Breast feeding in public

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I'm and curious on other people's thoughts on this. There was recently an uproar about this in my town.

I personally see no problem with it. They make shirts now where you can flip up an area of your top so that no part of the breast is visable while feedind a child. And breast feeding is such a natural thing and vital for an infant's life that I do not see why anyone would be offended by it.

Sure you can say, "well just use a breast pump and feed your kid with a bottle when you are out!"

However, all babies are different. Some will refuse to take a bottle and will only breast feed. (and vise versa) Can we really tell a mom who's child has this issue that she has to remain inside until her child drinks from a cup?
 
The thing about doing it in public is that I suppose it comes down to indecent exposure. Obviously no one would pull someone up for doing it, but I can understand why there's an uneasyness about it. As long as there's a bit of discretion, maybe even for the sake of minors, I don't see a real issue in doing it in public.
 
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I don't see an issue with it either. As you said, it's definitely a natural thing to do. And like Harly said it all boils down to indecent exposure and what other people's reactions are going to be when they see something like this going on. I've seen it a couple of times out in public in San Diego myself, and even though initially it's like: "Whoa, whaaaa?...", you eventually understand what's going on in the end. :lew:
 
I honestly don't see a problem with it either, true i've never seen it myself but it's a natural thing. If you were in the same position wouldn't you want to not be accused of indecent exposure for trying to feed your child?
As Rydia said, some babies tend to be very picky, and if a baby's hungry... it's hungry and it wants food, it couldn't care less so long as it's fed.

I do think it's a thing that parents wouldn't want their children seeing, but they're going to see it eventually so I don't see the point in mollycoddling them from it personally, it's natural, it always happens. The sooner they know about it the sooner they understand it.

I don't see the point in saying it's not allowed though, what's the point? There are far more pressing matters these days, I say we just roll with it.
 
It's a problem with society, I think. People are raised with a modern outlook that frowns on things such as that. Not bc there's anything wrong with it, but bc it's not normal to see it. When it becomes common in a public setting, all those oppositions disappear. If that is a fact of society, why does society stay the same?
Lol, it's questions like that,, that kill me.
I think all mothers should breastfeed. It's healthy, easy on the wallet, and bonding. Why not?

Society

:holyshit: and i yet again reveal something to myself
 
Sum1sgruj said:
It's a problem with society, I think. People are raised with a modern outlook that frowns on things such as that. Not bc there's anything wrong with it, but bc it's not normal to see it. When it becomes common in a public setting, all those oppositions disappear.
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Nail. head.

I completely agree here, if it was a common thing that we saw every day you wouldn't think twice about it. Yet since it's (somewhat) of a rare thing people don't know how to react.

It's situations like these that the same issues take over, since it's not common it's somehow wrong to do it, but why? Since it's rarely done, then we just go in a loop really.

If people see it in a public place they'd instantly think "Look at what she's doing!" instead of the fact that she's feeding her baby, as I said in my last post it's completely natural. She (the mother) has a right to do it, what right do we have to stop that?
 
If people don't like it, dont't look, it's not like I ever see women who are breast feeding parading their tits for all to see and are all, look at me, look at what Im doing, it IS done discreetly. People that complain actually need to get a grip, or would they rather listen to a crying baby so they don't have to feel uncomfortable by it?

I never breast fed myself, but I know folk who have, and they have actually had folk come up to them to tell them to stop because customers were complaining, it's like, are you fucking for real? Grow up
 
Personally I have no problem with it. The argument about indecent exposure is just immature in my opinion. Breast feeding is about the bond between a mother and her child and should be viewed as such. Unfortunately some people view breast feeding as "eww gross boobies".

Oerba dia Vanille said:
I do think it's a thing that parents wouldn't want their children seeing, but they're going to see it eventually
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The irony being that a lot of these children probably have been breast fed themselves.
Rydia said:
And breast feeding is such a natural thing and vital for an infant's life
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It is natural but it isn't necessarily vital to an infants life.
 
Speaking as a woman, it makes me uncomfortable. Heck, even when my older sister would just do it when they were visiting at our place, and I'm holding a conversation with her, it made me uncomfortable.

And now that I think about it, I can't explain why. I wouldn't go breastfeeding in public, but that's just me. So on that same level, I'm just not expecting to see it every day, even if it is family.
 
I mean as well it all depends how open minded you are really. Now bare in mind, this is not how I think for the most part, but... some of it I live by.

Is the body being naked a natural thing? Yes and beautiful in fact. Would I like it if we were always naked? No. What does this have to do with a lady breast feeding? Well it's basically if someone were breast feeding in a park/restaurant/movie theater/mall, I would think.. No big deal.

Same with folks having sex on a beach. I've ran across it twice in my life time, once they were pretty discrete about it .. yet obvious, and another... not so discreet.

Now though what would concern me, is if in either situation the people would talk to me while the action was occurring. For instance, if I was stuck in the elevator and a woman was breast feeding with just me and her, hell yea it would be awkward. Though what would make it more awkward is if she tried to carry on casual conversation with me, it's just I'm not as open towards it, unless of course I'm in an altered mood (lack of sleep per se, or I don't give a crap mood where everything is grey for a minute).
 
Nah. I have no problem with it. :lew: As far as I'm concerned, it's just a woman sustaining her baby. There are much worse things people can get angry/stressed about. For me, it's as simple as that.

I get Tyler's point about someone talking to someone while breastfeeding, and I can't say I'd feel totally comfortable with it, but I can tolerate it, at the very least.
 
Right, I'm going to shoot myself in the foot and possibly cause uproar here but I'm still going for it (I can't help myself :wacky:)

Right now, I don't have an issue with it. Mother, baby, we were all naked once, baby needs food, nothing we haven't seen before, more healthy, can look away if you feel uncomfortable, etc etc. All of these arguments we've seen before, I agree with them and I hope the future mother of my child breastfeeds.

However, judging by how I felt in IKEA one day, I do actually feel uncomfortable with it. Browsing for sofas, I saw one woman sit down on one (as you do) and whap out her tit and began breastfeeding.

Initially I tried to stay headstrong about it but it did freak me out. I didn't like it. I wasn't looking at her but I was just very, very aware that a woman had a single tit out in the shop across the way and it was one of those "don't move your neck" moments.

There's probably a degree of 18 year-old immaturity there but I credit myself on being more mature than most people my age and it still made me feel strange.

Not advocating for one moment that it's wrong or should be stopped, I'm just putting it out there that I hated seeing it. :wacky:
 
Kerrigan said:
Not advocating for one moment that it's wrong or should be stopped, I'm just putting it out there that I hated seeing it. :wacky:
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Which is fair enough, but at the end of the day, that's your problem innit, not the lady who is breast feeding

when you do breast feed, it's hard to judge how much the kid is getting. It's all well to say, do it before you come out. Yeah, good one. Don't you think they think of that? But if you are out, and the kids hungry, the kids hun gry, it's not like having a bottle and judging how many ounces it's having

When i DID breast feed (I did try it, just wasnt for me) I could have her attached to me for ages and I had no idea whether she's had a few drops or a few ounces, you just can't tell

Also, if people actually saw beyond UGH BOOBY, they would notice it's only ever younger babies/new borns. They need feeding every couple of bastard hours. What are folk supposed to do? Sod off out of the way somewhere? Only head out for an hour? Unreasonable much. When the kid is older, its easier to get the feed done before you head out, but for the first few months there's not alot you can do if the kid wants a scran
 
If a woman is breastfeeding, and a baby needs feeding, then it's only natural that she feeds her baby. I've only ever seen it up close when my Auntie was breastfeeding her baby, and it made me feel uncomfortable, but I think that was more the fact that she was my Auntie, rather than the whole breastfeeding thing.

My view is, if you don't like it, you don't have to look, but to complain about it is rather childish. It's not offensive, it's a natural thing. Sometimes in a restaurant, I see some people eating and they look disgusting - no table manners, food all over their face, etc - but, you don't complain about them and ask them to stop eating, so why complain about a woman breastfeeding?
 
@ Kelly Dunno if that's directed at me or just ranting in general, all I'll say is I know it's my problem, but I don't know why it's a problem...like I said, I'm fine with the idea of it but when I saw it in real life for the first time it was genuinely just like...wtf!? Get it away!

Maybe it's the idea of needy little infants, I hate babies D:
 
Know what's funny? When people see someone get a beating from a group of people, they don't complain but move away as quick as they can. Then when they see this woman peacefully breast feeding her child, not disturbing anyone, they throw a tantrum. Are you serious?

I have no problem with them doing it. Good for them. Power to the mom who is capable of feeding her child properly, instead of being a bitch addicted to drugs, and getting pregnant at a ridiculous age. If you're mature enough SURE. But some out there are ridiculous.

So no, people complaining should get a grip in my honest opinion, or like Kelly said, seriously. No one's forcing you to look.
 
i dont like it

However like kelly said no one is forcing me to watch them so its not really an issue.
I remember having a pub lunch a few years back and the lassie on the table opposite me started breastfeeding. Im sorry but that wasnt what i wanted to see while i was eating.
 
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I have no problem with it whatsoever and it's not something that makes me uncomfortable if I see it in public either. If a woman was to bare her breast in public in any other situation, then yes it probably would be a bit weird, but it's all about context.
 
Colours said:
Know what's funny? When people see someone get a beating from a group of people, they don't complain but move away as quick as they can. Then when they see this woman peacefully breast feeding her child, not disturbing anyone, they throw a tantrum. Are you serious?
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Tbf though that's more about fear of involvement and diffusion of responsibility. I see where you're coming from but I don't really see it as the same thing...as far as I know no tits are going to stab me and I don't feel responsible if someone else gets smothered by them :wacky:
 
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