Awkward Social Situations

[Kandy-Sugar]

Ah so I don't usually do well when I'm on my own when I'm out and about.

I'm fine if I'm just going shopping on my own or something, but if I'm with a group of people I don't really know at like a party or something I feel really awkward and shy.

It usually takes a few drinks for me to break the ice and just start chatting away.

Anyway, I was at a baby shower today and the only person I knew was the person who actually invited me (a very good friend) but she only really had family there and they all knew each other so I sorta just sat there most of the time all quiet.

We did play a lot of games and had fun and it was no where near boring, but I just felt awkward and didn't really know where to look etc.

What are you like in these situations? Are you the total opposite and can chat with anyone about anything?

 

[Squid]

I'm an awkward person in social situations on my own and with other people haha. Not awkward that I'll sit around and not attempt to make conversation, but awkward in a way that I don't feel comfortable out and would much rather get my arse home.
I don't think I am seen as an anti-social person because I can actually make enough conversation I just don't really like it is all.

 

[Marquis of Granby]

i'm not socially awkward at all. i can chat to anyone about anything as long as it's finaru fantaji.

i especially like to chat about cloud's hair and sephiroth's sword. never tifa's tits because that would be inappropriate.

there are the cold hard facts. finaru fantaji makes everything better.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

I hate it when the majority of people are unknowns. After a couple of drinks it usually goes like a trainride though. People come talk to me instead. Especially girls, but not for the right reasons I stay calm and collective cause I know my limits. A lot of girls are taken or think Im cute and shit.

Damn that shit I just wanna get in yo pants lady.

Example I went to my sisters B-day last year and all the people were from her new school/college. I didnt know any of her classmates. I drank some whisky with my neighbour (we were the only ones drinking) and he and I are quite funny especially together.

So we cracked jokes (I didnt overdo it I hope cause I didnt want to make an ass outta myself) we were quite tipsy.

Well few days later I messaged my sister that I needed her crib to sleep at for a month if possible. One of her classmates was with her and offered me to crash at her place.

I was like wtf? I only met tht girl once. Apparently she loved my humor and charmness.

I didnt crash at her crib btw and I also dont have something with her. I met someone else,but she was awfully cute.

 

[Harlequin]

I've had my awkward moments but obviously you just have to get over the fact that these things happen. I like talking to new people. I've never been terrible at it but I improved much more over all the years I've worked in retail and also living in such a diverse place like London gives you a lot to talk about to so many different people. As long as you have a premise to talk to someone new it'll only be as awkward for yourself as you make it.

If I'm at a party and I don't know anyone I might start off saying something like "so how do you know x person?" and just go from there. More often than not you'll find people are really receptive to people talking to them and want to have conversations rather than sitting there in silence. Be enthusiastic about the conversation and smile. People tend to be just like you in that situation no one wants to just chill there at a party growing a beard.

 

[Tyler Breeze]

Gosh, I've been in this situation so many times, I should be better at handling myself now. But I'm not.

Okay, if I'm in a new school or whatever, I'm very, very shy at first. People used to wonder if I could actually talk. That's how quiet I was. I'm still very shy even around people I know very well. I'm usually the Amarant of the room. Just kinda laying on the wall chilling.

However, if I'm at a wrestler autograph signing or something else wrestling related, you can't get me to shut up. I usually chat with whoever I'm next to in line and it ends up being a very good time.

I guess it comes down to similar likes. If we both like wrestling, we're gonna get along just fine. If you like Basketball, it might be a little harder, but I'm still willing to make it work.

 

[Sullivan0930]

im the definition of social awkwardness. In that situation id probably just sit there and not say a word. Even when people talk to me my mind is just like ahhh idk what to say, i dont try to converse with people around me either. Honestly, i probably would of made up an excuse and left early.

But put a few drinks in me and everybody is my best friend. haha

 

[Paddy McGee]

I was always quite shy until very recently, when I went into college. I was never mister popularity at school. I didn't have a load of friends and parties to go to. But when I got to college, I just said "Fuck this shit" and just started talking. Even if I was awkward. Even if I sounded like a fucking idiot.

It certainly changed my personality for the better. Now whenever I'm in a pub or a party, I'll just get any old bullshit chat going. I mean, they are just people you don't know yet. They aren't going to kill you for saying hello. I mean, the worst that could happen is they ignore you... Since you're unlikely to insult them from the off.


Except for women though. I suck terribly with girls. Really bad.

 

[Mitsuki]

Depends. I am very awkward with people in general though. So awkward that I sense they start to feel awkward towards me too. It's kind of weird.

Speaking of baby showers since it was mentioned, I attended my co-worker's baby shower two months ago and it was held at a park. Even though I worked with those people for over two years now and feel comfortable with them in a work setting, seeing them dressed in anything other than red shirt and khaki pants was a little bizarre, as dumb as that sounds. That was actually the topic that day: everyone looked different when all dressed up and wearing makeup, etc. It was as if we were aliens from another planet or something. One co-worker greeted me and said, "You're wearing a black shirt and jeans!" I grinned at her and simply said, "Yeah." It was kind of hilarious.

But yeah, usually takes about an hour for me to warm up to people I don't know but kinda forced to socialize with. I guess that depends on the individual too. Some people, even if you've only just met, have that personality that makes you feel really comfortable within minutes and you can chat away. For example, at my work - I'd like to think I'm like that with some people I work with, that I give them a sense of comfort when we talk, especially if it's a new co-worker. I make it a point to make that person feel comfortable because I know what it's like to be totally lost. So there's that. I can be a people-person if I really want to, and I can be shy or withdrawn from others if I don't sense that connection.

 

[Ed Elric]

While growing up as a child I was very sheltered. My old man pops barely let me over to my friends house, who was down the street.

It wasn't until my old man left our house, was I able to experience teenage parties, events etc.

In high school, senior year, I got invited to Prom. I showed up and a lot of familiar faces were like "Oh wow Erin, you're here?" I didn't even know how or wanted to dance. I kind of just sat and ate XD. I'm super awkward and uncomfortable with strangers. The whole time my date was like.. "want to dance?" "what do you want to do next?" no leave me alone