What do you think about womanizers?

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Do you disagree strongly with their actions? Do you give them any benefit of the doubt?

Do you think that because women play along, and that because it is part of life to learn lessons that they are necessary or in their own right proper , and just simply human?

Do you think that they are the scum of the Earth ?

What would you think of me if I were to be one ?
 
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I have to think more about the fact that they are enabled by women. I know a guy who is a total womanizer. He is verbally abusive, condescending, uncaring and demanding... but he always has a girl with him. Often for at least several months. So I think a better question would be WHY do some females go for these guys?

I can't say I like guys like that, but given the fact that they are constantly enabled, what can anyone do about it?
 
I am 21 years old, and I see a lot of fast, flattery type , relationships everyday. I thought I was all grown up, in a grown up world, but serious women are so rare.

Most just want sex, I always thought women were nice , but it turns out they are just as nasty as I am . So what is wrong with giving into them , and the their LUST and being what they REALLY want, giving them some ease, and getting want I REALLY want? If anything it will make them happier the next day, and I sure the hell wont regret it.

Their bodies want it just as much as mine, I don't have to protect them from making hasty actions, why not just play along ? Be a player, learn women, and get what I want ? I love art, maybe I'll think of it as an art, and I could even be passionate about it. A woman likes a passionate man, I wouldn't have a bad time, I'm sure I would love it, and so would she.
 
Korytco said:
I am 21 years old, and I see a lot of fast, flattery type , relationships everyday. I thought I was all grown up, in a grown up world, but serious women are so rare.

Most just want sex, I always thought women were nice , but it turns out they are just as nasty as I am . So what is wrong with giving into them , and the their LUST and being what they REALLY want, giving them some ease, and getting want I REALLY want? If anything it will make them happier the next day, and I sure the hell wont regret it.

Their bodies want it just as much as mine, I don't have to protect them from making hasty actions, why not just play along ? Be a player, learn women, and get what I want ? I love art, maybe I'll think of it as an art, and I could even be passionate about it. A woman likes a passionate man, I wouldn't have a bad time, I'm sure I would love it, and so would she.
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There's a difference between being a womaniser and indulging in short meaningless relationships. A womaniser wants to attempt to seduce someone. Let's say that I am a Lothario, and you are a chick, I seduce you and charm you into having sex with me, then I move on. You feel cheapened, because it's meaningless sex.

The fact that you would have to learn women suggests that you are doing it for gain. If you can convince yourself that meaningless sex with strangers is not a zero sum game then bully for you. IMO we don't live in such a hedonistic society that casual sex means nothing.

There is no difference in the pleasure received from onanism than from sex. One boosts self-esteem. It's an over prescribed saying but sex is better with someone you have a realtionship with.
If you really just want pleasure, then why not take up drug use? It doesn't harm other people and is better than sex imo at least.
If you can convince yourself that having sex with an endless supply of faceless nameless woman is neither harmful or 'wrong' then go for it. It's your decision.
 
I think if a guy wants to be a womanizer and if the girl is either stupid or desperate enough to agree to it; then more power to them. Who am I to say a guy shouldn't chase around a bunch of women? It's their decision, not mine and it probably won't affect me.

What would I think of you if you were one? *shrug* Honestly, I couldn't care less.
 
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I know a guy who is a total womanizer. He is verbally abusive, condescending, uncaring and demanding... but he always has a girl with him.
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I'm not that demanding. :monster:

To be completely truthful, I think womanizer is another one of those terms that people throw around carelessly without really having any fucking clue what it truly means. In fact, I can't be sure it has any true definition. Technical definitions simply state that a womanizer is a philanderer or letch, which have equally bullshit definition.

The word philanderer broken down simply means a love of a man. It doesn't mean to take advantage of women or to abuse them. It simply means a man who loves women. And truthfully, I think that's all a womanizer truly is. It's definitely a word with negative connotation but that's only because the perspective is so bad. A man who loves the company of women isn't a bad thing. A man who treats those women poorly is... but there is absolutely no correlation between being around women and treating them badly. A man can almost never be with a girl and still be a "womanizer", if by that definition you simply mean he treats them poorly.

Philander in latin:
Phil - love
Ander (Andros) - man
 
Well when I think of a womaniser, I think of a guy who uses lots of women for sex, or somebody who just generally flirts with loads of girls but never has any steady relationships. I don't think that's a bad thing, you can't force somebody to settle down with somebody if they prefer just playing the field. And as long as the girls know not to expect anything serious from it then nobody really gets hurt. And if a girl does end up getting hurt then it would probably either be because she was stupid and naive, or because the guy misled her, rendering the guy a bit of a prick. But apart from that I don't see any problem with it.
 
Every woman is taken,I give up I think I am just going to go on a asking out, dating spree.
 
A few weeks ago i was reffered to as a womanizer and i just laughed it off. IMO womanizers are a part of life, they show up and girls fall for them, then the womanizer does what he does best and breaks their hearts, its a part of life and i believe it gives a good lesson to girls to make sure they know the guy before they fall for them.
 
My opinion about womanisers is a very simple one, they are men who are less likely to commit then a man who isn't a womaniser.

Relationships(lasting ones) aren't going to last if the centre of them is just sex(although studies say sex brings people closer).

Do I have anything against womanisers? Not at all, but their chances of finding a loving relationships are less likely.

And thats all I have to say about that :jon:

- Sephiroth
 
People make decisions that others may not like, or even hate, but it's nothing you can change unless they want to. I lack respect for womanizers and rarely associate myself with them
 
Womanizers annoy me a lot when I see them at work. But thats because I'm a loser who hasn't had a girlfriend since first school. :monster:

It's just annoying when I sit there, a girl tries to talk to me and I epic fail, she goes away... Later I see someone who always has two girls on his arms chat her up, and I know it will just be a one off thing, and etc etc.

I think basically there are a lot of quieter individuals out there, a lot of my friends as well, which are denied female company because of many male womanisers who attract them all to them only to break their hearts days / weeks / months etc later.

But thats the way it will always be. I guess when the time comes it is the quieter individuals who listen to what people have to say and end up being the shoulder people cry on and people depend on them more.

While I think that womanisers should tone it down and think about the girls they are womanising with, (and also the unlucky sods sat in the corner forced to watch :P), that won't change them. When you're THAT confident most people don't seem to see any other side to it. They have a game and they play it, thats it.
 
I feel you, Argor. But, here's what I say. I figure that the rare, really great girl will see past womanizers, and look for a guy who's more loving and less horny. A lot of the girls I know give in very easily to spur-of-the-moment desires. One in particular meets "the love of her life" every other week! Others just simply don't care, because they have better things to do than chase guys around.

Womanizers have every right to do what they do. It's a free country. Often, people who look for quick satisfaction get together with other people looking for quick satisfaction. People looking for a serious relationship may or may not get together other people looking for a serious relationship. Girls who give in easy are kind of a pet peeve of mine. Either way, I don't really care. High school love will mean nothing in a year or two.
 
Korytco said:
What would you think of me if I were to be one ?
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I would be left to draw the conclusion you disassociate with the euphoria of sex. If you feel you do not have the courage to address action that caused damage taken upon you in the past, (to forgive and comprehend the mindset of said action, not condone it) you will misinterpret the feeling of physical intimacy with emotional fulfillment and acceptance you needed from parents.

For the teenagers here...the need to hear the words" I am proud of you son. or " I understand you, girl." is translated into " Oh God Yes".....

Most womanizers, describes as one who lies to different women simultaneously to conquer them in bed are usually categorized as having the same root as those who simply practice frequent and honest casual sex, but they do. It is a need to control. We do not wish to control an environment that we feel does not intimidate us. The greater the amount of control we have, the prouder we are of that ability. Someone who chases several women wishes to showcase his/her ability to sexually satisfy. This need is a two way street in that a sense of accomplishment is derived from this ability, and its also a way to a means which is, " I am going to do my best to turn them on and please them to insure I can get mine, thus giving myself the opportunity to not have to think about or deal with my emotional turmoil and unanswered questions. By pleasing many people, I have a selection to choose from when my inner psychological pressure becomes to much to bear again."

As far as the women who fall for it, they are seeking the same in a certain sense, however male attention is instantly interpreted as " I now have an opportunity to restore my relationship with my father. " All of this is done by the activation of thought association. The male we see before us now has a tone of voice, body language or appearance resembling that one male figure who either respected us, or that one male figure we struggled to earn respect and love from...and continue to struggle.

" You remind me of the man who did not hurt me."

or

" You remind me of the man who always hurt me...but I still have what it takes to figure your kind out...lets see who wins this time..."

What it all needs to be is " I cannot let past bitterness dictate how I view myself or how I judge the intentions of others." Don't let how someone reminds you of something determine how you choose to interact. Address the problem within instead of running from it....with the drug of sex or multiple relationships which you choose to sabotage before hand to prove you wont get hurt again.
 
I think womanizers are strongly enabled by the target women themselves.

But my personal views are probably a bit too controversial to be posted here, probably.
 
Korytco said:
Do you disagree strongly with their actions? Do you give them any benefit of the doubt?

Do you think that because women play along, and that because it is part of life to learn lessons that they are necessary or in their own right proper , and just simply human?

Do you think that they are the scum of the Earth ?

What would you think of me if I were to be one ?
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Son, pull up a chair. *puts feet down in recliner, takes off glasses, looks at you with a stern gaze, yet a glistening is in his eyes*

Do I disagree with these actions? Yes. Their actions are wrong. Do you realize what a position this can put the girl in? Do you realize how emotional, how spiritual this act can be? You would have to be dead inside to not have a reminiscent attachment that you carry with you the rest of your life, when you sleep with someone. It's baggage that hurts future relationships; yours and hers. And of course there's the possible physical repercussions... But to be a womanizer is to be a salesman. You convince a woman you are selling something she wants, but really, you just want what she's got. No warranty offered, no refunds. Sometimes, sure, a woman doesn't mind getting played. But to treat women as sex objects is to forget they're human. It's to toy with them, manipulate them, con them.

However, in this day and age, it is something that women often offer without realizing it. Women are encouraged to dress in enticing ways, and to be promiscuous. Often, as I've seen, they think that's what you do when you're in love. However, this confuses guys. Guys tend to think of girls as either mothers, sisters, wife-material, or prostitutes, a "prostitute" being a girl he can have sex with, with no regrets. But girls don't usually want to be prostitutes, no matter how they dress, or if they sleep with you. They just want to be loved, usually. So, it becomes fairly easy to manipulate a woman into sex, and it feels fairly innocent to do so.

Do I think womanizers are the scum of the earth? Depends. I consider life to be difficult for everyone. Not only are there hazards and problems, but also temptations with unseen repercussions. I've known some scumbags in my day. I've also known some hopeless romantics who throw their hearts around recklessly, and this romance leads to an unwitting womanizing. I've even participated in both brands. Women are like a treasure; you just want it, even if you don't really have plans to do anything with it. And if sex is on the clearance rack, hearts will get broken. It's not always ALL the guy's fault.

I think con artists are scum. They're human, and weak, but they're scum. That's what a true womanizer is; a con artist. But a lot of them start out wanting one thing, then that thing turns out differently than they thought. These guys are often quitters. Both are womanizers, but not both are necessarily scum. Again, I've been both.

If you become a womanizer, I suggest you use protection, keep track of who and when and where (for legal purposes), and get help. Seriously. The party's fun in the moment, but you can't usually see how your recklessness affects others.

Take care, whippersnapper.

*puts feet back up, and turns the TV on. Asleep within seconds.*
 
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Honestly you can turn the tables as well on this situation, but most of these women are called whores or sluts for it. In this day and age it is socially acceptable for women to be more aggressive.

Guys are aggressive by nature though, but it is the amount of self control that separates the womanizers from the non-womanizers. In my opinion womanizers show little to no backbone when dealing with women. Most women who have dated a womanizer without knowing, are emotionally scarred in my opinion and tend to be a "manizer" if you will in the future.

I mean how does one emotionally and morally detach oneself in order to go from person to person without a thought or care in the world. I mean this isn't the 60's. How can sex just be a feeling for these people? Its very possible that these fellas might be gay as well. They don't feel the need to be with a woman, but only want the "moment" when they ... well you know.

I mean let's break it down for a moment if you will. We are all animals. Women are now as aggressive as men, sometimes even more depending on the experience of the individual when dealing with relationships.

I for one try to get away from the crowds who seek to never settle down. Honestly there really does become a day when one has to think of his future instead of living by carpe diem. I mean I know people who literally have to get off 6+ times a day and if their partner can't give it up well the resort to other things.. and its a damn tragedy to say the least.

There will never be someone who can satisfy you day by day. There will never be someone that keeps your attention 24/7. There will never be someone who can constantly keep you surprised. There is such thing as chivalry but it is very hard to find in this day in age.

So womanizers and sluts will still exist because of it today. I'm sad to say as well, it is becoming trendy to have sex at an earlier age. Just avoid these people, and keep your mind open.
 
Womanisers will never experience a real relationship. What it feels like to love and be loved. That is their punishment.
 
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