In what number relationship did you first fall in love?

What number relationship did you first fall in love?

  • First relationship

    Votes: 11 47.8%
  • 2-5th relationship

    Votes: 6 26.1%
  • 6-9th relationship

    Votes: 1 4.3%
  • 10+ relationship

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I have not been in a relationship

    Votes: 4 17.4%
  • I have not fallen in love yet.

    Votes: 1 4.3%

  • Total voters
    23

Kim Taehyung

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I've always wondered what the standard number of relationships are before someone falls in love. Some know that I've just begun a relationship with a fellow FFF member. What you guys may not know is that this is my first ever relationship. I've heard people can fall in love with their first relationship, but others take many tries to finally find that person they can truly connect with, and sadly, some do not find it at all. So I want to know what everyone's opinion is on this. What number relationship did you first fall in love?
 
Sorry this is worded kinda awkwardly but are you asking how many relationships you have been before you actually fell in love?

As for me....I feel in love in two relationships. My first boyfriend and my current. I would call my first boyfriend true love. It was one of those silly teenage relationships. We lasted about a year. I broke up with him because of his drug issue and I was sick of him insulting my friends.

As for my current, we have been together for two years now.
 
It’s definitely not something you can base of the number of relationships ones had, especially in your age group, (No offense) were love can be easily confused with other feelings such as infatuation, to a simple crush or in some cases, lust. In short, one can have a lot of relationships and finally find that special someone or some get lucky and find that special someone their first time around. I all depends on the couple really.

Anyway… to answer your question, I’ve fallen in love a total of three times and almost got married on the third. My first two serious relationships lasted about year each and the third lasted about two years.
 
I fell in love my first relationship and so did the girl I was with...however, she fell out of love...and that was the end of that. Only lasted 5 months.

Second relationship......well I'm not going there.....

Third and current, we're both in love and it's going fine ^_^
 
Hmm...I've only had 4 boyfriends throughout the past.

My first boyfriend and I shared "puppy love". We were more like best friends than significant others. That's a relationship that I have never regretted, and I'll always be happy that I had it.

My second boyfriend was a dick. There's nothing to say there.

My third boyfriend was one that I thought I was in love with. This is someone that I have NEVER had feelings so outrageously towards before in my entire life. He was incredibly immature though. Our relationship was fun, but not worth it.

My current boyfriend...
That's a long story. Being in a relationship this long...it has it's ups and downs. There are times when I feel like I no longer love him, but...you have to take the extra step sometimes to work things out and make everything right again. This is someone that I trust with all of my heart. I have been with him for so long that I forget how much I love him sometimes.
This is the first person who taught me to implement love and trust into a relationship all at once.
 
I fell in love in my first REAL relationship. I had a couple of girlfriends growing up, but they were basically just relationships over the phone. Non of them lasted over three weeks. About a week before my 17th birthday I started going with this girl that went to the same high school as me. I would classify this relationship as my first REAL relationship. We saw each other everyday and talked about stupid stuff and it was great. I ended up falling in love with this girl. We did everything together. I went to my first concert with her. We took numerous road trips. We even lived together for 2 years. We stayed together for 6 years. She ended up breaking my heart and I've been a bit skiddish about giving my heart to another girl since then. I have had one girlfriend since then. I was with this one for 2 years but I never fell in love with her. So its possible to fall in love in your first relationship.
 
I thought I loved my first boyfriend, but that was just lust. That one lasted about 6 months.

I fell for my last boyfriend a few months into the relationship and he loved me back. We were together for 3 years and lived togteher and spilt up last year.

But the one Im currently in now, I can hold my hands up and say I do love him. I havent told him yet as Im not sure how he'll take it. I dont even know if he loves me back. We've been together since Jan this year. Its his longest relationship I think.
 
Wow, this is some pretty amazing stuff. Thanks a lot for sharing your insights on this. I really didn't mean to infer that one should fall in love in given numbers of relationships. I was just curious to see what the average number was.
 
I have been in love three times and that has been in many relationships, my first and current are included in these three.

First girlfriend - 2½ years

Second - 2 months

Third to seventh - No longer than a month

Eighth - 6 months

Ninth to unknown - No longer than a couple of months

Current - 2½ years and going strong.

I like in your profile how it says long term relationship. So he is he or maybe her?
 
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I've had a couple of boyfriends and relationships but I haven't been in love in any of them. It takes quite a bit for me to fall in love with someone because I am very protective of myself and I tend to put up big heavy walls that sometimes are nearly impossible to break down.

When I find a person I deem worthy of falling in love with, I'll know. But I haven't met one yet.
 
I fell in love in my first PROPER relationship, but it didn't last all that long and i was left pretty hurt, we did actually get back together afew months later but because i no longer loved him, i wouldn't allow myself to walk that path again, that relationship ended up lasting about 2 years

the next guy, i NEVER loved, altho i said i did he just messed my head up good and proper and now i hate him with a passion. He was the biggest control freak EVER

I had a brief fling several months after that

another year long relation ship, i did like him but love.......i dont think so

my last and most recent EX, i went bonkers when he so much as implied he might love me - i ended it before it got that far

I am now single and doubt il ever do taht love lark again!
 
Three boyfriends.

The first one was a very reckless decision. You could say it was due to peer pressure and how naive I was back then. He lived right across the street from me and we both went to the same school. His brothers were friends with my siblings, and I suppose we were starting to become friends too, but screwed it all up when we decided to become a couple. Nice person, but certainly not someone I could see myself being with for the rest of my life. The relationship lasted for 6 days.

The second one...er, the whole situation was so stupid I don't even wanna bother explaining. But he was a cool and nice guy, nonetheless (too nice, actually)...it just wouldn't have worked out.

Third one is my current husband. I love him dearly. We've been together for almost four years (married for almost two years), and I can say that there's more ups than downs in our relationship...more happy memories than bad ones, so I'm happy and content. He's only 23 but he acts older sometimes, and a lot of people respect him, even people in their 30+ due to his unique persona and intelligence. Sometimes I feel like a kid whenever I'm with him, but he always insist that we think on the same level. Meh, he's just being nice...

So yep, that's three for me, not counting the other two whom I had a past with back in the years, but don't really count since I never started a relationship with them.
 
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Well, I'm in my sixth relationship and I think I actually found love. I've been with my boyfriend now for over a year, which is my longest relationship ever. I'm hoping to be with him for years to come and I actually think he's the one!
 
We've only been going out for a little over two weeks now, but we seem so much closer than our firends, who have been going out for months. Our body language, the chemistry between us, just seems so much closer than a lot of people I know who are in relationships. There is nothing in the world I wouldn't do for him, and I'm sure the same goes for him. I can't stand the days when we're apart, and I look forward to the day when I see him again. Which happens to be today!!! ^_^ I'm so happy!!!
 
My first boyfriend...I don't know. Maybe it was love, or maybe I was kidding myself. In hindsight, I don't think it was. But who knows.

My second boyfriend...Um...it didn't last long. But we're the best of friends now :D It was one of those "we're better off as friends" sort of things.

My third and current boyfriend...Oh sweet Jesus. This relationship is the most bipolar relationship ever. We can go from hating each other to intense love so quickly. I'm definitely in love with him...but it's probably not a healthy love. But it sure is intense :D
 
There's loving someone and falling in love.

In my first relationship, I thought I'd fallen in love but I hadn't. His name was Shaun and while I loved him I didn't want to spend my life with him. I once believed I did but when it came down to it, he was too different to me. He hated walking, and sometimes I enjoy it. He hated trying new foods, and I love eating out. He spent so much time on the computer when he was with me too. He was also more... well, horny than I. :lol: He hated dancing, I love it. He hated singing, and I love that even more. He hated music with lyrics and made fun of me all the time. My mum disliked the fact he treated me like an idiot when I have more than twice as many qualifications as he. It's not the qualifications that bothered me. It's the fact he made out I was stupid... This is turning into a rant. :lol: So, no, I wasn't in love in my first relationship.

My current relationship. Well, I love Christoff dearly. He truly is everything I could ever ask for. He's encouraging and makes me feel happy about being who I am. He doesn't make me feel stupid, and gives me confidence. He makes me feel so happy that I sing and dance every day, in some form. =] But I haven't met him yet. I should be meeting him in the new year! Only then can I truly say whether I'm in love or not.
 
I can finally safely say that I have fallen in love. So I voted, finally, and I chose "First Relationship".
 
well in my first relationship, i thought i was in love, but i see now that i wasn't, it was just an advanced crush i guess, because I'm in my second relationship now, and i never felt like this with the other guy lol.
 
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