Serious Is there really such thing as love

Then you are asexual, if you don't find anyone attractive. Then you are an asexual. Simple as. ^_^
 
I'm straight but if I fall out of love, asexual is for me ^_^
 
I'm not on about your age. I'm on about your pessimistic personality. It's mentally unhealthy for anyone to feel that way, regardless of age. Posting it here isn't going to make it go away. Only you can deal with the shit in your life, so do it, or give up. There is no in between. If you don't feel love, you don't. Again. That's all there is.
 
Hey folks, stop derailing the thread or this will end up in spam =).

Mitsuru Kirijo said:
I'm sorry but you need to get a grip. I rarely see you do anything on here other than whine and complain. We've all had difficult times, we've all been backstabbed, but we don't let it make us who we are. If you do, it's your fault. Pull yourself together, stop complaining, and reshape yourself. That's all there is to it. Deal with it.
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And uncalled for bro, I know it's easy to shoot off at the mouth and calling folks emo is just a label too (even if you didn't call him) - but still.. temple of the ancients is here for it.
 
Only you can decide that. You do or you don't. If you don't, that's it. If you do, great. Nothing I can do to help you feel an emotion that might not be there.
 
Or how about like this: being without love shouldn't be so bad; it's awesome. It's a wonderful thing. Less distraction, wonderful bachelor life, better independence, no awkward moments of vulnerability, it's great!
 
Nothing wrong with asexuals, they just don't love sexually but can love in other ways.

Being in love has it's good and bad sides, and not everyone thinks it's for them.

So overall, if you find love, congratulations. If not and aren't bothered, then that's cool by me, just as long as you are happy with it. :)
 
Meh, I know what you mean by mature beyond your years.. but sometimes you have to find something in yourself that you like.. and let the rest follow through. I know a lot of folks can identify with you at that point too.

Love will either happen or it won't in time.. If you want it.. then dabble. If not then meh.. it will likely find you anyway later on.

Also if you are referring to love for anyone.. well if you are giving up on the human race then, that's another thing all together. You need to step back and take measures in your life. You are young, granted, but sometimes you just need to break yourself off a piece for yourself. Meaning go out and do something you like.. by yourself. Dependency on other people all the time is on of my main concern is for humanity these days. Gotta love yourself before trusting others bud. This might be some bible thumping over spewed garbage, but I found out the rough way.. that it is the truth.
 
i think asexual's the only path i can go. I've already made up my mind on what im going to do, people are gonna want to kill me, stop me, and a whole lot of stress on that.
I guess being asexual is a good thing for me then
 
I know we have a thread flying around somewhere regarding this same subject matter. :hmmm:

All I'll say about it is that love is something that undefinable. It's a feeling you have for someone else, a special feeling that you just don't feel with anyone else. It's not something you can just see in someone, it does involve some kind of, for lack of better terminology "trial and error". You could encounter your loved one in the most oddest of circumstances. It could also be someone you've known for a very long time and never realized that your friendship with them had more feeling than a friendship normally has.

I understand that love gets misinterpreted by most, and it results in a nasty breakup/divorce because the couple "thought" they were in love. Sometimes people are blinded by something in the relationship that makes them think they love each other. For example, if two people get along well or even have many things in common, they feel like they're "meant" for each other. This is the whole soulmate/destiny debate that I won't get into for this topic. But if two people are involved in a relationship and they get along great, it's hard for them to think that they should breakup because a lot of relationships end as a result of two people starting have some distance between each other or just bickering about little things to the point where one gets annoyed enough to end it. People act too much on impulse these days and think that getting/maintaining a relationship is the most important thing, regardless of how they actually feel about each other and wanting to spend their life together (by marriage or "common law").

Admittedly, I think I've felt love before, as I just had these feelings for her that I didn't have for the other ex's. But due to circumstances, we can't ever have a relationship. It's been about 5 years now, and I still think about her from time to time, wondering if life is going her way or not. But I've accepted the fact that she'll never be a part of my life again and I've moved on. She set the bar high and I'm not sure if I'll ever have that feeling of love again. But I'm determined to find the girl for me, she's out there somewhere! :mokken:

/random sob story, don't even bother reading it :ryan:
 
J said:
Or how about like this: being without love shouldn't be so bad; it's awesome. It's a wonderful thing. Less distraction, wonderful bachelor life, better independence, no awkward moments of vulnerability, it's great!
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Likewise, being in love shouldn't be so bad, either. You seem to be making it out to be so much more inconvenient than it actually is. There are ups and downs to both being with someone and being without someone. But back to the original post, it is--in general--strange to see someone so young and inexperienced make such an adamant decision.
 
Well, I figured since the original poster didn't seem to be enjoying being asexual, I just suggested that there are good things about being asexual. It's not all terrible if you think you can't love. Likewise, there are people who are desperately seeking love for exactly the reason that they think they can't be happy without love (and I guess we already know that, but they exist).
 
blakstang98 said:
I know we have a thread flying around somewhere regarding this same subject matter. :hmmm:

All I'll say about it is that love is something that undefinable. It's a feeling you have for someone else, a special feeling that you just don't feel with anyone else. It's not something you can just see in someone, it does involve some kind of, for lack of better terminology "trial and error". You could encounter your loved one in the most oddest of circumstances. It could also be someone you've known for a very long time and never realized that your friendship with them had more feeling than a friendship normally has.

I understand that love gets misinterpreted by most, and it results in a nasty breakup/divorce because the couple "thought" they were in love. Sometimes people are blinded by something in the relationship that makes them think they love each other. For example, if two people get along well or even have many things in common, they feel like they're "meant" for each other. This is the whole soulmate/destiny debate that I won't get into for this topic. But if two people are involved in a relationship and they get along great, it's hard for them to think that they should breakup because a lot of relationships end as a result of two people starting have some distance between each other or just bickering about little things to the point where one gets annoyed enough to end it. People act too much on impulse these days and think that getting/maintaining a relationship is the most important thing, regardless of how they actually feel about each other and wanting to spend their life together (by marriage or "common law").

Admittedly, I think I've felt love before, as I just had these feelings for her that I didn't have for the other ex's. But due to circumstances, we can't ever have a relationship. It's been about 5 years now, and I still think about her from time to time, wondering if life is going her way or not. But I've accepted the fact that she'll never be a part of my life again and I've moved on. She set the bar high and I'm not sure if I'll ever have that feeling of love again. But I'm determined to find the girl for me, she's out there somewhere! :mokken:

/random sob story, don't even bother reading it :ryan:
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That sounds like an interesting story.

I do agree though. Love can happen between lifelong friends and even tutors! (not reguarding the "age" question in another thread) so it's more about having that certain "mojo" with the other person, I cannot describe what it is exactly (no Austin Powers jokes here) but it's definately something that makes you and that other person think "Yeah, you are definately the one for me".
 
The problem is if only one person feels that way. So maybe you believe the other person is the one for you. That in itself already has a low probability because of all the people around you that could potentially be the one for you, only a few of them fit that criteria. Then the probability that the other person feels the same way is probably just as low. For both events to coincide, that would be an AND operation, so it's exponentially difficult to have both people feel the same way to each other.
 
Dan, you'll find love. I told you you will. :ryan: /random.

Hmm, its an interesting topic. At my age I can't really say much about it, neither can I claim to have experienced it. Hell, I definitely didn't love my last boyfriend, that was an odd relationship we had. Too many people my age claim to be in love, its ridiculous. People who claim to in love when they've literally just starting dating, and then within a week they're sleeping with someone else. That isn't love, its delusion.
 
J said:
The problem is if only one person feels that way. So maybe you believe the other person is the one for you. That in itself already has a low probability because of all the people around you that could potentially be the one for you, only a few of them fit that criteria. Then the probability that the other person feels the same way is probably just as low. For both events to coincide, that would be an AND operation, so it's exponentially difficult to have both people feel the same way to each other.
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Then the feeling that person would have wouldn't be love. A lot of how you feel about someone is based on how you think they feel about you. It's like you can sense that they feel the same way about you. Even if the other person isn't "distant", it's sort of something that you can sort of feel and understand. I guess what I'm saying is that you can tell if someone doesn't feel the same way you feel about them. To use Starlight's terminology of "mojo", it's basically something that just "clicks" between them.

The probability of finding that special someone is very low, I absolutely agree with that. But with all the people in the world, and at 27 years of age, I think I'll find her some day, if I haven't already that is. :ryan: Numbers are always against us, but I'll keep my confidence sky high!


EDIT: Aww, thank you Charly. :ryan:
 
I suppose that might explain why it's nearly impossible for me to love. Because I make no preconceptions about what other people think about me--I do not like to assume that they might feel a certain way towards me, and will leave that up to evidence.
 
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