Why is sex so important?

[Ohri-Jin]

because we have to do all the work. thats why it makes us sleep.

they just wriggle about and freeze in the desired position. we do all the bloody work so that they can have 50 million orgasms and what do we get? 1 if we're bloody lucky

Hahaha Jim is this your feminine side?
but yeah afterwards we damn tired as fuck...but I actually liked the cuddle man...I went asleep like in an instant. and waking up with a woman on your side is priceless

Anyways I always treat women with respect..even the slutty ones
Sex is sex, but if you do it with someone you really love then its more than just plain fucking...

Making love is something I love to do, I want to pleasure the woman, If she doesnt come I failed... and that would hurt my ego, that and my small penis. I have no choice

 

[Marquis of Granby]

we just get cum all over the bed. you bastards bleed all over the place.

very attractive.

so demanding. give it to me this way, give it to me that way. im done, now get back in the kitchen and make me some food...bitch

 

[Ewan]

You could easily the same thing for any number of things. What if they were an amazing person but they were boring or you couldn't have good conversations with them? You could try to work those issues out but at the end of the day there are arbitrary boxes that partner has to tick for you to be with them. If someone values a good sex life then I think that's fair enough to be honest. No one is perfect so you have to draw a line but I don't think there's any problem with sex being that line.

Actually having sex is probably going give you a different perspective anyway.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

we just get cum all over the bed. you bastards bleed all over the place.

very attractive.

so demanding. give it to me this way, give it to me that way. im done, now get back in the kitchen and make me some food...bitch

Dude you still live in the stone age? or stonehenge age?
Didnt you know? These days after shooting cum on the wifey's pillow, its the men that have to cook up somwething...

Women cant cook these days... its ridiculous

sigh... I had to cook myself..and the bitch invited ME over....man oh man...

 

[Bambi]

I got caught out by a ninja period, I forgot to take my pill for 3 days. Was not amused. Work is meessing up my life. Probably a good job I'm not getting any really, can't say I revel int he idea of more mini me's running about

Fuck and that

Also, considering how much I seem to think about sex, last week it was the last thing on my mind, there's no way, I was far too tired. I think there was like, one day were I was like, if I was offered sex right now, I'd have to decline

Come Friday though, and I was like a dog on heat

I wish you could turn these feelings off, it's frustrating to fuck. I need a man

I wonder why some peoples sex drives are through the roof, and others aren't that mithered about it.

 

[Marquis of Granby]

come Friday though, and I was like a dog on heat
.

you paint yourself as a right slut at times kelly

i can just imagine you at home filling all your orifices with dildos.

nostrils, ears, mouth. you probably even try to stick them in your eye sockets. but not up your bum because youve told just about anyone thatll listen/read that bumsex isnt for you.

no wonders all the men leave you, you probly sex them half dead. "fancy goin to the cinema kellz?" "naaaah, lets just shag".

you know in the 50s women werent like this. they were obedient.

 

[Bambi]

you paint yourself as a right slut at times kelly

i can just imagine you at home filling all your orifices with dildos.

nostrils, ears, mouth. you probably even try to stick them in your eye sockets. but not up your bum because youve told just about anyone thatll listen/read that bumsex isnt for you.

no wonders all the men leave you, you probly sex them half dead. "fancy goin to the cinema kellz?" "naaaah, lets just shag".

you know in the 50s women werent like this. they were obedient.

Hahaha shaddap

It's not like I'm going out acting on it with all and sundry, I just wish I had it all the time

Aw, it's a one way street the poochute Jimmers, imagine pulling your willy out and it had poo on the end of it. Or, having taken it up the bum and you have a slack bum, and you poo yourself. That, and massive poos hurt enough, never mind summat going the other way. Aw no, it just doesn't appeal to me at all

edit* I can be obedient

 

[Marquis of Granby]

you really are one hell of a clattttttttty bitch.



on a sidenote, why would someone have pooley on the end of their willy after shagging your arse?

ps: this is clearly turning into spam

 

[Catnip]

I've never personally had sex, however I can understand how being with someone who's generally bad in bed and is showing no sign of improving can put a hamper on the relationship. Sex is part of a mature relationship (I do believe that there's a difference between sex and "fucking") and if you're with someone who can't do the same for as you do for them then it could be a sign that they don't really care about your needs. They're just in it for themselves.

That's not what I'm saying. If someone doesn't care about what you're getting out of it, then that's not a fantastic person. That's just someone who isn't willing to try for you because they're a fuck head. I'm talking about people dumping someone solely because they suck at sex. Maybe due to lack of experience or they just never really knew what in the hell they were doing.

You could easily the same thing for any number of things. What if they were an amazing person but they were boring or you couldn't have good conversations with them? You could try to work those issues out but at the end of the day there are arbitrary boxes that partner has to tick for you to be with them. If someone values a good sex life then I think that's fair enough to be honest. No one is perfect so you have to draw a line but I don't think there's any problem with sex being that line.

Actually having sex is probably going give you a different perspective anyway.

Someone being boring is a personality trait. If you dump someone because they're personality just isn't what you're looking for, then go ahead. That's not the same as dumping someone because they're bad fuckers.

ps: this is clearly turning into spam

Then get out.

 

[Ewan]

Someone being boring is a personality trait. If you dump someone because they're personality just isn't what you're looking for, then go ahead. That's not the same as dumping someone because they're bad fuckers.

So what?

You also ignored 'being bad at conversation' which isn't necessarily a personality trait issue. Plus, it's just one of many things that someone could get dumped for that no one bats an eye lid for.

 

[Dee]

I am not a virgin and I am also not all that psyched by sex. It is merely, to me, a natural way of 'getting the job done' when that feeling comes along, but even then you don't need another human being to satisfy the urge. I'll admit, I haven't been with someone for years and that doesn't bother me at all. Sex, to me, is a very intimate thing and right now I am not looking to be with anyone, so I would never just take a one-night-stand. I think people just make it out to be 'so important' because of the kind of person they are, and not only that but they use the excuse that it is a natural instinct that all species do; especially in order to procreate. I can only really speak for myself, though.

 

[Dr. Percival Cox]

That's not what I'm saying. If someone doesn't care about what you're getting out of it, then that's not a fantastic person. That's just someone who isn't willing to try for you because they're a fuck head. I'm talking about people dumping someone solely because they suck at sex. Maybe due to lack of experience or they just never really knew what in the hell they were doing.

You basically just restated what I said by trying to make argument against what I wrote. Everything that this says is exactly what my post was getting across.

 

[Sum1sgruj]

Personally, I don't think sex has to or should be the main connection at the start of a relationship. That can cause two to split if it's the only thing keeping them together.
But on the contrary, sex is important in a relationship after an extended amount of time. It's a bond that can't be substituted by rings and roses for so long. Unless there are religious or age issues that stand in the way, I see no reason why sex should be disbanded. That can end a relationship just as too much sex can.
I think that instead of spreading 'abstinence', ppl should spread 'healthy relationships'. Because thats what it really boils down to right?

 

[Tmoo]

yes, sex is important - in a relationship, it's the physical manifestation of your bond and romantic attraction. it also feels great, releases oxytocin and can be a huge stress reliever, since humans are in heat year round. like anything else it can be abused and devalued, but at least in the context of relationships it is a big part of increasing intimacy.

it's natural to love sex because, well, we're supposed to love sex. i don't believe in fucking everyone around the block (physically dangerous and mentally/emotionally numbing + social stigma), but sex isn't a harmful activity for the most part, provided you're smart about it (and most aren't).

 

[.Dove]

As many have said already..it is important.It's not "THE most Important" part,but has it's share in a relationship.In a good relationship,physical contact is important as well,getting into romantic stuff,doing things together.

For the most part,sex for sure -in my point of view- is a Good opportunity to get much more closer with That Person, your bf/gf/fiance etc to create a total new connection.Relieves stress? Uhn..yeah.usually it does.Is a true fact,but then again..this doesn't mean that you gotta have sex around and with everyone,just like that..I mean,come on.To be honest that makes you a "manwhore" or just a "slut" in my opinion.
IF you wanna experience,I don't know..do it without further notice or something,but this is another story. >_>

Sex for me is important,but for sure not THE most one.I can just get down to snuggling,cuddling.That is sweet as well,I've got in to many "sex situations" in which..I ended up hurt and so on,from a lot of them and I don't wish anyone to be in my place..as for now,I'm not planning to have sex to soon.It scares me at this point,so..I'll focus in the future relationship,on the small things as sex comes a bit later..
As in the end,why is sex important? .. - because is a very good way to get another approach with that only person from your life,getting much more intimate and that doesn't suffice only with -I don't know..- food,holding hands and simple thing.Sex is a part of Our lives,but it shouldn't get resumed only by That.

 

[Rydia]

Most women, at least the ones I know, wouldn't dump a guy because it's their first time at sex and they are not exactly steller. In fact, some us find virgin guys to be a turn on. The nervousness, the inexperience, the taking over of the enitire act, the teaching ::drool:: Also some girls like to be on top and do the work...

But every couple is different. Some do not place sex high on the importance list for a relationship and are more into feelings and emotions others are more into the physical. I once read a story that .02% of married couples have never had sex because they are more about the spiritual and emotional bond. I wouldn't be in that percentage but it does exist. I dont' think you should say that a couple has to have sex X number of times a week to be a real couple.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

its also great exercise and a bloody good stress reliever. though you cant necessarily say the same for masturbation

I agree with this. >.<

Anyway I just think it's a natural thing that people do when in a relationship.

I can't imagine not having sex with someone I was involved with. I'd find it kind of weird and not complete.

It makes me feel closer to the other person seeing as how intimate the act is and those who say it isn't necessary are missing out in my opinion. You can't say 'it's not something you need to make your relationship feel whole etc' until you've tried it.

I've been in both situations and maybe it's just me but I never felt as close to anyone I'd never 'done it with'. Though that could be because I wouldn't do it with someone I didn't feel close to, to start with.

>.<

 

[Uniden0]

If you don't know the purpose of sex, then it may be a good idea not to be having it. The purpose of sex is to procreate, meaning make babies. meaning make more human beings. It's also a way for husband and wife to show they're love for each other. But in today's world...its used just as something to do it seems.

 

[Rydia]

Keep in mind though, that people come from all different types of experiences.

Someone that has been sexually abused, or in the worst case, tortured or mutilated, may not find sex at all enjoyable and the mere mention of it brings up terrible feelings and memories.

Worst case scenario of this, was when i had to volunteer at the women's center. A woman that had been abused by her father for years was often found taking a razor to her private areas in order to get rid of them because she felt they were contaminated and could still feel her father's parts against it. You could not get physically close to her or she would get combative.

There are people that just are not sexual at all. (nonsexuals) Sex is just meh to them and maybe even a chore. They may want a non romantic life partnership with someone else who feels the same way, where they basically do everything a married couple does (lives together, raises children together, splits bills) except for sex.

And some people just do not have that much libido and are find with it.

These people are in the minority but they still exist.

In the end, all couples are different and it should be no one else's business what someone does or does not do behind closed doors.

To the OP. Do you have any interest in sex? Or are you simply just nervous about your first time or not being good? If it's the latter, I say just calm down and find a girl that loves to teach and you'll have an awesome first time. Girls have different turn ons too.

 

[Uniden0]

Oh, no. It's just how I feel about it . I grew up thinkin' sex was designed best for a married couple, but in today's world it's not that simple, but this is humanity after all...I do have say that you put it perfectly though. What people do behind closed doors is their business and noone elses.

To your OP, Heck yea I have an interest! . Who doesn't? lol . I wont lie that I'm not nervous for I am a virgin, but I'm sure I'll do just fine.