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Howd you think ud feel though if a good mate orrrrr a family member came out and told you this?
I was reading a story earlier today about a guy whos madly in love with this girl and she says to him, i really need to tell you something important. Hopes high as a kite he goes and speaks to her and she drops the bomb that shes actually lusting after a woman. But the guy took it well and just accepted it. Which is the right thing to do imo.

Id never disown a mate over his sexuality, theyre still the same bloke/lassie afterall they just like things a little differnt. I admit it would be weeeeird hearing it. Id probadly try too hard to make things seem normal and id end up looking like i was acting strange. But honestly it doesnt bother me when i think about it.
 
One of my closer friends in high school, a few years after graduation/going to college/all that, came out. The best way I can describe my reaction is that I was surprised, but I wasn't shocked. I was surprised because it was the first time that particular situation had happened to me, but I wasn't shocked because knowing him, it wasn't completely out of leftfield.

I agree with you, Lew. He was still the same guy and all that, and I can't imagine myself letting a friend's sexuality determine whether I was friends with them or not. And a family member is a family member regardless of what/who they are.
 
Well tbh I might not wanna be associated whith that person and be accused of being gay as well by still hanging out with that person...:hmmm: that is my own insecurity speaking..
It depends...if he also has that gayness (that feminine style) I would never be around that person...im sorry but that shit grosses me out.. I cant stand those types..

If he is a normal homosexual maybe I would just accept it over time..luckily I havent come across this situation myself..its awkward...

lesbians are always ace imo :griin:
 
My mum's cousin came out as gay years ago, but I never found out until about a year or two ago. It doesn't make any difference to me whatsoever, he's still the same person at the end of the day. Might have been a bit strange to be told, but I'm fine with it. It's not like it's my business what gender he goes for since he looks really happy with his partner.
 
Yeah, I had a friend all through high school (kind of like you, Terrible Terry Tate) who I actually thought was completely heterosexual, up until just a few months ago when he decided to tell everyone he actually liked men. We've been friends since high school, still hang out just as much and have never lost touch, so I really couldn't believe it, but I (as well as all our other friends) did a pretty good job I think of assuring him that we were all fine with it.

Really, I was, and I am fine with it.. I've never had any of those prejudices people have about sexuality or anything like that, but while it did take a while to sink in (it was quite surprising), my biggest concern was to make sure he knew it didn't change anything between him and I or any of our friends.

I hate to see people beating themselves up over stuff like this; it makes me really sad, especially in this day and age, so I find it very important to make it as easy for others to go through this sort of thing as I can, yknow?
 
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Just cuz that person is gay doesnt mean hes gunna fancy you or gunna be saying things like omg check out the arse on that guy. If youd disown a friend over a silly thing like worrying how people would perviece you then i tbh i dont think too much of you and it doesnt make you much of a mate to that person. Not saying im right, but its my oppinion.
 
I wouldn't care, honestly.

They are the same person, no matter their sexuality. If they were funny, they'll still be funny. If they were friendly, why would I want to throw away a friendship just because of that. I'll stand beside them no matter what. Martin Luther King once said to judge someone by the content of their character, which I have come to accept to mean that we should appreciate someone for how they treat us, not by something as trivial as their sexual orientation.
 
Afew of my mums/mates pals were lesbians that I knew when I was growing up, so its not really anything thats ever phased me

One of my closest mates came out a while back (Cant say it was a huge shocker mind, even though she used to have a bloke and has 2 kids) I was just like, orite, so when we hitting the gay bars then?

Problem is now, shes pretty much binned all her mates off for her girlfriend, which is why I have given up speaking to her. You dont fuck your mates off for no one :hmph: Anyway, thats a whole new topic

It just wouldnt bother me. Its not like it changes anything
 
id probly be taken aback if someone told me but im not even bothered enough to want to know. it genuinely doesnt bother me. as for what ohri's sayin you get straight guys who are a wee bit camp. if theyre your mate before you know and theyre camp why would knowing change anything? obv id make jokes about it at some point but most of the people i consider friends can kinda handle my harsh humour.
 
I think it'll unsettle me a lot.

I mean, it's not that I stereotype homosexuals or anything... I just have this awkward aversion to them :\ This aversion I blame on culture, since most of the people around me here do not really think rather positively of homosexuality. Nevertheless, if it's really a close friend or family, I think I won't react as badly as if it came from someone whom I do not know so well.

:\ Tough question. I think I'll need to be in the situation to know best.
 
I think I only know...2 gays irl. No, wait...actually there's like a million at Boots, dunno what it is about the company but you're either gay or nearly gay (no jokes about me guys -__-)

tbh the gay guys are just that much more funny with some of the things they come out with :L Like wee dan..."izzy...you'll never guess what happened last night...i got with...a...GIRL!!!!!!!!!!"

fuckin hilarious, more annoying that he's pulled more girls than me but we'll slide past that :wacky:

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, although in fairness...wish they'd stop lusting after me.
 
I dont see why it matters so much, its not like they are shagging in the street, or will affect them as a person, what folk do behind closed doors is their business, and straight or gay, most folks dont know what other folks bedroom antics are like once they have their own space

I fail to see how learning someones gay could have any reflection on how they are as a person, Its not like it will be oh im gay now im going to completely alter my personality. And if they DID change drastically as a person, it would be that that would throw me, not what hole they like to stick it in

It's just really ignorant to be all EW I DONT WANT TO KNOW YOU. about it, especially if you are immature enough to think, oh my god, my mates a lesbian, what if she fancies me. Yeah good one, because as straight folk, we fancy every liveing breathing member of the opposite sex? cant say Im arsed any way, im with Jim about the cracking of the jokes and understanding my humour, Id probably just wind them up on occasion.

Ive shared a bed with Kelly before and after learning she was a lesbian, we've got changed in the same room etc. it doesnt phase me. We have the same bits.

Mind you, Im not shy and I dont give a fuck anyway
 
I admit that I used to have a problem. But I believe a lot of it was my father. He was extremely anti-gay and thought it was just a habit. First person, close to me, was my uncle, my mother's brother. Well, my uncle and father always locked horns anyway. My uncle being very liberal and my father being conservative to the extreme. Well, when my father learned that my uncle was gay, it was just more ammo to show me that my uncle was an "evil" person.

For a while my father won. I went 20 years not even talking to my uncle. But fortunately my wife said we should visit him and clear the ice. Fortunately, I was able to spend a lot of quality time with him since then til he died a year ago.
 
Personally, I wouldn't really care. As it's been said, you're still the same person that I knew before then, there is no reason why I should treat anyone any differently for it. However, I've been witness to some serious, almost shameful events from others. Buddy of mine back in High School told her family that she was a lesbian, and they wouldn't have it. They wanted to "fix" her by giving her these handouts they had at their church.

Pretty graphic looking thing too. It depicted gays and lesbians sliding down a slide with smiles on their faces as they went straight to Hell. Her Mother, Father and Sister gave a different one to her. She was fucking devastated, and upon finding out that they couldn't "fix" it, they just stopped talking to her. Luckily, she got into a damned good college, waited it out, and went to live on campus. Last I heard, she hasn't spoken to her family sense.

The Moral: Just because someone is gay, doesn't make them less of a person. However, discriminating against someone that is, makes you less of one. Funny how that works out, isn't it? :elmo:
 
First mate that told me he was gay, I was shocked a bit, and went, like Lew said, a bit awkward because I was trying to hard to make things not awkward xD but we got over that bit by the hour and carried on as usual, he did have a habit of pointing dudes out who'd he tap every now and then mind, but tbh, I'd just laugh.

To repeat what everyone else just said, to start avoiding them because they're gay just seems ignorant. Sure, like Jim and Kel, I'll take the piss out of them now and then, but I do it to everyone, and they seem comfortable with it, it's not like I'm downright insulting them anyway.

But, I gotta say, Ohri, if you don't like flamboyant behaviour, would you be hanging out with them in the first place? Just because they confirmed their sexuality don't mean they'll suddenly bust out a collection of Madonna CDs and prance around in a Cher outfit.
 
Ohri-Jin said:
Well tbh I might not wanna be associated whith that person and be accused of being gay as well by still hanging out with that person...:hmmm: that is my own insecurity speaking..
It depends...if he also has that gayness (that feminine style) I would never be around that person...im sorry but that shit grosses me out.. I cant stand those types..

If he is a normal homosexual maybe I would just accept it over time..luckily I havent come across this situation myself..its awkward...

lesbians are always ace imo :griin:
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Not to point you out, but I did find this disheartening to read. To let a simple matter as sexuality get in the way of a friendship because you're afraid that you're going to be pegged as the same sexuality is just a dumb thing to do. Not only that, but it goes both ways - if they come out to you in confidence and you pull this, then they're going to feel even worse about a decision that is a very sensitive matter to someone who gets the courage to come out, and it could leave a lasting effect.

As Kelly said, that...is kind of immature. And ignorant. And accepting lesbians who, if you think about it, do the exact same thing as homosexuals; accepting it just because of some straight sexual fantasy is...:hmph:

And the fact feminine behavior on a guy "grosses you out" is kind of ambiguous. What if a straight guy had feminine behavior? Would you still be grossed out with the way they acted, or would you let it slide because they are "straight"? Also, define "normal homosexual". Do they have to act in a certain way(s) for you to accept them? Basically tailor themselves so you don't feel disgusted by them?



I'm very sorry for the above posts, but damn. That just made me so...I don't even know how to explain.

A lot of my friends are homosexual. It doesn't bother me in the least. The only difference is their preference with who they want to be with/who they want to be intimate with. On the inside they are exactly the same person they would be if they were straight.
 
Kerrigan said:
Reminds me of the Don't Ask; Don't Tell thing. If your friends don't think of you differently there's no reason your Government should.
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bit off topic but...our government dont think of us.:wacky:

i remember getting some questionaires at college that asked about sexuality and/or gender. i can understand gender but there was something about transgender. you cant be in between. if you consider yourself a woman but you dont have the bits then just put down that youre a woman. i dont see why an employer would need to know your sexual preference or even your marital status anyway. if i wanted to be a geek i'd cite the data protection act (aka only storing relevant information).:wacky:
 
Jim said:
bit off topic but...our government dont think of us.:wacky:
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Not in Britain but the whole issue with DADT is that any openly-gay individuals in the military are discharged purely on that basis, and it's lawful. So based solely on your sexual preference the Government think you're unfit to serve your country.
 
Grimmjow said:
First mate that told me he was gay, I was shocked a bit, and went, like Lew said, a bit awkward because I was trying to hard to make things not awkward xD but we got over that bit by the hour and carried on as usual, he did have a habit of pointing dudes out who'd he tap every now and then mind, but tbh, I'd just laugh.

To repeat what everyone else just said, to start avoiding them because they're gay just seems ignorant. Sure, like Jim and Kel, I'll take the piss out of them now and then, but I do it to everyone, and they seem comfortable with it, it's not like I'm downright insulting them anyway.

But, I gotta say, Ohri, if you don't like flamboyant behaviour, would you be hanging out with them in the first place? Just because they confirmed their sexuality don't mean they'll suddenly bust out a collection of Madonna CDs and prance around in a Cher outfit.
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True :rofl:

You are absolutely right, that would be weird indeed..

Yeah I tend to avoid those types anyways...hmm,

so someone I know that didnt have any signs whatsoever suddenly tells me he is gay.. :hmmm:

I dont know man what I would do.....I wouldnt invite him over to my place thats for sure..cuz im too SEXY :mokken:

I think I would accept it over time...


@Lewis - You know what pisses me off the most? LIARS !
And those people that are gay and are not coming out are liars IMO
I understand it could be hard for homosexuals to come out of the closet because of the hostel environment etc.. or because of their insecurities...etc..

But the one thing I hate the most about homosexuals is some of them come out of the closet AFTER THEY MARRY A FEMALE AND HAVE KIDS !!! :rage:

That shit pissed me off, that thing is unacceptible imo.

Imagine you have a nice family and cool father and suddenly he confesses to be gay,. thats screwed up.. or worse your father got caught (sleeping with another man) either by your mother or by yourself.. :gonk:

sigh....


MagicMasher said:
Not to point you out, but I did find this disheartening to read. To let a simple matter as sexuality get in the way of a friendship because you're afraid that you're going to be pegged as the same sexuality is just a dumb thing to do. Not only that, but it goes both ways - if they come out to you in confidence and you pull this, then they're going to feel even worse about a decision that is a very sensitive matter to someone who gets the courage to come out, and it could leave a lasting effect.

As Kelly said, that...is kind of immature. And ignorant. And accepting lesbians who, if you think about it, do the exact same thing as homosexuals; accepting it just because of some straight sexual fantasy is...:hmph:

And the fact feminine behavior on a guy "grosses you out" is kind of ambiguous. What if a straight guy had feminine behavior? Would you still be grossed out with the way they acted, or would you let it slide because they are "straight"? Also, define "normal homosexual". Do they have to act in a certain way(s) for you to accept them? Basically tailor themselves so you don't feel disgusted by them?



I'm very sorry for the above posts, but damn. That just made me so...I don't even know how to explain.

A lot of my friends are homosexual. It doesn't bother me in the least. The only difference is their preference with who they want to be with/who they want to be intimate with. On the inside they are exactly the same person they would be if they were straight.
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That explains why you have your opinion and I have mine. I never had a gay person as a friend..so its unfamiliar to me,, and things that are unfamiliar tend to be scary and thus I try to avoid it..

I phrased it badly since my native language is not English.

But to me a normal homo sexual = someone who likes the same gender but does not have feminine aspects..

A grossed out Homo = one with feminine aspects.

I despise those types... a extreme version = drag queen.

If a straight guy has a lot of feminine aspects he is just gay/..I would avoid him.


Thats my opinion and I stand by it. :mokken:
 
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