Grade school behavior in adults.

[Richard B Riddick]

What do you think of this phenomenon?

When there's someone who decides they dislike someone for some reason.

And, they go out of their way to turn others against said person, even going so far as to strain themselves to find reasons to dislike them. Whether its scouring someone's facebook, or forum posts, to try to find a reason to justify their prejudice or dislike...

What do you think of people who gang up on ppl because they're too cowardly or weak to fight their own battles?

Does it make you think less of them?

Do you lose your respect for ppl you once thought were good and decent when you realize they would stoop to such pathetic behavior?

What's your take on it?

 

[Exoskeleton]

I think it's nasty foul, and it's exactly what my whole family does. I've found all I can do is ignore it. I've run into quite a few people who decide not to "like" somebody for no reason. And then there's those people who just ASSUME when they should be thinking about their situation. It really gets me worked up sometimes, especially when the person is older than me and they're playing stubborn because they can't have their way. All I can do is be thankful that I'm not like that.....yet.

 

[Mitsuki]

I think there's always a 'reason' for not liking someone, no matter how small and absurd it may be. Sometimes it's not always clear why someone dislikes you, and you can either ignore it or approach them about it in a sensible manner - but only if you know for certain the person isn't there to bash on you for their own entertainment.

And, they go out of their way to turn others against said person, even going so far as to strain themselves to find reasons to dislike them. Whether its scouring someone's facebook, or forum posts, to try to find a reason to justify their prejudice or dislike...

Oh, this. Yeah. It's the same old chestnut. Feels like high school all over again. Not much to say about that. On the other hand...at times you might even find you're possibly over-thinking things a little and it comes to the point that paranoia starts to settle in uncomfortably. It's very easy to take a lot of things out of context over the internet though, so you might even find that those who you think may dislike you, may not actually feel bitter towards you. Sure, maybe some irritation may show due to difference of opinions (or whatever the case is), but that's normal with everyone, even with the greatest relationship.

If it's the case that they actually dislike you, well...like I said, everyone has their reasons. Not saying it's all justified, but being emotionally invested isn't healthy either. Just let it go and move on to other things. We all can't walk on the same planet and get away with not having a single person looking down on us.

Do you lose your respect for ppl you once thought were good and decent when you realize they would stoop to such pathetic behavior?

Nah. If I thought someone is good and decent in the first place (and with good reasons), I can't really say I'd lose respect for said person because a childish behavior has occurred. We've all been there, we've all said and did something pathetic. I think the phrase "I've lost respect for - " is being tossed around loosely and carelessly. Sure, someone might actually mean that and they might have every right to mean it, but often times people do reflect back and realize it was merely a case of disappointment or what have you. Losing respect for someone has a lot of weight to it, and although I wouldn't put it to be extreme in my book either, I try to avoid saying or thinking along those lines. (I've said it a few times in the past and came to question whether I've actually lost respect for people who I know are generally decent).

 

[Dragon Mage]

And, they go out of their way to turn others against said person, even going so far as to strain themselves to find reasons to dislike them. Whether its scouring someone's facebook, or forum posts, to try to find a reason to justify their prejudice or dislike...

HA!

Dude. You pretty much described my mother.


Basically, I find nothing more disgusting, contemptuous, arrogant, stupid and pathetic. People that do this, earn my everlasting hatred.

It's the petty 'payback' and antagonistic behavior that really pisses me off. I can say, quite honestly, people that act like this should jump into traffic and spare the rest of humanity the cost of a bullet.

 

[Richard B Riddick]

I think it's nasty foul, and it's exactly what my whole family does. I've found all I can do is ignore it. I've run into quite a few people who decide not to "like" somebody for no reason. And then there's those people who just ASSUME when they should be thinking about their situation. It really gets me worked up sometimes, especially when the person is older than me and they're playing stubborn because they can't have their way. All I can do is be thankful that I'm not like that.....yet.

My family does it, too.

I always say its a waste of time and energy & that if they were as enthusiastic about other things, they might be more successful and financially secure in lyfe.

Instead of talking shit about people, why not use that time and energy for something fliggin constructive? They'll probably waste 20+ years of their life being negative and saying negative things about people. What will they have to show for it? Nothing. What a waste?

Its possible lyfe's too short for such things. And our time here too precious to expend in such a fashion?

I also notice a lot of ppl who behave that way seem to incur more than their fair share of bad karma & bad luck.

Maybe they waste enough of their time and energy on questionable things that they're never anything other than medicore. They never succeed, they never get anywhere. They're just doomed to a dead end existence.

If you can rationalize it, maybe it doesn't have much of an effect & you realize its not worth being upset over? The real danger may be that the negativity & bad vibes are contagious.. and, if you're not careful you can get infected by it?

I think there's always a 'reason' for not liking someone, no matter how small and absurd it may be. Sometimes it's not always clear why someone dislikes you, and you can either ignore it or approach them about it in a sensible manner - but only if you know for certain the person isn't there to bash on you for their own entertainment.

Oh, this. Yeah. It's the same old chestnut. Feels like high school all over again. Not much to say about that. On the other hand...at times you might even find you're possibly over-thinking things a little and it comes to the point that paranoia starts to settle in uncomfortably. It's very easy to take a lot of things out of context over the internet though, so you might even find that those who you think may dislike you, may not actually feel bitter towards you. Sure, maybe some irritation may show due to difference of opinions (or whatever the case is), but that's normal with everyone, even with the greatest relationship.

If it's the case that they actually dislike you, well...like I said, everyone has their reasons. Not saying it's all justified, but being emotionally invested isn't healthy either. Just let it go and move on to other things. We all can't walk on the same planet and get away with not having a single person looking down on us.

Nah. If I thought someone is good and decent in the first place (and with good reasons), I can't really say I'd lose respect for said person because a childish behavior has occurred. We've all been there, we've all said and did something pathetic. I think the phrase "I've lost respect for - " is being tossed around loosely and carelessly. Sure, someone might actually mean that and they might have every right to mean it, but often times people do reflect back and realize it was merely a case of disappointment or what have you. Losing respect for someone has a lot of weight to it, and although I wouldn't put it to be extreme in my book either, I try to avoid saying or thinking along those lines. (I've said it a few times in the past and came to question whether I've actually lost respect for people who I know are generally decent).

I agree. Well said.

HA!

Dude. You pretty much described my mother.

Basically, I find nothing more disgusting, contemptuous, arrogant, stupid and pathetic. People that do this, earn my everlasting hatred.

It's the petty 'payback' and antagonistic behavior that really pisses me off. I can say, quite honestly, people that act like this should jump into traffic and spare the rest of humanity the cost of a bullet.

Interesting, I can relate somewhat.

With this type of thing, I think if you get angry or hate, you lose the game. They want you to get angry or upset because it makes them feel like they matter or they have influence. The worst thing you can do to them is not give them a reaction as it makes them feel powerless.

Its like... imagine if you spent 3 days coming up with a way to troll someone. You execute your plan, you troll. And, it has zero effect. That would make a person feel weak or like they wasted their time? That may represent the ideal standard in regard to this type of thing.

Of course, this is coming from someone who is known for losing their temper IRL and going off on people more than once. But, even so, I would like to think maybe I know when to stand my ground and when to fight.

But, yeh it is lame.

I tend to think if someone is a badass they find the biggest, toughest, person they can find & pick a fight with them. That's how its done.

But, for people who are cowards, who are afraid. They do the complete opposite. They look for the smallest, weakest, person they can find & try to take a gigantic shit all over them.

Its the same with those who gang up on ppl 10 to 1. When they're by themselves they're respectful and decent. But, when they have a group behind them, they act completely different. They tend to be pretentious - they don't want to spend the time or effort necessary to develop any type of real intellect or strength. They just want to pretend they're strong and pretend they're smart. And, they fool themselves into thinking pretending is the same as the real thing.

With those who resort to this type of behavior, you can't really reason with them as they aren't prone to dealing in truth or fact. For them, its usually preferable to deal in lies and bs. For those who deal in bullshit, their greatest fear is being exposed or people catching on to their little scam game.

So, of course, they never take the direct approach or discuss things openly. They just skulk about with their cowardly and phony selves thinking they can fool the world. But, eventually, people catch on & realize how full of !@#% they are. Its inevitable. And, if nothing else, its usually a safe bet to take some comfort in that.

But, its not really important. Maybe its something I've had to deal with a lot for many different reasons. So, its nothing I haven't seen 50-100 times before?

 

[Lirael]

I certainly dislike it when people go out of their way to make others look bad. Often, they act hypocritical, forget empathy and are very difficult to negotiate with. I haven't yet been the victim of this behaviour (in adult life), but I've seen it and refuse to engage with it.

If someone is a decent person, I may be surprised at their behaviour, may even feel a little disgusted, but I will forgive them. If I know them well, I may point out that what they've done isn't right once they've calmed down and often they'll reflect on it and admit they weren't thinking clearly. However, if this is someone's default behaviour, I am unlikely to give them many chances. I've been too forgiving for my own good in the past! Furthermore, I can't accept this behaviour as a norm so these people are best left alone... :/

 

[Ohri-Jin]

There is nothing more to say. All of you are right.
I think adults that still have this behaviour are pathetic.

I think people who do this on the internet are also pathetic.

I have encountered this many times. I observed many individuals and I came to realise a lot of ppl are like this, but cant help it.

Some have a certain childhood or past etc. I cant blame ppl for their stupidities. After all we are only human.

What I can do is ignore them and try not to let them manipulate me.

The Devil & demons you could say are constantly whispering. Dont fall for it.