Living in Denial

[Kandy-Sugar]

Do you know anyone who is living in denial?

Are you yourself living in denial? Well that's a silly question because of course you'd say no straight away. XD

I was reading this article on the internet and it said the following:

7 Signs That You're Living in Denial


I Am Above Failure: So you think that you are somehow far too talented, hard-working or knowledgeable and that everything you touch will turn into gold? Sorry to burst your bubble there, but we humans are flawed by nature so that, my friend, I?m afraid that you may just be living in denial if you have such a way of thinking.

It's Impossible to Take Me by Surprise: If you think that being taken by surprise is impossible if you have everything planned then I have one questions: how is life in that fantasy world of yours treating you? Yes, planning ahead is always recommended but thinking that you can actually be able to prepare for absolutely everything is just plain foolish on your part.

If You Want Something Done Right, Do It Yourself: Do you think that others should never be trusted and do you think that, if you want something done right, you should do it yourself? Aren't you giving yourself just a little bit too much credit there? It may just be me, but you most definitely don't strike me as a person with his or her feet on the ground.

I'm Never at Fault: Others are always at fault, aren't they? You keep doing everything right and they just ruin things for you, do they? Sorry to have to say this, but not assuming responsibility is one of the most obvious signs that you are living in denial.

Everything Has an Excuse: "I'm not going to do this because..." "I would have done that, if not for..." Do you somehow manage to find excuses for everything? Good for you, maybe you will find someone who pays you for that, but for the time being, your attitude is yet another sign that you are simply living in a fantasy world.

Everyone Else is Wrong: Are all of the people who don't agree with you clueless? Are they that ignorant, can't they understand your brilliance? I'm sorry but, if that's the way you see things, I am afraid that the problem lies elsewhere. One tip: it's not with everyone else.

It's All One Big Conspiracy I Tell You: Does it seem that everyone and their dog is working against you? Are you just a poor innocent victim in what seems to be one huge conspiracy against you? In that case, have you considered getting some help? No, everyone is not conspiring against you, and it's about time you stopped living in denial and started seeing how things actually stand.

Oh I know so many of these sort of people. Mainly bogans. XD

They swear the asses off and act like their Gods gift to the world and always have an excuse for everything and everything they say is right and you're wrong. >.<

These people make me laugh, as they're actually the grossest people alive. They say the word "cunt" almost every five seconds. That's the main trait of being a bogan.

They live on the dole and are proven wrong many times face to face but still think they're right and can't admit that they may be wrong.

These sort of people end up destroying themselves sadly. =/ They think that they're so awesome that they don't even bother putting in effort to be the person they think they are and instead go backwards and spiral down into bogan land.

 

[Martel]

Well, I think everyone is in denial about something, to preserve that wonderful little mental image we all have of ourselves. There are always going to be things in life that you'd rather ignore, and will ignore if you can get away with it.

I know a few people who have quite a bad case of this, at least from my perspective, my mother being chief amongst them. I've had a few wakeup calls of my own over the years regarding this, although I imagine there are a few other things I'm living in denial of. I'll deal with those when I get to them, though. xD

 

[Marquis of Granby]

i thought this was gonna be one of those threads where you were asking "are you a woman living in a man's body? are you gay? do you really like marmite?" etc etc

well yes i think i might be a woman living in a man's body, yes i am a lesbian and no i do not like marmite.

i think we're all guilty of it to some extent. some people get it in small bouts now and then, others are life long sufferers.

These people make me laugh, as they're actually the grossest people alive. They say the word "cunt" almost every five seconds. That's the main trait of being a bogan.

 

[Dionysos]

In a general sense most people live in denial of something. Our minds are not always ones we like or agree with, or if they are sometimes we don't like other people knowing a certain aspect of our lives for whatever reason that may be.

We're mortals trapped in a body of flesh and bone. Some of us do not like that, especially when other mortals trapped in a body of flesh and bone want to rip off the flesh and tear out the bone of another mortal. People tend to react to that, and then there is a reaction to that reaction, and it goes on and on forever.




As for the list of signs which are meant to indicate if we are in denial (which I'll discuss as a framework for my answer about the topic in general)...

I Am Above Failure-
I certainly know that I am not.

It's Impossible to Take Me by Surprise-
Everything surprises me, and then nothing does. I'm more alert now than I have perhaps ever been in the past, but I'm not quite a ninja.

If You Want Something Done Right, Do It Yourself-
I admit that I've sometimes fell into this, but not because I feel that what I do is so good. Quite the opposite. I admit I am insecure, and that is a flaw in itself. It of course depends on what is being discussed here, and it is hard to think of an example.

I'm Never at Fault-
I believe people are more passive than that. I try and avoid blaming other people, but I also see no reason for blame of myself either unless it is a serious personal flaw that led me to do something I dislike. I'd rather think about the situation itself, see what happened and what led it to happen, and how that led people to act in certain ways. Then I'll try and own it and learn from it.
Of course it is easy to think like this whilst sat in a chair and sipping coffee. Out in the wild things are quite different, but I feel that there is no harm in thinking things over when it is possible. I'd rather that than take the extreme "It is everyone else!" or "Oh it is all my fault and I must be a deficient human being!" (both beliefs I have taken in the past, and I'm sure most people have at some point).

Everything Has an Excuse-
I'm a believer in reasons rather than excuses. Not things that stop you where you are and see you make the same mistakes again, but raising your voice to say "Ok. My fault! Sorry!" and swaggering off isn't going to do much good either without thinking about the reason for what led you do what you might have done in the first place. Though, by all means it would be wise to comfort others by making it out to be a personal flaw, as most people do not really want to find out the reason for something happening, as if it is a conflict it likely has roots on both sides. And sometimes as soon as you mention reasons they start sounding like excuses.

Everyone Else is Wrong: We're all wrong at something. Each of us learn from our surroundings and the people we meet, and since all people are flawed, so are we. We're not handed an instruction manual directly from God straight into our minds.

It's All One Big Conspiracy I Tell You-
I used to wonder if people were so confident and knew everything and were good at everything just as a worldwide practical joke to make me feel bad.

In truth (at least I think), a lot of people blag through life, pretending to know more than they do or be better than they are, until eventually they are so confident that even if at times people slip a little and can be seen through, they still get respect from people because what they emit is positive. Most of us all struggle with this in some form. I heard that one of the professors at the university still feels like he has a bit of Impostor Syndrome, and he's a leading authority on his main subject. He doesn't openly express this anxiety (I've only heard because of being told by someone else), and he's so learned and clear in his expression that most people would assume that he knows almost everything there is to know (and I'd say he probably actually does).

Even confident people who do bad things like punch people (a terrible crime! ) are forgiven at least by a lot of people by the fact that they are so confident. At least in my experience this is what is rewarded more than anything, other things often swept aside.

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Of course, if I'm in denial then all of this post could be discarded. Who is to tell?

You can only know yourself. Of course, this depends upon what we are talking about being in denial of.

Denial in itself is very vague without context, and I don't believe those 7 signs cover everything.

In short, and for worshipers of the holy Teal Deer: We're all in denial about something, and we're all acting about something (unless you truly are from Krypton and all kryptonite in the universe has been destroyed), though denial could refer to anything.

 

[Squid]

I know this one guy, he's a bit mentally disabled so he probably can't help it, but he's always ranting about how he's the killer whale. He's in denial though because there is only one Killer Whale and that's me. He can't accept that he is a plankton. One day it will get through to him I am sure.

I think everyone is in denial about something at least once in their life. I don't know too many people who are in denial about anything major in their life right now. I guess I can agree with Kandy's description of the bogan's in the main post. They do seem to think they deserve everything on a silver platter for nothing.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I guess I can relate to one of the seven from my first post:

If You Want Something Done Right, Do It Yourself

This is due to the fact that from my experience no one can do it right. If I want it done the way it should be done, then I have to do it!

Aren't you giving yourself just a little bit too much credit there? It may just be me, but you most definitely don't strike me as a person with his or her feet on the ground.

Hey maybe I am, but at the end of the day I'd rather do it myself then let someone else do it and then have to re-do it myself. I can't be bothered trusting people when it comes to certain important things, that I know I'd just rather do myself to save the time and mucking about.

We are all in denial about one thing or another, but bogans are in denial about everything. XD

 

[Izanagi]

I'm living in denial myself for many reasons one way or another. I'm currently in denial about something regarding real life affairs and online affairs. For real life affairs, I'm in denial that this one alpha male guy in my highschool who graduated and all but can't fit in with my group of friends anymore or at all with anyone yet I try to mingle him with them. It's a small example, but I wouldn't want to go into any other stories of denial regarding my previous relationships and what I currently feel about them

 

[Tyler Breeze]

My Dad is very much in denial. We could be about to be thrown into a volcano full of lava, and he'll insist everything is fine and that actually believe it.

Like right now. We've been waiting on something in the mail for months now. Dad has kept saying that it'll come. He doesn't want to accept the fact that it should have been here by now. Yesterday he finally called up the office and guess what, something was wrong this whole time. Now, we have to wait even longer for this very important delivery, because he didn't want to call anybody. Everything was fine to him. Nothing could go wrong.

I think he's might have realized that he is in denial a lot.