Serious Obsessive Friend

[Tucker]

I never thought I'd post in here

Well, I have this friend. She transferred from another school, and she's in my homeroom. So I'm gonna be with her for the rest of this year and next year.

She is crazy. Like, she's completely crazy. Obsessive, and crazy.

She texts me all the time. I didn't text her all day, and so when I did she said that she was "sitting at her dining room table all day waiting for me to text her." And...she wasn't in the slightest bit sarcastic. I asked her if she was kidding and she said "What do you fucking think?!" And she didn't talk to me all next day until I apologized

Today I texted her because I was answering something she said. She said that, because her ringtone went off because of my text, that is woke her up. I said "Haha sorry, why didn't you turn it on vibrate?" And she said "Shut the fuck up you're not the boss of me"
???
I said "woah calm down I'm sorry" and she said "You should be sorry, bitch"

I've been through things like this before and the next day she'll apologize and then just go through everything else normally.

Okay...She also asks to hang out with me...every day. I did once after school, and when I went to talk with other friends she made it extremely awkward. When I say I can't hang out, she has to know where I am. If I'm hanging out with friends she asks me who they are. Their names. Why I'm hanging out with them and not her. That I'm embarrassed to be seen with her. It's making school much harder and I can't do anything to shake her off cuz I see her every day!

She only has a few friends, and when she hangs out with them she makes it a BIG deal to me. And most of her friends are these strange nobodies that have no personality. She's not very pretty at all, and refuses to do anything with her hair, wear any make up, or wear properly fitting clothes.

She also has like...memory loss. She will ask me the same question over and over again within a matter of minutes, or days.
She asked me if I went to the Halloween Dance and I said no, cuz I was out of town. She told me she didn't either. The next day, she asked if I went. She said she didn't either. No joke, she asked me 2 more times that day and I think again a few days later. The last two times I said you already asked me and she was like, "Oh ya."

I don't know what to do I know this post is long, but if anyone has ever had an obsessive crazy friend or has any advice, please share because I'm desperate.

 

[Squid]

She texts me all the time. I didn't text her all day, and so when I did she said that she was "sitting at her dining room table all day waiting for me to text her." And...she wasn't in the slightest bit sarcastic. I asked her if she was kidding and she said "What do you fucking think?!" And she didn't talk to me all next day until I apologized

That is when a normal person would go "hmmm hang on a minute this bitch is batshit insane and I probably don't want anything to do with her" And then you DON't apologise afterwards...

I think you should cut ties with her, if she is so annoying and terrible then it shouldn't be hard. If she has no ties to your other friends then it's not like you'll have to see her during lunch or after school at all. The only time you'll see her is homegroup and even then you just sit away from her and don't talk to her.

It is very easy to ditch friends at school, specially when they aren't really your friend at all. It's much nicer for you to get rid of her now than lead her on, have her manipulate and treat you like trash as you go.

 

[Coco]

Based on what I've read, I hope you don't find this offensive, but her obsession seems to be bordering on being romantically interested in you. I'm probably wrong, but if I were you I'd be freaking out too.

Like what Toni said...she sounds crazy. Is there any way you could get transferred to a different homeroom? If you feel like you can't put up with this for another second, let alone two years, maybe you should seriously consider that. I've never had a boyfriend, even more so a friend do that to me. It's like an emotional rollercoaster being her friend, and I think it's uncessary. :\

 

[Tucker]

I wish I could switch homerooms, but there is a large fee that I'm not going to pay, and I do like the other people in it. If it were free though, I'd definitely consider it.

I'll definitely watch out for romantic signals now. Even if she isn't, it's a new theory of why she's so crazy

It is quite a roller coaster, and I don't like roller coasters to begin with

 

[Donald Trump]

Have sex with her.
When I do this to women/girls they very rarely speak to me ever again.
She sounds batshit insane, she may even have Alzheimer's.
You should try to get her to be friends with someone else, then she will send them hundreds of texts a day and you will be free of her.
Or you be really mean to her and that will drive her away.

 

[Martel]

I'll definitely watch out for romantic signals now. Even if she isn't, it's a new theory of why she's so crazy

I wouldn't recommend watching her TOO closely for those; whilst her behaviour might indicate it, you could always be reading too much into it, and that'd drive you crazy...plus if you're wrong and jump the gun when she does something in particular, that is going to be very, VERY awkward. As long as she doesn't actually make an unmistakable move on you, I'd say to just ignore any signals. Keep the possibility in mind, but don't actively look for it, because you WILL start seeing signs, even if they aren't necessarily there. Self-fulfilling prophecy/expectations, etc etc.

If she doesn't have many friends, she's probably just obsessive over the ones that she does have, whether because she has more time to pay attention to them, or is afraid of losing them because she's so socially inept, I don't know. Really, it doesn't matter what her reasons are if she's making you so uncomfortable with it. Trying to understand her position might make it easier to deal with her though; I've had a couple of friends similar to what you've described, and they've just been lonely.

There is the possibility that she'll get over it, as well: some people tend to have intense friendships (at least to their mind) which they lose interest in just as quickly. Could be you're just her current phase, and if you don't actively show the same level of emotional involvement that she is clearly showing, she'll get bored with you. Of course, she COULD get frustrated instead at your apparent lack of interest and start an argument, but that would be the cue you need to get rid of her, because she'd be getting angry over nothing she could really justify.

That said, if she's that easily offended, the simple answer might be to just offend her (should be easy to do if she gets huffy over being woken up by something that is technically her fault) and not apologise afterwards; let her get on with overreacting and just ignore her, she should cut ties with you of her own accord and, whilst the atmosphere between the two of you would probably be very cold, if she's letting it get to her that much, that's her own problem to deal with. Ignoring her when she's so clingy is difficult if you see her every day, and I wouldn't advise trying it; unless she's REALLY unpopular, everyone else will probably see you as some kind of heartless bitch, which is liable to make life even more difficult.

 

[Richard B Riddick]

I never thought I'd post in here

Well, I have this friend. She transferred from another school, and she's in my homeroom.

She doesn't have a bad memory. She's asking you the same questions to see if you change your answer.

If you give a different answer its a sign you might be lying or hiding something. Its a basic technique used in a wide assortment of things ranging from psych evaluations to clingy school girls checking up on ppl apparently.

Its possible she comes from a place where that type of behavior is considered "normal". I know sometimes if I drive 10 miles in one direction, people are different. Its hard to explain.

You see when you apologize to her and she says: "you should be sorry, bitch"?

That's not her talking.

That's probably something a previous boyfriend or girlfriend said to her. Ditto with her attitude. She probably had a clingy boyfriend(or girlfriend) with a domineering personality who constantly checked up on her.

Now she's doing it to others, in the way that children who were victims of abuse go on to be abusers themselves.

She may well be a bad influence on you. And someone who will only bring negatives into your lyfe. But who knows.

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

Have sex with her.
When I do this to women/girls they very rarely speak to me ever again.

Or on the otherhand she may become more obsessive.

and begins calling you in the early hours pretending to be raped just so you'd meet up with her... then she begins calling you her gf to other people... and steal money off you... then make up a bunch of lies...

Personally; Petrol, matches, a shovel and a damn good alibi would do you well.

 

[Bambi]

Fuck off works quite nicely.

Anyone text me like that and was serious about, Id be telling them to jog the fuck on

Ive only had this kind of behaviour from weirdo exes, they get the 'fuck off' message....eventually

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

kill her, before she kills you. it's the only logical step.

 

[Tucker]

Thanks for all the answers everyone, I think I'll know how to handle the situation now Ah it feels good to rant.

Except I don't think I'm gonna kill her