Serious fucking arse

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Ooooooh I'm not one for this, I only EVER come in here for a rant.

I DO NOT WANT/NEED ADVICE


Anyway, last night, inbox, 'you free tonight?'

Me: No, clares round, may be able to do tomorrow?

Him: Im away eary friday morn for my holiday, can you rejig it?

Me: No, had this pallned for ages. cant just ditch her last minute

(at one point, as i have now deleted the messages since posting this, and editting this in id said, shes already on her way! he actually suggested i tell her to TURN AROUND and go home)

Him: ah well, not free again, bottom of the pile as usual

Me: youve hardly given me any notice and i already have plans, im not about to tell my best pal to turn around and go home when we have had plans made for a week to have a girly night. If you think its a bad think that im not selling my mate out then, fuck knows. its not that i dont want to see you, but if i have plans, i wont change them

Him: just give me a shout when you are free or drunk after a nightout

(that message referring to friday, when I was int he PUB and met him afterward. what did he expect, i wonder, its not even like i was THAT drunk, i still remember everything)

andway, text this time, and il have to go off memory as he has since been deleted from my phone

I dont think il be seeing you again kelly

me: fair enough

him: fair enough? is that it? thanks for wasting my time

Me: what do you expect me to say? beg you to please reconsider? .. cant rememeber what i put after that but it was likely to the efftect of i DO want to see you but Im not changing my plans

he was like, its always on your terms, i have to ask you

which you know what, fair enough, the last couple of weeks, i HAVE let him come to me first. but only because i feel like i irritate him, its the fucking impression he gave me at least. I pretty much just said i WOULD text/ask to see you more, but i feel like i annoy you, so i backed off abit. im more than willing to travel to you, you know this

then later i raged text :wacky:

something along the lines of

these last couple of fucking weeks have been difficult. someone close to me has died, ive had to tell my little girl that her nanna has gone, ive had alot on my plate. cant rememeber what else i put, but uit was a 3 pager plus, sorry if i wokeyou, i shant be texting you again

If he is like this now, and we are not in a relationship, i dread to think how it would go. MY loss apparently. Lucky fucking escape if you ask me

I mean seriously, its a BAD thing that I didnt want to ditch my mate for him last minute is it now....?

FUMING

edit* we wont be seeing each other again, just thought id point that out if it wasnt already clear, so its not like im sat here pining over him, or wanting to see him again etc etc. i just actually can not believe the nerve of some people
 
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well they say theres this rule called bros before hoes

I'm not that surprised that women have adapted the rule to their lives :monster:
 
Bebe, your totally right. To expect you to ditch a friend while shes on her way to your house is wrong, if she was still in the house and wasnt ready to leave yet then maybe, maybe not. But not when shes in transit. Sounds like he got himself into a big huff and i dont blame you for not wanting to go thru his tantrum, so should we :ban: :P
 
i dont care whether shes in transit or not, you dont ditch your mates for someone youve only known a few weeks, hell, it could of been a proper relationship. i dont drop my mates/change my plans unless there is a VERY good reason

im sure if it was the other way round he'd be like, what a crazy psycho stalker bitch

edit* Id NEVER do that, if someone has plans its a case of aw well,thats the end of that idea lets try another night

arse arse arse arse arse
 
i dont care whether shes in transit or not, you dont ditch your mates for someone youve only known a few weeks, hell, it could of been a proper relationship. i dont drop my mates/change my plans unless there is a VERY good reason

im sure if it was the other way round he'd be like, what a crazy psycho stalker bitch

Your right there dearie, Ach i wouldnt let it bother you. It was clearly not ment to be, and you werent sure you wanted any relationships the now anyway, so alls well that ends well.
 
...The bastard :rage: You're well rid, if you ask me, if he expects you to throw your friends aside and go running into his arms every time he goes to ask you whether you want to go out or not. And him dumping you because of it shows he can't cope with someone who actually has a real life. Sounds really clingy.
 
Well since you ditched this guy Bam I can say what an "Arrogant fuck" talk about having no consideration for you!

I would never do that do my GF, Im fucking lucky to even know someone like her,

"Turn around and go home"

That just shows how much respect he had for you and your friends
In australia people like that are called "Bogens", theresa lot of them and they seem to be spreading :rage:

Good on you for pissing him off!
 
@GZ I think she meant the morals behind dropping her friend after plans were arranged in general, rather than her being on the way round or not already. :wacky:

Either way it's unfair that he's almost trying to guilt trip you, especially after what you've been through lately. I don't see why he's being so stubborn about is since you offered to see him today, and unless he works some funny shifts packing only takes an hour or two so he had almost all of today to see you, surely. o_O

It sounds like he almost wants to be the centre of attention, although I don't know him so I can't really say.
 
i think hes used to getting his own way, i dont know him all that well myself tbh, but he's got another think coming if he thinks im gunna roll over and take it like a good girl. he doesnt have a leg to stand on. Ive pulled my weight, not expected him to pay for shit just because he can. Fucking getting butt hurt over this. immature prick. ive travelled ti him more than him me. twat

whether or not i get a reply to my rage text well, we will see, he's liekly read it now.
 
you go, Kelly

men :hmph:

you don't want someone who is such a whining baby anyways. you had a very legit reason for being busy and he should have understood. this is funny, too, because this is how most women are in the reverse situation. it's weird to see how a guy reacts in it. (though usually guys dont plan ahead, like we do. they decide at the last minute)
 
It was either one of two things he was trying for:

1) He legitimately tried to see you.
2) He was getting paranoid and wanted to see if you would drop a friend on the hat for him.

Though personally Kelly with all that's going on, it would almost be better to not be around a fella, unless it's strictly platonic. I am not YO DADDY, but I can say this.. I know what you've been through a bit.

So some real advice for you is, maybe it's coping time and for friends to be there, and pick up the chips later. If he can't accept you need a little time, then he's a waste of space to you.
 
Don't care about a few DVD's, not worth it. It's just stuff that can be replaced. The numbers got deleted after that last rage text, he was removed from facebook first thing the morn

It was either one of two things he was trying for:

1) He legitimately tried to see you.
2) He was getting paranoid and wanted to see if you would drop a friend on the hat for him.

Though personally Kelly with all that's going on, it would almost be better to not be around a fella, unless it's strictly platonic. I am not YO DADDY, but I can say this.. I know what you've been through a bit.

So some real advice for you is, maybe it's coping time and for friends to be there, and pick up the chips later. If he can't accept you need a little time, then he's a waste of space to you.

I think this has bothered me more than I was willing to admit to myself tbh. It's upset me that a human being can be so callous, yet lay the blame on me. I will admit to being more distant the last couple of weeks, but fuck me, he was there when I got the phone call, I've spent most of my time worrying about other people. I've never felt more fucking alone in my life, and wanted someone there, but I didn't want to lay all my personal shit on him because we'd not been seeing each other long and we were supposed to be having 'fun' which he himself said, so I'd already made the concious effort to back off abit before all this other stuff happened because I thought that was what he wanted!

can't do right for doing wrong

Selfish arrogant fucking arse
 
British men are awful. End of story.

But, since you're not looking for advice and merely to rant, I completely get where you're coming from. Anyone, be it guy or girl, has to be pretty damn selfish to just say "Well, tell them to turn around." Unless it was fucking important to see you, like he was going to propose (you've known him a few weeks? Yaaah okay no) or he was dying.. it can wait a day or two until you have no already pre-arranged plans.

Other than that, fuck em.
 
Right, we made up, after an apology, and now it's defo over again haha

I have no idea what he wanted from me, we have pretty much just ended it with me saying, its not fair me always having to go to you, there needs to be abit of give and take, then hes like, this is too much too soon, and im like, well, call it a day then? so hes like, we never had anything to call it a day. Kinda get the feeling it was 'anything' when it was on his terms. Ive brought up this issue a couple of times in the last few days now (me being the one always going to him), and he's avoided it - then its like, its too much? hello? you complain when i back off you complain when i make the effort/try to reach a compromise. Infact at first he was complaining that we would never get to see each other enough to get to know each other, now its too much? I get the feeling he was just hoping Id be the quiet type and go to him as and when he clicked his fingers? Why fucking tell me 'your loss' when he had no bastard intention of taking it anywhere?! Not only that, telling me its too much after why we fell out in the first place over the whole 'tell her to go home, im always at the bottom of the pile' deal is absurd. If anything was too much, it was that!

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhh :rage:

And folk say women are complicated

the fuck am I supposed to do when he's constantly giving me mixed signals :ffs:

Yet again, I feel I can't do wrong for doing right. NOT going back there again, constant going round in circles is doing my head in. I don't think he knows what he wants tbh =/

I'm not as wound up this time, I know for once, it's not actually me, I've probably bugged him by texting him the same thing, but at the end of the day, if he doesn't like how I feel, and can't actually come back with a decent reply other than 'this is too much' or ' this is what you have to deal with when you have a child' then fuck knows. I like to know where I stand, is that too much to ask for? HIS loss, not mine

Not even sure by what he meant by that , I told him I was well aware of what it meant having a child, I have no idea what you mean by that comment, and it makes no odds to the fact that you never come to me, its always me coming to you' which is when i got the 'this is too much' comment ' dont need 10 essays a day' Trying to make it look like its my bad now? I did nowt wrong other than point out a niggling yet apparent issue. I'd be a mug to carry on doing all the running around would I not?

So yeah, bit of a dissorganised rant there, this is probably more for my benefit so I can remember what happened if he gets back in touch/when I tell clare all about it hahaha, seeing as ive deleted all negativity from my phone/facebook
 
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