Serious hey gals

Eh I think that is bullshit.

I can talk to chicks all the time without staring at their tits or thinking about them naked. :monster:

But I think it is mostly because of how picky I am about what kind of women I'm attracted to. Doesn't mean I don't think a lot of girls aren't pretty, they just don't have that feeling about them. :monster:
 
How very precise Triple T.

In what situations does this apply, if they are alone, hanging out, working?
Men and women can be friends dude.....not every thing is so clear cut, if men and women like each other enough they would rather have them as friends than not have them in there lives at all.

If individuals cant get past there feeling for Bang/dating and end the end choose to have nothing to do with there love interest, these people are selfish and simplistic and dont deserve to be around the person who will not receive them.
 
L said:
Eh I think that is bullshit.

I can talk to chicks all the time without staring at their tits or thinking about them naked. :monster:

But I think it is mostly because of how picky about what kind of women I'm attracted to. Doesn't mean I don't think a lot of girls aren't pretty, they just don't have that feeling about them. :monster:
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Then maybe she wants a piece of you. :monster:

GalaxyFlare said:
How very precise Triple T.

In what situations does this apply, if they are alone, hanging out, working?
Men and women can be friends dude.....not every thing is so clear cut, if men and women like each other enough they would rather have them as friends than not have them in there lives at all.

If individuals cant get past there feeling for Bang/dating and end the end choose to have nothing to do with there love interest, these people are selfish and simplistic and dont deserve to be around the person who will not receive them.
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I'm not saying every time that two people are together, one of them is thinking of making the beast with two backs. I'm saying that over time (weeks, months, years), at one point, one or the other is going to want to move past being "just friends."
 
I understand that, but what Im saying is that even over so long a time if they value the person as friend and would not want to ruin the friendship they will look past there own selfish desires.

Weak minded are driven by there most basic desire....sex.
if thats the case in 98.73 of the time then Im obviously hanging around with the wrong people lol
 
GalaxyFlare said:
I understand that, but what Im saying is that even over so long a time if they value the person as friend and would not want to ruin the friendship they will look past there own selfish desires.
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They can and do. But that still doesn't mean they don't want to tap/date/whatever the other person. Wanting to and actually doing are two separate things.

GF said:
Weak minded are driven by there most basic desire....sex.
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Everybody and every organism on this planet is driven by sex. That's why it's a basic desire. Basically, everybody desires it.
 
You can say that big fella........Oh god Im so desperately lonely lol

Yeah but we human have a thing called choice? you know allowing us to push aside desire, and doing what is best in a circumstance of desire and pushing it aside for the continued worth of friendship.

Did I really say weak minded?

I meant Drongos/bogens.
 
GalaxyFlare said:
Yeah but we human have a thing called choice? you know allowing us to push aside desire, and doing what is best in a circumstance of desire and pushing it aside for the continued worth of friendship.
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desire is much stronger than will.

its why so many people who try to stop smoking eventually start smoking again. its why i eat chocolate instead of bananas. its why people who want more from a friend eventually make it clear and get more/taint the relationship they already have. its why i masturbate.

i think you get the point now.
 
Gamingway said:
Except that you can't exactly help who you fall in love with (or at least think you're in love with) either. If it's genuine, anyway. It's not really a matter of looking for it. I guess it's all a matter of how you see it, but I think if you were down in the dumps because you had no one, then the thought process for resolving your unhappiness would naturally be to want to find someone. So yes, it is possible that your standards could end up being lowered at that point and you could let someone in who wasn't worthwhile, but at the same time, if you try to push absolutely everyone away, you could end up missing out on the chance to find the one person that was perfect also.

Really, it's just a matter of how many feelings you're willing to gamble with, I suppose :hmmm: Weighing what's worse, perpetual loneliness in the face of a society that pretty much mandates hooking up 24/7 everywhere you look, or taking a chance and potentially getting your heart broken, but with a decent chance of it working out also.
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Then the last thing you should be doing while you're that vulnerable is going to a bar (or club, or whatever the kids are doing these days), where they can see that you're visibly upset and take advantage of the situation. If you're depressed, and alone, take some time to get out of said depressed state instead of trying to find love in all the wrong places.
 
its why i masturbate.
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Yeah I get the point........but now l got a picture of some hairy scottish guy rubbin 1 out!
ewwwww thanks alot jim!

Actually people who stop smoking and start smoking and start again stand a better chance of quiting for good............so there is hope for you jim and your "problem".
 
Girls generally like leading guys on because it is evolutionarily advantageous for them to do so. They can artificially inflate their value within a tribe by stringing on a number of potential mates who erroneously believe that they may be interested in a relationship. This allows them to obtain more resources from multiple individuals while weeding out males that don't fit their stringent specifications. It does them no benefit to be honest to a guy about their feelings.

That doesn't mean they all have to act like that, but it would certainly give them a good reason to.

Terrible Terry Tate said:
Everybody and every organism on this planet is driven by sex. That's why it's a basic desire. Basically, everybody desires it.
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Not true at all. Just because YOU may like it doesn't mean everyone else does. Nobody has to be dominated by a specific desire if they choose not to.
 
Without Multi-quoting, both Jim and Ringo are dead on. Don't ever confuse love with infatuation either. The most appealing thing to a man is visual. The most important thing to a woman is mostly audio. If a man is a half decent looking chap, and he has the gift of the silver tongue.. then he can get himself, I'm going to say it, every woman who is straight. I'm as bold as to say that.

1) The Audio Aspect:

Knowing what to say, or how to actually observe and read emotions is a gift. Though the problem is women don't like it when you act like you already know everything about them. Though I will caution the women out there, beware of these men, because in a few of them are liars. Some are extremely smart and one day when you least expect it, you'll realize you were conned into a relationship. I think that's what most women get for reading Jane Austin or any modern day romance book. NOTHING is as it happens in books or movies. Don't be infatuated with how your man treats you when you are alone, but how he also treats you when you are out with other people. A wolf in sheeps clothing is what I call it.

2) The visual Aspect:

I've tried to ween myself from this since I was around 20. Back in the day I always was in denile that I was with a girl because of her and not her looks, but most of the time it wasn't the case. I know cheer leader (minded) girls never crossed my mind, since I dislike stupidity/naivety(take your pick). Some folks just choose not to use their mind, because it's easier to conform with a certain preset.

Though back to what I was saying about visual. I am a guy, down to the very core. If I see something I like before I talk to them, I have a preset prejudice that I like them already... shame on me. The woman could be a cold hard bitch, and I wouldn't know it. I have the opposite say so about men, since I'm straight.. where as I'll get to know a buddy or two before having an opinion if they are a stand up guy or not, or a man-child (just 2 examples of the opposites).

Bottom line is we as men are controlled by our eyes, so if you are say.. a bit unfortunate, well you'll have to work harder to get to know a guy.

3) Both men and women through experience should realize that there are an equal amount of good/bad people in the world, if not more bad people. What it all comes down to is the individual though. Don't blame it on the generations before us, or movies, books or anything other brain washing material. It's all up to the person who he/she will be in a relationship. If you catch repeated signs that are impossible to ignore, then drop them. Love should never be infatuation. It to be honest, is not evil. Sex is not love. Looks are not love. Words are not love. Love is defined by what two people are able to see through all of this are content with a fight every now and again, or forgetting ones important date, and making it up to them later. It's a struggle, but it's worth it in the end.
 
That spiell begs the question: what the hell are you doing here? you should be out fixing people up like Hitch.

All the thing you say are not love are the foundations of love, being physically attracted to a person is not superficial its the first step, choice allows us to( most of us) move beyond primitive aspect of attraction and move onto a higher level of intimacy.

Intimacy includes caring for for a person, wanting to love and be loved in return, sharing the best and worst parts of life together,in Animalia such thing are not present, animals show now anthropromorphic intentions outside of instinct.

If as a human your are bound your by your nature to act a certain way and you cant get past this its to your detriment as a person, the ability to choose your actions is one of the gifts of concious thought and the better side humanity.

Instincts have there place, but the whole concept of love is unnatural and there fore should your approach towards it.......or maybe Im expecting to much?
 
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