Depression

Hayate

Hayate

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How do you deal with it? Explain yourself, and read/answer this.

I am quite sure that I finally had my first REAL relationship and a month later it was over. =/. I mean, of course it was not that long at all...but, within that I had my first kiss only thing I didn't loose was my virginity. Luckily. Yesss, i've heard it all. "You're still young, you've got your whole life ahead of you"

Well, this is my first actual breakup and it feels like SHIT. I've not slept right in weeks, ate right, and been severly depressed on the inside. I sleep later with each day.

How do you move on? Especially when this person STILL txts you to see if you're alright, says "I love you" still, and makes sure you're safe and whatnot. Argh. It frustrates me, especially at how I was told "you're so perfect but, I just cannot hurt you any longer" How do you let something 'perfect' just go? AHHHH!

Thanks for reading this..
 
If a person is making me depressed, then that's simple, you just cut off all ties with that person. You don't speak to them, you don't contact them, you don't go near them. You have nothing to do with them. And you distract yourself from them with other people and other things. Or at least, that's how I deal with it...most people deal with it in their own way.
 
How do I deal with it? The best I can. Easier said than done, but what other alternatives are there? Coping with depression is not easy for a lot of people, and that's understandable. Of course, there's different stages of depression, and it is much too broad a topic, so I guess I'll leave it at this and move on to your situation.

Um, welcome to the "Heartbreak" station. You may or may not cope with the situation soon, but the important thing is learning how to let go. Sounds corny, I know. But seriously, if this person broke up with you, then there must be a reason. From the sound of it, it looks like this person's playing the I'm-not-good-enough-for-you role. Been there, done that, yada yada yada, I've heard it all. This is not to say that the same applies to your situation. Who knows? All I can suggest is talk to this person and ask for a reasonable explanation as to why a break-up is really necessary.
 
I have and it was stated that: "I don't want to hurt you and I'm afraid I'll ruin your first time in anything. You derserve better than me. I've been hurt too many times and I'm afraid of opening up again" and more...stuff. =/.
 
I'm not sure if people make me depressed, but if I were, I'd do math. At least its joys make me forget everything else.

Of course, I realize this solution doesn't apply to everyone. In which case, just do the activity you enjoy doing most. It will make things go by better, and you'll forget the other things.
 
I listen to upbeat music. I'd have gone suicidal by now if it wasn't for mah happy songs. Also, I think of what some of my loved ones have been through and even a few of the things I've been through. Once I get the big picture up, most things don't seem so bad.
 
I'm not sure if people make me depressed, but if I were, I'd do math
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hell Yeah! when im depressed i just get out my maths book and i...
well not really.
i dont think about what has made me 'depressed' and go out on a pub crawl. when you wake up the next day find something else to do, just dont think about the chick, no offense but saying 'you are perfect' is a nice way of saying i dont like you anymore.

you just have to move on, it might be hard and painful, but somethings are and there is nothing you can do.
Time heals all wounds
 
Well, I wouldn't exactly take out my math books, but it would go something along the lines of "Prove that the cubic residues of a prime number are distinct or there are an equal number of each of them."
 
Tell the guy (I'm assuming it's a male) to stop texting you and checking up on you. Sounds like that's what's dealing alot of the damage.

Now if you want a solution on how to get over him, easiest way to do that is to get pissed off at him. Sounds like he just gave you a bunch of lousy, bullshit excuses to break up with you. Use that as a reason to get mad at him, and find any other stuff about him you found annoying. be picky and blow things out of proportion, in other words. It works.

Then go play videogames. Or something else to distract you.
 
Do you mean...get mad at him and blow up on him? o_o...that's so mean, though...=/.

Or do you mean get mad and just don't speak to him at all.
 
Nono, don't blow up on him, just mentally get pissed at him. The more you can get yourself angry at him, the easier it'll be to get over him.

Whatever you do, tell him to give you some space though. Sounds like his constant texting is only giving you more grief and he's trying not to look like the bad guy in all this.
 
Pretty much. lol. He's checks up on me and tells me random "I love you's" and stuff and it makes me hold onto him even more. =/.

I did tell him to give me some space though. So, let's se how that works.

Now, I have to work on not txting or calling him and trying not to be jealous. >_<;; Urghhh
 
I deal with depression by drinking. Or smoking. Or....painting. I'm so healthy. :D Meh, I've been cleaning up my act a bit. I've dealt with the recent kicks in the face by life pretty well, I think. And they were hard fucking kicks, I'll tell you.

As for breaking up and whatnot, I usually just cut the fucker right out of my life. I just tell the person that if they try to contact me, there will be problems. Moving on is easy. Young hearts mend easily, I think. Especially if the ex in question is a stupid douchebag. Just be thankful for whatever good memories you have, and move on.
 
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I remember my first proper relationship I was in and I was only 15 so I was devastated for a good couple of months, but as they say time is a great healer and I got over it. It's hard when you still see said person or text them becasue it's harder to get over them - I made the mistake of getting back with him about 8 months later and by then Id already gotten over him and I only got back with him becasue of how he originally made me feel =/ Big mistake. It was never the same. I dont even think about him at all any more

Iv been hurt way worse since & I just treat it as life experience, siince then Iv never let myself fall for someone that hard. And compared to the shite Iv had to contend with recently, that was a walk in the park

It gets easier with time :monster:
 
I cut the person who is causing me this depression out of my life. I have just done this recently and I feel better for it.

Breaking up sucks, be it 4 months or 4 years. They do hurt, but the only way to get over it is to get on with life. Go out and see friends, shop (lol), take up a new hobby. Just live and get on with life. You cant waste it being upset, you are young still.
 
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SS is so right there :monster:

The worst you can do is lock yourself away and wallow, oh I have so been there -_-

And shopping wins everytime, nothing gives you a quick fix like buying the most unpracical pair of heels ever :wacky:
Then of course you have to go and buy a new outfit to go with the new shoes...... cheers me up no end
 
I find the best thing is to listen to some really happy, trippy music. A good recommendation is Atlas by Battles. It's impossible to feel depressed when that song is on.
The only way to get over a break up is to stick out and look forward to the future, though. It's a lot easier said than done, but you have to forget it and move on.
 
Oh lawd (I stole your word!), this same thing has happened to one of my acquaintances. Really, like everyone said, it's best to cut that person from your life if you're really adamant about not talking to them anymore. Keeping them around will only bring back old feelings and pain, and you can't do that to yourself when you want to move on. I'm an amateur when it comes to relationships, but I'm unnaturally good at reading people, and this person's continued attachment to you is just them trying make up for their weaknesses. They don't feel comfortable being with you anymore, but they are comfortable enough with trying to make goody-goody with you via texts. People like this are gradually destructive, and they're best left on the side of the road.

I was friends with my ex for four years after we broke up, but when I saw and heard of the things she did behind people's back, it reminded me of why we broke up in the first place. Some flaws in people you just can't get over, but the least you can do is accept them, and move on to other things. Everyone deserves that much, at least.
 
Yeah, I see.

I just find myself checking on him through his friends or getting upset when I know he's out clubbing and partying with other guys. </3. It frustrates me.

But, I have not txted him or called in 2 days. PROGRESS!
 
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