Serious Hooking up two guys

[Captain Squee]

ok so i have this friend willy, he is a homosexual, and i have this friend richard (will be reffered to as rich), whome is alos homosexual. Willy always seems to complain about how he cant get a boyfriend, and rich also does not have bf (at leats he doesnt complain) and i decided to hook them up. so i made them meet eachother. A "Hey this is rich, rich this is willy" type deal. About a week later Willy tells me he really likes rich and asked me if rich was into "experimentation" so i told him rich was already gay. Same day about 3 hours later, rich sais almost the exact same thing. So i told him. But for some reason when i get the two together, they wont even hug, or exchange numbers or even Myspace, its like they want eachother but dont think they can have eachther. yet i told them they liked eachother and the next time they saw eachother they still acted the same. its been almost 2 months now and neither will ask the other out even they both know, so what can i do to help them out in this? i mean reall y cant they just ask the question when they already know the answer...?

 

[Dee]

Kinda seems like if they already know the other one is gay that it's more of a matter of just not being compatible rather than being hesitant about making a move. Have you asked them what the deal is?

 

[Captain Squee]

several times, everytime they tell me they dont know, they just cant find words.

 

[Dee]

Hmm, well have you seen these two friends be intimate with other people? I mean, is it a matter of them being shy about being intimate or have they told you they've been alone and things just don't work out? I'm thinking maybe it's just they're not compatible...

 

[Captain Squee]

well i personally think they would make a great match but idk...and i do know rich is not a virgin, but willy is, and willy doesnt wanna be a virgin (dont ask) but i try not to see them be intamate with anyone. as ok with homosexuality as i am, i still dnt like that sight...

 

[Dee]

well i personally think they would make a great match but idk...and i do know rich is not a virgin, but willy is, and willy doesnt wanna be a virgin (dont ask) but i try not to see them be intamate with anyone. as ok with homosexuality as i am, i still dnt like that sight...

I dunno, man. Sometimes when a person thinks two people would be great for each other, it just doesn't work out. That's pretty cool that you're trying to help your friends get together, though. You don't hear of a lot of straight guys playing match maker for their gay friends. Kudos to you!

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I had the same problem with an ex of mine a few years ago.

We used to go to school together and found each other on the internet a few years later again.

We would often speak on MSN and we knew we liked each other. He even decided to push aside my friend who was interested in him, just so he could go out with me.

But whenever we met in person, we just were too shy and neither of us asked each other out until I finally did and he was all happy etc.

I dunno, maybe these guys aren't even that comfortable with their sexuality yet to make an official relationship with a member of the same sex? Maybe they're just shy and possibly think that the other guy is just playing with them?

A million things go through peoples heads when they're about to hook up with someone.

I don't really think I can suggest anything. They just need to get over their shyness enough to ask the question.

 

[10th Doctor]

Well, maybe they know that you don't want them to be intimate in front of you. Maybe they are just trying to not make you uncomfortable. Or perhaps, they are both shy? Are they the type to not act accordingly to their feelings?

 

[SapphireStar]

As mentioned they could be nervous and still unsure of making moves on each other. Have they both had proper gay relationships? As in serious? Or one nighters? Its horrible to ask as they are your friends, but they may be inexperinced in official dating other men. Or they are just so shy and nervous round each other. As Kandy said, it can happen and one has to take up the reins and ask the other out or nothing will happen and that will be a waste if they like each other that much.

 

[Captain Squee]

trust me rich aint in-experienced and willy dont hold back...Willy actually has asked me out before, although he knew i was not gay.

i thin i know the problem though...nervous anyways because this may be the first one that could work out

 

[Shu]

I would assume its no different than a guy and a girl match making. Most match making just doesn't work out for unforseen reasons. I guess the whole planned element is a hard adjustment for two people.

The big thing is you can't be there.. I've tried the match making game once and turned out the girl liked me.. and I was like.. yea I'm not doing this ever again, I'm no casinova.

 

[jasminepotts]

It just seems to me they're either shy around eachother or they are just perhaps keeping quiet about it?
I has the same experience but with two girls, I introduced them to eachother and they told me they liked eachother etc. For a month when I asked them if anything happened they said no. But then a month later they eventually told me they had been with eachother the whole time but didn't say because they didn't want to jinx it etc.