Serious Is there really such thing as love

Toshiya said:
Dan, you'll find love. I told you you will. :ryan: /random.

Hmm, its an interesting topic. At my age I can't really say much about it, neither can I claim to have experienced it. Hell, I definitely didn't love my last boyfriend, that was an odd relationship we had. Too many people my age claim to be in love, its ridiculous. People who claim to in love when they've literally just starting dating, and then within a week they're sleeping with someone else. That isn't love, its delusion.
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That's what it's like nowadays. :/ They want the "business" before they even get to know the person.
 
Oh, and one more thing (got a typing limit on meh PSP)

I dont believe love can be actively searched for. You fall in love with someone gradually as you get to know them, and it certainly cant be forced. You could end up loving an old friend, somebody you meet randomly one day, or even someone you meet online. But I dont think it can be forced.

And youre welcome Dan :ryan:
 
the thing is, i may be 14, but I have a fucked up life as it is. I've matured way more than kids my age have at this point.
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Ok thats fine. A LOT of people had to mature befor their time.I was paying rent and buying groseries at the age of ten ,I could go on but this is not about me eh,so trust me this I understand well,and its in no way a bad thing

And love and other emotions dont really come to me. How would you feel if you had a family that loved you, but you dont love them back, no matter how hard you want to. I'm close to being emotionally numb. I'm flat faced as well. I like being alone more than anything, nobody can change that.
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Wich is fine as well. When I was your age my goal in life was to be a hermit who lives in a cave without contact with anyone. Its called being anti-social wich I am to the highest level. I only care for those who care about me litterally I could give two flying fucks for the rest of my familly.

I doubt highly you feel nothing. Your just building barriers to protect yourself from further emotional pain wich a lot of people do do. You feel emotions you just burry it within you so when something hurts you,emotionaly,you pretend its not there.
Again this is in no way a bad thing but may be potentially harmfull to you in the future when relating to others

I've been backstabbed by most of the people around me. I have one friend who hasn't even wanted to try. I dont get to see my extended family so much anymore and those are the only people who i can get along easily with.
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Wich proves my above point. To avoid further pain of others potentialy hurting you ,you block it out or to prevent the pain of missing your family you pretend its not there so it no longer hurts you.

I dont see love, I dont feel love, I cant say i love anyone. Why do you guys assume of me? I'm a hell of a lot different than you could even imagine.
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Im pretty much just analyzing you it is one of my favorite hobbies I realy should be a profiler,I if I may say so, am an excelent people wacher lol
Im not saying any of these things are wrong or bad you just need to find ways of dealing with the hurt you do feel besides blocking it out.

You are 14 and you do have feelings just from your posts,not nessisarily here I could prove to you.
Why would you want to take over the world? Think deeply on it.
Would it be because people would have to acknowledge you and respect you? People would have to SEE you,pay attention to you,listen to you...ect
Ok I think ive wandered enough off of the subject of love.....
 
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Love definitely exists, IMO, although it may not be readily apparent, and is often misunderstood.

Love as the sense of having a connection with a person, thing or ideal, exists, as we have all been strongly attached to something at some point in time. Whether we love our job, love our family, love our hobbies, etc., love exists because it is the foundation of our bonds with the world around us. It is what gives us our desire to do things, so as to feel more of that love, whether we’re giving or receiving.

Now love in the romantic sense is a different thing, though it shares many of the same traits. It is also a strong bond with someone (but not something), but generally it goes deeper, or at least it has its own unique elements. It is a bond between two persons where they experience happiness, understanding, commonalities and support similar to the usual form of love, but this connection is generally a sole connection, one not shared with others. It is generally (but not always) involving physical acts, and the bond these acts bring.

I have felt love a few times and also been loved, both the usual way and the romantic way. I know it exists, even when it may be rare or change significantly.
 
There seems to be strong opinion that love is an actual force in the universe rather than just a chemical reaction in the brain?

In regards to my first point because we dont know if life exist else where in thr cosmos how can love be universal force? theories? suggestions if you send 2 humans to the other side of the universe and they fall in love that doesnt prove a thong or a thing rather.

To really know if love is real in the universe rather than a human construct of the mind we would need to find life on other worlds and either ask pr observe thwm "do'in it"
or be engaged in foreplay lol

ln regards to my second question even a chemical reaction is an emotion the, drive that attracts humans to each other maybe physical but only the harshest cynic would deny the emotional aspect o love in the raising of children and the need to protect ours families.

Um. mindless getting it on aint love its just racing/raging hormones. hehe
 
I think love is just a feeling, I love my partner and have been with him for 4 yrs and when he's around i feel all "fuzzy" inside and i wanna let that feeling loose just by kissing him and cuddling him (or mayb more :blush:) and myself think love does exist unless you do not believe it :)
 
Oh love definitely is a chemical thing brought on by oxytocin (spelling?), the "love" hormone. Other hormones bring on anger, sadness, happiness and shock...and they're considered real so why not love? Love is produced by a need fulfilled by the brain, which generally comes when people feel connected to something or someone because it has something in common with them, represents their ideals or generally gives love itsself. When the brain has these conditions met it sends out the hormone to ensure that the feeling continues, since the brain serves to keep us functioning and by having happy, stable, productive relationships to do so.

That might sound unromantic, but it's actually a good way of addressing how we feel and why, and either how to get the most of it, or how to change it if it's not in our best interests.
 
Put that in a valentines card and see what you get!

Somethings are just ruined by scientific investigation.
As far as l remember Loving a person and being in love with a person are 2 different things
Yes/No?
 
LOL

I know it's unromantic, but I like to be logical of things, even of love. Understanding how love works doesn't make it less powerful or less special, it just makes us more able to deal with it. If you're in love with something or someone that's unhealthy for you, understanding the chemical component to love can lessen the effect and make enable you to part yourself from what's toxic.

Loving someone and being in love are definitely two different things. Loving means to have that strong connection but it generally isn't as deep or have the physical aspect of being in love. Being in love has a soulmate, signficant other connotation to it that "just" loving doesn't.
 
I think I have dawned on a revelation of what love might be. I think it's also a misconception that most people have of it--they think it's always a good thing to have because they think it's getting to know someone on a deeper level, and making use of that information that will benefit the other person. In fact, I think it's getting to know another person on a deeper level, but it says nothing about how you're going to use that information. If you know a lot about someone else, you can either make their life miserable, or you can use it to make their life much better. Knowing more about someone else doesn't automatically guarantee that you're going to be good about it; it can go either way, and that's why people must be more careful about sharing personal information about themselves--you can't assume the other person you're telling it to has good intentions, regardless of how he/she may appear. It is ignorant to assume you'll know what someone will do with your personal information. Love means knowing more about the other person on a deeper level. It does not mean sharing this knowledge and benefitting from it.
 
Love? Love is that irrational urge to protect or cherish something/someone beyond physical or visual infatuation. It's an overly saturated term that holds little meaning today and is tossed around like a beach ball, but it's there. Personally, I believe maybe 1 in 20 couples truly love each other. (IMHO)

If you can't trust then you're going to have a hard time coming to love anyone. I don't mean blind trust, I mean the kind that is earned with respect.





what is love? baby don't hurt me
don't hurt me
no more

what is love? baby don't hurt me
don't hurt me
no more
 
I like to believe love is real but its also dependant on the people experiancing it. For me personally I am in love with my partner and I hope that it will last forever so far its been nearly three years and I plan for it to be forever and it has been as passionate from day one to the current day so as long as we both listen to each other I see no reason why it shouldn't.

I feel very sorry for people who don't think love is out there its just a matter of finding that one person you get one with really well, that one person you can cope with that persons quirks and be able to just sit together with no need to say anything as well as have intrests in common.
 
J said:
I think I have dawned on a revelation of what love might be. I think it's also a misconception that most people have of it--they think it's always a good thing to have because they think it's getting to know someone on a deeper level, and making use of that information that will benefit the other person. In fact, I think it's getting to know another person on a deeper level, but it says nothing about how you're going to use that information. If you know a lot about someone else, you can either make their life miserable, or you can use it to make their life much better. Knowing more about someone else doesn't automatically guarantee that you're going to be good about it; it can go either way, and that's why people must be more careful about sharing personal information about themselves--you can't assume the other person you're telling it to has good intentions, regardless of how he/she may appear. It is ignorant to assume you'll know what someone will do with your personal information. Love means knowing more about the other person on a deeper level. It does not mean sharing this knowledge and benefitting from it.
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Sorry for being late responding to this, but it is entirely true. Love isn't about getting your way all the time, or using whatever dirty trick you have up your selve, including deep personal information, to get the other to behave the way you want them to. Love isn't about suffering or sacrificing and it certainly isn't about lies, blackmail and threats for the "greater good of the relationship". If you love someone the very idea of doing any of this would horrify you, no matter if that person is or isn't with you. If you can do this to someone you "love" perhaps you're not so in love as you thought.
 
@Mina: I believe what mr. Heat Guy was saying is that love is in reality a very deep knowledge of another person. The topic you addressed with your post is on the level of what people do with that info - to benefit themselves or their partner.
 
Love means something different to everyone and people feel love in different ways. I've been madly in love with someone for almost 3 years, but the way I feel it is different form how my friend who's in love feels. I know love is a real thing, but it manifests itself differently with different people. Just like previous posts have explained that love is not always a wonderful thing, that's where love/hate relationships come from. You can fall in love with someone abusive or just wrong for you in general. I do believe love blinds people to reality sometimes, which can lead to dangerous paths. Falling in love is risky, becuse it means giving your all to that person and trusting them with it. When you do find someone that loves you as much or more than you love them, wonderful things happen. I think too many people today rush into relationships and don't truly get to know each other before marriage, which is why the divorce rate it so high. People are also stubborn, and refuse to work things out or compromise, which marriage requires.
 
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