Why do Girls like the bad boys?

[Donald Trump]

Why shouldn't girls like 'bad boys'? Most of the people who say that are guys who are annoyed because the chick they like is going out with a jock or someshit like that, and they think, 'she should be going out with me, I'd treat her like a princess' etc etc. It's just people complaining because they can't get pussy. It's the same as plain looking chicks complaining because guys like chicks with big tits.
People are attracted to other people for a variety of reasons, the whole bad boy thing is a myth. Scientists have suggested that guys with more feminine faces can be more attractive because women will recognise the femininty and associate it with being a better father than someone who looks like Steven Seagal. Or that guys who like women with small breasts are genetically predisposed to do so, so that they won't come into conflict with Alpha males.
So the idea that girls are queueing up and swooning over guys yelling "How am I funny?" is just simply not true. It's just a way of blaming wiminz for some perceived lack of judgement that doesn't actually exist. It's them, not me etc etc.

 

[Shu]

women will recognise the femininty and associate it with being a better father than someone who looks like Steven Seagal.

Bout died laughing at the analogy.. here... Steven Seagal is a definite man's man.. every dude would do him.. err did I say that? I kid I kid..

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Anyway..

I'm not going to lie I have a buddy at work who believes in the whole Alpha/Beta male mumbo jumbo. Every time he is out he claims he hates alpha males.. in my opinion it is a real buzz kill to hear him talk about it. Yea true, there are some guys who are financially endowed and some others who look like they are "abercrombie babies" as I call them. I wouldn't call myself unattractive but at the same time I would never go up and chat a girl up like these dudes do. At the same time I don't even care about it, I roll my eyes when dudes spit play at a girl. The girls that fall for that.. I feel are the ones that just want to hop on the pole as we call it. So who cares about them?

Though I can't argue a case at all for beta males, I'm sorry fellas you gotta speak up when you have an interest in a lady. Who finds it attractive for a man to sit by and never even have the confidence to tell the lady what he feels about her?

My buddy is quite socially awkward in fact, and it is really hard to introduce him to new girls because he has a preset of what he actually likes in women. So the same thing could be said about guys.

Although I will argue with Hal about one thing, I don't believe the scientists are 100% accurate when I've heard a girl admit to like a dude's attitude rather than his looks. Honestly I don't even know what women are attracted to now a days.. it amazes me from some of the answers I get.

 

[Dee]

One thing I would stress is to really remember that you cannot generalize in this situation. Just because you've heard a handful of girls say they like the big brutes with less personality than a doornail doesn't mean that the majority or all women like that kind of men. That is so far from the truth and I think we all tend to generalize even though we don't really mean to.

The first page of replies were from females who totally stomped down that stereotype, which seems to speak more of the truth.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Ugh, I can say that all my boyfriends before Steve were 'bad boys'.

My defintion of bad boys is: Well built, tattooed, drug abuser etc.

All of my ex boyfriends were like this.

I don't know why I went out with them for as long as I did. Sure at the time they were hot at first and charming etc.

But really, they were only looking for a new girl to stick their shiz in and then move on when they got bored.

When I first met Steve I thought he was a bad boy just because of the way he looked and because he fit the first three things I mentioned at the top, but I stuck around and learned that he was just a hottie with an awesome personality, and really is the sweetest guy ever. He takes such good care of me and treats me like a Queen.

But yeah, the only thing I can say is that, some girls are attracted to guys that they know all the other girls want and just want everyone to go, "OMG" when you walk into a room with him hanging off your arm etc. It's just the attention that the girls seek in the end really. Not the guy. <_<

 

[Dee]

I think a lot of it also is the initial physical attraction; the "omg he's hot!" as Kandy so eloquently put it. That is, generally, how it works in any relationship. We don't look at a person and say, "Man, I bet he/she has a really great personality." For girls, it's different; while a male might not be thinking of marrying a woman (no, they're probably not), a female will - more often than not - go with the flow of things at first. She will step into whatever kind of relationship that exists between them and, later on, switch to the 'oh, he'll change' mindset.

When the average female wants a long-term relationship, when she wants babies and a husband to go with the picture perfect family, she'll start looking for traits that fit the bill. In the case of the girl who's dating a bad boy, her mindset is probably something along the lines of, "I can change him."

The bottom line is, you're just going to have preferred traits and that is that. Over time, one may learn, through experience (in many cases it takes a lot of experience) that some traits just aren't as good as you imaged they'd be when you start thinking about the bigger picture.

 

[Shu]

When the average female wants a long-term relationship, when she wants babies and a husband to go with the picture perfect family, she'll start looking for traits that fit the bill. In the case of the girl who's dating a bad boy, her mindset is probably something along the lines of, "I can change him."

Eh Educate the masses please, because you are preaching the the choir. I mean I literally am afraid of what will happen to some women because of their mindsets. I mean granted I think these days might be becoming better, but what do I know, I'm getting older.

So as days go by.. I guess I'll see what happens. Some of these girls I went to college with are down right ruthless when competing for a man, nothing has changed since high school.. but I guess one day they will learn the god honest truth.

 

[Ayumi Hamasaki]

Oh, boy, I've wondered about this a lot.

The whole "I Can Change Him" thing seems to be way too popular. It's like, why are you settling for him, when you could have something already good? I hate people who are like that. If you want a fixer upper, why don't you buy a ran down house. It's much simply to repair and it's not going to hurt you.

I always thought that High School girls were the worst about this, but than my grandmother was nice enough to enlighten me that age doesn't matter. She's like 60 and still goes after the, eh, bad elderly men. She's always bringing home a jerk. It's annoying. She should be smarter than that.

 

[Dee]

I think maybe some women might just realize that not everyone is perfect, and that the good traits they love about their man - while few and far between - are exactly what they're looking for; therein comes the mindset, "I can change what I don't like and make better for the long run."

Then again, a good number of women now a days are just looking for fun. *shrug* I don't want to generalize.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

The whole "I Can Change Him" thing seems to be way too popular. It's like, why are you settling for him, when you could have something already good? I hate people who are like that. If you want a fixer upper, why don't you buy a ran down house. It's much simply to repair and it's not going to hurt you.

Yeah I did this with one of my boyfriends.

Thought that because he was dating me that he would automatically change and become the guy I really wanted.

It really starts out with the physical attraction for me at least and then later on you find out that they're not as nice as they first claimed to be and so being the girl I am, I wanted to try and mold him to my standards and later realised that it was just wrong. v_v

I think the main thing for me was that I didn't want to be with so many guys. I wanted to be with just one initially until the first one screwed me over. I didn't want to be that girl who'd been with a thousand guys and be called a slut or whatever.

So I stayed with this one particular guy and tried to 'fix him'.

But yeah, if they're a bad boy when you meet them, then they're going to be one when you're with them as well.

Unless you're one of those girls who doesn't mind watching him abuse drugs, cheat on you and abuse you verbally, sometimes physically, then a bad boy is the one for you.

 

[DeadFantasy]

I had a friend back in highschool who was as mentioned dated a 'jock'/ whatever you consider to be 'bad boy' she even admitted herself that she liked the attention. I believe she dated the QB or something on the football team so of course that's gunna have people chit-chatting and all the rest of the fangirls would get jealous and whatnot. Generally speaking, when I think of a 'bad boy' I think of someone who does have a bod, a daredevil and played with women. I personally don't have a type I just end up liking whoever but I didn't usually go for those type of guys. I think girls are mainly 'attracted' to the jocks/"badboys" for their apperance as im sure was mentioned above me. Back in highschool it was all about the clicks,getting popular and gossiping. (at least it was for my hs) and as far as the question shu asked a while back why do girls go back to wife beaters I learned that its like a circle and it never ends unless the girl actually takes action. Like one night you might get in an agurement he hurts the chick, she threats him by saying she will call the po po's (if he doesnt stop) and whatnot and he says 'sorry' does something nice for her she takes him back, and the cycle goes on. Thats sort of how I thought about it. Like when I was younger, my mom suffered the same problem (with my step dad) and over the years thats what I noticed.
And another thing I wanted to add is that i watched a show something on the lines of 'is she really going out with him?' and every time the girl would complain to their friends da da da da da kind of like to get sympathy. but yeah its all about attention and thats why girls tend to lean more on the 'bad boy' type. Just my view on this subject.