time being to relieve some stress. This was always my stress reliever in the past, it works wonders I tell you. I recall going through a bad breakup a few times and blowing through long games in blazing rate, it's crazy! You've mentioned that you work out too, that's another good stress reliever.
 
It's not just the trivia, nor does it really center around it at all. I just haven't been feeling good about myself for years now. Every time I look in the mirror, I just sigh, feel a pain in my chest, then go about my business. I know full well that living the way I do each day is the fast track to death. Stress is just getting to me everywhere I go, and in everything I do. I don't get girls, I can't make real friends, I can't really do anything.
 
do something to change your situation instead of whining then. geez youre only 16.

laugh/cry it off and get on with it like every other cunt has to do.
 
Sean :tighthug:

How dare you say that? You're one of the most funniest guy I've met/talked to. And yeah, like Jesse said, everyone has their own sense of humour.

And I'm not gonna say Man up, dude, because sometimes, in your life, you get really depressed and feel belittled by the world around you, and when that time comes, just have fun, like play FFVII, or come on here. That's what makes you you, unique.

So, yeah, have an awesome mantra if you want, but personally, I think that you're already awesome enough :awesome: (but I also think that for almost everybody :wacky:)

I'm here if you want someone to rant to :elmo:
 
Ike said:
It's not just the trivia, nor does it really center around it at all. I just haven't been feeling good about myself for years now. Every time I look in the mirror, I just sigh, feel a pain in my chest, then go about my business. I know full well that living the way I do each day is the fast track to death. Stress is just getting to me everywhere I go, and in everything I do. I don't get girls, I can't make real friends, I can't really do anything.
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Ahh, I see. Then basically my first response would be the valid one. Add in the part about playing a game to relieve stress from the 2nd response and I'd say go with that for now. You're still young, and your personality, as well as others, will change some in time. Once this happens, then people will start to realize that you're a cool guy. So just hang in there and be patient my friend. :ryan:
 
Damn it Ike, you own an awesome website. And, I know exactly how you feel. I wasnt anti-social at one point, but now I am. I actually enjoy being alone. But here online you got friends, who respect you for who you are, not how you look. Hell, I'm an ugly bastard myself. But, in the long run, the people who don't look the best and are outcasts,end up winning in the long run. Ike, you have your funny moments, keep it that way and enjoy life!
 
Being anti-social isn't a bad thing I know plenty of people who are like that. The important thing to ask yourself is are you functioning? and is that what you want?

If you are feeling depressed which is what it sounds like to me a little bit. (please correct me if I'm wrong)

Then maybe you should go and speak to a doctor? If you don't want to do that then maybe a good friend and by the looks of things you have quite a few from reading the posts other people have put up. Confide in them about whats on your mind, i found personally it helped me.

In all honesty hun I'm not confident to most people I probably look like a rats arse but if you act it people will believe it. You are 16 years old everyone feels a little out of place at your age very few people are that lucky enough to feel compleatly comfortable with themselves.
 
You remind me of me during my freshman year of high school. I was always putting myself down. I had no confidence. But after a while, I stopped and thought about all the things I didn't like about myself and really weighed it up to the facts. I thought I was ugly but there were girls that liked me. I thought I had no good qualities but my friends always came straight to me if they were having a bad day and needed someone to cheer them up because I apparently I have this weird ability to cheer them up. So, you just have to do the same thing dude. Try to view yourself how other view you. If you have friends then you obviously have great things to offer. It's not worth fretting over little flaws you have. I mean shit, I've got a lot flaws...A LOT OF FLAWS. And sometimes I get distraught and put myself down but, I find I just gotta let off steam. I still insult myself but I most just do it because I find it funny. But you're probably not even going to read this because this threads old as Hell.
 
Ike said:
The thread title says it all. I am nothing. I am not funny, I don't have a good sense of humor, and I am very anti-social. I can't change these ways either, because I look like shit. I am quite ugly and poor to boot. Life has just been a real bitch to me. So many things going on in real life and I can't even escape them on the forums due to my anti-social tendencies seeping online as well. I just hope I don't ruin foruming for any of you. I have never been funny to anyone. I might talk a lot of stuff, but I don't even do any of it. Sometimes, the stress of my life actually hurts me, whether it be physical pain or metaphysical. Sometime I even want to die, but I am afraid of the pain.

Go ahead and say I should man up. I have tried that for years, and at a high school where I am totally out of place and a forum that I may be as well, I just think that maybe I am just done.
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We've never met, but honestly, this is something I can, and can't relate to.
In the few past weeks I've lost a lot of things that I took for granted, such as my mother, my wife and a few of my closest friends, and you know why? Because I depressed about it. It's a chain of events that will never end until you make it end. I joined this forum for the same purpose of trying to forget things in the real world, but things won't go away no matter how much you do try to forget them.

And, believe me. The opposite side of your coin ain't any prettier, man. I can't say I've ever been anti-social or not confident enough, but I was the polar opposite. Can you imagine the problems that spawn by being popular or over-confident? Your friends become jealous of you, you lose sight of who you can really trust, you can never tell whether the person you love loves you, or your body/face/whatever. Over-confidence only gets you so far, and you need a neutral ground that you CAN achieve by relaxing.

Trust me, I've thought of ending my life many times before. I have some knowledge of medicine and my mother was a surgeon, so having access to doing it was easy. But whenever it came down to it? It's not worth it. Who the hell am I to judge something as large as life?
I got married too young, gave my life up, dreamed the dream, and then she left me. I fell to depression for something I took for granted, and with that, my "friends" left me. They didn't care so much for me anymore now that I wasn't the dude with the witty comment. My mother fell ill and my depression only got her to be even worse to the point I had to move back with her to feed her, otherwise she'd forget to do so.

I can relate to everything you feel right now. Maybe I can't understand because only you truly feel your pain, none of us can, unfortunately, but guess what?
Like with me, when the crap hits the fan, people WILL leave, and people WILL disregard and treat you like nothing. But if you look closely enough, some people do stay. Look around you. Read all these comments. There ARE people who do care, even though that's the last thing you care about right now, and I know why, and I understand how, and it's normal.

At the end of the day, look yourself in the mirror and stop blaming the World, and stop blaming it on how "you were born". You, my friend, lead your life. Not your friends, not your looks. Brad freakin' pit started out in the gutter dressed as a chicken in front of a restaurant for Pete's sake lol.

Rather, ask yourself what are YOU doing wrong. Think long, think hard, and change it. Don't be the person you should be. Be the one you want to be. And if the World squares down to you, you make a fist, punch it across the freakin' jaw, and still have time to go make yourself a tuna sandwich.

But you know all this already. All we're doing in this thread is reminding you that you can. So... go ahead, and do it.
 
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Ike said:
The thread title says it all. I am nothing. I am not funny, I don't have a good sense of humor, and I am very anti-social. I can't change these ways either, because I look like shit. I am quite ugly and poor to boot. Life has just been a real bitch to me. So many things going on in real life and I can't even escape them on the forums due to my anti-social tendencies seeping online as well. I just hope I don't ruin foruming for any of you. I have never been funny to anyone. I might talk a lot of stuff, but I don't even do any of it. Sometimes, the stress of my life actually hurts me, whether it be physical pain or metaphysical. Sometime I even want to die, but I am afraid of the pain.

Go ahead and say I should man up. I have tried that for years, and at a high school where I am totally out of place and a forum that I may be as well, I just think that maybe I am just done.
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tbh, you should man up.

I was a lot like how you described when I was 16. I wasnt very anti social but I had no social skills, I was "liked" at school, at arms length as in no one had problems with me but I didnt hang around with anyone bar a few people at lunch time.

Being poor has nothing to do with it, unless you are horrible disfigured then there are things you can do to make yourself more attractive. It took me years to overcome these things and become truely confident in myself and get over depressions, but it can be done.

Instead of wallowing about it in forums or in your bedroom, the only thing you can do that is positive is to do something about it.
 
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