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Can you completely bitch someone out one day, say hi to them the next, and act like the other day happened ages ago? Just thinking about it lately.

I'm a pretty angry person who likes to spew their shit, be done with what's happened, and be over it. I rarely ever hold a grudge or distasteful event against anyone and usually get over it within the bounds of a week or until certain conditions are met, really. It's rare for me to keep a grudge unless I truly believe the other person is wrong.

Anywho, I can pretty much tell you I fucking hate your guts and that you should jump in front of a train, come back the next day, apologize, and act like we're friends/acquainted in a friendly manner again.

I liek to run me some mouth tbh:neomon:
 
I'm horrendous for holding grudges. For example: I've not spoken to my brother in approx 3 years now. Why? I can't even fucking remember. It's the principle, dammit!


If I fall out with you over whatever reason, chances are I won't talk to you again unless you make the move. I'm incredibly childish when it comes to grudges, as I'm not fond of being betrayed or whatever, so it all comes out in copious amounts of aggression and hate, rada-rada. I too like to run me some mouth. ;p
 
Hmm.. I don't really hold grudges much longer than a day. Like, I might be bitchy with my friends, then we'll be quiet for a bit, someone will change the subject and we'll be back to normal.

I even do this if I am majorly pissed off, like earlier today for example. Got REALLY irritated by some friends whilst at school for reasons, and then we continued to be annoyed at each other, but I met up with them later to go to the theatre and we just acted like nothing had happened. It wasn't THAT big though compared to other things, but geez I was still so pissed off. ><
 
Grudges, huh? I don't know, I guess I'm kind of in-between. It all depends on how serious the situation is. If it's some petty little arguments with friends, I'll probably hold a grudge for a few days, but once everything is settled, then that's that. No more grudges, although sometimes I find myself looking back and thinking about it from time to time, but never really let it affect my actions or relationship with them.

So...although I make a habit of practicing the speech of "forgive and forget", it is actually easier said than done. To me, anyway. I can sure as hell try to forgive, but it is not something that is easily forgotten.

And then there are times when I just let the words pass through one ear and let it out with the other. I give that "I don't care" attitude and try my best to solve the situation. Yes, I do have the guts to say, "I'm sorry" or "I forgive you" although it is very, very hard to do so. But that right there is me trying to let the other party know that I am not holding any grudge...or at least attempting not to hold any grudge, whatsoever.
 
I hold grudges for the longest time, and I don't really know why. I don't even forgive the little stuff, at least not without an apology from them, and even then I'll be frosty.

I guess I don't like it when someone annoys me, or purposefully intimidates me, or just pisses me off. I just think "fuck you" and try my hardest not to speak to them again.

No idea why...it's just how I work. I haven't had a real conversation with my Dad for nearly ten years now =/
 
Well I tend to notice when people make "false" apologies, and it makes me feel less "forgiving". Also I have this little problem; my arrogance restrains me greatly from apologizing face to face. I just can't get the words out.

Yeah, grudges are bad, I once ran out of friends because of it :sad:
 
I have this habit of not apologising, I fell out with my friend Tanya once, and we both held this furious grudge against each other for two weeks.

It was only until I yelled at her to fuck off in the middle of a crowded classroom though, then she apologised :wacky:

But the point is, grudges can harm things between you and your friends, and sometimes you just need to be the bigger person and say sorry.

I just can't, if I think I'm right then I won't apologise.
 
It depends. I'm willing to give some people second chances, but if I've been wronged in such a way, I don't forgive for a long time. It does depend alot on the situation and intent. Take every situation into context, I guess.
 
Aerith said:
I have this habit of not apologising, I fell out with my friend Tanya once, and we both held this furious grudge against each other for two weeks.

It was only until I yelled at her to fuck off in the middle of a crowded classroom though, then she apologised :wacky:

But the point is, grudges can harm things between you and your friends, and sometimes you just need to be the bigger person and say sorry.

I just can't, if I think I'm right then I won't apologise.
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Well that's just my exact problem. You see, I am bad for apologies face to face, and I usually tend to laugh when they touch the topic. I just stare at them, taunting and I make fake smiles. I find it funny, though then remorse takes over, but sometimes my conscience forgets to remind me "enough is enough".
 
Oh, I can apologise to people fine. That doesn't necessarily mean saying that I was wrong, just coming to some sort of agreement. Although most of the time I don't need to apologise, as we just get over it and forget about it, but sometimes I might say 'Sorry for snapping at you earlier,' or something along those lines.
 
Vesper Lynd said:
Oh, I can apologise to people fine. That doesn't necessarily mean saying that I was wrong, just coming to some sort of agreement. Although most of the time I don't need to apologise, as we just get over it and forget about it, but sometimes I might say 'Sorry for snapping at you earlier,' or something along those lines.
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Agreed.

Apologizing doesn't necessarily mean that you're admitting you're in the wrong, but rather a "I want to make up and patch things with you" scenario.

And Julius, I know what you mean when you say that others tend to say "sorry" and not being really genuine about it. Some people are just like that, I suppose, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna go and wonder whether or not that person really means it or not.

As far as I'm concerned, if one of your friends come up to you and take the initiative to say "I'm sorry", then that means he or she must be really sorry. Now, if it's merely an acquittance, then yeah, I guess I understand if people would be more wary. It's different with a friend because you actually know that person thoroughly enough.
 
I can't hold a grudge. The longest I've stayed angry at a person is like...a day. Regardless of whether or not I was in the wrong to begin with, I'll attempt to make peace.

I don't have much occasion to even try to hold a grudge, thankfully. I live a drama-free life for the most part.
 
I do hold grudges, for the longest time sometimes :wacky: Well, it depends on what they have done really..... lol

Like I know I should get over it and shit, but I just hate it when people fuck me about >_<
I don't really like conflict and stuff, Id rather just happily get along with my life and get on with everyone. But if something happens to someone that does summin to me (even several years later ) I can't resist going HA! Serves you right *looks at ex bf* I waited 2 years to say my peace to him :wacky: And boy did it feel good.
 
Grudges are...
I know its probablt wrong to say this but I actually kinda get really caught up in them and end up enjoying the grudge for its own sake...
I have this one, still ongoing, that I've had for eight years...
I hate this guy, he went to my Primary School, now he goes to my High School...
God Damn it!

The movie (American Version) was horrendously bad though :P
 
Yes, I am one of the most experienced people at holding grudges here, although I won't hold one unless that person really screwed my head up somehow.. Haven't spoken to my own dad in 8 years and don't plan to either
 
Marilith said:
The movie (American Version) was horrendously bad though :P
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That's because American directors don't realize that they're butchering the original Japanese version when they redo Japanese movies.

As for holding grudges... I'll only hold them if someone did something really really mean to me. I'd never want to see them ever again, and I usually forget that they exist.

With friends and close people, if I have a small fight with them I usually start talking to them a few days later. I don't like holding grudges against friends over silly things.

The longest I've held a grudge against someone and started talking to them is probably more than a half a year. My friend apologized but I didn't want to speak with her for a while. Also she was in a really bad state and I wanted to stay far away from her. (I didn't want to be near someone who was doing heroin and recovering from it. :wacky:)
 
Skunkman88 said:
Yes, I am one of the most experienced people at holding grudges here, although I won't hold one unless that person really screwed my head up somehow.. Haven't spoken to my own dad in 8 years and don't plan to either
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Same here, I had a row with him when I was 17 & just didn't speak to him for about 4 years, I eventualy saw him at a wedding then a week later my grans funeral, and once more after that when I went to see my cousin a bout 2 years ago

Its been another 2 years since and if he wants to see me he makes the effort not me after all, he started it and I don't see why I should always make the effort.

That sounds really petty but meh, he REALLY made me mad and although Im no longer mad at him, Iv just gone beyond the point of needing him in my life. His loss, not mine :wacky:
 
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I hold grudges. I don't really act on them, but that ugly feeling is within me; but if the person apologizes, then I feel better and let it go.
 
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