Thinking of giving up

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Just give up on these forums. Only been here less than a week and hoped to come here for a good time and make good friends.

But feel like this is almost a place like a popularity contest. It feels like High- School over again which is just really painful because shouldn't really have to go through all of that again. Just came here to post stuff about anime and video games, but just feel like the High School misfit alone in the cafeteria area.

Just feel like there is a alot of pressure to be popular here. And don't want to be popular of the ''High School Cheerleader that becomes the prom queen and dates the Football captain ''. Just want to have fun with everybody here, and post heaps about whatever.

But just feel looked down upon. Because not ''cool enough " ?
It just feels frustrating, and speaking in other online forums in the past. Know that it's not right/ normal to feel this way, when speaking online on the forums.

Sorry.

Pika- Chew

 
I don't really know what you're talking about, because I've only been here a month and a half, and other than a few blips, I've been pretty well received. The best way to ingratiate yourself is to participate.

Let me introduce myself. I'm Janus. I run the FFPvP. What's that? Well ...

Learn to play here: http://www.finalfantasyforums.net/ffpvp-battles/ffpvp-battle-tutorial-thread-30549.html

Sign up here: http://www.finalfantasyforums.net/sector-7-slums/ffpvp-demo-29188.html

Lots of people play and enjoy it. People on your team will message you to talk about strategy, and you can start getting to know people. Also, it's fun as hell. It may seem like a shameless plug (and it is), but since the bulk of my participation involves the FFPvP and the shoutbox, it's really the only advice I can give you.
 
People who do this kind of thing certainly won't gain any kind of "cool" status :wacky:

Look, you're new - do you think, anywhere in life, people become best friends straight away? Do you think everyone is noticed for everything that they do? Nah, if you want to get noticed you have to do something that stands out. That's not to say you have to be "popular" (I wish folk would stop relating this place to High School, we're just happy xD) rather that it takes time to develop any kind of friendships with people. Christ, I've been here 3 years and still don't talk to some of the golden oldies.

No one looks down on you for posting in regular threads, no one thinks you're the nerd of the forums...for everyone who feels like this, I suggest avoiding making such threads, they don't exactly help your case in any way -_-

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You've only made 20 posts, how is anyone meant to love you to pieces with that!? :wacky:
 
I don't feel like that at all and I just joined today! ^_^ I'm from New Zealand also but I'm a Wellingtonian. You should stay and give it another chance, I'm pretty sure it isn't a popularity contest at all.. as long as you have something to say you'll be liked by everyone and not frowned upon.

Well I hope that you find interest here and join the FFPvP! I know I just joined up today! ^_^
 
Being new on this forum can be hard, and there is some reasoning in what you have said.

Some people fit right in here easily (e.g Janus and !Brit are relatively new and are already extremely well known on these forums). Others sometimes do have it rough trying to fit in. I was one of those people too really. I didn't really feel I was starting to fit in a bit more until christmas time the year just passed. For the first 6 months or more of me being here it was a struggle to get known, and perhaps that was the trouble. If you try to get known too much sometimes the opposite happens. The best way is just to relax and be yourself and let people get to know you, or take part in forum events etc.

I started fitting in the forums more when I started talking in the SB more often, and then when I took part in Survivor (fun competition thing the forum holds each year), I was able to fit in even more. I suggest that if you want to be known that you should probably take part in one of the Birthweek challenges, or to be more active in the SB.

I know thats not what you want, as you want to be immediately accepted, but sadly on a forum so large with a large turnover of members who join and then leave on practically the same day, its hard for people to instantly grow fond of new members, so you have to really work to get yourself in there if it didn't occur naturally.

Hopefully you hang in there and wait for your time to shine to come.

If not, it's a shame to see you go, and have a good life etc.
 
Hmm, you haven't even been here a week. How can you expect everyone to love you when everyone hardly even knows you? Why don't you try giving it a little more time and see how it ends up after that? It's not like high school here IMO, so I dunno why you feel that way. My apologies that you do though. It's just we've been around for three years and us oldbies know everyone well. We're all pretty super close around here. You just need to spend more time getting to know people. It's no popularity contest. We just have been here for years and so we happen to know more and people happen to know us as well. Give it a chance instead of running off with your tail between your legs. You haven't been here long enough for anybody to even get to know you yet.
 
Hmm, I'm not reading anyone elses responses about this yet, because I don't want it to harp on the bias side of things. I think for people to respond harshly is just down right.. bad character. (but i can understand how it would offend)

Through any society, I don't care if it is forum or real life there are groups of people. That's just how it is. You have the pervs, you have the open minded ones, you have the ones that don't talk as much but when they do they make an impact, you have the attention seekers, and then you have the down to earth people. Even if you don't want to conform, you conform no matter what.

This forums may look a little big from the get go especially in the shout box. Damn I know it can be intimidating, and I'm only speaking for myself here. FFF has been around for a good bit now and we have all those groups I mentioned, but it is up to you to not fit the mold. By admitting that this site is a popularity contest means you feel like there is not enough attention on yourself.

This is not necessarily true. You have to interact with those around you. Hell some of the coolest people on this site, are the ones who talk very seldom. They make such great posts, that I miss the heck out of them. I honestly do everything in my power to stay out of the lime light, hince the reason I never post in the spam colliseum. That place should be renamed the high school cafeteria sometimes. But thank god there is a place like that otherwise we wouldn't have a way to filter out the good with the bad posts.

If you come back, I definitely will be welcoming and I believe so will most people. I hope others don't disuade you with harsh words, but it is offensive to them when someone only gives it a week in order to establish themselves in a 3 + year old community.

Take it easy if you never come back, good luck in life.
 
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(I wish folk would stop relating this place to High School, we're just happy xD)
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Actually, this is "FFF High School Musical", and guess what folks! Riku/Dave is actually Troy Bolton in disguise! :wacky: (I actually had to recurr to Wikipedia for this one)

Now seriously, this is not a popularity contest and besides, for 20 posts you have quite an ammount of rep so that would make your statements unaccurate. Try to be more active and as time goes on, people will know you better. Besides, if you behave well, Davey Boy will let you play a part in the musical :monster:
 
Well, I can relate to being new as I've only been here for a month myself. Yeah, some of the people that have been here for a while have sort of gotten to know one another and tend to have running references and jokes that us new members know nothing about. But there's no reason to feel left out.

You have actually been noticed by the way, you have been recommended to be nominated as Best New Member for the FFF Member Awards. So whether you think you made an impact or not, you have to someone.

I'd suggest you just be yourself. The people in this forum are awfully nice, even if it seems like a popularity contest. Use the Shoutbox and jump into the conversation with people. I've made some friends in my month here this way, you might find someone with common interests. And if you don't feel comfortable with that, then be sure to post your thoughts. The more you post, the more you'll be recognized (don't spam though, unless it's in the spam collesium :P). All you need is 1 friend and you can get the ball rolling, they'll keep you encouraged enough to want to visit the forum and not be intimidated.

Anyways Pika-chew, best of luck and hope you don't bail on us!
 
c',mon dude, not even a week, hell i been active a month now and only just starting to feel like people "accept" me, but im not bitching ?
 
I haven't been here long either... I think it's only been like a week and a half, and I think I fit in okay. Talking in the SB really helps, and people won't ignore you :) They'll laugh with you. (or at you when you make stupid typoes :P) Post around, and seriously, join the FFPvP. I was looking at it a few nights ago, and it looks great. I'll probably join today, so maybe we could even be on a team together! :D Everyone's willing to make friends, you just have to try, that's all.

And as for the rest of your post about the High School bit... well, close knit sites always seem like high school until you get into them. I don't think this site is like that though. It's just the older members knowing each other, and that's what happens when you've been on a site for a while. Don't worry about it. You'll be one of the older members later and know a lot of people if you stay here.

So, whether you stay or go is your choice, but if I were you, I would give FFF more of a chance.

(If anything I said offended you, or anyone else, I apologize. I did not intend to be offensive)

EDIT: Wait, free reps? WHERE?! XD ... just kidding, don't worry.
 
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well tbh, it is a close-knit group, but, dont let that discourage you, like argor ? said, some people fit it straight away and some may have to work a lil bit to feel accepted, but its well worth havign the friends you will make here,
i mean i could go on for ages naming the people here i consider friends now.
just give it anothr chance lol
 
I've been active for a few weeks at best (before it was only popping in once or twice). It doesn't matter though, one step at a time.
 
Don't go! Nobody wuvs me and I'm still here! I'll wuv you! <33 There. It's done. Settled. -Threadclose XD not really.- Stay! You get mentioned here and there. You're even nominated by a few people as their favorite new-user! Your rep pwns mine and I GFX for the FFPvP... Come now. Don't leave. Your reign of terror's just begun! ^_^
 
Ah, really sorry you feel this way. Like the others said, it isn't really like that from my own perspective point-of-view, but if you truly feel that way, then I'll respect that and won't say anymore regarding that matter.

I would like to see you stay though and give the site another chance and maybe look at it in a different angle. I think you might enjoy it. We have competitions left and right that you might want to participate in since Birthweek just started a week ago. But yes, the key here is to be active and remain that way. Not saying log on every single day and try your hardest to be friends with people...just let it come naturally. There are new members here that probably think similarly the way that you do and think that we don't notice them, but we actually do. I just never really have the time to interact with newbies myself but if given a chance, I will do so, mostly in the SB and through interesting posts that I come across with.

So with that, I really do hope you reconsider, but if not, then that's unfortunate but I wish you luck. =]
 
Pika-chew said:
Just give up on these forums. Only been here less than a week and hoped to come here for a good time and make good friends.

But feel like this is almost a place like a popularity contest. It feels like High- School over again which is just really painful because shouldn't really have to go through all of that again. Just came here to post stuff about anime and video games, but just feel like the High School misfit alone in the cafeteria area.

Just feel like there is a alot of pressure to be popular here. And don't want to be popular of the ''High School Cheerleader that becomes the prom queen and dates the Football captain ''. Just want to have fun with everybody here, and post heaps about whatever.

But just feel looked down upon. Because not ''cool enough " ?
It just feels frustrating, and speaking in other online forums in the past. Know that it's not right/ normal to feel this way, when speaking online on the forums.

Sorry.

Pika- Chew

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TBH I completely understand where your coming from. While I do agree with the people who posted in that ;you should just give the forum a little bit of time, and give the people a chance to know you. But like I said I understand what your saying, sometimes I feel very left out here. But you have to understand that its not your fault that people have been here longer and know eachother better. You just have to accecpt the fact that people wont accept you and get to know you in 1 week. Yeah they could remember your name but that doesnt mean you guys are best buds, you just have to give it time and like Argor said just participate in the site.
 
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