Serious Do you believe in romance?

Lirael said:
  1. How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)
  2. How has your opinion of romance changed over time?
  3. Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.
  4. Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.
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1. For me Romance is spontaneously doing something to make the other person feel happy, like they're important to you and loved. It doesn't have to be big at all and it doesn't have to happen often but if once and a while you do something random to show you care without being prompted, I think that is romantic.

2. I've always thought this way.

3. I'm not fussy, the tiniest things make me feel good, a random note left from someone I care about with something nice written on it or a dinner and a movie, anything really, though I do find with the over done romance stuff that i feel a bit awkward.
I'm not really sure what I'd do for someone else... I don't quite get what a guy would find romantic haha.

4. The most romantic thing was when my ex took me on a gondola ride on our 1 year anniversary. :hmmm: we had dinner on it and it was just lovely :)
 
Lirael said:
  1. How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)
  2. How has your opinion of romance changed over time?
  3. Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.
  4. Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.

I'll post my answers later on! :)
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1. I guess romance is having a connection with someone that is worth something, spending time together, getting to know them and figuring out if you're compatible. It can also be spending time with someone and showing you care, that they're important to you.

2. Its the same, I just know a little more. :ohshit:

3. If I'm ever in a position to, I would like to take a trip around the world someday, or just take a boat and travel. Most people don't get to a point where they're wealthy enough to comfortably do that type of thing until they're in their 40's-60's, though. If ever.

4. They're all the most romantic. :grin:
 
I simply believe in romance, both in a naive and realistic sense. I have faced rejection and break ups of course, but it never stops me from believing that some gesture can be seen as romantic. I for one believe complimenting a feature that one would least expect but within the realm of belief would classify it as romantic or a stepping stone to a greater state of romance.


In theory, it is romance or a portion of it that motivates me to understand and write about it. I could write a long letter to someone I really like, but I believe it doesn't fall under the romantic category. My ideas of romance are cliche at best and are old fashioned, doesn't stop me from finding or understanding new ways to make someone feel loved or under good company, provided they give me a chance or two. : B


Romance is one of the aspects of life that I still carry, or else I'd have lost my sanity a long while back without a shred of it.
 
Lirael said:
Originally Posted by Lirael

How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)
How has your opinion of romance changed over time?
Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.
Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.
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1. I define romance as courtship. I think of it in the traditional sense that when one seeks someone of interest, they begin a ritualistic pursuit. The process of courtship to me, is a delicate one with variegated rules that ultimately compose an equally delicate system. Everyone's process of courtship or "romancing" is significantly different. To me, it's not just the modern sense of a man texting a girl who he just met. It's not just setting up a proper time and location for one to meet that guy they've spent a whole week nervously eyeing and striking up small talk with. There is a realistic side to it that I believe in--there is the notion that one does this in an instinctual sense (one can suppress it more than other) for the purpose of securing a mate. Essentially, in your youth you do it to separate the worthy candidates from the ones who don't hold promising prospects for you.

2. Yes, my opinion of romance has changed overtime. I watched my mom date many men when I was younger and I think, looking back, that influenced the way I approach guys. I tend to be more fearless now than I was, say five years ago. I was much more antiquated in my thinking: believing that the man should always approach the woman or that he should always breach that barrier of friendship and tell her of his true feelings. Now, I'm much more assertive in my pursuit. I enjoy being the chaser as much as being the one playfully dodging my pursuer, so to speak. I think now I see it as a concept of equality--there is a degree of give and take--a complex act of balancing. I couldn't say who should give more first and who should withdraw from receiving too much; that's for the participants to decide. But I know that I personally feel that the lines of communication should not fall entirely on the man nor the woman's shoulders--both should be active in talking, texting, calling, or messaging one another.

3. I'm so young, the way I see it now, that it would be hard for me to look five years into the future and descriptively outline how I would love to be courted. I've had ideas however of an ideal date, one that would be suitable for my tastes. I'm a simple woman, moreso than my mother. I don't like the immediacy of being spontaneously given expensive or lavish gifts: those should be few and far between, especially if this person is going through a period of financial difficulty. However, there should be effort on both our ends--there should be a certain motivation that this person has to take me out somewhere because I would do the same. I think for me, an ideal spot would be outside--a park, to be even more specific.

The simple act of walking, uninterrupted, surrounded by nature (as cliche and as arbitrary as that may sound to some) would placate me and convince me to converse with them more. I like to talk. I like to talk to someone who also loves to talk and if we already are mutually connected on similar "wavelengths," if he and I have similar interests then that's a bonus. However if he possesses some diffidence where he awkwardly fumbles to keep up with me rambling about the goings-on of my day (even if it's about how bored I am) then that would sour my experience. So, in short: take me to the park, preferably around noontime, you should be well-groomed because I'm going to be very well-groomed and meticulous about how I look, and you should be ready to converse.

4. To be honest, I haven't had anything truly "romantic," in my eyes. My ex never really planned anything so I never got to kidnap him for an outing with me and my friends or eat dinner at a restaurant, so on and so forth. I'm still waiting on that and eventually it'll happen, maybe not today or tomorrow or even next week or next month, but it WILL happen.
 
Lirael said:
  1. How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)
  2. How has your opinion of romance changed over time?
  3. Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.
  4. Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.
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1. showing your affection, appreciation and heart for another person


2. not really, but i have gotten dim on the idea as i find it harder and harder to find actual romance.


3. well i would make a surprise to her work with flowers. then something i have never done.. a picnic :) just make the whole day about her.



4. never had anything romantic.....
 
1) How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)

I don't really know, this is a tough one. I guess it's going out of your way to do something with/for someone. Like taking them out for a meal and stuff. I always thought romance was a bit soppy, though. I find a lot of 'romantic' things, like a candlelit dinner, a bit cheesy, especially if you're only dating. I'd much rather be taken out to do something I really enjoy, like to a concert.

2) How has your opinion of romance changed over time?

I don't think it has, I've always felt the same way.

3) Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.

Well, there's no ONE ideal thing. Anything I enjoy doing like going to a concert of a band I love or going away somewhere for a weekend would make me most happy.
I don't know what I'd do for someone else - probably the same. I can't see myself planning any candlelit dinners anytime soon.

4) Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.

Ummm. Probably being taken out for dinner x] I haven't had many romantic experiences, really.
 
Not really going to delve into my reasons, as I'm not entirely great with explaining myself in such a colourful manner, but I don't. Well, not for myself at least.
 
Lirael said:
  1. How do you define romance? (Opinions may have changed)
  2. How has your opinion of romance changed over time?
  3. Describe one ideal experience, perhaps an experience you could plan for a loved one in the future and/or would love to have a loved one plan for you.
  4. Tell us about your most romantic experience to date.

I'll post my answers later on! :)
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1. Romance to me is when someone shows how much you mean to them, showing how much you care about the other person and showing how much you love somebody. it when somebody does something out of their way to show what you mean to them. even if it something very small or very simple, but it shows how much you love that special person.

2. not so much my opinion on romance but more what i would see as being romantic, when I was a kid, I use to see things like hugging, putting your arm around a girl, kissing etc as romantic, but since I been at college and been taking my relationships more seriously, I relised that romance is not just about that, it about just showing how much you love or care for the person, however small it is. I think this has helped with me having better relationships as I gone to college and now university, and ever since I been with my current girlfriend with how long we been together.

3. I tend to find stuff like having a picnic on a park, or watching the stars with someone you love at night, or just chatting while looking at the sea very romantic, also things like sharing a drink or milkshake together pretty romantic. also things like poems or love letters..... the list could go, because i'm very much into romance, it might be because of my disability and the fact I find things like holding hands or putting my arms around a girl pretty akward soooo I leant and always throught of other things as being romantic

4. For me it was my first proper romantic moment with Sarah (my current girlfriend) I was waiting with her at the bus stop after her being at mine all day, and it was sunny and pouring with rain at the same time, and then we shared our first passionate kiss, and then straight afterwards two rainbows appeared in the sky above us, we both always said it was our nans showing that we have their blessing (as we have both lost a nan in recent years) it was soooooo romantic for me for the rainbows and the fact that I always found it romantic to kiss in the rain :inlove:
 
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