Can you see your negative qualities , can you face them?

[Howl]

Uhm...one thing I consider to be a very bad quality would be "social discomfort"...or at least...that's what I would call it.
I'm not too comfortable around people; even people I know; like my family. And I don't even make an effort to act like I'm happy or comfortable when I'm not. I usually don't have a thing to say. Unless I'm incredibly comfortable or well-connected with someone, it's not even worth it to try having a lively discussion with me. Oh, and...I know and openly admit this about myself. XD
I think one factor that adds up to my social discomfort is that I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at. I wouldn't say that I'm scared of people being judgmental towards me, because...everyone is judgmental in their own way, and I expect people to look at me and critique me however they will...it just makes me vastly uncomfortable to have someone's eyes glued to the back of my head, especially since I'm pretty uncomfortable in my own skin...And there are so many times when I catch people staring at me, and I have to stare them down eye-to-eye for like 20 seconds before they look away.
I guess I'm overly attentative about that kind of thing.


Another "bad" quality about myself would be that I only listen to or pay attention to things that I want to. I consider myself to be very ignorant. But not the way you're probably thinking. ^.^
I like to learn and experience new things, don't get me wrong...but the "ignorance" that I'm talking about is more...the disrespectful kind.
For instance, when someone's talking to me about a serious matter...I usually chime out of the conversation and think about absolutely nothing until they're done. And in the same ignorant sense, I usually forget the things that people tell me, regardless of their importance.


And another...I'm not sure how I would define this...I'll give an example...
I used to love to listen to Guns N' Roses...but ever since my boyfriend started listening nonstop...I stopped hearing them. I also used to avidly watch a show called The Girls Next Door, but as soon as my boyfriend started to tivo it and bought all of the seasons...I stopped watching it, and I even consider it "annoying". There are certain "luxuries" I guess you could say, that I consider "mine", and I don't like to share them. XD
I think this would be defined as selfishness.
I also don't share food; ever...ever. In fact when someone eats food off of my plate or asks me to share, I get an overwhelming feeling of annoyance, and I'm usually pissed off for quite a while afterwards.


Overall, I think my worst quality is selfishness...by far.

 

[L]

inconsiderate. (at times)
Introverted.
snarky.
Master of procrastination.
unmotivated.
pottymouth. (i say shit or fuck in every other sentence i use )
Out of it. (I.E: spaced out)
High. (apparently. )

S'all I can really think of.

 

[Reality.Fantasy]

Uhm...one thing I consider to be a very bad quality would be "social discomfort"...or at least...that's what I would call it.
I'm not too comfortable around people; even people I know; like my family. And I don't even make an effort to act like I'm happy or comfortable when I'm not. I usually don't have a thing to say. Unless I'm incredibly comfortable or well-connected with someone, it's not even worth it to try having a lively discussion with me. Oh, and...I know and openly admit this about myself. XD
I think one factor that adds up to my social discomfort is that I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at. I wouldn't say that I'm scared of people being judgmental towards me, because...everyone is judgmental in their own way, and I expect people to look at me and critique me however they will...it just makes me vastly uncomfortable to have someone's eyes glued to the back of my head, especially since I'm pretty uncomfortable in my own skin...And there are so many times when I catch people staring at me, and I have to stare them down eye-to-eye for like 20 seconds before they look away.
I guess I'm overly attentative about that kind of thing.

OMG I totally know what you mean by this, Rhea. It isn't all the time for me, but sometimes I am just SO uncomfortable around my closest friends and family. Really, I'm always uncomfortable about my family because I rarely see them and they're just weird, but sometimes I just hate being around my best friends. Like I can't find something to talk about or something, so I just exist there in an awkward silence. I don't know why that happens, 'cause I'm usually a very outgoing and social person, but every once in a while I feel as if I'm petrified around people.

And sometimes I can't even look people in the eyes. This doesn't happen with everyone, but even with a few of my friends, I find it REALLY hard to look them in the eye. I'm just weird when it comes to certain people, I guess.

 

[Kellzie]

uhmmmm

negative(I always expect negative results)
insecure(mostly about myself)
stubborn(even though I know I'm wrong I'll stick to my opinions)
argumentative(not all the times but I do usually start it)

 

[Contra Fates]

My flaws:
-Stubborn
-Analytical
-Calculating
-Lazy
-Argumentative
-Inability to empathize
-Occasionally lacking motivation
-Can't study to save my life
-Either easily distracted, or focusing too hard to break away, no real happy medium.
-Vain
-I do what I want, when I want, and this is probably my biggest flaw and problem.
-Honest, but a bit too blunt
-Judgmental
-Overly pensive. I think way too much, all the time.
-An excessive amount of defense mechanisms

I'm sure there's more, but, there's the lot of it. I know myself rather well, and I can honestly say and believe that. I have plenty of flaws, as you can see. Some may not be considered flaws, but sometimes I can use those skills in ways they shouldn't be used, which makes them negative.

I can say that, now that I have something to aim for, and someone to help support me, it's easier for me to try and fix my flaws. Without personal motivation, it's pretty difficult to give a damn.

 

[Soul Saver]

Every human is flawed. For every positive trait, you have a negative trait. Recognising that is a part of growing up.

My flaws?

-Deep, broad thinker. (both positive and negative.)
-Overly cautious sometimes.
-Paranoid.
-Judgmental.
-Slightly vainglorious.
-Melodramatic at times.
-Master procrastrinator.
-I hardly stick to my own schedules. I think what CF said above best sums it up.
-Lazy and lacking motivation, at times.
-My thoughts are chaotic.
-Erratic at times.
-Sometimes socially insecure, quite introverted, if I don't push myself forward.
-Obsessive.
-I'm painfully honest sometimes, but I have a whole library of lies and excuses to cover my own backside.

I try to fight my flaws, and push through with my strengths.

 

[Mitsuki]

I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at.

Ah, I have the same problem too. I feel uncomfortable when people look at me, even if it's only but a few seconds. And what's more annoying is that people who knows me very well know it and takes advantage of it just to further stress me out.

An example is my dad. We were all inside his car and he had a friend with him in the front seat. I was in the very back, just minding my own business. Then he tells his friend, "That's my daughter. Go stare at her, she'll feel very uncomfortable if you do." And then he laughs. What a cruel, cruel man. It's no wonder we don't get along at all. I didn't say anything, merely stared out the window and ignored them all.

Hmm, I am also very disorganized...like, I lose a lot of my possessions because either I don't take good care of my belongings very well, or I just misplaced them and forget where I have placed them. Either way, I hate that about me.

For instance, for the past three years now, I've lost more than 5 earrings, three of which were very expensive and a gift from my husband. The first one he bought me, I lost in the Philippines because I stupidly placed them on my shirt pocket, and after the laundry maid did the laundry (handwash), my earrings were gone. I totally forgot to remove them from my pocket.

And then he bought me another one after I got back in the U.S, which lasted for about two years. But last week, I lost one of the earring. >.> So today he bought me another one...

Yeah, I lose a lot of things...

 

[Howl]

OMG I totally know what you mean by this, Rhea. It isn't all the time for me, but sometimes I am just SO uncomfortable around my closest friends and family. Really, I'm always uncomfortable about my family because I rarely see them and they're just weird, but sometimes I just hate being around my best friends. Like I can't find something to talk about or something, so I just exist there in an awkward silence. I don't know why that happens, 'cause I'm usually a very outgoing and social person, but every once in a while I feel as if I'm petrified around people.

And sometimes I can't even look people in the eyes. This doesn't happen with everyone, but even with a few of my friends, I find it REALLY hard to look them in the eye. I'm just weird when it comes to certain people, I guess.

Ugh it's a terrible quality. X__x

I think what makes it so is that I spend about 99% of my time at home...I just never leave the house because the option isn't available for me. In fact, I probably walk through the gate in my front yard about...once or twice a week, and usually just to get a ride to the store or something.

I used to get really nervous when people would stare me in the eye. I would just look down and feel really uncomfortable until they left the area, but...I'm getting a little bit better at returning glares. XD

Ah, I have the same problem too. I feel uncomfortable when people look at me, even if it's only but a few seconds. And what's more annoying is that people who knows me very well know it and takes advantage of it just to further stress me out.

An example is my dad. We were all inside his car and he had a friend with him in the front seat. I was in the very back, just minding my own business. Then he tells his friend, "That's my daughter. Go stare at her, she'll feel very uncomfortable if you do." And then he laughs. What a cruel, cruel man. It's no wonder we don't get along at all. I didn't say anything, merely stared out the window and ignored them all.

That's terrible. =x
I hate to be stared at. It's one thing to have someone look you up and down (which is still pretty uncomfortable), but...being stared at...

It gives me nausia.

 

[Bambi]

Ah.....

Im sooo dissorganised, my house is normally in chaos, i never pay my bills on time. So many red letters go ignored

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable. And also as said above being stared at, it really makes me mad. I think people think Im rude or ignorant, like Im distracted by something else but I just am not comfortable with it at all

Apparently, when I hug people Im really tense aswel, I didn't even realsise I did it I actually like hugging and stuff...well, if I know the person, if I don't i feel like telling them to stop invading my personal space, liek now.

 

[Howl]

Apparently, when I hug people Im really tense aswel, I didn't even realsise I did it I actually like hugging and stuff...well, if I know the person, if I don't i feel like telling them to stop invading my personal space, liek now.

Yeah that's not a big deal. I personally think that shaking hands as a formal greeting is disgusting. I don't want to shake anyone's hot, sweaty, clammy, booger-ridden, just-wiped-my-ass-and-didn't-wash, skanky hands.

Honestly...hands are more dirty than money...


XD

 

[Warbsywoo]

I actually face both my negative and positive qualities equally. I'm usually more at peace with myself and those around me if I accept what's wrong and work to improve on what's wrong.

For example, I have a hard time 'socializing', if you will, or basically just keeping a conversation going without forcefully steering it to something that I actually want to talk about instead of something that my friend experienced the other day. I suppose I could be more subtle, but when I look back on it, it always seems that I sound kind of inconsiderate of what's going on in their lives and whatnot. So not good.
And I can never talk about anything other than academics in the long run. Conversations always have to end in 'So what tests are you guys taking tomorrow?' and shat like that. Really hard to turn around....

 

[Daenerys]

Hmm, I am also very disorganized...like, I lose a lot of my possessions because either I don't take good care of my belongings very well, or I just misplaced them and forget where I have placed them. Either way, I hate that about me.

I have the exact same problem, it's really annoying too since I have a habit of moving stuff everyone in the house uses, then forgetting where I put it ><

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable

I have the same problem, I don't like being looked at either. For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

 

[Warbsywoo]

I have the exact same problem, it's really annoying too since I have a habit of moving stuff everyone in the house uses, then forgetting where I put it ><



I have the same problem, I don't like being looked at either. For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

lol, hey I have that too, but that's probably 'cause that's how I was raised at home...like not making eye contact when you were being yelled at. And now it's weird because I'm neither in trouble nor am I being yelled at when I avert my eyes, so maybe it's out of habit.

 

[Darkstar]

My lord, I thought I was just weird, I have the exact same problem, but, I know what causes it. I think it's becuase I have two different coloured eyes, and whenever people see, that have to point it out, and tell everyone.
Its either that, or I just don't want people looking at me, makes me feel real uncomfortable, especially when I'm doing something, especially eating.

Now, time to start the list, and it's gonna be long.

-Can't look people in the eye (just said that)
-Waaay to much procrastination
-Unmotivated (I find myself way to bored on weekends)
-anti-social (not to particulary fond of humans, no offence)
-easily distracted (I'm always looking into the sky, thinking 'somethings gonna happen one day')
-Doctor Who crazy (whenever someone mentions the word 'Doctor' or 'Who', I'll listen in, hoping to have a nice long chat about the phsysics of the TARDIS)
-easily set off (get mad real easy)
-like to spend more time with electronics than people (wait, is that a bad thing, or is that just my parents talking)
-can't talk for too long (I'm a great listener, but, when I have nothing to say [which is pretty much all the time] I just don't talk)
-Am a teenager (nuff said)

I'm a hippie, yes, anybody on these forums will say that is a bad thing, but, to me, it is a good thing.

I shall think of more later

 

[Bambi]

lol, hey I have that too, but that's probably 'cause that's how I was raised at home...like not making eye contact when you were being yelled at. And now it's weird because I'm neither in trouble nor am I being yelled at when I avert my eyes, so maybe it's out of habit.

That might be what it is with me I was always getting yelled at, I was a bit of a pain as child Im really stubborn aswel tho, Id be having a serious conversation with my ex (probbly of the break up kind ) and he'd be like will you LOOK at me when Im talking to you!. That just made me more aware of it and then I'd point blank refuse And if I DID look he'd get such a scathing glare. I can be the evil stubborn little wench sometimes

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable. And also as said above being stared at, it really makes me mad. I think people think Im rude or ignorant, like Im distracted by something else but I just am not comfortable with it at all

Oh god I'm like that aswell. Right pain in the arse.

I also add to mine the fact I think far too much into things. I actually think bad things far too much and because I bottle it up it makes me really moody even if their is no real reason for it. Paranoia is not good. And if that happened whilst ive been drinking heavy amounts, things can go terribly terribly wrong, Especially if my other 'FUCK IT' attitude comes back out to play .

 

[Mitsuki]

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Do you make eye contact when conversing with someone you barely know? Because I have a hard time making eye contact while conversing with people I don't really know. Like, when I'm talking, I'm so self-conscious that I start looking past that person's shoulder or shift my gaze left or right, then I'd momentarily kick myself mentally and practically force myself to make some eye contact.

I know it can be quite rude, but meh. >.>

Apparently, when I hug people Im really tense aswel, I didn't even realsise I did it I actually like hugging and stuff...well, if I know the person, if I don't i feel like telling them to stop invading my personal space, liek now.

Ack, try when someone you barely know kisses you with their cheek. I know, sounds weird. I was at a relative's party one time and this woman I don't know had to say goodbye, and just gave random people (including me) a "cheek kiss". Like, they'll touch their cheek with your cheek...sort of like a greeting/farewell kiss. It's so awkward...it totally caught me off guard.

I'm not much of a hugger myself, even with friends or family members. I don't know why. It's one of those awkward moments for me. I do have a lot of those.

For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

I used to be that way back in my teenage years. It actually annoyed a lot of my family members. Heh, one time I almost got run over by a bus three years ago because I wasn't looking at my surroundings. I was walking ahead of my friends and I heard them scream, so I turned quickly and as I did, the bus drove past me...a mere couple of feet away from me. Mind you, this was back in the Philippines and people have barely enough walking space as the roads are so damn narrow.

 

[Reality.Fantasy]

Hah, I used to have that problem with cars, now I just look straight forward when cars pass by. I mean, I know it's awkward when you're walking or driving to be looking at someone in their car and all of a sudden they look up at you and there's that really awkward moment... so I just don't look at cars at all, but I don't look down lest I get squashed.

I can generally make eye contact with people I really don't know, unless they're reaaaaaaaally weird. And by weird I mean like if they have a weird expression or air about them, but if they just have a weird personality, I can usually cope.

 

[Megalo]

Anti-social (fixed)
Stubborn (fixed)
Emotionally lazy (in the process of being fixed)
rarely ask for help (not fixed)

 

[Dean Winchester]

Oh I just realized I am way too competitive. I hate in fighting games or beaten with cheats. :mad2: